My brother and sister-in-law regard Xiao Lin as a man who stands up to the sky and the earth, and has high hopes, but she is still the same, still a weak willow and soft flower, pretentious, pampered, not only can't bear the responsibilities of her son, but also can't fulfill her daughter's obligations, neither sensible, nor do things, let alone be responsible, and still treat herself as a little girl who can only be coquettish and cute, sticky to her parents to dote, swaying her coquettish face, and asking her brother and sister-in-law for care.

Xiao Lin is idle all day long, lazy to eat. There are many children in the family, they play and play, chase and play, play hide and seek, drill under the bed, hide in the closet, hide the basket, play at home for a while, put the dishes, chopsticks and plates on the bed, clothes and shoes and socks on the ground, rag dolls sit under the buttocks, cosmetics pile at the feet, either take lipstick to draw a flower face monster, or use the eyebrow pencil to draw a black cat demon, or wear stockings, high heels, a cape, and a silk scarf to dress up as a bride. They climbed up and rolled down, jumping east and west, touching the dust, stepping on mud and water, having a lot of fun, dirty like mud monkeys and dogs, adding to the mess and making trouble, and the adults were so busy that they had to wash their hair, bathe, wash their clothes, sweep the floor, mop the floor, change the bedding, wipe the furniture, but as soon as they cleaned up, they turned around and made a mess, on the walls, windows, furniture, electrical appliances, toys, all covered with their ghostly graffiti. Even if the room was as dirty as a kennel and sloppy as a pigsty, Xiao Lin was reluctant to tidy it up by herself, either calling her sister-in-law to clean it up, or waiting for her mother to tidy it up.

She is like a preschooler, she stretches out her hands for clothes, opens her mouth for food, sleeps when she is sleepy, doesn't care about housework, doesn't care about children, and doesn't bother with things in life. Children want playmates, although she is a child who does not grow up, but the children never look for her to play, because she annoys the children to talk a lot, she thinks the children are noisy and shouting, always reprimanding and scolding with a coffin face, the children would rather accompany the toys than stay with her, even her two daughters dare not get close, during the day by the grandmother to play, at night by the grandmother to sleep. Her peers are either going to work, or opening a store, or running orders, pulling business, busy making money, or taking care of children at home, busy doing housework, a giant baby like her, it is simply one in a million. She has nothing to do, bored, idle to boring, idle, most fond of talking and laughing with older relatives and friends, old neighbors, like to talk about some parents, father and mother, who has more bride price, who has less dowry, whether to help or not, whether to take care of it or not, whether to help take care of the children, to pick some brothers and sisters-in-law, to make more money or less, whether there is affection, whether to abide by the rules, unreasonable, whether to understand etiquette.

Xiao Lin is stupid and old-fashioned, with narrow vision, short knowledge, low character, and does not keep pace with the times at all. I don't think about it, I don't think about it, I only talk about people's wrongs, I say that I am a good Bodhisattva, and others are demons and ghosts. Three generations live in the same house, and living in a group is inevitably full of friction, disputes, and interference. Xiao Lin has no circle of colleagues, no circle of interest, no social circle, squatting at home as a housewife, talking with four mothers-in-law and six mothers-in-law, seven aunts and eight aunts, three teachings and nine streams, neighbors, nannies and clerks, mothers-in-law and mothers.

For example, her father gives her brother 500 yuan a month, she is not happy, her brother and sister-in-law are paid a monthly salary, she has no job, this money should be given to her, her brother and sister-in-law can afford to hire a nanny, she has a disability, and her mother should help her take care of the children. After a few checks, Xiao Lin's thoughts, the audience knew clearly, in her mind, her parents' home is her home, her parents' money is her money, and her parents' property is her property. My brother and sister-in-law have a unit, a salary, good health, should be self-reliant, self-made, should not live in their parents' house, should not spend their parents' money, should not compete with her for family property, fight is ruthless and righteous, fight is no rules, fight is unreasonable.

