These days, my son's learning spirit is very high, which makes people feel that the cold winter is not cold. That night when he was doing his homework, he kept yelling for adults to test him. "Well, let's play for a while, and I'll take the test tomorrow. The wife said.

"No, I can't. It's almost the final exam, and I have to get a good grade. The son said stubbornly.

"Husband, I can't stand it, you come over and fight with your son for a while. ”

"Joy, why is your enthusiasm for studying so high in the past two days?" I asked.

"Dad, I'm very happy to publish the article. The final exams are approaching, and I want to put in more time to try to get a good score and surpass them. ”

"More than whom?"

"Surpass Bai Yu and them!"

"What are you doing beyond them?"

"Fight for the first!"

"Joy, what do children do in school?

"Learn knowledge. ”

"For whom does knowledge learn?"

"For yourself. ”

"Who do you need to surpass?"

"Yourself. You've said it before. ”

"Learning is not to surpass others, but to surpass yourself. If you have the idea of doing well, it means that you are improving. Life is a long road, there are many problems, not just by the test results can be solved, as long as you can attend class and listen attentively, wait for life to tell you why people want to study, no matter how hard it is, it is not too late. If you spend a lot of time studying textbooks outside of class in order to surpass others in exams, you will have the flavor of 'the moon is a loss, and obscurity is clear', and it is not worth losing a lot of time to play and read other books for that little bit; play is actually the most complicated learning for children's growth. Why some children, there are so many people who are willing to play with him, and some are lonely, this is the advanced knowledge in play. You don't need to understand these things now, as long as you can complete your homework independently in elementary school. Have you completed your study assignment today?"

"It's done. ”

"Joy, do you know chess?"

"Yes. ”

"Will it go down?"

"No, it won't. ”

"Want to learn?"

"Yes. Is it difficult?"

"It's not difficult. Just like playing poker, you can learn it in a moment. ”

I taught my son to play chess in the study, and I didn't think it was half past nine.

The son fell asleep to the sound of the story. Teaching my child to play chess is not a whim, but a plan for me to compete with the game for my child's free time.

When I came to the living room, my wife said in a weird way, "How can there be a parent like you." If the child wants to learn, you are good, if you don't let him learn, you won't talk about teaching him to play new things, for fear that he will not play well enough. I think you're really nervous. ”

"Isn't playing chess learning?" I asked.

"Gotta got, I won't tell you, let you say that people are gasping for breath are learning. ”

"Hey, my wife is highly educated, and she knows that panting is a college question. The breathing method in qigong can be exquisite. ”

"I won't tell you, I won't tell you, I'm going to watch TV. The wife said with a smile.

At noon the next day, it was like snow, and the sky was covered with gray clouds. Our family was chatting in bed when the phone rang and my son ran out. "Mommy, Mom!" my son rushed back after answering the phone, and a vicious tiger pounced on me on the bed, "Dad" didn't say a word, and held his breath. He was very anxious, and the more he wanted to speak, the more he held his breath, and finally he couldn't speak. I hurriedly helped him up and sat down to thump his back, and he was so excited. The wife said anxiously:

"I'm like a madman, can you slow down. ”

The son coughed, coughed for a while, and then calmed down. He blushed and said, "I won the lottery." ”

"What's the matter with winning the lottery?" asked his wife.

"Mom, just now Mr. Liu called to say that my article won the award, and I went to the traffic team to receive the award in the afternoon. The son's voice changed with excitement.

The wife stroked the back of her son's head with her hand, kissed the child's face with her face, and said, "How happy it is that my son's article has been successful twice in four days!"

"Dad, let's get the prize quickly. ”

At the urging of our son, we went to the traffic team to get back two award-winning books, "The Story of the Cold Star" and "The Years of Flowing Fireflies". When receiving the award, the person in charge of this area said that the child's essay was short but practical.

What's going on?

Here's the thing: After the publication of "Happy Day", I saw an essay contest on the "Traffic Cup" in the Arab League newspaper, so I took the newspaper home and showed it to my son, because he had just experienced a traffic-related event. He writes:

Yesterday, my dad brought me a newspaper with the notice of the "Traffic Cup" essay competition, and after reading it, something reappeared in front of my eyes.

The other day, I was clamoring for a big bike, and my dad said that traffic rules and regulations prohibit children under the age of 12 from riding a big bike alone. I didn't listen at all, and I argued with my dad from time to time. The day before yesterday, when I was returning home at noon, I collided with a bicycle carrying two adults on a small road in a residential area, and suddenly a force caused me to fly out of the car.

When I got home, my dad said that I was just a small car, and if it was a big car, it wouldn't hurt, and if I hit a motor vehicle, it would be terrible. Listening to my father's words, I was scared. I asked my father, "I'm not fast, why do I fly?" and he brought me a fist-sized iron ball and asked me to find a small glass ball. He said that the iron ball represents the adult, and the glass ball is me. We rolled the ball on the ground, and when it collided, the ball bounced back. Through the explanation, I understood the reason why my father didn't buy me a big bike, and I also realized that it is indeed dangerous for children to ride a big bike.

This experience made me understand the meaning of danger and discouraged the idea of buying a big bicycle in elementary school. Here, I would like to advise those children who are riding a big bicycle to sway from side to side in order to pursue novelty and speed: the danger is under your feet. For the sake of safety, for the sake of the family, please don't ride big bicycles, let's strive to be a little guardian of traffic safety!

Progress can only be achieved through experience. Coming out of the traffic team, the son ran to the school with the prize. After school in the afternoon, he came to my office and said, "Dad, it's an honor to receive this award." None of the students participated in the composition class. ”

"You write things with things that actually happen in life, which are alive, while most of the students in the composition class write about love and scenes, flowers and trees according to books, all of which are dead things, and if you write too much of this kind of thing, people's brains will 'die'. I said.

