In the blink of an eye, the Spring Festival has arrived, and his son has shown strong self-control and initiative from buying guns to going to the grave, which shows that his inner appearance is quietly changing.

The fourth day of the Lunar New Year is my son's birthday, he asked me for 20 yuan and said that he wanted to invite children to roller skate, at 9 o'clock in the evening, I came out of the hotel with my wife to the roller skating rink to find him to go home together, Grandpa Lu of the roller skating rink said that his son had not been there. My son hadn't come home since 10 o'clock, and my wife asked me to go to the Yanchang building community to look for it, because he often went there to play. I went to the saltworks community and there was no one there, and when I went home again, I saw my son washing his feet. I said, "Have fun today, where are you playing, tell Dad." ”

"We roller skated for a while, and then we went to the building complex to play telegraph, which was just over. The son said.

"You're going rollerblading?"

"Go. ”

"Really?"

I asked three times and my son said he was rollerblading. "Isn't this a clear panic!" Suddenly, I yelled angrily:

"Stand up. ”

My son, who had never seen me speak in such a tone, stood naked with my feet out of the basin and "Go, show me where you were playing with the telegraph," and I kicked him hard in the ass. He took two steps forward barefoot, "Hurry up," I shouted again.

The son wanted to find shoes to wear, "What shoes does the deceitful child wear," I was very angry, and went up and kicked him out of the door several times in a row. It was late at night in winter, and at this time the son didn't understand why his father was so angry today, he only knew that the situation was very serious, and he had to rush to the place where he was playing as soon as possible to prove that he was indeed playing there. He ran with his bare wet feet towards the complex of buildings 500 meters away.

The son ran to Building 11 and said, "Dad, we're going to play telegraph here." In the corner of this little cool house are the poles of a few colored bead cannons that I bought with the money you gave me. As he spoke, the son hurried up the steps and took out a few finished firecracker poles from the corner of the door.

It seemed that his son's words were true, so he asked puzzledly, "Isn't your money rollerblading?"

"My classmates and I went around the roller skating rink and came out. I bought a set of cannons for five dollars, and some delicious food for fifteen dollars, and then I ate and played here, ate and played with telegraphs all the time. ”

Misunderstanding, misunderstanding, a very uncomfortable feeling rushed into my heart. But I realized that the misunderstanding was caused by my son's neglect of details, and that the matter had to be dealt with to the end. I hid the pain in my heart and said solemnly:

"Go home. ”

The son walked bummerally and bummerally towards home, and the pebbles on the road changed his walking posture from time to time. The cold winter wind was blowing on his face, and at this time I knew that his feet were sore and painful. When I finally got home, the pain in my heart was relieved a lot. I quickly sat my son on the sofa and checked his frozen red feet, but fortunately there were no punctures, so I rubbed his feet like a big brother and kept asking if it hurt. I tried to use kind language to convince my son that he would never be alone at home, no matter how big things happened to him as he grew up.

My son's feet warmed up. I said, "Joy, this is the first time Daddy has hit you, do you want to know why Daddy hit you?"

"Yes. ”

"Mom and Dad came out of the hotel at nine o'clock and went to the roller skating rink, Grandpa Lu said that you didn't go roller skating, but you said that you went roller skating, which is standard lying and vicious lying. ”

"Dad, I only stood there for a few minutes at the roller skating rink, how can Grandpa Lu see me!"

"There's a detail here. ”

"What's the detail?"

"You didn't tell the whole story and changed the nature of the matter, not only did you get beaten, but you also lost your father's trust in you, which is the result of vicious lying. ”

"Dad, I still think it's nothing, I used to go to the Internet café and secretly spent so much money on the family, I used to break so many things in the house, I lied when I defended myself, why did you never talk about me?"

"Joy, about going to the Internet café, breaking things, not finishing homework, not doing well in exams, etc., Dad knows very well in his heart, but I just smiled, do you want to know why?"

"Why?"

"The kind of lying you say is not lying, it's a lie to protect yourself. There is a strict difference between lying and lying, it is not the same thing at all, this is because the child has a weak ability and a strong imagination, and often does things that are completely out of touch with his imagination, like you often break things in the house, which is normal. But in order to protect yourself and avoid responsibility, you often tell some lies to cover up your inner weakness, which is also a natural psychological need. As you get older, your ability and responsibility improve, there will be fewer and fewer lies, and the most important thing is that that kind of lies will not make you a bad person, so you can be forgiven. And today, do you say that you didn't roller skate as roller skating, did you protect yourself by doing something?"

"Nothing protects. ”

"Joy, this kind of non-doing and saying and doing is a standard lie, this kind of talk is too much, others will treat you as the kind of person who is a false person, after a long time, no one will dare to believe what you say. ”

"Dad, I know, that kind of thing out of nothing is a vicious lie, and I will not make such a mistake in the future," said the son, "It really scared me, I thought something was wrong, now it's okay, it's all over." ”

"It's your birthday, but Dad beat you, this is the first time you've been beaten, Dad really can't stand you," I said guiltily, "It must hurt to walk barefoot on the road, right?!"

