School will start tomorrow, and at nine o'clock in the evening, Wang Xile brought back a glass space cup from his aunt's house. The first time I've seen this kind of cup ready to make tea with it. The son immediately opened the package and put the cup on the ground, then bent down to look for the tea leaves under the coffee table, and he accidentally kicked the cup over and broke it. I was very angry and said, "Joy, why are you so careless! How many things have you broken since you were a child, has Dad ever been angry with you?"

"Nope. ”

"Dad is very angry today," my son stood there dumbfounded, and I continued, "I didn't get angry in the past, because your brain function has not developed well, and it is normal to hold things badly in your hands and break things." But now it's different, you think you have the ability to protect things, and breaking things can only show that you lack a sense of caution in doing things, which is a sign of irresponsibility. It is impossible for a person without a sense of responsibility to do his best for his family and country in his life, and today your sense of responsibility is not strong, so that Dad can't drink water!"

"Dad, I'll take the cup and pour you water. ”

"But Daddy just wants to drink the water from that space cup, alas! Daddy will never have a chance! Pack it up, let the past pass, and the important thing is to learn the lesson next time." ”

The son took the broom silently, one by one, and slowly swept the pieces of the space cup. In the past, after breaking the cup and getting forgiven by the adults, he always didn't care about thirty-seven twenty-one, and swept the floor in a hurry, and the gentleness of this action was beyond my expectations. I felt that my son was fighting mentally and physically in his heart. He cleaned up and sat quietly beside me, silent, as if waiting for my further criticism. The silent words of guilt and self-blame were clearly transmitted to me. The child has benefited a lot from nature over the years, and he has the mind to accept the teachings of life. I calmly patted him on the shoulder and said:

"Joy, go to sleep, school starts tomorrow. ”

My son sat still, I got up and pulled him up, tears welled up in his eyes, and I pushed him into the bedroom without saying anything.

The next day is the start of the new semester. In the morning, my son's cry came from the bedroom, "Daddy, do you see if the bed I made up is up or not?" I walked over to the sound and was stunned by the sight in front of me, "Joy, did you fold this quilt?" I said in a lost voice.

"It's not who I am!" The son said proudly.

"It's so neat," I said, looking at the stacked angular quilt in front of me as if I were appreciating a work of art, "I'm about to catch up with Uncle PLA." ”

This is the result of more than three months of hard work by his son, and it seems that he has a new heart in the new semester, and in order to show this heart, he must have exhausted his understanding on this quilt. When my son heard my compliment, his eyes lit up, and he cleared his throat and said:

"Dad, I'll fold the quilt like this every day from now on. ”

I was very happy to hear my son's words, and I felt that his heart was moving towards a new world. But I watched him speak with great seriousness: "You don't have to. ”

"Why?" I replied completely unexpectedly.

"Joy, today's bed can score a hundred points. It's like going to school, do we go to school to get 100 points, or do we go to school to learn knowledge to make ourselves stronger? If we go to school just to get 100 points, studying becomes a burden, and in the same way, we clean up our beds to keep them tidy. We are ordinary people, not soldiers. If the life of ordinary people is demanded by the standards of a military man, life will become a mess. Like the quilt in front of you, if you keep it like this every day, it seems to be a good thing, but in fact, it leaves the original intention of Dad to let you clean up the bed, Dad just wants to enhance your self-care ability, and you can get up every morning to clean up your own bed, not too much. Joy, everything is overdone, to the extreme, over time, everything will fail, but Dad has not folded the quilt so well when he is so big, this shows that you have a strong ability to do things, work hard, my good son, this family needs your efforts!"

When I was washing my face, Wang Xile jumped forward and backward beside me like a puppy, and he said: "Dad, what you said is very reasonable, it takes time to fold the quilt like that, if you do it every day, there will be no time to listen to music, isn't this putting the cart before the horse!"

That's what kids. When he doesn't seem to understand anything, he can use the most innocent language to inadvertently reveal the essence of things. If the child's words are adapted, it can reflect the realistic education scene - for the sake of scores, anyone can ignore the cultivation of all abilities, is this putting the cart before the horse!?

"You're right, joy," I said, "you're getting better at thinking. The son smiled and took out his schoolbag from the back room and said, "Dad, Mom, I'll go first." ”

"Don't want your mom and dad. I said.

"I grew up. Go on your own. The son said. ”

"Stay safe," I said.

