When I was intoxicated with the bubble of idol dramas for the first time when I was young, I longed for a particularly natural and beautiful love in the future, in other words, there could be a variety of common hobbies and ideas between the male and female protagonists.

It is a joyful playmate love, which can not only play and communicate well like a small partner, but also be as romantic as a lover.

So, before I started a family, the girls who were most likely to attract me were girls with whom I shared hobbies and ideas.

Back then, I liked to write, as long as I saw that the familiar girl wrote very well and the article was unique, my heart would naturally be touched;

Back then, I liked to paint, as long as I saw a girl painting on the Internet that was particularly vivid and beautiful, my heart was not only intoxicated, but also intoxicated;

At that time, I liked music, such as singing, writing songs, and teaching myself to play the electronic piano, as long as I heard some girls sing and sang as well as stars on the singing software, and when I saw some girls playing the piano very well, my heart had a possibility of being voluntarily hooked;

Back then, I loved dancing, and even though I couldn't do it by myself, I just loved it. As soon as I see some girls dancing with personality and charm, my heart is very eager to talk, of course, this is just a very thought, there will be no action;

Back then, I liked to read, because reading books can bring the soul back to a particularly peaceful state of mind, so girls who can read quietly and seriously will have a special quiet beauty in my heart. When I meet a girl reading quietly on the bus, I can't help but look at her twice;

Back then, I loved cycling and playing basketball, which is sports. When I see some girls who love sports, I think they will exude a kind of athletic beauty, which is particularly charming;

Back then, I loved taking pictures, and although I didn't really use a DSLR camera, I still had a mobile phone. When I see some girls who are very good at taking pictures, I want to go over and say "hi"! Well, they are very good at taking pictures, framing, dimming, and choosing angles, not the kind of selfies or beautiful pictures that pose casually;

Back then, I liked to travel a little bit, and when I saw those beautiful girls who were not afraid of the sun, heat, or tiredness during the trip, and only focused on the journey, I would be inexplicably moved;

I liked it back then......

It's like, the more I like it, the more I don't like it.

Because in my hobbies of poetry, there are almost no hobbies that I really like......

She didn't like to write essays because she didn't do well in Chinese, but what she liked was math, which I was the least good at and which was as terrifying as a nightmare to me.

She doesn't like to draw because she can't draw, and if she really likes to draw, she will do it even if she can't draw. But, she likes to watch me draw, but I'm not used to being watched to draw because it will be distracted;

It's not that she doesn't like music, but she doesn't dare to sing, and sometimes when the flowers are blooming, she will sing a few words openly, although it is very ordinary, but I like it. Because, a girl who is willing to sing to me, no matter how ugly she thinks she sings, I can hear how cute and beautiful it is to me;

It's not that she doesn't like dancing because she hasn't danced, but in her heart, she has a plan for the future to practice dancing for the next generation. As for the dance I danced, she probably didn't agree with it very much, because it was unprofessional and a little too soft, and there was no handsome and masculine dancing like other boys;

She doesn't like to read, and she feels sleepy when she reads the dense words, but she likes to watch TV series or movies. Although I also like to cook TV series and movies a little bit, there are not many TV series and movies that we like that can overlap;

She should like sports, but not particularly because she cares too much about the influence of objective conditions. I really want to have the experience of riding a bicycle together as a couple, but for me, this can only be a fantasy, after all, it is not realistic;

She likes to take pictures, but not the kind of people who are particularly good at taking pictures. But, at least, she likes to take pictures, and we have a bit of a common hobby;

She likes to travel a little bit, but it's a little different from my little travel style, but it can be slowly integrated;

She likes to play mobile games, such as the popular Pop Fun, but I'm not overly fanatical about games. But, in order to make our common hobby more, I also played with her for a while;

She likes to snacking, and snacks are a great accompaniment when playing on her phone or watching dramas, and I don't like to eat snacks. However, still for the sake of common hobbies, I also accompanied her to eat snacks, which became a habit;

She likes to eat fish, which I don't, and a lot of times I avoid eating fish. Sometimes, however, she felt that I didn't eat fish, and that it was not interesting for her to eat it herself, so I began to slowly make myself eat fish, provided that it didn't smell fishy;

She loves ......

Slowly, with her liking, my liking gradually sank......

It seems that I am not what I used to be, but nothing is in vain.

Xiao Shi and I do not belong to the joyful playmate love, at the beginning of married life, from time to time there are contradictions of disagreement, but time has run us in, so that we all gradually become suitable for each other, so that they slowly merge together.

Well, yes, Xiaoshi and I belong to a complementary growth type of companion love.

My liking does represent my joy, but it is all superficial, not enough to resist the storms and waves of life.

Although my intentions are sometimes painful, they will become very sweet after the pain, and they can improve the quality of the inner level, and they can better cope with and grow better in the face of the winds and waves in life.

It is precisely because I like a lot of small poems that I don't like, and I don't like a lot of small poems, that we can better complement the essence that we don't like but are beneficial. If I don't like something that I don't like, I can make her understand the beauty in it, and if I don't like it, she can make me feel the benefits.

It's a win-win complementary growth, and it's good, but it takes a lot of mental torture. After all, it takes a period of time for thoughts to collide to accept the existence that you don't recognize in your heart, and during the collision of thoughts, your heart will be tormented. However, once the minds collide and merge, it will be a particularly comfortable state of mind.

In this way, we are slowly colliding, running-in, and growing......

On the evening of May 25, 2017, Xiaoshi and I played chess for the first time, and there is only that time.

Xiao Shi is a novice chess player, and he has only learned it once before, so he is not very familiar with it. As for me, when I was in junior high school, my uncle taught me to play chess, and when I was in high school, I could almost win against my uncle. So, I'm kind of a chess player.

When I first started playing the first game with Xiao Shi, I was very serious, because I liked to win, so I won the first game easily.

As for Xiao Shi, in addition to recalling how to play, he also had to avoid my conspiracy, so he quickly lost to me in five or six games in a row.

Well, it seems too easy to win, and it feels like I don't have to be that serious. After all, my dear is just a novice in chess, why am I so serious and so ruthless?

So, I didn't even use a car, I used horses and cannons, but I still won a game or two.

I thought I was going to keep winning.

Xiaoshi also began to get more and more serious, and the sense of victory and defeat also swelled happily, and the jokes that there were at the beginning began to become less and less, and they didn't want to take a shower in the middle of the night, just to win me!

Sure enough, as long as my dear family is willing to be serious, his strength can really jump a few percent.

Finally, in the game where I carelessly lost my two rooks, she stepped into my city with a domineering two rooks and a horse and a cannon and took my general!

For this, she was as happy as a child.

Hahaha! Yes, keep up the good work.

After winning one game against me, she felt that she should be able to continue to win me, so she continued to play with me, and she didn't want to go to the shower until she played 20 rounds.

It's a pity that I'm too stupid, I don't have mercy, I don't have mercy, I don't have high emotional intelligence......

I won every game I had for the rest of the game......

At that time, I still wanted to take a photo and publish it to express my feelings of losing 20 and losing 1 in chess, but Xiaoshi glared at me very directly: "If you dare to send it, I will ignore you in the future!"

So, you say, do I dare to post it?

Actually, I didn't want to talk about how good I was or how weak she was, but to express my happiness through humor......

What I'm really happy about is not that I won 19 games of chess, but that Xiaoshi rarely played chess with me, and he played so seriously and devotedly. Chess, which was also my hobby, was just asleep.

It's been a long time since no one has been happy with me in my hobby, and I was really happy at the time......!

However, at the same time, I also learned that winning is sometimes not really winning, and it is still losing. Occasionally, a loss may be the real win, and it is a win-win.

Wouldn't it be better if at that time, I didn't leak a trace and lost to Xiaoshi a few games to make her happier?

So, people, are in need of growth drops.

A stupid person like me just has to hone and hone more.

Now that I have written it, aren't you afraid that the little poem will ignore me?

Don't be afraid, because I believe that my wife is also trying to grow......

This kind of complementary growth companionship love is not bad, after all, companionship is the most affectionate confession.

It feels like every time I write something, it's like I'm confessing.

Huh......