"It's okay, it doesn't hurt, it's all to blame for ignoring the details. ”

After the son finished speaking, he leaned on the back of the sofa, and kept rubbing his feet in the basin to make a "squeak" sound. I looked at my son with a completely unfamiliar eye, and the sports life of this time seemed to bring about a change in his personality, and this change was - let the past pass.

After washing his feet, my son seemed to have forgotten all about the beating he had just received, and he happily told me about his telegraph play, and that joy gave me the illusion that the child had no memory. After calming down and thinking about it, the child has the embryo of believing in his parents.

"Daddy, can you sleep with me tonight?" my son asked me with a smile, as if he was trying his best to seek forgiveness from his family.

"Okay. ”

"Great!"

My son was excited, and I was infected by his happy emotions, so I picked him up and carried him to the bedroom, and we put them into the child's bed.

When I woke up the next day, a joy swept into my heart, and the snow was blowing outside the window, and the scene was so charming that it was difficult to determine whether I was in a dream, and at this time my son's foot kicked on my stomach, and I was convinced that I was not dreaming.

The birth of a son was accompanied by a heavy snowfall. I rested my head on my son's little pink pillow and lay there reminiscing about his past. Yesterday, my son ended his 10th birthday while being beaten. During this decade, children have taken some different paths in terms of education. While others use the classical art of prodigy education to "clone" the child, eager to mold the child into a multi-functional little adult, I see the child as a seedless seed, hoping that by living in life he can implant the core of this seed.

Time travels, to be honest, compared with other children, the son is still troublesome in addition to trouble, but in the trouble, the son has his own behavior towards the world, and the compassion and bravery he shows make people feel that they dare not despise him. I involuntarily kissed my son next to me to express my joy, but I woke him up, opened his eyes and asked, "Dad, what time is it?"

"It's snowing outside, maybe it's almost ten o'clock. ”

"It's snowing!" said the son, sitting up.

"Slept late yesterday and slept a little longer. ”

"Nope. I plan to finish my homework early today so I can have a snowball fight with my friends. ”

I couldn't help laughing, slapped my son with my hand and said kindly, "I haven't played enough after ten years, is it really that important to play?"

"Of course. What's the point of living if children don't play. ”

"Then after finishing your homework, you can go there and play there. ”

The son sat up, didn't say a word, and hurriedly put on his shoes, for fear of wasting time. He came out of the bedroom and came back and said, "Dad, the snow is so thick outside, I've never seen such a big snow!"

I got dressed and went out to see that it was snowing that I hadn't seen in nearly 10 years. The whole earth was melted into one with snow. Looking at the snow, a plan entered my brain without any thought. After the heavy snowfall, it is necessary to take Wang Xile to the six trees in the desert to do a revisit, which will definitely have a special meaning for this child born in the heavy snow, this meaning has a very important role in the progress of the child, and there are few such opportunities in a person's life, I must seize it.

At this time, I forgot that Wang Xile was still a child, and I was only happy for my own thoughts. When Wang Xile finished his homework, I forgot to tell him my thoughts and wanted to care for his growth with a new kind of care. Unexpectedly, the son waved his hand again and again, and said in a serious tone:

"Dad, it's not interesting to go to Six Trees, the most fun thing right now is to have a snowball fight with friends. ”

I don't think my son is resolute and can't say anything. After lunch, my son went out to play. My mind shifted from self-awareness, and I realized that I had done something stupid. was too anxious for his son, but instead drove himself to a dead end. I want him to go to the Six Trees, and I have to think about it from his point of view, and I think if I have a chance to trick him into the direction I am thinking.

In the evening, the family of three watched TV. I said, "Wang Xile, are you powerful?"

"Awesome. ”

"Are you brave?"

"Brave. ”

"Can you overcome the odds?"

"Yes. ”

"Are you a little doll, or a big boy?"

"Big boys, of course. The son said proudly.

"What do you call a big boy?"

"It's an older male doll. ”

"Wrong. ”

"What's that?"

"A big boy is half a man who plays and does things at the same time. Although the tone of the older boy's life is playful, there are some things that he has a responsibility to do well. For example, we must carefully make the bed, complete our homework carefully, and sometimes there are some unexpected things to test whether the big boy is good or not, and whether he is brave or not. For example, like a big boy on a snowy day, would he dare to go to six trees. My son didn't speak but rubbed his hands, and I felt that he was a little tempted and said, "Joy, I think you are also a big boy, you have no problem going to Six Trees, the main thing is to see if you have the willpower? If you can achieve your goal, I will invite you to eat lamb skewers for three days." ”

My son looked at me, smiled, and said, "Dad, it's not difficult to go to Six Trees, but there is one thing that is too difficult!"

"What's the matter?"

"I want to go to my second aunt's house in Yinchuan to meet my sister. ”

"Your mother and I have something to do, who will send you?"