For example, her parents love her the most, she has the least bride price, but the most dowry, and her parents take the most care of her and only help her take care of the children. Brother and sister-in-law work tired, she is protected by her parents, enjoy leisure at home, children do not take or raise the same growth, she has a good life, with her own blessings, how can my brother and sister-in-law work more? The incompetent can't starve to death, they have to take extra care, get special benefits, they have to be punished if they don't have merit, and there is pity for them without tribute, it seems that it is only a matter of time before her parents sweep her brother and sister-in-law out of the house for her.

The speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional, adding oil and vinegar to spread around, fanning the flames and sowing discord, which is originally a small trick of a long-tongued woman. Speaking knowledge, big, one looks at the environment, the second looks at the occasion, and the third looks at the object. Even if it is an intimate greeting, "you are okay", it is divided into three meanings, one is that the questioner is good, the listener is not good, the second is that the listener was good in the past and is not good now, and the third is that I hope that the listener will not get better, or be unlucky and unlucky, and become worse and worse. Even if the same person says the same sentence, "Beauty, handsome guy loves you, sister is a cup of poison, brother has to stand up and drink martyrdom", in the bar, stage, bedroom, different occasions, atmosphere, audience, will also produce different effects, the speaker's eyes, tone, demeanor is different, sincere, playing, flirting, will also bring different consequences.

The wine is known to be a thousand glasses less, and the words are not speculative for more than half a sentence. The ancients advocated that they should be sensitive to action, be obedient to words, swallow half a sentence when they say it, and think twice before hiding the truth, just to prevent disasters from coming out of their mouths. What's more, for fear that there will be no chaos in the house, the long-tongued woman who is waiting to see the jokes, saying right and wrong, stirring up trouble, is originally their best tongue skill, being a witch and pretending to be a ghost, and pretending to be a good person with two sides and three knives.

A moment ago, Xiao Lin was still talking bad about her brother and sister-in-law in the crowd, despised ridicule, contemptuous sarcasm, and insulting burial, and when she turned around and saw her brother and sister-in-law, she pretended to be intimate.

My brother and sister-in-law listened to a stomach before, Xiao Lin said criticism, contempt, derogatory, and hostile words, and then pretended to be a belly of long-tongued women's provocation, discord, rumors, and radical words, although she restrained her temper on the spot, she was angry when she didn't hear it, and she had a seizure, but the more she thought about it, the more she thought about it, the more angry she became, not only angry at her misunderstanding, but also angry at her for talking about people behind her back, and angry at her family to say things outside the door, and even more angry at what she said, and turned around and denied it.

Xiao Lin and the three aunts and six mothers-in-law were talking about their family's gossip behind their backs, which was originally a lack of morality, not only lacking morality, but also hurting others, and harming others and not benefiting themselves. For example, Yuan Chunhua is gentle and simple, not pretending at all, straightforward and transparent, no scheming, although compared with the demure, dignified and elegant Yuan Qiuhua, she is not fine-minded, not meticulous, not sensitive, subtle changes in circumstances, can not perceive and comprehend, lack of association and reasoning ability, repeatedly suffer losses, but lively and cheerful, open-minded and do not hold grudges, often smile, due to family edification, and reasonable, with her, everyone has a lot of fun. She doesn't like books, graduated from junior high school, has a low cultural quality, has no elegant aesthetic taste, dresses in fashion, fashionable and featureless, but knows how to learn from life itself, knows that she is not the material for a career, so she starts a family first, and finds an honest, reliable and uncaring man to marry in her early twenties. She was engaged in manual labor in the factory, mixed with the men's pile for a long time, and in order to adapt to the environment, she faded the squeamishness, weakness, and pity of the girls, and became infected with the man's big grin, informal, reckless, and deviant.

Yuan Chunhua is easy-going, even if she suffers unfair treatment in her in-law's family, she doesn't want her husband to be caught in the middle, she doesn't want to embarrass the elderly, and she never tries to change the situation, but just goes against the grain. The sister-in-law is not wearing the right color, and the sister-in-law can point it out at the time, teach the sister-in-law to correct it, or enthusiastically teach the experience, the sister-in-law is radiant, and the sister-in-law has glory on her face. If you find a mistake, let your sister-in-law pass the market, look sideways at people, suffer from ridicule, and laugh at her back, "Crimson shirt, with royal blue long skirt, this outfit, like a peacock opening the screen, attracting people around her, looking at her with a brush, thinking that the attention rate is high, but in fact, people are just looking at it as a monster!" If you don't know how to dress up, you will shrink at home with your children, don't be embarrassed in front of people, okay!" She teased and ridiculed her sister-in-law, like grabbing strangers on the streets and alleys, and used it for fun, she reprimanded and attacked her sister-in-law, like an ignorant child, without respect, without mercy, and deliberately humiliated in public, this is not a lack of heart, it is a lack of great virtue.