"Some students said that it was not me who wrote well, but the middle school teacher who changed it well. ”

"Not really. Others just helped you straighten it out, isn't the meaning still something in your head?"

"Yes. ”

"Joy, every child needs help to grow, and we must first thank those who have helped us. People who say this and that about other people's success are jealousy between villains, don't take it to heart, and try to do your own thing. ”

"This time it's a big deal. As the son spoke, his eyes lit up.

"Take advantage, take advantage of what?" I asked, puzzled.

"I only spent eight dimes to buy a stamp, and two books totaled thirty-nine dollars! "My son is very funny.

"This is the first prize you have won since you submitted, will you go to the hot pot restaurant to celebrate?"

"Nope. ”

"Why?"

"I've got enough rewards for my submissions, and I'm crazy with joy. I will definitely have more articles published, and I don't need to celebrate the publication of articles in the future. ”

The son's idea is so progressive, so bold, so independent, but this change does not happen overnight, this change is achieved by years of respect for the child, reverence for natural karma and fate, and patience.

Looking back on the past few days, my son really has a bit of a self-learning flavor in terms of one-hour study plan. From this point of view, it is feasible to use things other than learning to encourage children to strengthen self-management and accept learning.

The improvement of the child's psychological qualities is the best precursor, and it would be wise to seize the opportunity to take a step forward and give him greater freedom in a particularly favorable situation.

After school in the afternoon, my son firmly objected to the celebration of his victory and urged us to go home. After dinner and homework, "Dad, learn to play a few games of chess." The son said happily.

"Done with homework?"

"It's over. ”

"Did you memorize the things you carried at noon?"

The son went to the living room to play chess while reciting poems. As soon as the sound stopped, I heard the sound of "Daddy, coming".

"You're fast at carrying things. Ignoring my words, my son only looked at chess, and I said, "Joy, I ask you something?"

"What's the matter?"

"I only saw a person who came to our house to play games, why didn't I see other children?"

I want to take advantage of my son's momentum to further let him go.

"How can that work! The children are here, so don't you let them play?"

"Let's play!"

"I can't get enough of it!"

The son's words truly reflect the selfishness of human nature. However, the vicissitudes of life have proved that group ability is the basic lifeblood of human survival. Only individuals living in groups do not dry up. Only when every child has the ability to get along with others, all the subtle efforts of life will show meaning in the long river of life, and the accumulation of simple book knowledge will only interfere with the function of the human brain and not enrich it. I realized that my son's studies have improved, but his soul has not kept up, and his soul has not progressed, and all his efforts in life can only usher in ashes.

"No one else can grab a computer with you, so Dad should always play with you, right?" I said.

"Okay, but not for long. The son said reluctantly.

After playing chess, my son went to bed and said, "You must get good grades in the exam at the end of the next cycle and become a good student in the class." ”

I lamented in my heart: China's education is so sad, children are planted deep in their hearts at such a young age, and only good scores in exams are the seeds of good students!

The weather in the warm winter is cool but not cold. My son always likes to run outside on weekdays. On the afternoon before the final exams, the weather suddenly changed, the wind was howling, the yellow sand was everywhere, and the air suddenly became hard. My son was so unlucky in this strong cold snap that he was fine at dinner in the evening, and at eight o'clock I saw that his face was a little red, and said, "Joy, are you not feeling well?"

"I feel like my face is burning and my head hurts a little. ”

"I had a cold. The wife touched the child's head and said, "Take the medicine quickly, go to bed early, and there will be a final exam tomorrow." ”

After taking the medicine, my son fell asleep. At ten o'clock, he said in his dream, I went to kiss him, my lips just touched my face, my heart "soared", so hot - a bad cold. I hurriedly started the physical cooling ...... for the child

The next morning, although the high fever subsided, my son was weak and said, "Dad, can't I take the final exam?"

"Yes. Don't worry, I'll go to the teacher and ask for leave for you. ”

"But I'm ready. If I don't take the final exam, and I don't have grades, who will admit that I have improved?" said a desolate voice from the son's mouth, "The teacher said that the student's progress can only be proved by the test scores. ”

My brain spun all at once, and my son was sick like this, and he wanted to prove his progress with his scores. People cannot get rid of the environment, and can only seek maximum development in the environment. I smiled and said, "Joy, other students need to prove their progress with exams and you don't." ”

"Why?"

"Do any of your classmates have published articles?"

"Nope. ”

"Have any of your classmates won such a big prize for their essays?"

"Nope. The son's voice brightened a little.

"It's hard. Success in this area is proof enough of your progress. Are people like Qin Qiong, Luo Cheng, Li Shimin, Zhang Fei, Zhao Yun, Guan Yu and others capable of anything?"

"Great. ”

"Do they participate in every battle?"

"It's not. ”

"Students have countless exams from childhood to adulthood, and it doesn't matter if you don't take them a few times. Joy, your progress Mom and Dad have long been in mind. ”

"Great. The son whispered.

"Rejoice, the teacher said that progress can only be proven wrong by test scores. What is progress, Dad tells you: progress is that you gradually have the heart to do what you want to do well, which includes the heart of playing, the heart of learning, and many hearts that only children want to do well, but adults don't know. ”

The son's anxious face widened. I kissed him on the cheek and said, "Let mom be home with you." You're a good kid. Dad gave you a leave of absence. ”

The son tilted his head sideways and smiled sweetly. This smile is clearly a sign of his trust in his family.