"I'm going to ask my dad to see if his car is going to Yinchuan that day, just take me with you. In this way, it is safe and money-saving, and it depends on whether you agree or disagree with my plan. ”

The son's bargaining words are very measured, making it difficult to refuse him. I stood up and made a show, pretended to walk around the living room a few times, and said, "It stands to reason that a child of your age can't go out alone, but if you dare to challenge Six Trees in the face of the cold, Dad can only agree to your plan to go to Yinchuan." ”

My son jumped up, poured water for me, and put a backrest on my waist. He became a master of mercy. His wife was half-lying on the sofa, and her eyes were straight and said, "Wang Xile, you also come over to serve your mother." ”

The son used to cushion his wife, and she was happy, hugged the child and kissed her on the face. said: "The child's good character is really playful. ”

Happiness pervades every corner of the home. My son is laughing back and forth between my wife and me, and he is happy that he has his own sky at home. It was late, and the son said emotionally: "Dad, stop reading, go to bed early, and go to Six Trees tomorrow." ”

"Yes! I said excitedly.

The next day, there was no wind in the sky, and it was really good weather for camping. After lunch, we headed for Six Trees. As soon as he goes out, his son will wrap snowballs and play in the snow on tiptoe, constantly showing the vitality of life in nature, which is heartwarming. When I entered the desert park, my son attacked me, and we had a snowball fight, and I always deserted. I would shout triumphantly every time he hit me, and he was a militant with that look.

Once out of the desert park, the situation changed.

At the age of ten, it is not only the end of a child's childhood but also the beginning of a child's ambition, and the appropriate difficulties will inject vitality into the soul, arouse emotions, and elevate the flesh. Although the camping is hard, the eternal life in nature is also obvious to the soul. This diary is a true reflection of the educational value of this activity:

In 2005, there was a heavy snowfall on the night of the fifth day of the Lunar New Year, and my father and I decided to go to Liushu deep in the desert.

Into the desert. The sky is like a canopy, the Buddha covers everything, and the golden sand beams in the past have all turned white. My dad and I pushed forward with one foot deep and one foot shallow. After walking for a short time, my father and I distanced ourselves.

It's so tiring. I deliberately rolled down from the height of the sand beam, who knew that it was quite fast without effort, and when I was thirsty, I quietly put the white snow in my mouth, hehe! It was cold and cold, not delicious at all, and it was very rubbing against my teeth.

Six Trees has finally arrived.

Looking at the snowy scene, my father asked me that the poem best reflected the landscape in front of me, and after thinking about it, I memorized "Qinyuan Spring Snow", and my father patted me on the shoulder and praised me.

On the snow at Six Trees, I found many animal footprints. Under my father's guidance, I was able to distinguish the footprints of hares, foxes, porcupines, gerbils, and birds, but some of the footprints my father did not recognize. I really admire these tenacious lives in the harsh winter desert, and their footprints have given me the courage to overcome difficulties.

The sun was sinking in the west, the air was cold, and I followed the footsteps of some small animals and took solid steps in the direction of home.

When I came back from camping, I invited my son to eat lamb skewers and promised to invite him for three days, but the next day he got into his father's car and went to Yinchuan. My wife and I went to Azuoqi on the 10th day of the Lunar New Year to receive Mandarin training. A week has passed in the blink of an eye. On the morning of the end of the Mandarin training, my son called from Yinchuan and asked us to pick him up at the bus stop at eleven o'clock and go home with us. We came to the shuttle bus stop. As soon as the shuttle bus entered the station, I saw my son waving to us through the window. ：

"Daddy, Daddy. As soon as I got out of the car, my son shouted while running, threw himself into my arms and said, "Dad, it's so cool to go out in the car alone." ”

"Aren't you scared to ride in a car alone?" I said.

"Don't be afraid. I'm a big boy!"

From Wang Xile's words, it can be heard that he has the courage to control himself. I lamented: There are too many children in China, and they have been in charge of everything from childhood to adulthood, and it is difficult for them to understand what "freedom" is. And the sooner children become independent, the more freedom they enjoy, and the more likely it is that the country will enjoy the glory of power. Human society has always gone this way. At this time, I am glad that I live in a traditional and conservative circle, and I can still provide some freedom for my children to grow up.

"Joy, what if Mom and Dad suddenly have an emergency and don't come to pick you up today?" I said.

"I have two options: first, call 110 for help, because going out is dangerous and I won't trust anyone except the police. If I can't call 110, then my second option is to go to the bus station to get on the bus to Gillantai and ask the driver's uncle for help, so that he can take me to Gillantai, and when I get home, I will find him the money to buy a ticket. Although this idea is not very safe, I often play at the bus stop, and the uncle who drives the car looks very familiar. The son said.

"Heh! My son has really grown up, except for a little less strength, it seems that he is not afraid of things. The wife said with a smile.

Hop on the bus and two hours later we were back at our home in Gillantay. I checked my son's homework, and my wife stood aside, and when I turned to the last page and said "OK", my wife put her arms around the child's neck and said: "It seems that Wang Xile is really conscious of writing homework, and he can finish the winter vacation by himself without being cared, husband, you really have a set of ways to deal with children." Other people's families are busy with their children's learning, and you don't care, the child really starts to take the initiative to write on his own, I think his future learning will definitely not be bothered. ”

My wife's words made me feel a kind of sweetness. I think this feeling will become a reality in the near future. I said:

"My goal in education is to give children the ambition to achieve themselves. ”