The next day, Xiao Lin's parents brought shark fin bird's nest back and forth.

According to customs, the first cub of the junior high school pays New Year's greetings to his parents, the second son-in-law pays New Year's greetings to his father-in-law and mother-in-law, the nephew of the third junior high school pays New Year's greetings to his uncle and aunt, and the nephew of the fourth junior high school pays New Year's greetings to his uncle and aunt.

The second son-in-law of the junior high school to the father-in-law to pay New Year's greetings to the father-in-law is the etiquette, and the fourth brother and sister-in-law of the junior high school take the nephew to the aunt to pay New Year's greetings to the aunt is also a matter of course.

But in the third year of junior high school, Xiao Lin's parents did not hesitate to condescend to their son-in-law to pay New Year's greetings, which not only lowered the seniority, but also violated etiquette and customs. Moreover, according to the saying of obedience to relatives, first the man's parents go to the woman's parents' house to pay New Year's greetings, and the woman's parents go to the man's parents' house to return the gift, if the man's parents do not go, even a leg refuses to take a step forward, you are not sincere, I don't have to give back, you don't respect me first, I don't respect you later, you don't follow this etiquette, I don't have to abide by such norms, then the woman's parents don't have to go back and forth, happy to omit this kind of running and toiling.

The Xie family's parents are in-laws who do not pay attention to this kind of etiquette and do not follow such rules, and have never gone to the woman's parents' house to pay homage to their in-laws. In addition to Xiao Lin's parents, the parents of several other daughters-in-law have never come to Xie's house to visit their in-laws.

Xiao Lin's parents are like this, condescending to dignity, some people say they are open-minded and generous, some people say they are inferior, and some people say that the man pinched the woman's major mistakes, and even the parents have to bow their heads to make amends.

Later, on the sixth day of the Lunar New Year, Yuan Chunhua and his wife took their children and brought gifts to Yuan Qiuhua and his wife to greet the New Year. Yuan Chunhua and his wife took the gifts, went to the door of the second elder of the Xie family, and gave New Year's greetings to their uncles and aunts, but they did not let the children pay New Year's greetings to their aunt Xiao Lin. Xiao Lin and Yuan Qiuhua live in the same hall, living next to the wall, brother and sister look up and see each other, just nodding and smiling, not wanting to say more, aunt and sister-in-law meet in the hall, silent, silent, smiling face refuses to show one, like a stranger. This deliberate isolation, which contains the idea of never getting along, is equivalent to telling everyone that the brother and sister have completely fallen out, their faces are torn, and they are not even afraid of politeness. Thinking of Xiao Lin's actions in her mother's house and the trouble she caused, people sympathized with and understood Yuan Chunhua and his wife, and at the same time looked down on Xiao Lin even more. In the yard, the neighbors and Yuan Qiuhua sisters sat together, drinking tea and gourd seeds, basking in the sun and chatting about family life, chatting about things, talking and laughing, and seemed to turn a blind eye to Xiao Lin, who was swaying in and out. Some people sighed with emotion, no wonder the second elder of the Zhang family wanted to come to pay New Year's greetings in advance, it turned out that it was because his nephew did not want to pay New Year's greetings to his aunt! If the in-laws did not come to pay New Year's greetings, the relationship between the relatives would be severed, and no one would move around to contact them! If the older generation closed their eyes and stretched their legs, how could these relatives still have feelings?

This is a matter of the future, far from it, and off topic. On the third day of the Lunar New Year, I heard that the two elders of the Zhang family were coming to pay New Year's greetings, and the palace magpie ordered Yuan Qiuhua to kill fish and chickens, burn charcoal pot fires, and receive them warmly and hospitablely. She went out to wait, counting the nine cold days and heavy snow, three in and three out, rubbing her hands and standing on the top of the ridge to watch, and chattering: Why don't you come? Why don't you come? Will you definitely come? Can you come? No, won't you not come?

Seeing a figure from afar, she greeted her and trotted a hundred meters happily. When her in-laws met, she preemptively gave her hands and gave her in-laws a New Year's greeting, so polite that she was not like her mother-in-law, but like a junior greeting the elderly, and her smiling face was without exception flattering. There are ten roads for officials, nine for the people to know, and the officials are crushed to death at the first level, not to mention that she has no grade and no rank for ordinary people. To put it bluntly, she has not been deeply involved in big cadres, no matter who it is, as long as she is an official, she will be scared in her heart. People die and are poor, and the rich have a meal, and the poor have a month's ration, which is also the mentality of the poor. Gong Magpie's poor and outdated life, the toad in the well only sees the bowl-sized sky, so that she has an instinctive avoidance and humility towards all people who are not rich or noble.

Conform to the common sense of the world, follow the courtesy, no matter how big the official, it is a relative, not an office office, purely a visit of private feelings, the same family, equal generation, originally there is no distinction between dignity and humility. According to the old rules, the court training tutor, the palace magpie should be upright, steady and heavy, sit quietly at home, patiently wait for the guests to come to the door to pay New Year's greetings, see the guests enter the door, at most stand up and greet each other with a smile, enthusiastically give up their seats, and tell the younger generation to pour tea. Seeing each other like this, easy-going without losing his identity, just like her husband Xie Qingquan, quite standardized and normal.

