?? Through the previous analysis, we found that the AA system is conducive to protecting the rights and interests of both men and women in marriage. But when it comes to the implementation www.biquge.info of the AA system in the family, I am afraid that many women will immediately stand up against it, and they will say, "Why? It is the responsibility of men to provide for their families!" If you ask them why it must be the responsibility of men? They will say, "This family is originally a man's?" If you ask them why this family is a man's? They will say, "The children born have a man's surname, why is this family not a man's?" It is true that, according to tradition, the children of every family generally take their father's surname.

Marriage is a matter for both men and women. But in the past, it was a matter of men, and marriage was seen as a man starting a family, while a woman went to live in a man's house and became a member of the man's family. Children born after marriage are also considered to be descendants of the man's family and are given the man's surname.

?????? Now, with the development of society, women have widely participated in social production and labor, have an independent economic status, and the concept of equality between men and women has gradually entered our lives. Women with economic status are no longer satisfied with their subordinate status in the family and are beginning to demand equal rights with their husbands. One of the manifestations of this is the requirement to give your children their last name when naming them.

?????? So now there is a way of naming a newborn child with a compound surname consisting of the last name of the parents. The emergence of this phenomenon is a good thing, indicating that women have made a major breakthrough in the struggle for equality in the family. But it also raises a series of questions, that is, what should be the name of the child born after marriage to the child named after marriage, if it is the way his parents named him, then he should put his and his spouse's surnames in front of his child's name. If he happens to find a spouse named after the parents' surname, shouldn't their children have four surnames in front of the first name? Shouldn't the children with the four surnames have eight surnames in front of the first name when they grow up, get married, and have children? Shouldn't the children with eight surnames have sixteen surnames? How many surnames should the children of the children with sixteen surnames have before their names? I dare not imagine...... While it's good to fight for equality between men and women, I don't agree with the way children are named in this way. Because it not only violates our traditional naming habits of the Chinese, but also does not have operability in reality. Can you imagine a person with a dozen surnames in front of their name?

??????? Some people may say, "You are stupid! When naming a child, you can add both parents' last names." But in the future, when the child grows up, when he chooses a name for his child, he only needs to use the first surname. However, this method of naming a child based on the parents' surname is usually the mother's surname. If you follow the above statement, then when a child gives a name to his child, there will be a situation where he only inherits the father's surname and abandons the mother's surname. If this is the case, then the mother's surname is still not inherited, and this method is suspected of fooling women.

?????? Some people may say, "What's wrong with this? Children are born with their father's surname!" Traditionally, children are born with their father's surname, but with the deepening of the concept of equality between men and women, women increasingly want to have the same power as men in all aspects. In order to meet this wish of women, China's "Marriage Law" has long made clear provisions: "Children may take their father's surname and their mother's surname." However, according to traditional customs, children have always taken their father's surname. So far, there is no practical way to ensure that children are named with their mother's surname.

???????? Or someone will say, "Husband and wife are all family, why do you care so clearly?" Husband and wife can not care, but there must be a premise, that is, I do have this power, and I voluntarily give it up. It's not that I don't have this power at all, and you use a sentence that husband and wife don't need to worry about to settle the dispute, which is equivalent to making me give up fighting for the power I deserve.

?????? Some people may say, "Then the man should be generous, and let the mother's surname be good when naming the child." But what if a man is unwilling to give up his right to put his or her child's name in front of his name?

?????? Speaking of this, some people may be tempted to scold: "You are in trouble! The child is born with his father's surname, which is passed down from the ancestors, and it has been decided a long time ago." You suddenly flipped up today. "The person who said this may not know that at the beginning of the birth of our human society, children actually took their mother's surname. The primitive society of our earliest human society is divided into the matrilineal clan stage and the patrilineal clan stage. Later, with the development of productive forces, men became the main body of social production, and human beings entered the patrilineal clan stage, and men snatched the right to inherit the surname from women. In fact, women have long been dissatisfied with men's taking their children for themselves. In the feudal era, women had a low social status and did not dare to be angry or speak. Nowadays, men and women are equal, and women are becoming more and more intolerant of this unequal treatment in the family. In real life, when women express their dissatisfaction with their husbands or families, they often start with "I gave birth to children for their family, but what did they do to me". We can see from this that the inequality of family status has become one of the deep-seated causes of family conflicts such as disharmony between husband and wife. How to solve this problem well is a major matter related to the harmony of husband and wife and the happiness of the family, so it is really worthy of our serious study and study.

???????? The difficulty of this problem lies in the uniqueness and inheritance of the surname, and the parents are two people with two surnames, which one should be inherited?

??????? There is an opinion that love is a kind of reincarnation. It has been found that when boys grow up, they tend to choose women with their mother's personality qualities as partners, and girls grow up with men with their father's personality qualities. This is because parents also have the responsibility to educate their children, and this education is mainly carried out subtly through words and deeds. Parents, as the closest people to their children, are also the first and most direct imitation objects of their children's growth. In the case of individuals, the boy imitates his father's behavior, and as a result, he chooses a partner like his mother, because it is the father's choice. The girl will imitate the way her mother behaves, and as a result, she will choose someone like her father when she chooses a partner, because it is the mother's choice. From this we can see that boys are more likely to inherit the personality and behavioral traits of their fathers, while girls are more likely to inherit the personality and behavioral traits of their mothers. Since this is the case, then after a man and a woman get married and give birth to a child, if it is a boy, why not let him take his father's surname, and if it is a girl, why not let her take his mother's surname.