"Yes. ”

The son is gone. My wife nodded her finger on my forehead and said, "You are bold enough to let such an older child go to school alone, and it is up to you to do something if something happens." ”

Winter goes to spring, and after several tosses. The son's decision to go to school on his own marks a sign that he will enter a new phase of development.

At noon on March 3, 2005, two days after the start of school, my son asked with concern, "Dad, did you and your mother quarrel last night?"

"Nope!"

"Don't lie to me, the sound of your quarrels has struck me to sleep!"

"Oh, we're not arguing, we're talking. ”

"What can't you talk about, it's like a quarrel! What are you talking about?"

"Our company has been engaged in diversification in recent years, and the situation is not good, and everyone asks for a withdrawal of shares, that is, a return of money. ”

"How much does our family cost?" asked my son.

"Thirty thousand shares. ”

"So much! What is diversification?"

"For example, we are a salt producer, and now we use the money we earn from selling salt to engage in medicine, cultivation, and so on, just like when you are learning to play and yo-yo, you want to play everything else well. ”

"That can't be. My son interrupted me.

"Why?"

"I've been playing for so many years and I haven't been able to play several things at the same time. ”

"Don't you have a lot of good things to play with right now?"

"This is something that has been accumulated one by one over the years, but you only have one extra strong, and you can't be strong all of them. ”

"Joy, you're right. Whether you understand what I'm saying or not, remember: there has never been a great company in this world that has grown on diversity, but there are diversified businesses. Does Zhuge Liang know?"

"It's Liu Bei's military advisor. ”

"Zhuge Liang formulated a momentum for Liu Bei in Longzhong to become a leader first, and then to the Central Plains. When the primary goal was achieved, Zhuge Liang, who faced the powerful Cao Wei and a small country on the side of the security, could not adjust his strategy according to reality, and relied solely on his subjective will to forcibly implement the enterprising goal beyond the national strength of Shu. It is not difficult to understand the desolation and firmness, pain and contradiction in his heart from the "Teacher's Table", and it is not difficult to understand the difficulty of this battle, and he is not sure of success. But he still ignored the taboo of the soldiers and forcibly took the Central Plains, and went to defeat with an indomitable will. People wept for his failure to succeed, and they were even more moved by his difficulties. No one blames Zhuge Liang for 'acting against the sky', but respects his enterprising spirit. This 'enterprising spirit' has a certain level of lamentable aesthetic value, but the problem is that the price behind it is simply too great. Will Zhuge Liang's "Teacher Table" still be memorized?"

"Will back. ”

"There's a legendary power to cultural heritage, and now that 'enterprising spirit' is influencing our families. The dispute between me and your mother is that the diversified operation of the enterprise is causing trouble, and the scientific level of our enterprise does not support the path of diversified development at all. If you insist on doing this, it is like an inexperienced athlete who uses too much force to exhaust his strength prematurely because he is encouraged, and the result will inevitably be the same as Zhuge Liang's exhaustion, loss of soldiers, and exhaustion in Wuzhangyuan. ”

"Dad, I don't understand what you're saying. ”

"Joy, every chick has a day when it grows up, and so do you, and will eventually understand these things. In the future, we must remember that the resources that are necessary must be managed by useful people. Talent is a century-old plan for development, technology, equipment, capital, etc. are relatively easy to obtain, but talent is not easy to come by, it requires perseverance and solid spirit. Joy, do you remember the last time we went to Beijing to participate in the Innovation Education Conference?"

"Yes. ”

"Just three days before our meeting, the President of the People's Republic of China, in the same position, pointed out at the Ninth Academician Conference of the Chinese Academy of Sciences: innovation is the soul of a nation and an inexhaustible driving force for a country's prosperity. To meet the challenges of future science and technology, the most important thing is to insist on innovation and have the courage to innovate. However, you must be clear that innovation is not achieved overnight, it is a process, and it is very difficult! As far as the actual situation of China's economy is concerned, if we ignore the reality and rely on money alone, we will venture to diversify. If we really want to create a new and better future, and to make a connection between dreams and actions, we must first and significantly strengthen and transform our culture. Because only cultural self-confidence can transform people and achieve great dreams. Joy, don't you say?"

"It seems to be, but I really don't understand what you're saying, so don't say it. ”

"It doesn't matter if you don't understand, children have a strong sense of perception, and the more you listen to the most cutting-edge things, the subconscious of the brain can be ahead of time. The subconscious mind is the magic lamp for people to seek answers to life, it will make you aware of the intellect, that is, the intellect that knows what to do and how much to do, and it will lead life. ”