The winter vacation of the kindergarten is relatively early, just a few days before the holiday, my grandmother gradually found that Rong Rong was a little wrong, so old said to pee, and then urinated a little bit, the feeling of incomplete peeing. Observed for several days, grandma was anxious and urged Yu Yue to take the child to see, the doctor asked if the child would itch and pain, the child shook his head, and then let the child's pants take off, the doctor judged that it was too long to have urethritis, took some medicine, and ate it for several days with no effect, and then changed to a doctor, and said that it was "bladder dampness and heat" in the theory of Chinese medicine , I took the medicine for a few days, and I was in a hurry, so I went to the county hospital for a urine test, and found out that the white blood cells were fine, and the red blood cells were exceeded, which is called hematuria in medicine, and it is related to kidney damage, and this damage depends on the specific cause. Now everyone is nervous, Yu Yue can't stand the fright, and now she is like a frightened bird. Rong Rong was born in a huge child, and she had cancer, so she had to guard against it.

The top priority is to go to a city hospital for a comprehensive examination. Shiyuan crawled day and night like striking iron every day and couldn't get out at school, more than a dozen classes a week and as a class teacher and the leader of the preparation team, the key is to take leave and deduct performance, in this case, Yu Yue had to take the child to see, contacted the doctor of the city's hospital, and was also his classmate, ready to go, Yu Baoping knew that Shiyuan couldn't take the mother and son to go, so he said that he wanted to come, he and Liu Jingfang were the same, for Yue and the mother and son to go out 10,000 is not at ease, the child is so small, more than an hour away in case of frequent urination and urgency, how to deal with it? Yu Yue herself was sick again, what should she do if she encountered an emergency? Yu Yue knew that her father had a toothache and couldn't sleep well for several days, and he was haggard and depressed during the day, so how could she be embarrassed to trouble her father to accompany her, but Yu Baoping still couldn't help but say that he came along. The children's grandparents are silent, and the grandparents are accompanied by the pain. The same thing can definitely be seen in the attitude of different people.

On the day he went out, Shi Zhai came, and Shi Yuan saw that he didn't say a word to send the mother and son to the station, and Shi Zhai said that he wanted to send it. Yu Yue got on the bus and still didn't feel at ease and sent a text message to Shiyuan, "Speak well, don't quarrel." Se Won replied, "Okay." "The two brothers will definitely talk about the problem first on the way back, as long as they can be calm and even, it will be a good start. Yu Yue put this matter aside for a while, and if she can't worry about it, she just needs to wait for the result, and her son's problem is the key at the moment. Arrived at a hospital in the city, Yu Yue walked into the gate of the hospital at the moment the whole person was in a trance, after two and a half years, this in and out is like another world, whether you are ready or not, things just happened, I thought at that time, I thought that after the operation, I could go home to pick up the child after the operation on Monday, but I didn't expect that after an operation, the whole life came to a shocking reversal, and you had to face all kinds of pain afterward, body and mind, love and spirit. And this time, when she brought her son, she was even more nervous, she was really afraid that the child would make a mistake, the hospital was really a ruthless judge, and Yu Yue was very afraid of facing variables. 10,000 prayers in my heart with my child, may everything be safe and sound. Lan Ju, an old classmate, introduced a pediatrician to Yu Yue, and made time to comfort Yu Yue for a while, Lan Ju went to the ward to find her after knowing the news of Yu Yue's breast cancer, but at that time Yu Yue had been discharged from the hospital in Guangzhou, and this time it was more than two years. Lan Ju first asked about Yu Yue's situation, seeing that she was in good condition, she was already relieved, the two couldn't help but be a little hurt when they met in this way, seeing the child, Lan Ju comforted her in every way, "Don't be too nervous, children always have a little problem like this, come and take a look, I have a comfort in my heart." ”

