Always living in a dream, it will hurt a lot and be physically and mentally exhausted. And always living in reality, will forget the meaning of life, and become a walking corpse-like existence. Therefore, it is necessary to base yourself on reality, take into account your dreams, and then live with the natural flow.

It's nothing to have a dream, anyone can have it. Well, if people have dreams, but don't work hard, what's the difference between them and salted fish?

Therefore, people not only have dreams, but also work hard to put dreams into reality, which is called "salted fish rebirth".

So it's still so, three words: work hard!

On the evening of April 4, 2017, I cooperated with Sister Xueyan to start the film......

I've always wondered why Sister Xuejing's left eye has a very obvious white thing, just like the cataract seen in TV commercials.

I didn't know her very well before, so I didn't dare to ask her. After all, from the perspective of outsiders, this is an existence that does not want to say too much to others, just like a physical defect.

However, after knowing her for more than half a year, I felt that she was a cheerful and optimistic aunt, so I dared to ask her that night.

I smiled but was a little scrupled: "Sister, in fact, I've always been curious, why is your left eye...... Forehead ......"

She smiled naturally: "It's a lot like cataracts, isn't it?"

I nodded slowly.

She began to recall: "That white point was there when I was a child. According to my mother, one night when I was three or four years old, I had a very severe high fever. She took me to the only doctor in the village, an uncle, who said that I had a terrible fever and that I had to go to the hospital in the town. However, in the middle of the night, the distance from the village to the town is long, and it is still a mountain road. So, he suggested giving me penicillin, but it was a bit risky.

My mother thought about it, if she went to the hospital, she might not even be there, and her daughter would be burned out of her brain. So, my mom agreed to give me penicillin.

After taking penicillin, the fever went away, but the next day, I cried and told my mom that my eyes hurt so much. She took me to the doctor again to see what caused the result and what she said I forgot.

Later, my left eye became a little white, and I had to get close enough to see things. ”

I'm curious: "Does penicillin affect my eyes?"

She smiled: "I don't know, anyway, I was young at the time, and I didn't know anything." ”

I asked, "Isn't the doctor responsible?"

She replied naturally: "The doctor said he would be responsible, after all, it was because of his negligence." He also took me to a lot of hospitals, but I couldn't get it. My mother didn't blame him, let alone let him pay anything, after all, he understood what the situation was at that time. ”

Well, the goodness of human nature. He who has made a mistake has not escaped. Be tolerant and understanding of what is wrong. It's really good!

I kind of wanted to know about her upbringing: "Then your left eye became like this when you were a child, and if you go to school, will your classmates laugh at you?"

She smiled, "Laugh, but what's the solution? They laugh at theirs, and I read my book." ”

I continued to wonder, "Do you blame the doctor for treating your left eye like this, so that you are being teased by other children?"

She smiled, "No, I don't blame him." He is very good to our family, and he will inform our family as soon as there is a discount.

Later, when I was 10 years old, a team of doctors who treated my eyes for free came to our village, and the doctor said that he had already signed me up. I can go for treatment and I don't have to pay for the surgery.

If I had gone for that treatment at that time, maybe my left eye would have been normal. However, my mom and I had a quarrel at that time, so we didn't go to treatment. ”

I asked, "Do you regret it?"

She still smiled naturally: "I don't regret it, I don't feel anything." Anyway, I'm used to my left eye being like this, and it doesn't have much impact on my life, so continue to let this left eye accompany me. ”

It seems that she has a good attitude since she was a child. At the same time, I admire her because she naturally accepts her imperfections.

Actually, she looks good, but her left eye looks a bit like the "white eye" in "Naruto". But so what? Those who understand her will think that her heart is the real beauty.

I began to continue to wonder about her relationship journey: "So have you ever had a boy you liked before?"

She smiled and scratched her head: "When I was a child, I didn't seem to have any." After I finished junior high school, I came out to Dongguan to enter the factory with my cousin, and after entering the factory, there was a boy who was very good to me......"

Ouch yo! Looks like I'm getting to the point.

I continued to explore, "Were you together at the time?"

She tilted her head and smiled, "What do you say? ”

I don't want to let go of any of the clues I want to know: "So how did you meet, and then what happened to end up not being together?"

Suddenly, I realized that I was so gossipy, but I didn't tell anyone in the workshop after I gossiped, but chose to write it down like I am now. Because in every communication, you can learn or understand something that is useful to you. Even if there is really nothing to gain, it will not be in vain, because I have thought about it.

Her eyes smiled: "At that time, we worked in the same workshop, and we were packing clothes. I hadn't spoken to him, and I hadn't looked at him in person.

Then one day, my cousin suddenly said to me, look, is that man interesting to you, he stares at you every day at work. I glanced at him, and he immediately bowed his head to work.

I didn't believe and said to my cousin, "What's the matter?" My cousin just thought he was interesting to me, and later my cousin asked him to have dinner with us, so that I could get to know him.

After a while, I am more familiar with him, he likes to sing, and he sings very well, and he has also held his own small concert in the factory, which is relatively famous.

My cousin asked him if he wanted to marry her. However, he felt that he didn't want to get married so early, he had a dream in his heart, and he wanted to sing and become famous. Well, he's the kind of person who takes the art route, and I always feel that it's not the same way.

