149 Psychological counselling

I didn't deliberately arrange for Lan Tian and Li Hua to get along, it's all natural, I'll just follow her first, how about passing this year first. Lan Tian has been in trouble for more than a month now, and it is definitely not so easy to get out of it, I have to give her patience and time, and Li Hua has to give it too.

Just to make Lan Tian more comfortable, Li Hua and I are a little more estranged, often just look at each other and smile, and those gentle words between lovers are just put in their eyes.

This year, the three of us never went home, so we made do with Lan Tian's suite. is still in accordance with the habits of Lan Tian's family for the New Year, watching the Spring Festival Gala and making dumplings.

Li Hua doesn't know how to make dumplings, and I have to do the rolling of the skin, so we cleaned up the coffee table and Zhang Luo, I sat at this end of the coffee table, with my back to the TV, not knowing what I was playing. Lan Tian and Li Hua sat opposite, Lan Tian smiled and groaned, teaching Li Hua several methods of making dumplings that she had mastered.

Li Hua tossed for a long time to understand one, and said with a smile, "It's quite fun," and then handed his hand over, "Youyou, look." ”

I looked at it and smiled.

Sometimes I even wonder if I am not here at the moment, there will only be Li Hua and Lan Tian, and they will also get along in harmony on the surface, wouldn't it be good. If it weren't for me, would it be possible for Li Hua to fall in love with Lan Tian, and then they would be a husband and wife and a plain and harmonious young couple.

But just think about it, even if I become a virgin in a second and want to withdraw from this relationship, it is just my wishful thinking, or my wishful thinking with Lan Tian, Li Hua's thoughts are the most important thing after all.

While wrapping dumplings, he followed the phone, first Lan Tian's parents called, after greeting Lan Tian, Li Hua and I took the phone one by one and talked around. Then Li Hua's mother called, first directly to Lan Tian, Lan Tian called a "godmother" very closely, and then gave the phone to Li Hua, after they said something, they hung up.

Li Hua didn't mean to talk to me, really.

Then my mom called again, and after a few words with her, I asked if I wanted to talk to my boyfriend, and she said, "Let's wait until I bring it home." ”

I'm so lost.

After rolling the skin, I wiped my hands and went to answer the phone again, this time from Li Baitian. Li Baitian is very enthusiastic and personal, and he has to talk to me about the New Year's holidays, but in the end, he doesn't talk about things related to festivals, so he just talks nonsense, nothing serious, and hangs up.

Since I came back from Beijing last time and saw Zhou Wenxue away, I haven't taken the time to contact Li Baitian, and he hasn't looked for me. Today, Li Baitian came up and asked, "What's the matter, what are the arrangements after the New Year?" ”

I said, "No......" I said a little unconfidently, because I remember that I promised to do it on Sunday.

He said: "Let's come to Beijing without arrangement." ”

I said in a consultative tone: "Brother Tian, I may not be able to go for a short time, there is something I can't leave here." ”

I haven't told Li Baitian about Lantian's accident, and this matter is only known to our two families, so it's hard to talk nonsense. Li Baitian gossiped, chased me and asked what was the matter, could it be that he wanted to get married with wine, and he also said: "Sister, you are not kind, don't you want to let your brother lose both money and money?"

I said, "How can you make people and money empty, you are investing, and you are not directly stuffing the money into my pocket, I can still run away with the money, the legal procedures are over, what are you worried about." ”

Li Baitian felt that it didn't make sense to me, "Ah, come over early, won't it be a year." ”

I cleared my throat, "That brother, if I don't go ......"

"It's nothing, I'm not happy. "Li Baitian likes to tell the truth.

In fact, I think that I should go to Beijing this time, and it's nothing to go, saying that I am separated from Lihua, but in this society, as long as you are not bad for money, the distance is not called distance at all, Beijing to Zhejiang, two hours of things, can you still find a little time to meet every week.

Li Baitian asked me to go to work, and he didn't want to lock me up, there are always weekends for work.

And I think that Li Baitian helped me and Li Hua, although we will repay the money with interest, but some things are not as simple as borrowing how much to repay. He helps, he reads favors, and debts of favors must be repaid.

Even if I can't pay back the money now, I can't pay it back, but I have to at least pay back the psychological happiness. Don't let people do us a favor, and act like he deserves me.

It's just that I haven't figured out how to talk to Li Huati about this matter. To tell you the truth, it's not impossible, but I'm a little afraid of hurting him, after all, it's for him that I have such an agreement between me and Li Baitian, I'm afraid of hurting his self-esteem as a man, and I'm afraid that he will think too much. And the important thing is that I'm gone, who will take care of Lan Tian.

