"No, I don't mean this aspect when I say thoughtfulness and pressure," Xu Minghui said to me with a helpless face, and then he also looked at me, looking very embarrassed, "Haichao, you see that you are such a quick temper, so I usually don't dare to say some things to you directly, for fear that if you light the fire, then no problem can be solved, and the rest can only be quarrels." ”

Since Xu Minghui has said this, I have to suppress my anger for the time being, so as not to give him a chance to explain when he says that I don't give him a chance, but I want to hear what he means by being considerate and pressured.

I waved my hand at Xu Minghui, and said to him as calmly as possible: "Okay, you say, don't worry, I'm not in a hurry this time, you speak slowly and tell me the truth about what you think in your heart." ”

In order to appear that I was relaxed, I also picked up the cup next to me and took a sip of water, so that I would not put too much psychological pressure on Xu Minghui.

Sure enough, seeing that my demeanor gradually relaxed, Xu Minghui opened the conversation box again and began to speak.

"Haichao, I know that you are a good woman, you are hard-working, diligent and thrifty, you are a good hand inside and outside the house, you take good care of me and my daughter, and our life is also very prosperous, but sometimes, the relationship between husband and wife is not only manifested in these material aspects, but also in some spiritual exchanges. ”

"You mean there's less spiritual communication between us?" I asked Xu Minghui as calmly as I could.

He looked at me and nodded affirmatively at me.

"Tell me more about what you mean. I whispered to Xu Minghui.

He nodded again, and then thought about it and said slowly: "It's okay in the first few years of marriage, but with the increase of our wedding years, especially after you have jumping, talking at home, dressing up, you are becoming more and more casual, doing everything is in a hurry, babbling, and no longer have the shyness and subtlety of when I first got married, which makes me quite disappointed." ”

I admit that what Xu Minghui said is the truth, since I gave birth to Hop Hop, especially after taking Hop Hop to my side to go to school, my words and deeds have indeed changed a lot compared to when I first got married, that is no way, every morning as soon as I open my eyes, I am like a spinning top that keeps running, quickly get up to freshen up, cook, dress the child, urge her to wash her face and brush her teeth, and then send her to kindergarten;

After a busy day in the company, I pedaled a small bicycle to the kindergarten to pick up the children non-stop after work, because Xu Minghui was busy with work in those years, so the children are generally picked up by me, and after picking up the children, I have to go home to cook for their grandfather and son.

After dinner, I wiped the table, washed the dishes, mopped the floor, and then urged my daughter to wash and brush her teeth, and after cleaning up my daughter, I went to my daughter's room and hugged her to tell her stories for a while until I coaxed her to sleep.

After the child fell asleep, I had to see if there were any dirty clothes that the two of them had changed into that day, and after these words were done, I could go to the shower and brush my teeth, and then drag my tired body back to the bedroom, and Xu Minghui and I had some space to be alone at this time of the day.

The next day, the cycle repeatedly, it was such a day, busy and trivial, after the child went to the upper grade of primary school, although I didn't need to pick up and drop off from school, but because Hopping was not a very obedient child, at this time I spent more energy on her, urging her to do her homework, standardizing her daily behavior, which piece can not be taken lightly, which piece is important.

I am so busy, and I really have nothing to do with gentleness and subtlety, but I think most women who have experienced this kind of time can understand the hardships in my heart, who doesn't want to sit at home and be pampered and be a broad wife? What woman doesn't want to be as gentle and sweet and subtle as a girl forever? But the problem is that I also have to have such conditions! An ordinary working-class married woman has to take care of her family, take care of her husband and children, and be busy with her own work, where can she have that extra energy to play with gentleness and subtlety?

This is called the real heart is more than enough and the strength is insufficient, and the doppelganger lacks skills!

However, although there was a stomach of grievances and anger in my heart, I didn't say a word in the face of Xu Minghui at the moment, I waved my hand at him lightly, and motioned to him: "You go on." ”

As if encouraged, Xu Minghui continued: "After having children, your voice is getting louder and louder, and your temper is getting more and more irritable, especially when educating children. In fact, there are some things that can be said slowly and logically! Be patient with your child, persuade and educate, and not reprimand her at every turn. ”

Listening to Xu Minghui say this, I just thought it was funny, what does it mean to stand and talk without backache? It was Xu Minghui who was talking about, and I looked at him and rushed out: "How many times have you taken your daughter?"

Listening to my rebuttal, Xu Minghui hurriedly waved his hand to me and affirmed: "I know that I am not a qualified father, because I am usually busy with work, and the number of times I take my children is far less than the number of times you take her, so I just talk about this issue on a case-by-case basis, and the purpose of saying it is also to persuade you to change it if you have it, and encourage it if you don't." ”

I sneered, I thought to myself, as far as your daughter is used to by her grandparents, the willful and arrogant little temper is not equal to grace and power, can she listen to it?

