At the beginning of July, there was no exam yet. On that day, Wang Xile came home from school in the morning and took back a parent feedback slip, which said that he had not completed his Chinese, math and English homework this week, and I asked him what was going on, and he said that there were more things among his classmates during this time, and his self-control in writing homework had decreased. I clearly felt that he was not telling the truth.

During this period, cartoons and martial arts films began to be marginalized in his son's life, but super girls, boys and girls suddenly became the main event. When I thought of this, I wrote on the feedback note: The ability to complete the task independently is still very weak, thanks to the teacher's communication and management.

When I came back from school in the afternoon, I said, "What Joy said at noon was not true, the last time I got the feedback slip for my unfinished homework was to play football; this time you said that it was a loss of self-control, and your self-control was cultivated by Dad and will not be easily broken." ”

"Dad, I really don't mean what I said. The reason why I don't want to write homework is that we are studying for the UEC subjects from morning to afternoon these days, and we are tired of writing and calculating all day long, and I don't think it's interesting at all. ”

"It's the same in middle school, almost all schools in the country exist to get good grades, and that's the reality, no matter if you don't want to, you have to find a way to deal with your studies. ”

"I can handle it. The son smiled and said, "Dad will have a break tomorrow, let's go to Xiaocha Dry Beach to pick watermelons, I haven't been there for a long time." ”

Wang Xile's words made my heart tremble, because the outdoor temperature in July is generally 35 degrees, and it is even more difficult to imagine in the Gobi Desert! In the past, my mentality was active, but today my mentality has changed. I hesitated, gritted my teeth and said, "Okay." Are you preparing something?"

The next day, I watched Wang Xile use a large coke jar and pour the prepared cold boiled water into it. I said, "Don't you always bring drinks with you when you have activities, how did you turn into water today?"

"Bringing drinks in this kind of weather is purely looking for death. ”

Wang Xile has really grown up. I happily rolled out my bike and hit the road with him. In the hot weather, Wang Xile rode all the way to the Golden Triangle as if nothing happened, and shocked the melon sellers there. During the melon meal, I talked to the melon sellers, telling them that their children didn't want to do anything about the family's farm work since they went to college.

We had a great time at Little Chahan Beach and it was 7 p.m. when we got back to the Golden Triangle for dinner. Wang Xile asked, "Dad, do you have a volleyball referee tonight?"

"Yes. ”

"What time is it?"

"Half past nine. ”

"We had to get back in two hours and twenty minutes. ”

Wang Xile turned over and rode back.

"We couldn't go back for two hours and twenty minutes. I caught up and said.

"Why?"

"You don't have that physical fitness. ”

Wang Xile didn't speak, just rode back. After riding ten kilometers, Wang Xile pointed to the setting sun and said, "Dad, you see how beautiful the sun is, like the sword of Dharma." ”

No matter what he said, his speed never slowed down, and he had the strength to fight to the end. We rode 32 kilometers in two hours. I asked him why he didn't take a break, and he said that he had to do his best not to delay his father's work.

On July 13th, his wife said in frustration that Wang Xile's final results came out, and the three main courses of language, mathematics, and foreign language were all barely 90 points, and he did not enter the top five.

"Adolescence has begun to increase its influence on children," I said, "Recently, words such as super girls and leading big brothers have often appeared from Wang Xile's mouth, and I am waiting for a good opportunity to send the second signal of puberty to my son, and now is the critical period for establishing a view of life." The drop in the fifth-grade exam score is also a good opportunity, and it is a topic to start, don't look at Wang Xile's exam ranking drop, but I feel that his character has a very good precursor.

Subsequently, I asked Wang Xile how his test score had dropped, and he said that there was a small mistake in the initiative in this exam, and he could solve the study problem by himself.

Since he started school, Wang Xile's learning has always fluctuated between the third and thirty-fifth places in his class, and he has experienced a lot of things during this time, especially when talking to him about several world-class online games, his analysis and assumptions about himself, the team and the war have made me dare not despise him.

"Joy, how did I feel about myself in fifth grade?" I said.

"I have more strength and more problems, but I can obviously control my anger and start reasoning with others. ”

Controlling emotions and learning to reason are psychological realms that many adults are far from reaching. Faced with Wang Xile facing a major psychological transition at the age of 12 and going to junior high school next semester, how can I help my child further improve his self-control?