Think about your former self, why do you always think about others first when doing things?

In fact, it seems to be for the sake of his family, but in fact it is for himself. It's just that I don't want to admit it.

For example, if you work hard to stop your parents from suffering, is this really for your parents?

Or is it in order to get praise from his parents, in order to let relatives and friends praise his filial piety and success.

For another example, if you don't mess with flowers and grass, is it really because you love your wife?

Obviously not, being able to mess with flowers and grass itself shows that they love each other. But just because I have a wife and I am married, I must let go according to my legal and moral responsibilities.

On a deeper level, is it really just a responsibility?

Or do you think about the consequences, weigh the car and house, and the quarrel and divorce with your wife, as well as the eyes of others, and so on, and finally decide to be single-minded.

Is this for the sake of the wife?

Obviously for himself, but for his wife, and use these things as bargaining chips in marriage.

"You see, I gave up something for you. ”

"I've done all of this, shouldn't you do something that I'm happy about?"

"How much have I done for you, and how much have you done for me?"

It's all about yourself, isn't it?

If that's the case, since it's for yourself, why can't you honestly admit it?

Yuan Changwen suddenly felt funny, who would admit this, who would admit that everything he did was for himself?

We will say kindness, responsibility, responsibility, etc., but in the end it is for ourselves.

Suppose we are a warm-hearted person who always loves to help others. But if every time we help someone, they slap us in the face, then do we still like to help others?

The answer is obvious, so we don't like to help others at all, but we like to thank or respect others after helping them. At the end of the day, it's for yourself.

In order to experience different feelings, but not to say it explicitly, it seems too selfish, so the whole behavior is disguised as kind, enthusiastic, and helpful.

Honest to cruelty!

Everything that affects me is false, and it is nothing more than a self-definition in my mind. It was I who gave them the ability to influence, it was I who allowed them to occupy my mind, and it was I who made them play important people in my life.

Shit!

Yuan Changwen was nauseated and irritable for a while, thinking about what he had done over the years?

Marital responsibility, my wife has paid so much for me, so I have to reciprocate, I have to repay it in the way she likes.

Our parents are filial, and our parents brought us up with hard work, so I have to listen to my parents and make them happy and not sad.

But when things do happen, when there is a conflict between satisfying them and satisfying me, I basically choose to satisfy me.

And deep down, I will feel sorry for them, so I will regret and feel sad afterwards. But when it happens, I stop them with anger and distraction.

Jinnyima is sick!

Yes, if I do anything without thinking about my family, then I will definitely be very uncomfortable to see my family's painful appearance.

Why is it uncomfortable?

Self-woven definition, "It is a sin and a mistake to make a family member uncomfortable", "Family members have given so much for us, and they will compare their hearts with their hearts." ”

These are obviously not true, but I am still pulled by these self-definitions, and let my emotions collide in my body.

What the hell are you doing?!

Yuan Changwen was a little hot, as if a fire was rising from his body, wanting to burn, wanting to burn it all, including himself.

None of you are real about the influence of these people on me, so why can you interfere with me so much?

Fearless!

If all this is untrue, then what is there to be afraid of?

Fear of losing your job, fear of losing your money, fear of losing your life.

However, none of this is true.

The unreal does not exist, and the real never ceases to exist.

What is there to be afraid of?

Shouldn't life be full of challenges and excitement, shouldn't it be tossed around, shouldn't it be unlimited?

A good job, a good wife, a house and a car, raising children, this is a lifetime?

If you can be satisfied, you can be happy, you can be content with the plain, then there is no problem at all. But the most important thing is that I don't like it, I complain, and I don't have any satisfaction with the status quo.

So why is it still in this situation?

The flame in the depths of my soul burned in Yuan Changwen's heart, burn off the shackles and burn out the fear, my life was arranged by others, what is the difference between that and death!

Who's afraid?

Lao Tzu is that stupid background, how can he be afraid!

Are you real about these important people who have influenced my life, the people I miss at these moments, these people who can influence my decisions?

It doesn't matter, it doesn't matter if it's true or not, the point is that I treat you as real, and I give you the power to influence me.

All of this is given by me!

That's right, if a person doesn't even think about his family, is he still a human being?

However, there are too many questions about this question, such as, is there really anyone, does the family really exist, is there really something that can be done?

What is it that stops every inner impulse?

Weigh the pros and cons, look for the pros and cons, and always want to make the best decision. However, due to their own limited knowledge reserves, they lack information and intelligence on all aspects of the outside world, and they have no corresponding past experience for reference.

In this case, how can you not be anxious?!

Who's holding back?

It's not me, it's Yuan Changwen!

It is the aggregate of cognition, experience, and knowledge that makes the decision not to follow the impulses of the heart, and that is the devil who is going to ruin this life.

Isn't the combination of these cognitive experiences and knowledge the "self"?

I didn't dare to let go, I didn't dare to listen to my inner voice, and I didn't dare to let the "Tao" drive my own ship of life.

The little head, constantly thinking and making decisions, being driven by all kinds of fears, putting all the thoughts in the brain. There are also those self-woven definitions, most of which do not belong to themselves.

Depend on!

Is this my life?

A dog is better than me!

I just lived in quiet despair, thinking about the time when I could see through the whole life with little effort. The only difference is that you have more money and less money, or you are in good health.

Life is meaningless, why do we have to grasp some meaning? The most ridiculous thing is, why do we have to grasp the meaning given by others?

Mainstream values of society, phew!

Thousands of years of moral tradition, phew!

Let's all die!

"Hahahaha!"

Yuan Changwen laughed, the sadness in his body was swept away, and it seemed that the world was much brighter.

But he knew that it was only for a short time, and that perhaps in a minute, the sadness would come back again.

But so what?

Let everyone who should come come.