With the development of the domestic economy, it seems that everyone is gradually getting richer, but there is also a special phenomenon that has begun to appear. That is, the divorce rate is gradually increasing, and the difficulty coefficient of marriage is also increasing.

It is difficult to get married because the house is getting more and more expensive, the stability of work and life is getting worse and worse, and what is the reason for the divorce of the couple?

Recently, an authoritative authority released a set of data on "divorce disputes", and courts across the country have concluded nearly one million divorce dispute cases:

"In 73.4% of cases, the plaintiff's gender was female, with the largest number of couples with an age difference of 0 to 3 years";

"77.51% of couples apply for divorce from the court due to emotional discord, and 2-7 years after marriage is the most common period of marriage breakdown. 」

Big data shows that marriage has changed from a "seven-year itch" to a "three-year itch";

At a time when many young people do not want to get married, the divorce rate is getting higher and higher. I am not afraid of birth, old age, sickness and death, what is divorce!

Statistics show that nearly 75% of today's divorces are filed by women.

Divorce lawyers analyze that first of all, women have the "initiative" in the divorce.

On the one hand, it is a reflection of the increase in women's economic income. There are even some families where women earn more than men.

In Chinese society, women are becoming more and more independent, and they are no longer dependent on men.

"I have the confidence to mention divorce", yes, it's a big deal to live alone.

On the other hand, it also shows that modern women pay more attention to the quality of marriage.

Women are submissive in marriage, and the era of "marrying a chicken with a chicken, marrying a dog with a dog" is gone.

The immaturity of men's "giant baby" in marriage also makes women begin to reflect:

"Why do I marry someone? I earn the money, I do the housework, I take care of the children at the same time, I also have to take care of my husband, which may also be a reason. 」

Take a look at the questionnaire question: "My husband gives you 10,000 yuan a month, but he doesn't go home, are you willing?"

The following answer is a one-sided shout of willingness:

From these teasing teasing with tears in laughter, we can probably find:

For some women, marriage is more like a kind of deprivation, and experiencing the torture of "nanny wives" and "widowhood marriage" is a kind of happy enjoyment.

Woman A said, "I wanted to marry a man who sheltered herself, but I didn't expect that all the wind and rain after marriage were brought by this man." ”

Woman B knew coldly: "If there is an afterlife, I will not get married, and it is better to serve my parents at home until I am old." ”

c Female love has to be a last resort: "For the sake of the child born by herself, she is waiting for another non-biological "child", if you can't make do with it, you can't make do with it, and some men just get old and won't grow up......"

D female August osmanthus fragrance: "If you have a next life, study hard, be filial to your parents, and earn a lot of money." It's okay to fall in love and not get married. There has been enough hard work in this life, for the children, for the family. Everyone is worthy of it, that is, sorry for themselves. I don't want to live for myself in the next life!"

Today's marriage is like a shelter for men, but it is like a shackle for women.

Many women are unwilling to let a "repressive" marriage exhaust their lifelong happiness, so they bravely file for divorce.

Brother Bao has a very classic metaphor in "Dream of Red Mansions", he said:

"A girl is a priceless jewel when she is not married; when she is married, she somehow becomes a lot of bad things; although it is a pearl, it has no brilliance, it is a dead pearl; no matter how old she is, it is not a pearl, but a fish's eyes. ”

On the one hand, more and more women do not want to get married, and on the other hand, more and more women choose not to marry after divorce.

The second is the number one killer of marriage, which is emotional discord. Statistics show that in nearly 80% of couples, the reason for divorce is emotional discord.

There are many reasons for the discord between the husband and wife, the most important ones are: discord in three views, discord in personality, discord in the view of money consumption, cheating on one party, discord in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, etc.

Couples with different views will have differences in every little thing. In marriage, the most important thing is not to get tired of getting along. But couples with discordant feelings live together, they are really tired, and it is normal to quarrel as soon as they speak. It is easy to fall in love because of the five senses, and it is not easy to get along because of the three views

The most terrible thing in marriage is cold violence, because it is more oppressive than violence. But emotional incompatibility is the first killer of husband and wife without a common language. Some people say that the only communication between couples who are not in line with each other is to quarrel. But the two of them quarreled to the end, and they didn't even have the ** who quarreled, and they didn't bother to say anything. And marriages with nothing to say and zero communication all died in the end.