Later, my cousin's family wanted to work in Shenzhen, so I also followed my cousin's family to Shenzhen. We were secretly leaving one night without saying a word. I didn't tell him that we didn't have a cell phone at the time, so we didn't leave any contact information, and we never saw each other again. ”

I looked her in the eye: "Then do you regret your choice?"

She smiled and shook her head, "What's there to regret? ”

Well, that's how her love affair went......

I continued, "Then how did you meet your current husband?"

She was a little calm: "At that time, not long after I arrived in Shenzhen with my cousin's family, my family urged me to go back to my hometown for a blind date. Actually, I didn't want to go back, but the pressure from home was too great. Then go back on a blind date. ”

I smiled: "Then do you remember the scene on the blind date?"

She also smiled: "Originally, I went back to go on a blind date, but my husband came to the door by himself at that time." He had always had a crush on me at the factory in Dongguan, but I didn't know. He was going to confess to me, but who knew that I left in the middle of the night without saying a word, and he didn't know where I went.

So, he asked my roommates and friends at the time, and they learned the address of my hometown.

Just before my parents were about to find a blind date for me, he showed up in my yard with a gift.

My dad asked him curiously who he was, but he said he was here. It was a bit direct and a little clumsy, but my dad also asked him to sit in the house first.

I heard that he found my home when he met people in the village and asked me where my home was. I had been in my room and didn't know what was happening outside the door.

After my dad told my mom, my mom came into the room and told me to go out and meet him, after all, it's rare for someone from other provinces to come to our house to hire him. Even if you don't want to, you should meet people politely.

Since my mom said so, I'll go out and meet him. When I first met him, I felt average, not handsome, but not much worse.

During the meal, my parents insisted that I sit next to him and eat. It seems that it is intended to match the two of us.

My dad suggested that I marry him, anyway, I also want to go on a blind date, now it's okay, it will be automatically sent to the door, and I don't even have to go to the kiss. Moreover, the fact that he was able to find our home so heartily shows that he is still honest and worthy of love, so I can rest assured that I will be entrusted to him.

And just like that, I married my husband. ”

I felt that her husband was so tired: "Wow! Your husband is so strong, he can do this!"

She smiled.

I continued to explore: "Do you usually go out shopping together on holidays?"

She looked calm: "No, my husband and I are people who rarely like to go outside, and we are at home on holidays." ”

I wondered, "Why are you at home all the time? Isn't it boring?"

She looked calm: "Watch TV at home, play with your mobile phone, or go to sleep." ”

I wondered, "You don't have any shows?"

She looked calm: "No, we barely talk sometimes. When you have cooked a meal, you will eat, and when you have finished eating, you will continue your business. ”

I couldn't believe it: "Can you live a happy life like this?"

She looked calm: "Happy, as long as I see my ten-year-old son, I am very happy! I married my husband at the age of nineteen, and I just turned thirty-one this year." Luckily I have a son, otherwise I might not have been happy. ”

What?!Only thirty-one?!Isn't she just a few years older than me? I always thought she was an aunt, but she was still a big sister. Well, well, sure enough, people can't look good.

I still wondered, "You and your husband have always been like this?"

Her expression revealed some helplessness: "Sort of, we often don't have anything to say." I tried to talk to him for a month without a word. ”

Oh my God! It's an upgraded version of Cold War!

I don't understand why a couple can have such a cold war to this extent? From her words, I don't seem to hear the smile she had when she first started talking about love......

I think there are many people who can't stand such a long cold war, and that is simply living from a loved one to a passer-by with hatred.

After that, I didn't continue to ask......

Because, I have asked her about the pain points in her marriage.

Of course, I was just a bystander in her marriage. Whether she was happy or miserable was known only in her own heart. Perhaps from the perspective of others, she was miserable. But if others only see one side, maybe she is still happy?

I don't know, about marriage, it's a very complicated subject.

To learn the subject of "marriage", it takes a long, long lesson. There are many people who really want to take the "marriage" class, but when they are halfway through, they find that it is so profound, and they can't understand many questions and don't know how to answer them. All kinds of emotions are at work in my heart, and I don't know what to do.

At this time, looking out the window at those who didn't have to take the "marriage" class, they were living so chic, and I began to envy in my heart. Just like when I was a child, I had a class in the classroom and watched the students who were playing freely outside the window having so much fun, and I would like to go and play freely after class.

Therefore, there will be many people who want to stop studying, but have already paid the tuition fee, and the tuition fee cannot be refunded......

Some people will continue to study for the tuition fees they have already paid, and some people will not care about the tuition fees they have already paid and leave the class directly, but the price is the tuition fee. Tuition can be paid with love, money, time, etc.

However, there are still people who are happily studying "marriage" from beginning to end. Moreover, in the end, I completed my studies, got good grades in the exam, and got a wonderful reward. For example, many couples who work together to advance and retreat together, and grow old.

Whether marriage is good or not depends mainly on how much you are willing to pay for marriage, and whether the other half of the subject of "marriage" with you is also willing to study hard with you.

There are no absolutes, and marriages in the world are inherently beautiful and flawed. It is always your own mindset that determines your happiness.

Yesterday I saw a very profound sentence: Marriage is the grave of love, but without marriage, love will die and have no place to be buried.

One day after that, I saw Sister Xueyan's husband driving a tram to pick her up from work.

In fact, only you know whether you are happy or not.