Lan Tian is now able to take care of herself completely, and I don't need to do the housework alone, so I let her do it when she wants to. We will also go grocery shopping hand in hand, for example, if Lan Tian wants to cook a big dish today, he will always take the initiative to call Li Hua to come back from work to eat.

She would be idle, so I would bring Li Hua's suit over and iron it for her, but she didn't take the initiative to ask for the key to the next door, which was quite interesting.

Anyway, she was immersed in the mood of being good to Li Hua, and I watched it, but I couldn't splash her cold water. A few days after the Chinese New Year, I decided to go to Lan Tian's psychiatrist to have a look and ask Lan Tian how Lan Tian's psychological counseling was going, and what direction he was going.

She would do counseling twice a week, and every time I would come along, wait outside, and not go in and disturb, and the psychiatrist would just see me.

Meeting and communicating with the patient's family is also the job of a psychologist, and I met with this psychologist, and the psychologist asked me how Lan Tian is doing now.

I said: "It's much more cheerful than at the beginning, and I talk a lot, and I don't just watch idol dramas." ”

He said: "It seems to be effective, don't rush, take your time." ”

I nodded and said the question in my heart, "There are some things that I personally don't think are appropriate." ”

"What's the matter?"

"She's too good to a man, but that guy has a girlfriend. She had always liked this man before, and it was also because he had a girlfriend, so she didn't have much contact, but now she has more contact. ”

The psychiatrist said, "That's normal. In Miss Lan's current situation, the biggest psychological problem is not physical trauma, I feel that her emotional depression is very serious, so I have done more counseling in this regard. ”

"What grooming?"

"I told her not to suppress her emotions too much, to express and release them appropriately, to do what she wants, feelings, there is no right or wrong, if you like it, you should show it, and give yourself the opportunity to grasp it. ”

When I heard this, I was anxious, and I said, "Aren't you adding to the chaos?"

The psychiatrist was puzzled, and I said, "I'm that man's girlfriend, the three of us live together now, you let her be like this, how can we get along?"

The psychiatrist said that he knew that Lan Tian should tell him everything, about the relationship between the three of us, and even about the past, present and future she was looking forward to. From my point of view, I don't think this psychiatrist is picking up Lan Tian to dig my corner, but according to the psychiatrist, there is nothing wrong with Lan Tian digging the corner, people are open-minded, they like a person, and they are not allowed to fight for it.

The psychiatrist told me that his job was only to provide psychological counseling to patients, not to mediate emotional disputes, "I suggest you and your boyfriend do it together." Nowadays, many psychological problems are counseled by the whole family, which is more conducive to the recovery of patients. ”

Why do I think this psychiatrist is cheating money, and Li Hua and I have no psychological problems. I didn't take his advice, and then when I went home, I found that Lan Tian was gone, and it seemed that he had packed some luggage.

Li Hua and I kept calling her, and she turned off her phone. We drove out to look for it, first to the airport to look for it, I asked Li Hua what happened, Li Hua said: "She called me today and asked me to accompany her to the hospital for a follow-up, I told her that my mother wants to take her back to the city to take care of her." She didn't react at the time. ”

"Did you accompany her to a follow-up appointment?"

Li Hua turned to look at me, "Her next follow-up visit will be a week later, and you accompanied her last time, have you forgotten?"

"Oh, she probably remembers. I said.

Li Hua didn't speak. The most worrying thing is that she may have deliberately misremembered.

I said, "Why did you let your mother take her away, we were supposed to take care of her." ”

Li Hua glanced at me, then turned back again, "I just don't want to see you so tired." ”

"I'm not tired. It's our responsibility to take care of her, and we said yes. I said in a good voice.

He suddenly stopped with a foot on the brakes, frowned, and said to me word for word, "But I'm tired." Youyou, it's not your responsibility to take care of Tiantian, you didn't do anything wrong at all, why did you sacrifice yourself like this, why did I let you be wronged like this. ”

I said, "I'm not wronged, I'm your girlfriend, and Tian Tian is also my friend." ”

He shook his head, his brows furrowed even deeper, "Tian Tian doesn't want such a situation to happen, even if it's wrong, it's just my fault." It's okay to say that I don't have a conscience to say I'm irresponsible, and I don't want you to pay my debts for me anymore. ”

Looking at his deep little eyes, my eyes turned red, he retracted his gaze and took a slight breath, "Let's find her first." ”

(Lan Tian's role will be temporarily over in the next chapter, don't worry, I didn't pour water, there is a lot of foreshadowing in this...... )