The surrounding audience laughed and stared at Yuan Chunhua up and down in surprise. Yuan Chunhua was so nervous and embarrassed that she couldn't spread her wings and fly high, she was clumsy and clumsy, and she was speechless for a while, only to turn around and look at Xiao Lin angrily. Xiao Lin held her head high like a cockfight, looking at her arrogantly, with an awe-inspiring look. After staring at him for a moment, Yuan Chunhua turned around and left the pickled dirt field. Xiao Lin shouted loudly in a high-pitched voice, "I struck the opening gong, everyone is waiting to watch the monkey show, why did you retreat? Don't you want to reward money? Please, don't slip away, do a few somersaults, you can earn more than begging along the street!" Behind him, people were "hee-hee", "sneering", "haha", and "hehe" were overwhelmed. Yuan Chunhua felt ashamed, trembling with anger, her lips trembling, but what way could she stop other people's mouths? A dark fire burned majestically in Yuan Chunhua's heart, boiling with pervasive irritability, and she couldn't help but complain to the old man. Zhang Linlin was furious when he took the case, so he criticized Xiao Lin harshly.

Father's reproach, Xiao Lin endured it with her eyebrows lowered, silent and silent, and laughed and admitted her mistakes with her sister-in-law, and swore that there would be no next time. But Xiao Lin promised well in front of everyone, but the bad habits behind her back did not change, but her father's anger also made her learn to be obedient, became cunning, ridiculed no longer in person, and said bad things behind her back, even if she said more than the stars in the sky, whether it was her sister-in-law who overheard it, or others spread it to her ears, whether it was her brother and sister-in-law's questioning, or her father's accountability, she could deny it. Since she said it in the crowd, there is more than one listener, her hardcore sisters can help keep it secret, but ordinary friends will not hide it for her, and her acquaintances and relatives are also old acquaintances and relatives of her sister-in-law, after all, most people are still sensible and reasonable, and prefer to speak fairly. This means that Xiao Lin can deny it, and her hardcore can also lie, but her father and brother and sister-in-law can completely expose her true colors through investigation and evidence. The family didn't do this, in the final analysis, they still didn't want to embarrass her, and they didn't want her to look up when she saw people. Moreover, good people say that they are not bad, bad people say that they are not good, and no matter how powerful a mouth is, it cannot change the standard of judging right and wrong in the hearts of many people; what does she think, how does she think, how does she say, and what hinders her? Her family is too busy with serious things, so how can she waste her energy on gossip? She is just a deaf ear, and she is too lazy to take care of it, which is just good for herself.

Xiao Lin was unaware of her fiasco, and still shook her lips and kept saying bad things. Maybe it's not a real bad person, and there may not be great resentment, and there hasn't even been an unpleasant quarrel, but his own family, when there is something to say, he doesn't make it clear to face, but behind his back, he complains in the crowd, spreads privacy, and causes the ugliness of the family to be publicized, which is undoubtedly creating contradictions, and it is indeed stupid. Relatives are the closest relationship, the closest family members, once they are not harmonious, they still have to coexist, they are also the most stubborn enemies, and they are also the most insidious enemies.

Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June. Although the vice is small, it is like a flea possessing the body, biting people day and night, and the evil words are light, like lice crawling on the head, itching people to scratch endlessly. Things like this happen again and again, angry and angry, and resurrected again and again, although the truth is understood, but the pain of being hurt can't keep the mind clear at all times, and forcibly suppress the cultivation and restraint, after all, the reason of relieving people against nature and weighing the pros and cons is not willing, so it is the normal state of young people to be willful and emotionally impulsive. The initial meaning of forgiveness gradually dissipated, and the heart was often resentful, and prejudices were born, mustards were born, and suspicions were born.