But these are not the point at the moment, because I am talking about the relationship between our husband and wife at the moment, so I waved my hand at Xu Minghui a little impatiently, and said: "My daughter's problem will be talked about later, let's talk about the problem between us first, if you have any opinions about me, let's say it 1510." ”

Xu Minghui nodded, looked me up and down, and said to me slowly, "Another point, I have long reminded you that women in their thirties must strengthen their maintenance, but look at the clothes you wear, and the cosmetics that are still useful, they are all cheap goods." Wearing these clothes and rubbing these cosmetics on your face, every time we go out to the reunion of classmates and colleagues, and see other female classmates of your age dressed up decently and gorgeously, don't you think it's cheap?"

Hearing this, I was stunned, a wave of anger surged up, I wanted to hold back, I rushed to Xu Minghui and said: "What's the discount? I didn't steal, I didn't rob, although the clothes were cheap, I was comfortable and decent." Although cosmetics are all supermarket goods, you can just wipe them on for skin care, what do you say is the price drop?"

Seeing that I was starting to talk back, Xu Minghui lowered his head and waved his hand at me, and said as if he was calm: "Okay, let's not argue about this topic first." ”

I looked at Xu Minghui, who was sitting in front of me, and my emotions were not only anger at this time, but also felt cold, a chill that penetrated the bone marrow to the bottom of my heart.

After so many years of marriage, I have never bought more than 500 yuan of clothes, whether it is a summer dress or a winter coat, there is no more than 500 yuan.

The cosmetics I use are all mainland goods in the supermarket, such as Dabao, Yu Meijing and the like, my skin is not white, but it is very smooth, I have not had any acne since puberty, and I don't pick cosmetics, I wipe everything the same, I feel that cosmetics can moisturize the skin on the line, several big girls and little daughters-in-law in our office use brand-name cosmetics that cost thousands of yuan at every turn, but I see that their skin is like that, not much better than me.

Of course, I lowered my standards in clothing and cosmetics and demanded myself like this, and the purpose was nothing more than to save a few dollars, so that the money could be used for the expenses of our small family, I would rather buy more nutritional products for my children and buy more brand-name clothes for Xu Minghui, rather than invest more in myself, but I didn't expect to get such a result in the end.

I secretly scolded in my heart: Xu Minghui, Xu Minghui, you are also a person with a conscience? You go to the closet and see, how many pieces of clothes do you have at every turn? If you go and look at my clothes, how many of my clothes can add up to the price of one? I have poured my heart and lungs into you to this extent, but in the end you have sent me a whole body, this is really unreasonable.

I held back my anger and chills, and asked Xu Minghui, "What else?"

Xu Minghui looked at me and continued: "There is also the ...... between us without wives Sexual intercourse," said him, his face slightly flushed, "and as the years of marriage increase, you become more and more boring. At home, I am becoming more and more unkempt, always wearing a big grin, and occasionally I buy you a erotic underwear, but you refuse to wear it, which makes me interested, which is also a reason for the distance between me and you. ”

I sneered in my heart and thought: Xu Minghui, if you are a big man, can afford a big house, can afford a nanny, can afford to hire a maid, and I don't have to do anything when I go home, then I will wear a sexy lingerie every day and dress up to tempt you in our big bedroom, but can you create this living condition for me?

I am busy with work and housework every day, busy with housework and busy with my daughter, and every night when I go back to the bedroom to rest, I admit that these daily chores wear out part of my interest in sex, but as a husband, you should know best about the hard work and hardships of your wife, but you are not considerate of your wife's hard work at the moment, but indiscriminate complaints, is it really unbearable?

"Xia Yan is very interesting in this regard, isn't it?" My anger was not visible, and I asked Xu Minghui with a calm expression.

Seeing that I wasn't angry, Xu Minghui thought that I was going to have a good conversation with him about this topic, so he nodded at me very sincerely and replied, "Yes, she is very attractive." ”

"She's willing to go out with you to fight, right?" I asked quietly.

Xu Minghui's expression was a little embarrassed, he just smiled and didn't respond to the question positively, but his attitude already showed everything.

I smiled bitterly in my heart, I remembered that once before, Xu Minghui drove me out for a ride at night, and then he parked the car outside the gate of a park, and wanted to pull me to a no-man's land in the park to fight, so I sternly refused, I was thinking, we are all people of this age, in case the park staff catches us, think that what kind of hooligans are not doing their jobs, and then twist us to the police station, how embarrassing it must be?

What's ridiculous is that what I didn't want to do at that time, I'm afraid this Xia Yan has done it for me and Xu Minghui.

"That's all, do you have any resentment against me? I said calmly to Xu Minghui.

"Also, you're too tight on your finances and give me too little pocket money. In addition, you usually chase me too closely, and you usually go out to socialize with your colleagues, and you are the first to call every time. ”