The result of the examination at the pediatrician was still urethritis, Yu Yue said that he had seen a doctor in the county town to get medicine, and the doctor couldn't explain it, so he only said don't be too nervous, try another medicine. Yu Yue's mother and son embarked on the return journey in a panic, she thought a lot along the way, and she was also a little confused, she even wondered if she was the legendary "bad daughter-in-law", the kind of selfish woman who did everything possible to drive her in-laws away, was she retribution, let her son's physical condition have problems, and let herself worry about it? She asked herself, she was more than respectful and tolerant of her in-laws, if it wasn't for an illness, Yu Yue might not have seen so many unhappy words and behaviors, and she would not have been spurned and separated because of this. Yu Yue's character is not good at doing inspirational work such as "lying on the salary and tasting the shame of the courage" or "it is not too late for a gentleman to take revenge for ten years", in the final analysis, she herself is very clear about the argument of "why should people treat you well", she will be resentful because these people have affected her husband's determination to herself, so that her husband is in a wandering and often entangled. In their eyes, the wife is just an outsider who can be replaced. As a man, once he loses the support of his family, he will be in a dilemma, and he has to constantly endure cold words and sow discord, and in this dangerous situation, the wife can not be submissive, low, and the father-in-law and mother-in-law do not understand, so it is difficult for the husband to be wholeheartedly devoted to his wife. All the affection is a joke as always.

It is really difficult for Yu Yue to "repay grievances with virtue" for her husband's family, and the best way is to keep her distance out of sight. From another point of view, there are more couples living separately from their in-laws in this society, who stipulates that it is legal for two families to live in the same room? The biggest problem of the Chinese is that the boundaries are not clear, and parents interfere too much in their children's lives, and the best way is to separate, keep a distance to maintain respect. Without Yu Yue's illness, the final result would still be separated, Yu Yue likes to live independently, likes to have a space of her own, no constraints, and is free. It is impossible for Yu Yue to adapt to the living conditions of her father-in-law, even if they are their peers, they can't find a few pairs of them in the county. Thinking of this, Yu Yue was relieved. Don't associate everything, things sometimes happen by chance, don't be so masochistic, and put all the problems on yourself. The child slept, he went out early in the morning and checked all day, sitting in the car naturally slept well, Yu Yue's hands were extremely sore, but fortunately, the process of more than an hour, patience passed.

Back at home, Yu Yue first explained to her husband about the child's examination, and prescribed medicine anyway, so she pinned her hopes on the medicine to get rid of the disease. Shiyuan hung his head, and Yu Yue guessed that the outcome of the peace talks was not good.

"Shi Zhai has no opinion, the two old ones take turns to go to the two brothers, and one person is good for a year. Shi Yuan swallowed the second half of the sentence after speaking, and saw how Yu Yue reacted.

Yu Yue deliberately didn't get to the bottom of it, "That's good, you don't have to hide and seek if you say something." “

Seeing that his wife was not surprised, Shi Yuan just confessed, "However, we have to give 100,000 yuan to Shi Zhai." “

"Oh, isn't his condition unreasonable, I don't like your father's money to be handed over to us for a loan, and it's not for nothing, and you have to pay interest every year. “

"No, my mom said it. “

"Oh?"

"I'm a little uncomfortable......" Se Won choked up a little.

"Tired of you, don't be abusive at every turn. Tell me what happened in detail, why wait for a sentence to be revealed, and then another sentence? Hung people's appetite? I don't have the heart to hide from you. “

Shi Yuan hesitated for a moment, "My mother is so good at going to you to talk to you? I told her well a few days ago." “

Yu Yue was very calm in her heart, "Otherwise, do you think I will want to chat with your mother on a whim?" She suddenly broke into the study for no reason, and cried as soon as she opened her mouth, hey, she can't talk well! You said that you made it clear to her a few days ago? I'm afraid it's your wishful thinking, if she accepts it, why come to me, come to me is nothing more than to explore the way, so as to find a chance to go down the steps, fortunately, I am prepared, we quarrel and quarrel, we must not split, and your mother will take advantage of our bad relationship to achieve her own goals if she sees something famous. “

"You don't want the concept of class struggle to be good or not, what kind of thinking do you have, thick black learning! Tell my mother so terrifyingly, she is an old lady in the countryside What does she know. “

"An uneducated woman is powerful. I've seen a lot of human feelings in my life, look at your mother, it's exquisite, look at me, stupid and stupid, and straightforward. “

"Hehe, you know you're stupid, too?" Se Won said jokingly, "I thought you felt good about yourself and didn't know anything about yourself." “

Yu Yue glanced at him, "Stupid, but self-aware, so you have to learn to protect yourself." Don't talk about that, the process!"