????? In the early 80s of the last century, China began to vigorously promote the family planning policy. In order to correct people's patriarchal attitudes, an absurd story was made up at that time. The story says that because people only want boys, the birth rate of girls has dropped dramatically. So much so that decades later, there are only men and no women in society. Lads of marriageable age had nowhere to find a partner, so they marched in the streets en masse to express their grievances, unfurling banners that read "I want a daughter-in-law!" The author of the story wanted to tell people about it. Women are also very important and indispensable to this society. But this does little to correct patriarchal attitudes. Surveys show that there are more men than women in today's society. Although this imbalance between men and women is not serious enough for men to march in the streets en masse to beg for a wife. But if you extrapolate according to the 1-to-1 model of mate selection, there will still be some men who can't find a wife. This is ample proof that in the past few decades, the patriarchal mentality has remained serious. The reason why the patriarchal mentality is so entrenched is not that people do not need women in today's society, or that women are not important, but that there is no identity as the heir to the family in women's social roles. And people want their families to last. This is why people pay special attention to boys, and even women value boys more than girls.

??????? If one day a girl gains the social role of the heir to the family, I believe that people will give preference to women over men again. From here, we can see that I have fallen into the misconception that the gender of the heir of the family is unique, either male or female. Under this perception, men and women will always be divided into different priorities. The way in which boys take their father's surname and girls take their mother's surname confer the status of heirs to both male and female families. When men and women have the same social roles, they will truly achieve equality between men and women.

??????? Now that the country has introduced a two-child policy, wouldn't it be the best of both worlds for a couple to give birth to a son and a daughter, and inherit the surnames of their parents respectively. Human beings are inherently divided into men and women, and the family must be made up of both men and women, both of which are indispensable. Therefore, it is unjust for the family to continue only according to the blood of the man or only to the blood of the woman. The fair way should be that the blood of both men and women can be carried on through the offspring of the family. Under this principle, the newly formed family after marriage will no longer be regarded as a continuation of the man's family, but as a continuation of the two families of the man and the woman. Children born in a new family are no longer simply seen as a continuation of the man's bloodline, but both men and women will continue their own bloodline through the child.

?????? Speaking of which, some friends may say, don't think about good things, what if all the children are boys or girls? This is also possible, after all, if we assume that a couple has only two children, and it turns out that both children are boys or girls. But it would be unwise to insist on having ten or eight children in order to have both boys and girls among your children. We advocate that boys take their father's surname and girls take their mother's surname, in order to reflect the social principle of equality between men and women, women have power, and men have power. In the case of a particular family, it is not necessary to have a boy in the family to inherit the father's surname, or a girl to inherit the mother's surname. Even in the era of male power, it happened from time to time that men had no sons and were dead. Therefore, on the specific question of whether an individual has children to inherit his or her surname, we should still take a natural attitude. It's good to have nature, and it's okay if you don't. We should have a better way to show our worth than to have children inherit our own family name.

?????? Some people may say that since men and women are equal, they should simply cancel the surname. In order to create so many social problems in order to ask the question of whose surname the child has, it is better not to have it. Things are not so simple, first of all, the surname culture has been passed down for thousands of years, and it is not that it can be canceled if it is canceled. This is not only a matter of habit, but also a question of historical inheritance and belonging. For example, when we talk about such a definition, the Chinese nation is an ancient nation with a history of 5,000 years of civilization and one of the four ancient civilizations in the world. She has a broad and profound national culture, and has made four major inventions that have had a significant impact on world civilization. Her people have built prosperous nations, but they have also endured the suffering of being bullied and enslaved by foreign powers. It is our mission to realize the great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation. The reason why we dare to affirm and admit that this is our history is because we have a common title: Chinese. It is this title that allows us to identify our past and guide our future. The same is true for a family, we need to know what kind of people our ancestors were, what kind of road they walked, what kind of wealth or what kind of lessons they left us, what we should do next, and where we are going. And what ties it all together is our last name.

?????? The subdivision of the surname into the father's surname for boys and the mother's surname for girls can not only inherit the family history, but also facilitate the perfection and inheritance of personality. In families where all children inherit the father's surname, because the social roles of the daughter and the father are different, they do not completely imitate the father's life concept and behavior, and the mother is excluded from the inheritance, which blurs the inheritance of the parent's personality by the child. The pattern of the boy taking his father's surname strengthens the son's inheritance of the father's personality. The father first realized that my words and deeds were meant to be passed on to his son, and that I must do good things and not leave bad things to my son. At the son, I realized that I was imitating my father's way of behaving, and that I wanted to carry forward my father's strengths and make up for his shortcomings. Girls taking their mother's surname can also act as a motivating force between mothers and daughters.

?????? Moreover, it can also play a positive role in promoting the self-reliance and self-reliance of contemporary women. Although equality between men and women is already advocated in today's society, there is still a notion among women that marriage is seen as a way to change their destiny. The reason for this is that children take their father's surname, and the new family is seen as a continuation of the man's family, which obscures women's responsibilities and discourages women's enthusiasm for self-reliance, so that women consciously or unconsciously put themselves in a subordinate position. After the realization of the girl's mother's surname, the society can no longer ignore the rights that women should have in the family, and women can no longer avoid their responsibilities, but must be self-reliant. A benign and healthy society should have men like men and women like women. Instead of men like women, women like pets. It is hoped that with the establishment of equal relations between men and women, our society will become more and more benign and healthy.

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