All adults have an unbelievable and even pathological desire to control their own lives. Once this desire for control is not satisfied in the career, it will be transferred to the family.

Control your partner, control your children, and call it "I'm here for your good".

And my partner's desire to control is also not low, why do you control me, why should I listen to you?

As a result, quarrels and the like often occur, or cold violence. In the end, maybe the two will firmly stick to the bottom line of not divorcing, but life is already a mess.

Don't eat together, play with each other, or, divide everything into yours and mine.

In fact, there is no conclusion at all about how to live, who dares to say that one's life is the standard is perfect? Who dares to say that everyone can be happy according to my life?

No one dares to guarantee it, because the form of life does not matter at all. As long as the heart is happy, it doesn't matter whether it is an AA couple or a glue-like one.

Yuan Changwen remembered the days when he was in love, it was all beautiful, and after getting married, the quarrels with his wife became more and more frequent.

The reason is that his desire for control is not satisfied, and he himself is a person with a strong desire to control. This was not the case when I was a child, and as I grew older, after entering society, it seemed that this desire for control was inflated.

Now look at it, the root of those quarrels is, "Why don't you listen to me?" or, "Why should I listen to you?"

These are all moves of the "self", in order to maintain the definition of the self. It doesn't care about the specifics of self-definitions, and every self-definition can't be attacked anyway.

When others deny us, a certain definition of self-weaving is attacked, so we have to fight back to ensure that the self-definition is not lost, so that the "self" is not harmed.

If we surrender instead of resisting when others deny us, then the "ego" will be harmed, which is equivalent to being killed.

Yuan Changwen was a little distressed, because he knew the truth, even if it was easy to let go and surrender to these small problems. But it seems that when faced with major life events, he doesn't dare to let go at all.

Repeatedly emphasizing that the so-called little brain can't make the best choice, but he just can't let go.

Although he was tired and said that he no longer controlled it, he still did not let go and surrendered, and did not let the "Dao" control his ship of life.

Yuan Changwen had a feeling that surrender was a very crucial step.

Because surrender means not thinking for yourself, not saying love for everything that happens, but at least not resisting. In this case, it is equivalent to consciously killing the "self", or preventing the "self" from absorbing the energy of emotions.

Before my own thinking, I was killing, and surrendering was only preventing the "self" from continuing to grow. Self-definition is a thing that must be replenished all the time, just like a balloon with a hole that must be inflated constantly.

When you surrender, you stop blowing, and the definition of self-weaving slowly shrinks.

(Having said all this, I just want to comfort myself and convince myself that what I did was the right thing.) Looser's excuses never stop. ）

(When you have money, you are qualified to claim that "it doesn't mean anything to be rich.") A loser has nothing, shouting there that "there is no point in having money" and will only be treated like a clown. ）

[Therefore, we know that money is meaningless, but we still have to work hard, spend our lives earning a lot of money, and finally say "there is no point in having money" before we die. Isn't that ridiculous?]

(People can only live one life, and they should be vigorous.) It doesn't matter how much we have, how much we gain, and how much we lose in the end. These questions are meaningless in the face of death, but it doesn't mean that we don't do anything, I've loved and hated this world, and I don't regret it!)

[If it was me before, there was no way to refute it, it seemed to be the case, and then there was a burst of pride in my heart, and I couldn't live up to the time and hard work. 】

[But now, man can only live one lifetime?] Before the first comma, there is unconditional belief without logic and evidence. How can it be affirmed that "a person can only live one life?"

[The whole paragraph is based on an unfounded assumption, and no matter how passionate and meaningful it sounds, it cannot escape the false facts. Moreover, what can resonate with hot blood, what else is there besides "self"!]

(Fart!)

[There is no need to dwell on the scope of the question, and there is no need to think about the answer. The one who destroys the problem is always at a higher level. Alas...... How come you're back here, and your thoughts have been going around in circles lately?]

(The whole act of killing is going around in circles, because it's pointless, and it's anti-human, anti-social, and anti-moral.) Luckily, we were in a psychiatric hospital, and if we were in the company, someone might have called the police. ）

[They won't call the police, these days, what kind of strange values are not. ] Ten years ago, people might have been curious about it. But in the past few years, everyone has been in a state of numbness, "As long as your values don't affect me, then you are free." ”】

[As for anti-human, anti-social and anti-morality, these things are inherently false, and the so-called "anti" is just standing on the other side. I have nothing to do with human beings, no society, no morality, because those things don't exist at all. 】

(Still going around in circles, it's a waste of time.) Think about it, if we use this time to earn money and work, at least we already have a certain foundation in the company. Now, it's wasted!)

(Real?!bullshit truth!What's the use of this society?!We get that so-called truth, and then nothing changes.) Excuse me, what's the point of such a move?)

If I think I am, it's not me. I always thought that I was Yuan Changwen, and everything that made up Yuan Changwen was not true. When your life is all fake, let alone any success, career, family and the like. 】

[When encountering this kind of problem, there are only two reactions. Either you don't care about continuing to sleep, or you start slaying the false, removing the things that obscure the truth. 】

[The illusion of the orb made me wonder what was real. In the orb illusion, everything is so real, as real as it is now. And to end that hallucination, it only takes a blink of an eye. 】

[The most important thing is, how can I say that this world is real?]

So, why don't we just assume that the world is real?

[There is nothing bad about it, love and hate, ups and downs, these are all kinds of life. If the world is all plain, then it can only be described as lifeless. It is the negative, the abhorrent, that makes the world so colorful. 】

(So, what else to find the truth?)

Unfortunately, all of the above is false. Except that it is false, everything else is good. I can't tolerate falsehood, the falsehood of "self" makes me endure the pull of emotions, and I will definitely be killed in this life!]