"It's nothing, it's just throwing out the problem of the two elders, my dad wants to go back to his hometown to live, but the house hasn't been built, hey, it's useless to be a son, and he can't help his father build a house. As he spoke, Shi Yuan's eyes were red again.

"Then you tell us what we suggested? My daughter-in-law doesn't matter enough, I said that if I don't have any money, I will sell Lido's house and go home to build a house, is there a daughter-in-law like me in this world?"

"Do you think, who doesn't know your thoughts, you just can't wait for them to go back to the countryside and change to a house in your own name. “

"Please, do you think your parents can buy a new house for us after selling this house in the countryside and building a house? At most, it's a down payment, I don't care because I want to be quiet, and I don't care about the money if I can mortgage my provident fund. “

"My mom disagreed, saying that cashing out her house and turning it into two houses was in our name. In the future, if we are not filial and drive her out, she will be homeless. “

Yu Yue sneered, "There is no good person in this world in your mother's eyes." That's why I'm afraid to live with her!"

"Well, she has no education and no retirement salary. In her old age, she will have no sense of security, for fear that her children will not want them, and the abandonment of the elderly can be seen everywhere in the countryside, and many young people simply do not return home when they go out to work, and they do not know whether the two members of the family are dead or alive. “

"Rely on your son, why do you marry your husband?"

"Can my dad be relied on in that state?"

"High blood pressure. He just thinks too much and forgets to take medicine to get sick, so that all the grass and trees are soldiers, a group of people are coaxing, they have never seen the world, this disease is too common, many people in their twenties and thirties will get it, your mother talks about 'sickness and illness' all day long, as if how serious it is, how can you embarrass me to come back from a ghost door?"

"You can't talk like that, it's not that your dad doesn't have skin pain. “

"Okay, just when I said the wrong thing. I'm just fair. “

"Who can be fair in that situation?"

"OK, if your mother refuses to sell it, forget it, then did you say that we moved out?"

"I was about to say, Shi Zhai seemed to have guessed, and directly interjected, 'If you want to move out in the future, you can also take out the house in Lido, and the rent will be given to the two old people to support the elderly, and the two old people will move over and bring me children. ’”

"Isn't it, you can say such shameless words? What does our house here have to do with him, and if he comes to arrange it for us, how did you react at the time?"

"How can I react, I didn't answer him. What should it be? It's just the beginning, and I also hope that the peace talks can continue, what if the two brothers don't deserve to fight?"

"Cut~ is based on swallowing your anger, you just wait for the land to be repaid. ”

"When my mother heard this, she was reluctant again, and cried and said, 'Shiyuan, you husband and wife just want to abandon us. I said, 'It's not that I won't give you alimony, it's just that we live separately, why force it since we are not happy together?' As a result, my mother cried even more, 'What else do I need to do to be satisfied?' I am careful not to say a word more every day, for fear that your wife will hate it, and live a trembling life, for fear that it will not taste good, and every time you have to ask clearly what to do, what else do you want me to do? You say it, can't I change it?' I said, 'Mom, it's not a problem.' Yu Yue is not like Fangfang who is basically in the store, she is basically at home, it is difficult to integrate after two generations, just eating she can be regarded as accommodating you, as far as her living habits are concerned, where can she adapt to you? You may not understand what she said, and she doesn't understand what you say, so everyone is tired of getting along like this, and it is good to be separated. ’“