The palace magpie really shouldn't go outside the door to show his face, it seems to be an unenlightened redneck, and he is in a hurry to stammer, as if rich relatives can enter the door of poor relatives, or high and generous, the more solemn and flattered, the more the price falls, the more enthusiastic he is, and he is grateful to Dade, the more he loses his share. From this, it can be seen that she doesn't understand the set of etiquette at all, and she has never understood that no matter how big his official is, no matter how rich his family is, this is also his in-laws.

Zhang Linlin did not smile, made a layman in the forest, arrogant and indifferent, shook hands with his in-laws, and asked: Ho ho, good New Year!

The smiling face, the upright style, and the condescending posture are definitely the pro-people posture of the senior officials receiving the masses, just like the officials going to the countryside to comfort the lonely and widowed in the TV news, which is not new at all. Everyone can see that the stiff smile that pretends to be cordial in the fake model, and the indifferent questions that pretend to be friendly and pretend to be friendly are all fake enthusiasm for greetings and make up the numbers. And Zhang Linlin, who is just a doorman in the light industry machinery factory, is to deliver newspapers to the leaders, turn on the water, open the electric door for the vehicle, register visitors, and clean the door. In the city, in terms of status and status, at best, they are only grassy mustards, mosquito-like little people, and their activity ability is inferior to that of village cadres in the countryside.

Gong Magpie's tone of speaking to his family is commanding, there is no room for negotiation, whether he wants it or not, whether it is reasonable or not, the task must be completed unconditionally. For example, today, she handed over the task of cooking to Yuan Qiuhua and asked Xiao Lin to chat with her parents full-time. After getting married, the family's meals were originally made by Yuan Qiuhua, but Xiao Lin's maiden family came, and Xiao Lin should invite guests to eat, even if it is the New Year of the in-laws, the in-laws accompany the in-laws to eat, and the food does not need to be provided by Xiao Lin, but it is always okay to take a hand, help cook once, and her family is also eating together. Besides, when the parents came, they not only brought gifts to their in-laws, but also brought cigarettes and alcohol to their sons-in-law, and milk to their grandchildren. According to the common sense of the world, as long as the guest brings gifts to the door, the housewife should invite the guests to eat, the guests worship a few years, will eat a few meals, most of them eat this, and then eat that, even if the number of families is more, the guests can not eat, the housewife will simply make a few things, and then bring it to the table where the guests are eating, even if the guests do not move the chopsticks, but the housewife's etiquette is still in place.

Yuan Qiuhua was originally willing to cook, and if there were no guests, his family also wanted to eat. The mother-in-law doesn't know the etiquette, and Xiao Lin's mother doesn't understand either, she hasn't, she can't click, she still makes Xiao Lin stay still, she sits still like a guest, guards the charcoal pot and roasts the fire, just waiting for the meal to come and open her mouth. After the mother-in-law so pulled, the treatment of dignity and humility, the difference between the noble and the low, at a glance, you can see that reuse is to work more, shelter is to enjoy the blessings, but her blessing is based on her own work, and the mother-in-law's protection is also manifested in her own order to work for her.

The capable work more, the incompetent do not work, the horses die on the battlefield, and the eliminated horses are kept in the zoo. Strong and strong, hard-working, can't fall into the good, only get bad, ouch, it turns out that being smart and capable is not a good thing! Seeing the doorway, Yuan Qiuhua didn't feel good in her heart, but she didn't say anything, and went to fulfill the task of cooking. Even if the warm and cold attitude is not expressed, how can the person concerned not notice it? After seeing too much and hearing too much, and accumulating it in his heart, like a beast of prey, one day it will burst its embankment, and one day it will roar.

Gong Magpie seemed to be very excited, and kept saying good things about Xiao Lin, in order to set off Xiao Lin's filial piety, she also kept saying bad things about other daughters-in-law and other in-laws, mainly the sister-in-law and her parents, and her brothers and sisters, as well as the relatives and friends of the second sister-in-law's mother's family, piggybacking on Ma Huilan's mother's family for a while. She almost respects Zhang's family like a god, boasting about how virtuous, how capable, and how she is a good relative, and she does not hide her emotion for his noble and respectful arrival, and also freely expresses her admiration for his high demeanor and bright festival.

Not only is she not very exquisite, she doesn't understand what the rules are, and she can't see good or bad habits, her head is only filled with private thoughts, the so-called monks from afar will chant scriptures, monks have no power but are famous, monks from the city are naturally deeper than the indigenous Taoists, they can be the masters, they can count when they speak, and once they have something to ask for, they will be auspicious. During the New Year's holidays, we welcome and send it to, and we will double the gifts, a big bag of chickens, ducks and eggs, and a big bag of dried vegetables and local products, which is also to help lay the foundation in the future. Climbing is a big deal, many people are not to blame, reach out and don't hit the smiling person, don't take it lightly, it is related to the well-being of the whole family of the late cub, like Xiao Lin's recruitment into the factory, like Xie Xiong's marriage certificate in Chengguan, like applying for a birth permit in the city, like granddaughter Xie Yunxiang's urban household registration, like Xiao Lin's buyout seniority, and handling the laid-off reemployment preferential certificate, like Xiao Lin's mother and daughter eating the city's subsistence allowance, all rely on him to do it.