My son didn't come back until 11:30 p.m., and I asked him if he was going to an Internet café to play games, and he told me that he would never go to an Internet café to play games again, because he didn't want to be stupid and said that he would buy a computer at home, and he couldn't go to an Internet café himself.

"Joy, you can take care of yourself, Daddy is so happy for you. Still, Dad wants to know why you're coming back so late?"

"That's right. At first, I played in the building community, and the children were called away by their parents at almost 9 o'clock, and my brother and I went roller skating at the roller skating rink. ”

"You didn't ask me for money when you left. ”

"It was given by my aunt. My brother and I even bought a big can. ”

"Oh, that's right, go to bed. ”

"Dad, are you okay tomorrow?"

"It's fine. What do you want to do?"

"If it's okay, I'll get up early tomorrow to do my homework, and after finishing my homework, we'll dig Suoyang, it's very interesting. Think about it, when you were a child, there were more locks. ”

My son's words sent a wave through my mind, and my heart rippled. I thought to myself: success or failure in practice allows children to have their own ideas, and the practice process of each self-idea is a signpost for people's growth.

"Good, good. I hurriedly replied.

"Dad, tell me about Sui Tang. "My son got into the bed, but he spoke faster than I did.

When the story told that Luo Cheng was killed by Li Jiancheng and Li Yuanji, his son covered his face with a quilt and cried "woo". He gradually fell asleep in the cry of "Luo Cheng's death".

I went back to my bedroom and was just feeling a little sleepy. "Kill, kill, kill" My son suddenly shouted, and I hurriedly got up and ran over, it turned out that he was talking in his sleep. The dream words drove away all my sleepiness, and the more quiet the night, the more I couldn't sleep.

A good story that catches people's hearts can make children dream of their souls, but can a good education inject a self-story into children? Can children be dreamed of for themselves? Tomorrow I will tell my child about the new education strategy, he is likely to become a wild horse, what can I do for my child?

My wife supports my educational ideas, but they are generalized, and innovation is easier said than done. Tomorrow the child will enjoy his freedom, from now on I can not beat, I can't scold, I can't use parental authority to support and control, but also let the child recognize the mistake from his own mistakes, improve himself, and make progress. This simply pulls education directly from strategic theory back to the root of specific problems. If there are only new ideas without concrete means to implement them, no matter how good an idea or theory is, it is just empty talk, or even nonsense. What methods can be used to achieve the goal of nurturing the mind and carrying the study in the midst of the "mean"? Chinese children have grown up from childhood to adulthood, getting up early and returning late to study, and in the end there are many children who are tired of studying, which shows that our study system is certainly very flawed. But what is the origin of the aversion to learning? Where does the idea of aversion to learning come from? What determines the power of aversion to learning? How does aversion to learning invade students' hearts, and how does aversion to learning turn students into slaves arbitrarily driven by aversion to learning?

These seem simple, but no one has been able to answer them for many years. The answers are all lies in the form of donkey's head and horse's mouth, and the official's face is grandiose and slogan-like. In order for my son to avoid the danger of being bored with school, I had to reflect on these questions for a long time. If, in terms of probability, the degree of aversion to school reaches 30%, it means that there must be something wrong with the dominant ideology of our education. I always feel that Chinese children are struggling to learn what they shouldn't be learning at some point, but they are abandoning what they should be learning, and maybe we have a wrong understanding of education itself.

The next morning I came back from a walk outside and saw my son doing his homework. It seems that he is determined to dig Suoyang. "Dad, have you figured it out?" my son asked as soon as he saw me.

"Yes. What have you thought of?" I asked deliberately.

"Just to make you think about where there is Suoyang?" said the son, "and we'll leave after dinner." ”

"Oh, I've figured it out. I said, "But it's in a sand nest, and the road is more difficult to walk." ”

"It's okay, as long as you can dig up the lock sun. The son said nonchalantly.

I walked over to my son and lowered my head to take a closer look at his homework. "Dad, don't affect me. He pushed me away and said, "I'd be so happy if I could dig up so many Suoyang today!"

My son's words turned all the painful experiences in the past into good memories. Those painful experiences gave the child a sense of pursuing goals. Although the goal is so inconspicuous, that kind of consciousness is the beginning of all good things.