"Yo, this is a big truth, I never said it in front of you, why did you think of it. "Yu Yueden was tired of being in Shiyuan's arms, and it was really brilliant to give a little sunshine. Shi Yuan didn't bother to pay attention to her, and said to himself, "My mother disagreed, and said, 'Don't think that giving some money is enough to support the elderly, so I don't want to live alone in the countryside like anyone.'" Shi Zhai was still stabbing the fire, saying, "The mother of the three children loves you the most, isn't it that you are the best at reading, and I can't imagine that those who read books are the most selfish." When I was angry, I asked him, 'What are you filial?' Over the years, you have had a lot of things, had a car accident, and lost money in business...... It's all my parents who give you money to solve it, I'm so angry, right? In the past few years, my parents have mainly been in my house, but they have to take care of you at both ends. At this time, my dad spoke, 'I also invested 200,000 yuan in the boss, and that share is reserved for you, don't be nervous.' Shi Zhai muttered, "There is no movement now, in case of a loss, that boss is unreliable." My dad said, 'Even if I don't make any money, my boss will definitely pay me back.' Shi Zhai was not convinced, "It's better to have any money in your own hands." My dad was excited, "I'm not at ease with you." At this time, my mother cried again, "The two brothers should be 100,000 yuan each, it can't be so unfair." My dad suddenly slapped the table, and the anger rushed up again, "I said no!" I was afraid that he would get sick with high blood pressure, so I had to say, 'Forget it, don't fight, I'll give 100,000 yuan to my dad at the end of the year.'" ’”

"Well done, you still told him at the end of the year?"

"Yes, the market is not good, do you think you can have it right away if you want to ask someone to pay it back? At least a few months of buffer. “

"And what did your parents say?"

"I didn't speak, maybe Shi Zhai's words spoke to their hearts, and whoever has it is better to have it than to have it yourself. “

"Is it true that if 100,000 yuan is taken out, they will not interfere in our affairs?"

"Probably. “

"What do you mean by probable? That's the result of your discussion?"

"Don't move out for the time being, my mother has to have a time to accept it, and what if the two old men agree to the plan that Shi Zhai said?

"I don't care if I'm willing to give it up or not, it's not for me to decide anyway. Yu Yue said quietly.

"The problem is that I am reluctant, why do my parents help Shi Zhai wholeheartedly, Shi Zhai does not pay a penny of alimony, and also wants our Lido's rent to the elderly, and the old man takes our money to stick to their house? I am not convinced, and it is too much. ”

"That's what I said, so what?"

"It's unrealistic to move out, hey, I didn't expect to buy a house for my son, and I didn't dare to go out to buy it now that we have money. “

"Your family is more strange, change to other parents, when I hear that my son and daughter-in-law want to buy a house, I don't want to say anything and ask where I want to buy it, how much support I give you. Your family is actually crying, making trouble and hanging yourself, and using this means to threaten others is essentially a desire for control. Your mother's behavior will only make others more determined to leave her. “

"Your situation is only suitable for parents with pensions in the city, rich and powerful parents, who have said that our family is a rural person with no security, where do they have that confidence? If you buy a house for your son to live in, you don't dare to write your son's name, and only when the house is your own can you have the confidence to get along with your son and daughter-in-law. That said, that's insecurity. “

"Cut~ is to use the house to support the elderly, and use the house to tie up the children. “

"So now you have to come up with 100,000 yuan, and then the two elders will basically follow the plan of one person taking turns a year. “

"One person for a year, it's terrible, it's like never coming out. “

"No way, one step at a time. “

"Okay, you tell your parents tomorrow that the money will be given to them next week, so that they can do it as soon as possible. “

"Do you hate my parents so much? I was born to them after all. “

"It's not, it's just that you have to fight for people, people point out that you can't take out the money, and take it out just to show that lending is not so easy to make money, and you can't put out cash by your side. “

"I have a maximum of 60,000 around me. “

"Then I'll help you pay back 40,000, and in order to fight for breath, I'll find a way. “

"So sure?"

"First of all, I want to pay it back for the time being. “

"Don't worry, I will definitely pay you back this time, it turns out that my wife has such a private background!" Shi Yuan couldn't help but laugh.

Yu Yuebai glanced at him, "Now find out your wife's private secrets?" I will lend it to them even if I don't have a dime, hmph, it's still a matter of money, it's okay, I'm afraid that they won't mention it, we can only understand what they are thinking when we mention it, as long as it's money, it's easy to do, I'm afraid that they will hold the emotional card and live or die." “

"Don't say it so ugly, it's okay, it's like your parents are just for the money, and the money is theirs. ”

"It's not that I said it ugly, when the market is good, I wish you would like to let it out more, and they have to interfere with who it should be put on, now the market is not good, see how many groups of money you have problems, I wish you could take it back, there are such parents in the world, always only win, lose is the child's business, have the ability to turn others to go, what does it mean in the nest. I told you a long time ago not to take this money, you have to have someone to know the goods. ”

