Once upon a time, I thought that when I became a father, I would be very excited, but when I really became a father, I realized that calm is greater than excitement.

Like, I used to ask God, "The moment you become a father, are you very excited, very happy?"

Ah Shen smiled: "At first, I was a little excited, but after a while, I still feel very calm." ”

I didn't understand what he meant by "calm" at the time, but I understand now......

Time went to the beginning of August 2018, after Xiaoshi gave birth to a baby, I was officially promoted to Daddy, and she was officially promoted to Mommy.

Then, I called my dad to report the good news, to Xiaoshi's big daddy, and the second sister, who had been waiting at the door of the delivery room for more than an hour, also called my aunt to report the good news, and reported the good news to my other sisters...... Well, mother and daughter are safe.

When I saw these images in TV dramas before, I thought they would be far away from me, but they would appear naturally, and I felt as if I had just grown up and became the main character in them.

Because I just became a parent, I have a lot of experience in taking care of babies, and Xiaoshi and I don't know what to do first, what to do next, and how to do it......

She first showed us how to hold the baby, how to make milk powder suitable for newborn babies, how to feed the baby, how to help the baby burp after the baby is drunk, how to coax the baby when he cries, and how to change the diaper when the baby pees......

Well, parenting is really a profound science!

When I saw the second sister feeding the baby with a spoon and the baby sucked naturally, my heart had a feeling of being cute by the baby, and I wanted to hug her and love her.

Is this what it feels like to be a first-time father?

Xiaoshi is even more nervous than me, she doesn't dare to hold the baby, because she is afraid that she will hurt the baby if she is not skilled, and this psychology continues until she goes home for confinement.

That night, the second sister slept on another empty bed in our ward, and I slept in the same bed with Xiaoshi. After all, there are two sisters here, and if the baby cries, she is more likely to coax.

The time that belongs to you will be yours after all.

So, about the time I spent with my baby, naturally I won't be left behind.

The second sister just helped us stabilize for one night that night, but after that, it depends on me and Xiaoshi, the two novice parents.

I started learning how to hold my baby, how to put her to sleep, how to change her diaper, and how to be a good father.

I'm a person who is very afraid of trouble, but when faced with a new situation, it naturally leads to a lot of trouble. And these troubles cannot be escaped, and we must face them bravely to solve them.

On the third day after the baby was born, the skin on the baby's face looked a little yellow, and then a nurse came to help the baby measure, and the result was that our baby's jaundice index was a little high, and it was recommended that it was best to take blue light.

I didn't know what kind of disease the baby had, and I was very panicked and at a loss.

Therefore, when Xiaoshi's attending doctor came over to help the baby measure jaundice again, or suggested taking blue light, I agreed.

Because the attending doctor said something that I couldn't resist, she asked me what blood type I was, and then asked Xiao Shi what blood type she was, and the result was that my blood type A and Xiao Shi's blood type O may cause my offspring to suffer from hemolytic jaundice, which is very harmful to the baby if not treated in time.

Before Xiaoshi gave birth to a baby, we went back to our hometown for a marriage checkup. The subsequent marriage examination report said that Xiaoshi was fine, and I may have thalassaemia, and it was recommended to go to the hospital for a reexamination. However, Xiaoshi had been pregnant with the baby for a few months at that time, and it was only possible, so I did not go to the hospital for a follow-up.

So, when the doctor said those serious things, I was very scared that my baby would get something wrong with me...... Naturally, I agreed to give my baby a blue light.

After all, as novice parents, Xiaoshi and I have experienced many of them for the first time, and it is inevitable that we will be nervous and not calm, and we are very worried about the baby in our hearts, so we will try to listen to the doctor's words.

However, when I later called my aunt to tell her about the situation, my aunt replied impatiently: "What? Do you want to take a blue light? I haven't heard of it! Jaundice is something that many newborn babies have, and you also had very severe jaundice when you were a child! Your whole face was so yellow that your whole face was so yellow! Later, your uncle rode a bicycle to a place to find a home remedy and came back, and within a few days of boiling Chinese medicine for you to drink, your jaundice was cured. Also, your nephew's jaundice was also very serious when he was full moon, and then I gave you the home remedies to your sister to take a Chinese medicine pot for your nephew Wei to drink, and it didn't take a few days for his jaundice to be cured! So, you quickly tell the doctor, don't shine on the blue light, I'll take some home remedies and take them to the hospital to feed the baby to drink!

After listening to my aunt's words, my nervous and scared mood was relieved.

It just so happened that at that time, a baby in the next ward who was born a night earlier than our baby was also going to take blue light, and the new parents agreed. But not long after, they asked the attending doctor to stop lighting blue light. As for the reason, I don't know. Perhaps, it was similar to the situation I was facing at the time, and there were elders in my family who were experienced in treating jaundice.

So, I also went to the attending doctor and asked that I don't shine blue light.

At that time, she immediately replied impatiently and loudly: "What the hell is going on today? Why are so many people suddenly saying that they will take the blue light and then come over and say that they will not take it? Are you playing with our doctors? Our doctors are very busy, and if they want to take it, they will take it, and if they don't take it, they won't take it, and if they don't say that they will take it, they will suddenly come over and say that they won't take it! We have already made an order, but you suddenly say that you can't take it, so doesn't this just make us busy in vain?"

When she criticized me so loudly, I was like a student who made a mistake and kept his head down and was being reprimanded by a stern teacher.

I didn't say anything, after all, it was our fault.

After she almost finished venting her dissatisfaction, she asked me to sign a letter of commitment, and said that I voluntarily let the baby not receive blue light treatment, and if it caused the baby's mental development problems or death, I would be responsible for it and had nothing to do with the hospital.

The moment I signed my name, I felt like the pen was heavy, like a thousand pounds. It felt like signing a life and death certificate.

At that time, I silently thought in my heart, may the baby be safe for a lifetime!

After that, the aunt brought the traditional Chinese medicine according to the home remedy to the hospital and fed some to the baby.

The effect is still there, but it's not very noticeable. After that, we'll try something else.

Over time, the stitches can be removed. That also means it's time to go home.

After paying the fee, keep the receipt so that you can go to the Social Security Bureau for reimbursement later.

Well, then it's time to go home, and our baby is coming home with a new attitude.

After that, Xiaoshi began to enter the stage of confinement.

And I am the existence that accompanies her in confinement.

I wash her and her baby's clothes, purely by hand, without a washing machine. If the baby pees, I will change the diaper. If the baby is thirsty, at first the second sister feeds the baby water, and then I feed the baby water.

In other words, I slowly became a semi-professional dad.

In our place, the most eaten during confinement is sour vinegar pot pig's feet, and the whole family eats with Xiaoshi. That's sour!

In Xiaoshi confinement, another important thing is to choose a name for the baby.

The name is too particular, not only to match the baby's eight characters, but also to read both Mandarin and Cantonese to be smooth and relatively easy to write. It's all for the baby's future name to be good for her, not to let others use her name homonym to make fun of her, and it doesn't have to be so difficult for her to write her name.

The more thoughtful you are, the harder it is to come up with a name.

And the big daddy of the little poem is more good at the eight characters and the name, so when the big daddy prompted the baby's name which five lines should be included and what the number of strokes is, I and the little poem went to look up the words.

After finding out all the words that are suitable, let's match them to see which one is better.

Helplessly, there is no one who has both "three good". Well, it's good to hear, it's easy to read, it's easy to write.

Later, I naturally matched a name and checked the score of the name through several name rating websites, and the results were all high scores!

Well, it's called Liu Ziyu.

Ziyu, how literary and artistic!

However, Big Daddy disagreed. The big dad said that this name and the baby's eight characters are not enough to match, and the number of five strokes in this name is not conducive to girls. In other words, girls can't use the number of five strokes of one of the characters in the name.

Although I don't really understand, many website ratings say that this name is a good match with Bazi.

Big Daddy only said that those websites are all messed up.

Well, because Big Daddy doesn't agree, Xiao Shi naturally won't agree either, after all, she believes Big Daddy's words very much.

In the end, the big daddy helped the baby choose a single name.

I took that single name and tested it on many websites that rated names, well, the score was not as high as the rating of the name "Liu Ziyu".

But, so what?

Big Daddy said that the name is good, and the little poem will also feel it. If I don't agree, Xiaoshi will start to lose her temper......

Okay, so my daughter used that single name.

However, in my heart, I still like her calling Ziyu the most.

Since it can't be realized in reality, then I call her "Ziyu" in Dongdongli.

Ziyu is a Leo baby, so as soon as she comes, she is amazing!

I am a Sagittarius, Xiaoshi is an Aries, and Ziyu is a Leo. All three zodiac signs are fire signs, and they are all passionate beings.

Our passion, oh, like a fire, burned the whole desert......

As a dad, I think the moment is the most feeling.

Well, when I was about to help Ziyu take a bath, I first hugged her who had taken off her diaper, and her eyes were staring at my eyes curiously, as if she could see the attachment from my previous life in my eyes, like, your eyes are the love testimony that I will not forget through reincarnation, and, your laughter, your tears, your ......

Suddenly, a wave of warmth gradually spread to my thighs, even infinitely closer to my good Chinese brother......

I thought it was the attachment from my previous life calling my soul, and I was about to feel it, but I found ......

Oh oh, she my crotch......

Oh, no!

She smiled cutely as if she understood what was happening.

Haha, okay!

Everything was so natural and calm, without excessive excitement. It's as if everything has been arranged. It's as if I know that you will come, even if you forget that attachment in samsara.

sublanguage,

Zi is silent,

Heart to heart.