Some happiness is like a cool sea breeze blowing in the hot summer, and some happiness is like feeling the warmth of the heart in the ice and snow......

I think my happiness in 2018 belongs to the second type.

I'm not afraid of heat, but I'm afraid of cold, especially cold......

The ice and snow can be used as a portrayal of my cold heart when I am at a low point.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, well, I used to be a teenager, I thought this problem would not appear in my family. Why? Because my aunt is a very good-tempered person, not the type of bad mother-in-law that she plays in TV dramas. Therefore, the girl who marries me will definitely be very happy, after all, my whole family will spoil her.

However, there are so many things in my life that I can't inew......

If a person is destined to face the problem of the relationship between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then no matter what the temper of his family members is, they will not be able to avoid this problem.

And I am destined to do so......

Since Uncle went to another world, Aunt has been living in sadness and can't get out for a long time.

Although many people persuaded her to look at the point, they are not aunts after all, just as the aunt replied: "Decades of husband and wife, do you say that you can see it so easily?"

Only those who tell Auntie to cry if they want to cry are the ones who understand Auntie, and her heart is not so strong......

I thought my aunt would be immersed in this grief for a long, long time, and would wait until I had a child to recover. However, because of karma, the second sister accompanied her to Nanshan Temple to live for more than ten days, not only found an old friend who had been trying to contact but could not find contact information for so many years, but also converted to Buddhism, and her mood was much better.

At first, when I heard my aunt say that she had taken refuge, I thought she had been a monk at Nanshan Monastery. Later, I learned that the refuge she was talking about was to become a Buddhist disciple, not to go home.

In fact, as long as my aunt is happy, I and several sisters will support her.

Because of her conversion, my aunt began to eat vegetarian dishes and stopped eating meat. The fried vegetables are not eaten if they are stained with lard, so the fried vegetables should be divided into two parts, one is fried in peanut oil, and the other is fried with meat.

These, in my eyes, are nothing, and I can accept them. However, in Xiaoshi's eyes, it is not so simple.

nutritionally. Xiaoshi thinks that the nutrition of the human body needs to be matched with meat and vegetables, and if you eat vegetarian dishes for a long time, the body's nutrition is not enough, and it will be easy to have problems.

Atmosphere. Xiao Shi felt that it was obviously a family, but the fried dishes had to be eaten separately, and it was very troublesome, and there was no taste of family eating at all.

Mentally. Xiaoshi thinks that if her aunt doesn't eat meat, will she not make chicken soup for herself when she gives birth to a child in the future.

In fact, although the aunt has taken refuge, it is not that she cannot eat meat, but she is not allowed to kill herself. The Buddhist books I have read have described them. Therefore, it was the aunt herself who resolutely did not want to eat meat.

But even so, we understand. After all, Auntie's body has always had a lot of minor ailments, but after she ate vegetarian dishes in Nanshan Temple for more than ten days, she was very healthy and in a good mood. Therefore, several sisters and I did not object to her being a vegetarian.

So the problem is, if I support Auntie to be vegetarian, then it is the opposite of Xiaoshi not supporting Auntie to be vegetarian.

nutritionally. I told Xiaoshi that being vegetarian has the benefits of being vegetarian, and I also told her about my aunt's physical condition all along.

Atmosphere. I said to Xiaoshi that if I don't eat a certain dish, it doesn't mean that I don't like a family. Like, I don't like to eat fish, so I don't eat fish.

Mentally. Xiaoshi and I said that my aunt is a reasonable person, and there is no reason why she doesn't eat meat, so the whole family doesn't eat meat. When you are confined, it is impossible for her not to make chicken soup for you to drink.

Everything she questioned, I tried to make her understand by reasoning as much as possible.

But there is no way.

Because of Aries, she sometimes can't listen to the so-called truth. She would just reply coldly, "Forget it! I don't care! You're all right! I'm wrong!"

I comforted as low as I could: "No, dear. I didn't mean that, so why do you have to think on the bad side?"

She replied vigorously: "Needless to say, it's my fault! It's my fault! It's all my fault!"

I......

That kind of helplessness......

Helping Auntie will hurt Xiaoshi. Helping Xiaoshi will hurt Auntie.

On one side is the mother who has just come out of her grief and smiles, and on the other side is the wife who has just become pregnant, and I am sandwiched in the middle, alas......

Xiaoshi is emotional, in addition to the domination of her own personality, there is also the unpredictable mood of a pregnant woman. So, I endure.

But the contradiction is getting bigger and bigger......

Xiaoshi told her father about the discomfort in her heart, so that the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law rose to the different values of the two families.

At that time, my father called and scolded me......

He once asked me to persuade my aunt to eat meat, but I didn't. I respect Auntie's choice. After he listened to what Xiaoshi said to him with emotion, he would naturally be affected by her emotions and become more emotional. He said, "I really don't understand, what the hell is going on in your family?!

At that moment, listening to the phone, tears flowed down my eyes......

yes, why did my family become like this?

Uncle, if you don't leave, how nice would it be......

My various sadness and helplessness, as well as my longing for my uncle, all turned into tears at that moment......

Dad thinks that it is definitely not okay not to eat meat, and a lot of people's nutrition comes from meat, especially drinking bone broth. If you damage your body because you don't eat meat, it's me and Xiaoshi who are in trouble. When the time comes, I have to take care of her, take care of the children, and work, how can I be busy?

Dad and Xiaoshi always have to look at Auntie Vegetarian from the perspective of the best interests, and they also take the worst-case scenario as an example.

And I think that even if a person eats well and is unhappy, will he be healthy? In my heart, as long as my aunt is happy, I think it is enough. Happy people are easy to be healthy.

I look at my aunt's vegetarian diet from a considerate point of view, and I also look at it from an optimistic direction.

This is the embodiment of the different values of the two families. You can't say who's right and who's wrong, because it all makes sense.

Dad and Xiaoshi focus on Auntie's body, and I focus on Auntie's mood, in fact, they are all for Auntie's good, but in different ways.

This contradiction took months to resolve. Solution: Auntie is willing to drink a bowl of broth every day.

This is only one side of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law......

Whenever I am trapped in the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I feel that the world is so cold and I am so helpless......

However, as long as it is dealt with, there is still a kind of heartwarming warmth in my heart.

As long as I see the two of them chatting happily together without bad emotions, I will feel very warm in my heart.

Isn't it good to love each other as a family and have a little more warmth?

When there is love at home, there is warm energy in the heart.

In my low year of 2018, there is warmth, and happiness will not be extinguished.