Liu Zhenyun said: "A person's loneliness is not loneliness, a person looking for another person, a sentence looking for another sentence, is the real loneliness." ”

"After a year of marriage, he is already 'well, ah, whatever', sometimes I want to communicate, he is impatient, and he has to break out in a cold sweat when he thinks of living like this for the rest of his life";

"He'd rather bow his head and play on a game console all night than look up and talk to me, and when I talk to him, he is always perfunctory, and now I don't say it, anyway, it's nothing!"

Some people say that what is more terrible than dying alone is dying with someone who makes you feel lonely. But how many couples, in the script called marriage, two people staged their own one-man show. A marriage that can be talked about can last for a long time, and when two people don't have to talk for a long time, the marriage has actually existed in name only.

Secondly, marriage is not afraid of being late, and divorce should be done as soon as possible. The data shows that marriage has changed from a "seven-year itch" to a "three-year itch". 2-7 years after marriage is the most common period for marital breakdown, especially in 3-4 years.

A professional personnel analyst said:

"Marriages are prone to breakdown after 2-7 years of marriage, mainly due to the short premarital acquaintance between the two parties, hasty marriage, and the intervention of a third party. ”

And most of the marriages that enter hastily end in divorce. Marriage is a big gamble, and if you bet casually, you are doomed to fail.

The marriage has come to the 3rd or 4th year, and the sweetness of the newlywed gradually fades and enters the ordinary life of firewood, rice, oil and salt.

Because of the short acquaintance before marriage, the relationship between the two is weak, so various problems after marriage are highlighted, especially after having children.

"Giving birth" and "confinement" are both mirrors of Chinese-style marriage, and "widowed parenting" can easily escalate the conflict between the husband and wife, and eventually lead to divorce.

To sum up: when you reach the age when you should get married, you haven't met the feelings that you should get married.

But under the urging and pressure of all parties, without fully understanding each other, he still entered the marriage hastily. As a result, the personality difference after marriage is large, it is difficult to run in, or one party cheats, so the flash marriage is divorced.

But this short "failed" marriage experience is likely to leave a woman with irreparable damage for a lifetime.

Marrying the wrong person is really a loss for half of your life, and now marriage has become a "three-year itch":

After three years of marriage, we divorced, three years ago, we were a loving and sweet couple, and three years later, we became the biggest enemies in the world.

Some people say that marriage is not afraid of being late, divorce should be done as soon as possible, I would rather you not marry than have a makeshift marriage.

Good marriage, need business data shows that nearly 75% of divorce cases are filed by women. However, among these cases, only one of the spouses wanted to divorce, and the other party did not agree to the divorce, accounting for 91.09%. In other words, many men wait until the divorce to begin to regret their "giant baby" immaturity in marriage.

Many men in marriage have always taken their wives' contributions for granted.

The most important thing in marriage is not to forget the original intention, not to forget to add a sense of ceremony to the marriage, not to forget to cherish each other's dedication and companionship, not to forget to express love for each other, to cherish the person in front of you, and not to take each other's care for granted.

Don't let the people who love you

Slowly disappear from your life

There is no perfect marriage in the world, and there is no tireless love. A good marriage requires the careful management of two people.

I hope that the man in the marriage can be more considerate and caring for his wife, and don't wait for the woman's heart to be completely broken and cold, and resolutely leave, before regretting it.

A marriage, it must be good at the beginning, only in the process of marriage, both parties continue to hurt it, it will go to disintegration, each other.

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Zhao Hong couldn't help but think of some men's words, "It's against you!"

And now some women have answered this question with their actions! Let the speechless action replace the more hoarse helplessness!

But what were the men's expressions like, remorse, remorse, and remorse, or anger, irritation, and ...... Can't find the latest chapters of the book you want to read?coughcoughcough,It's not a problem.,Recommend a public account.,There's a young lady here to help you find the latest chapters.,Chat with you!