After lunch, after my son finished preparing what he needed to bring for camping, we enjoyed the warmth of spring and continued to ride south to the eight-kilometer fork in the story of the Sui and Tang dynasties. After getting off the road, I turned a bay and climbed over a beam, and all that was left in my eyes was endless sand dunes.

Putting down the bicycle and carrying the grocery bag, my son and I walked side by side in the sandy road. The weather was very good, I felt very comfortable, and the camping turned into a walk, "Dad, how can there be a lock sun?" Wang Xile asked impatiently.

"Ahead," I replied unhurriedly.

At the end of March, the sun was shining on the desert and it was already feeling hot. I was there happily while telling the story, walking, walking. From time to time, little creatures from the desert would come up to us and show off their heroic posture. The son didn't listen to the story anymore, he would catch a shell mantis for a while, and grab a sand crawl for a while, and those creatures made him feel excited and interesting. The more he played, the more he took off his coat, and my son shuttled among the desert plants, playing at will, and I felt a deep sense of intimacy in the face of this situation. In this kind of cordiality, there is no utilitarian dispute, no sophistication, and no more important, only care and feelings.

But this situation was quickly shattered by his son's actions. "Ha, ha, ha" Wang Xile's few martial arts actions sent the lives of those little creatures to the west.

"Joy, how did you kill them?" I asked.

"It's fine. The son said indifferently, "I'll catch it when I'm dead."

"Don't you always say that you should love small animals?"

"That's at school, and if you don't say that, the teacher will deduct points. It's not a school, and there's all this stuff everywhere. ”

My son's words made me understand at once why counterfeit and counterfeit products are rampant in China. Our school is educating children to panic, especially the college entrance examination high-score essay, obviously there is a set of panic editing procedures, according to the model of training is very easy to get high scores. Vice versa. I know this very well.

"Are there too many people?" I asked.

"Many. ”

"Some people are bad people, can you just kill him?"

"No, you can't. ”

"Then why do you just trample on a small animal?"

"They're animals. People are protected by law. ”

"It is precisely because they are weak that the law cannot protect them that they need human care. If you kill all the sand crawlers, the earth will be full of mosquitoes, how can human beings live?

"Dad, I was wrong. In the future, I will only play with them, and I will not harm them again. ”

"That's right. ”

It seems that the only way to save the planet is to develop the education of human humanity.

I don't have to think about this anymore, and the first priority is where to find Suoyang. I tried to look at the area, hoping to identify which area was the place where the sun was long. The sand beams are scaly and scaly, and the desert vegetation is one in the east and one in the west, growing between the narrow sand roads. The drought has made this place very different from more than a decade ago.

I'm trying, but it's paying off quickly. After a while, my son couldn't play anymore, and then he remembered what he was doing today. He asked me where Suoyang was? I pointed forward and said, based on the shadow of the class room visible at the far end of the train track:

"Five hundred meters ahead. ”

The goal must be that the leisurely in the delicate spring sun is gone, which adds a sense of sadness. At this time, there was nothing else to think about except praying that Suoyang could be found at a distance of 500 meters. I frowned, kept observing with my eyes wide open, and walked forward, hoping to find Suoyang on the way. After walking about 200 meters, I thought it was ridiculous. When no specific goal is specified, adults and children enjoy themselves. After having a specific goal, the leisure in my heart is gone, the smile on my face is gone, and there is only a place of 500 meters in my mind, and all the spring colors can no longer arouse the excitement of the eyeballs.

On the other hand, what if there is no lock sun in that place at 500 meters? Losing laughter is a trivial matter, and the key will shake my son's confidence in digging up lock yang. This is similar to the 99.99% of teachers who today demand from their students – to succeed academically, they need to set themselves ambitious and specific learning goals.

However, if the goal is too specific, it will make people nervous and difficult to experience the joy of learning. After a long time, people's affinity for learning will inevitably weaken. Knowledge comes from life. But life is alive. Like the beauty of nature, it is not limited to a valley, a stream, a cave and a temple. Why should people's study be condemned to death by one word and one subject? In the college entrance examination, so many specific goals were inexplicably set, and it was also stipulated that if the goals were not fulfilled within a uniform time, life seemed to cost people's lives! As a result, children's study is like going up a mountain of knives and going down to a sea of fire. Many children with different intelligences strive to achieve the highest goal according to the unified requirements. Like we are digging on the way to Suoyang, the beautiful scenery of spring has the kindness of a heart. But after having a goal, the whole situation changed, and the heart was like falling into an ice hole. This seems to reveal the essence of learning: whether it is learning for fractions or learning for the development of abilities. Learning for the sake of fractions will produce a multitude of learning goals, and children will become slaves to learning, and those who learn for the sake of ability will discover their own characteristics and become their own masters.

I thought, I walked. A sand trail with more white thorns on both sides appeared in front of him. The white thorn is a desert plant, and the lock sun is parasitic on the roots of the white thorn. In my experience, there was a high chance of finding Suoyang along the sand road, so I changed directions. "Dad, didn't you say there is Suoyang over there, why don't you go?" asked the son, pointing his finger.

"Joy, is this a sand road?"

"Yes. ”

"Walking along the sand road, we will find Suoyang in a moment. ”

In fact, the designated place is unique, and hope will become unique. But there are sand roads within the sand roads, and they are endless, so hope lasts forever.

Walking in the sand, I dug a few places, always in vain. I don't dig anymore, I just walk, I just observe. "Dad, why don't you dig it?" the son said anxiously, "How can you dig up Suoyang by walking like this?"

"If you go any further, you can dig it. I took out a snack and soothed him.

After walking more than 100 meters forward, I crossed a large sand beam, and a very good terrain was displayed in front of me, and I began to search carefully with joy in my heart. Seeing that there are a few piers of white thorns near the edge of the sand beam, it is very likely that there is a long lock yang, I walked over, saw a very good growth point, so I dug a few shovels hard, a pair of pink lock yang heads emerged from the sand, my son suddenly came to the strength, and kept using his little hands to shave with me, Suoyang seedlings were dug out one after another, a total of thirty-two seedlings. This process made my son scream.

This is a good place to stay in the long lock yang. I found seven more locks. I quickly backfilled the pits every time I dug them, and my son kept reminding me not to destroy the roots of Suoyang. Since I couldn't get that much, I only dug in five places, and my son struggled to pile up sandbags in the three places that he didn't dig to make marks, and decided to come back next week.

I picked up the lock and walked back, and began the most important conversation of the day. "Joy, I want to talk to you about studying. I said.

"Do you want to send me to an intensive class? The son suddenly said this, and his face became gloomy.

It seems that the matter of "study class" has become a problem for children.

"Not really. Originally, I said that as long as you can score 80 points, Mom and Dad will be happy. I hurriedly said, "Now, I want to change it." ”

"How do you change it? change it to 90 points!" the son said suspiciously.

"It's not. I don't have a grade requirement for you anymore, as long as you do your best. I said earnestly, "From now on, you will arrange your own affairs." You have to learn to plan and organize your studies and play, especially when it comes to playing, I will ask for it. ”

"What do you want?"

"In terms of play, I not only hope that you can be the best, but also that you can create conditions to attract children to play with you when there are no conditions. Do you have faith?"

"Dad, are you telling the truth?"

"How often does Dad tell lies? I only grasp three things for you: first, guide you to learn to distinguish between good and evil and generate responsibility, second, hope that camping will become an integral part of your life, and third, persist in reciting ten minutes every day at noon until you graduate from high school. ”

"Dad, everything you say is something I like. Can I really make my own decisions?"

"Don't you believe it?" I said, "think about it, does it matter if Dad lets you sleep and talk? Has Dad ever beaten and scolded you because of your low test scores? Giving you the freedom to study and the freedom to live, Dad just wants you to find a lifestyle that suits you." ”

I thought my son would go crazy with joy, but it was the opposite. With innocent joy on his face, the son smiled and walked in the desert without saying a word.

When I got to the side of the road, I sorted out the lock and loaded it on my bike. "Swans, swans, Daddy, look at the swans. "I looked up and saw a flock of white swans flying from there, and my son was jumping and jumping and shouting as a specimen of happiness. We watched the swans fly in the direction of home.