Two weeks have passed since the start of school. During this time, my son played yo-yo crazy, and at noon he often ran early without taking a nap, saying that he was going to participate in the competition held by the Little Doctor Firm, which made me urge him to make all his plans much more laborious than before, so there were many verbal wars between father and son, and there were mutual winners and losers. I couldn't understand my son's obsession with yo-yos, and when I opened his composition in the evening, there was this essay that caught my attention:

In March, the weather was not too warm, and ten of us students couldn't bear the loneliness and came to the desert park to play a game of mud fights.

Before each game, both sides packed almost the same number of "bullets", and after several battles we were unable to capture the opponent's position. Later, I came up with a plan: when the battle began, I asked two classmates to continue to pack "bullets", one person specialized in transporting ammunition, and two people fought. Although the situation was dangerous at the beginning, we cooperated well and after a while the situation improved. When the opponent is running out of "bullets", we still have more ammunition. I made a quick decision and issued an order for all to join the battle, and we charged at each other's positions in unison. After the victory, I told them about my methods of warfare, and they were convinced of the defeat.

When I got home, I thought: if I can come up with a good way to do something, it will be easier to do difficult things, and it seems that it is better to use more brains.

This essay clearly reflects the collectivity and becomes the main theme of the son's life. No wonder he runs out whenever he is free, and he doesn't want to stay at home for an extra minute. From this essay, I felt that my son might be talented in management. Management skills in the information age are a very rare and scarce resource, and in the future, we will guide them to read on a larger scale. In the evening, I said that my son was very strategic in playing war, and he was very good at thinking about problems. I have a question for him. He said, "What's the problem?"

"You have been memorizing the poems you selected from the Dictionary of World Famous Poems for a while, and I would like to ask what is the difference between foreign poetry and Chinese poetry?"

"Foreign poems are big, Chinese poems are small. The son said.

"What do you mean?" I asked, puzzled.

"Most of the foreign poems are written about the heroic feelings of people after they struggle, while most of the Chinese poems are about the emotions of people and things, which are not inspiring. ”

My son's words made me gasp. I asked myself, "Is this what a child said?" I put my arms around my son, kissed him on the cheek and said, "Joy, you are so perceptive, you will definitely be able to become a person who is good at finding problems and acting bravely." ”

The next day was a rest day, and at lunchtime, my son said, "Dad, after eating, let's go to Huxi to fix the cistanche pine roots." ”

"Why?"

"Now that I'm used to going to the wild, I want to go out every once in a while, and if I don't take off the grown cistanche, the cistanche roots will be very uncomfortable. ”

Real life makes the son's compassion grow, and the day when he is in harmony with nature and his family will not be too far away. I muttered to myself, then patted him on the shoulder and smiled and said, "Joy, you have goodness in your heart." ”

In the warm sunshine, my son and I rode our bikes to the west of the lake. In about an hour, we came to the west of the lake, seven kilometers away. Putting down my bike and trekking into the desert, I said, "Joy, what is this called?"

"It's the sound of a mouse. ”

"Last year you thought it was a bird. I said, "What's the rat calling?"

"It's reporting a dangerous situation to its companions at the next stop. ”

"You see how good the teamwork discipline of the rats is, do we need to learn from the mice?"

"Yes, yes, yes. ”

"Playing battles and competitions with children is the best place to exercise cooperation, and insisting on self-study for one hour is the best place to exercise discipline. ”

"Dad, I know this. ”

"It's good to know. Then you salute the little rat sentinels who are actively responsible. ”

We saluted the rat sentinels as we walked forward, and soon came to the cistanche pit. The son said, "Dad, I dug eleven seedlings last year, and there will be more this year, right?"

"I can't say exactly. ”

We started digging, and my son counted on the side. "One seedling, another seedling," he kept shouting, and his excitement was getting higher and higher. But the good times didn't last long, and after a while, Zi said disappointedly: "Dad, there are only seven seedlings in total." ”

"Nanamiao is also very good. ”

"Didn't you say that the roots of loving it will grow more and more?"

"Yes. I said, "Rejoice, everything has its highs and lows, it goes on like a wave, but if you don't take care of its roots, it will die, it will have nothing." I saw that the child didn't understand my words, and then said, "Did you say that grandma's grapes produced more grapes last year?"

"Not much. ”

"What about the first two years?"

"Many, very much. ”

"This is the high and low of things, and it is not subject to human will. The cistanche in front of you is also at a low ebb of growth, just like you are now. ”

"What's like me?"

"Your studies, from the top of the second grade to the current middle and lower class, are at a low ebb for you, and more specifically, you are in a turbulent autumn of learning. Fortunately, we have adopted a flexible learning attitude, and we have not let your learning regression and make our family fall into the quagmire of fluctuations together. Now your business is your business, the study business is the study business, no matter what your test results are, you still live according to the natural rhythm of your own growth, so that you save unnecessary consumption of vitality at the low ebb of learning, and make great progress. ”

"Huge progress! What progress, why don't I know?"

"Joy, your progress is too great. First of all, you dare to go to and from school alone without your parents, which is a sign that the bird is about to fly; secondly, Dad found out from your essay that you are not the Wang Xile who used to have a feverish head, but a person who has his own ideas about things and has begun to be flexible in the process of doing things. And if this kind of progress is of little value from the perspective of test scores alone, from the whole process of life, this kind of flexible mental progress is really too great for life, and this excellent quality can safely send you to where you want to be. Third, the bicycle-camping dad feels more and more that you are a bit like Liu Bei's Five Tiger General Zhao Yun, and sometimes I can't catch up with you. These are the embodiment of progress and a lifelong dependence. ”

"Dad, is that so? Why does the teacher say that I only know crazy play and don't know how to study all day?"

Hateful test-oriented education, I secretly said to myself. Then I said, "That's because the teacher doesn't know about your life, and the situation will gradually get better, and there are two most important things for you right now." ”

"Which two points. ”

"First, continue to improve the efficiency of studying for one hour a day; second, you are now playing in groups with children, which is not only the beginning of developing friendships, but also the beginning of doing bad things, the most important test for you is not the papers in class, but the identification of good and evil common sense, and self-control of evil. Dad pays the most attention to the second point, which determines the success or failure of your life and also determines the happiness of our family. ”

I took out the cistanche seedlings that had grown up, and my son walked in the direction of returning with one in his arms. I said, "Joy, it's not terrible to be at a low ebb, as long as you do what you think is meaningful to you." ”

"What do you think?"

"There are students in your class who study well and students who study poorly, they are like two birds that can just fly. One perched on a branch is equivalent to a student who studies poorly, and one leaves the branch early and flies along the low altitude to the blue sky in the distance, which is equivalent to a student who studies well. What do you think of the bird that has the best chance of soaring into the blue sky in the future?"

"The one that flew first. Because our teachers often say that stupid birds fly first, as long as you are willing to work hard early, all difficulties and mistakes can be overcome. ”

"Your teacher is very wrong. ”

"Why?"

"The stupid bird flies first, as long as you are diligent in enduring hardships, you can succeed, the teacher has said it countless times. Did your teacher ever talk about hardship?"

"Nope. ”

"But the high-level things in the world are all done skillfully and hard. What are the goals of those two birds I just talked about?"

"Fly to the basket. ”

"The little bird that flies first, which is not very strong, always flies along the bottom sky and can fly to the basket sky?"

I gestured with my hand to my son, and he finally understood what he meant. Hurriedly said, "No." ”

"Yes. Although the bird that flew first left the earth early, it was difficult for it to fly higher into the blue sky, because it still lacked the motivation to fly and there were many natural predators on the way. ”

"Dad, the little birds that fly back can fly into the blue sky, what you said is exactly the opposite of what our teacher said!"

"Because some people often take apart too many originally complete things from a one-time perspective, and take them out of context. For example, we often say that the stupid bird flies first, but there is also 'the latecomer who comes first'. And the bird that flies first has not yet grown up physically and mentally, and has not yet had the ability to discern the direction, and without the direction, do you think it can fly to the target?"

"No, you can't. ”

"A child who does not learn to discern between good and evil will never reach his goal. Joy, you are the little bird perched on the branches, and it doesn't matter that your academic performance is declining now, what matters is that you can learn to applaud good deeds and feel guilty for bad deeds in a flock of playmates. ”

"Dad, I will. ”