"Don't say that, we also have some benefits, after all, Shi Zhai has no share, he is also depressed and half dead, and he always feels that his father looks down on him. “

"He deserves to be looked down upon, and if your father gives him money, it will be a waste. Can your father not understand you two brothers? Your mother is obviously eccentric, and I can only express my understanding of this, mothers, they are all about protecting their shortcomings, and they hope that their children will help each other, but she is extreme, and I only hope that we can help them. “

"The truth is true, it's just that the money is with us, and outsiders say that our parents are partial to us. “

"That's right, so I told you to go back early in the morning because it was prescient, and I told you that it was a hot potato, and you couldn't eat it, so I don't care about taking advantage of it. If you take it, the responsibility will be borne by you alone, killing two birds with one stone. “

"Yu Yue, can you not be the Tao, the concept of class struggle is too strong, everything is on the line, it is really an old dog who remembers a thousand years. “

"Qian Shiyuan, don't be so confused, I'm helping you now, aren't you very utilitarian, and you always want to get ahead? These are all obstacles for you to hold you back, how can there be such parents in the world, who are supported by their children but go everywhere to say that their children are not filial?

"They're also quick to talk, and besides, we may not be good enough, and sometimes parents need to be considerate, and I don't have time to talk to them. “

"Hmph, when you have time, they are busy taking the children to Shi Zhai, they don't have time to chat with you, don't you need to be considerate?

"They don't have this habit, the children in the countryside are free-range, and there is a lack of communication since childhood. “

"Husbands and wives are also very indifferent to each other, and tell you a funny thing. Once your father and your mother passed away, and halfway through your mother came back to get an umbrella, maybe it was raining heavily, I thought it was very strange, your father had a big umbrella in his hand, but your mother said, 'He won't cover you if he has an umbrella.' "Oh mom, there are such husbands and wives in the world, and they can't cover the same umbrella." “

"I've never seen my parents kiss, even if it's just holding hands. The countrymen are like this, to put it mildly, except for the fact that they can't see it in the bed, they all do their own things at other times. You think they're just like you, don't think about eating and drinking, just talk about love, idealize, and that's fine. “

"Every time I see them walking down the street, they are one after the other, never side by side. It's my dad, and I'd rather get wet in the rain than cover my mother, so I can't stand it if all the customs of your family that can't keep up with the times don't come to my current life. “

"Don't think that your habits are the best, and there are many things that our family can't get used to. “

"That's, so don't look at it, it's better to live separately to save both sides of the blockage. You finally read the book and changed your fate, so don't be dragged back to your past life by them. “

"Then I'll tell them tomorrow that I'll give them the money next week? Don't sell me, I won't be able to get off the stage when the time comes. “

"Don't worry, I'm going to fight for it. “

"Hey, it's all sons who don't fight, if I'm rich, I'll just build the house at home, if Shizhai wants them to take the children, then they will coordinate it themselves. Rural people are really pitiful, they raised their sons but they can't enjoy them, and they have to go back to their previous lives, and they don't have a house, and they don't want old people here and there. Hey, it's all useless for my son!"

Seeing Shiyuan's self-blame, Yu Yue was too lazy to agree to him, and if he continued to talk about it, it would be time to quarrel. Thinking about this period of time, Shi Yuan always put the nameless fire on his head, and he was accused of looking down on rural people and his parents with a casual sentence, and then he blamed himself endlessly, saying that he couldn't give his parents a happy old age. Yu Yue ignored him, and kept sneering in his heart, he was really a resentful woman! A typical mentality is unbalanced, his parents are not old, only one year older than my father, my father is still going to work and getting off work every day, and the two of them have been eating, drinking, and having fun for several years, which is more nourishing than retired cadres. Lin Taida, the richest man in the city, started his business at the age of 50. Rural people are like this, when they come to the city, they always see the happy side of other people, and they immediately feel unbalanced, and feel that why do they have to work so hard for a lifetime. In fact, they will never see that the reason why the "city people" have their current life is not only the institutional reason, but also the result of their own efforts. