"Let's go, find a place to eat barbecue and drink!"

Li Shoucheng decided not to look back, he was uncomfortable tonight and wanted to cry, why am I so frustrated!

Yang Yikun didn't say anything, and silently followed aside—at least Li Shoucheng felt so.

But when he turned his head to look, it wasn't!

Yang Yikun is sending WeChat tiao love with a woman! Because it is inconvenient to walk and type, the voice he sent also sent a voice message from the other side, but when he heard the voice, it was definitely not the sister just now!

"You beast!

Li Shoucheng pounced, snatched his mobile phone to look at it, flipped through the records, and found that he was a young and beautiful girl!

Yang Yikun took back the phone funny: "I also sent it to her, and she doesn't suffer." ”

Li Shoucheng was indignant: "Why do you change women like changing clothes, and you are still so good-looking! It is so difficult for me to pursue an ordinary girl! I am so uncomfortable, you quickly teach me!"

"Rest assured!"

Yang Yikun sat down on his shoulder,

"I've been with your buddy for so many years, I'm sure I won't treat you badly. ”

Then he picked up the menu, ordered a bunch of kidneys, whips, oysters and leeks and the like, handed them to the waiter when he was done, and grinned at him: "Men need to make up for it." ”

"I don't want to hear that!"

Li Shoucheng covered his ears, you must have eaten so much that you must have opened the room every day! The feeling of being critted countless times, do you understand?

Yang Yikun opened a beer for him, and also opened it for himself, took a sip with Erlang's legs crossed, thought about it, and then asked, "Tell me how you got involved with that girl at night." ”

"How did I chase her?"

Li Shoucheng just wanted to find someone to talk about this difficult process, but Yang Yikun ruthlessly interrupted,

"In fact, from the first sentence you said, you were already wrong!"

"Huh?"

Yang Yikun shook his index finger: "Women can't chase them!"

"Why?" Li Shoucheng's eyes widened, "What if you don't chase it?"

Yang Yikun understands him quite well: "I know that the social atmosphere we live in, film and television works, elders or friends, are all instilling in us an idea: if you like a girl, then go and chase her bravely!"

"But have you ever thought that this is actually a ridiculous mistake, a misunderstanding of teaching people to become licking dogs and harming others to become spare tires?

Li Shoucheng is really uncomfortable now: "If you don't chase it, what else can you do?"

"Women rely on attraction!"

Yang Yikun said with great certainty,

"Women are all attracted, if you don't have the value of attracting her, then no matter how much you chase and lick, she won't like you!"

"If you have the value to attract her, you don't have to chase her, you don't have to make any stupid confessions, just hold hands and kiss her directly like me, there is nothing wrong with it!"

Li Shoucheng was confused and thirsty: "Why? I still don't understand!"

In evolutionary psychology, women, including many mammalian females, have adopted two sets of mate selection strategies: actively pursuing alpha (high-value) and testing beta (low-value). ”

"In the past hundreds of thousands of years of reproduction, females have been desperate to dedicate themselves to the alpha type in order to ensure safety, food needs, and to be able to find the best genes for their offspring! ”

"But the problem is that the alpha type is often a small group, just like the monkey king in the monkey group, there is only one! Not all females are qualified to be good with the monkey king, so in order not to starve to death, for their own safety, they will develop 'donors' at the same time, asking them to provide food, constantly show their advantages, and constantly test them...... One day, when they feel that they are reliable, then they will be on good terms with the donor. ”

"The process is long, the female tests the donor is complicated, sometimes she will not choose you, but will just use you to meet her needs (safety, food, vanity, etc.), and if she finally meets a better and more valuable one, she will easily run away with it!"

"In the development of modern civilized society, although there are no tribes, there is no longer a life of wielding wooden sticks and wearing animal skin clothes to hunt, but just a few thousand years of civilization is not enough to change the genes of hundreds of thousands of years!"

"Maybe you're flying around on a plane, ordering takeout on WiFi, and eating Kaifeng food, but your genetic code is no different from a primitive person who wears animal skin clothes and lives in a cave!"

"So pursuing a woman, licking a dog or warming a man, these [flattering behaviors] are actually satisfying a woman's 'sponsor identification', and her genes will tell her: you are a low-value person!

"So she instinctively tests you, tests you, finds fault with you, and embarrasses you...... If she doesn't meet someone better, she'll choose you, but if she does, she'll abandon you!"

"This is the most essential truth behind civilization!"

After a long talk with the master, Li Shoucheng felt that his concept was refreshed.

Is the belief that we have held in the past wrong?

Pursuing a woman will immediately put you in a low-value position! It is like a courtship monkey who behaves and flatters in front of a female monkey, jumping up and down and quacking!

And the monkey king or the monkey with high status, just need to hook the hand, and the mother monkey will rush to it!

But Li Shoucheng still has questions: "You want to say that you are an alpha type, but you are not a big star, rich, where is the value?"

Yang Yikun patiently told him: "Just like the same sentence, what I said to women is very effective, and what you say may only look obscene, this is the intrinsic value decision!"

"The simplest example, you wear the same clothes as your boss, do the same work, even if you mop the floor, but your boss must be more imposing, more confident in his gestures!"

"None of you put the account balance on your forehead, and you don't have the real estate certificate or luxury car keys in your hands, but people can just feel the difference!"

Having money and luxury cars can really quickly improve a person's confidence, which is good!

But behavior, belief framework, also have a significant impact!

The former is difficult for ordinary people, and the latter can be exercised by almost everyone!

Li Shoucheng was even more eager: "Big man, how should I change? If there is such a road, it will be extremely difficult - if I have the opportunity, who wants to be a licking dog!"

Yang Yikun applauds this mentality, because you can not be handsome, you can not be a billionaire, even if these factors will make you unable to become the top of the pyramid.

But who can be at the top in every place in life?

It doesn't require you to be the best, it doesn't require you to be the top, but in a high-value field, someone else is a big lord, you are a small landlord, others tease nine points, and you conquer seven points, isn't this fragrant?

So how do you have high value? How do you become an alpha man?

It's an important way to show value!

Having money can indeed make people full of self-confidence and strong confidence! Yang Yikun will not preach with a clear conscience and say that you can attract Bai Fumei even if you have no money in your pocket, this is a lie!

But money is not an absolute influencing factor (such as B strong, N bright), money can make you confident, but if the strategy is not right, you will become a "rich spare tire".

Because of behavior, talking attitude is the most direct and the first time to reflect the value of men!

You can't put your account balance on your forehead! But your value is reflected in your words and deeds!

As long as you are attentive to observe, you will find that people with power and status walk with their heads held high, their waists straight, and their eyes full of confidence.

He walks hunchbacked, has no confidence in talking to strangers, looks at people with cautious eyes, and doesn't even dare to look at women...... Behavior has long been a reflection of everything!

[Tips: Later we will explain one by one, which behaviors are low-value and which provide high-value]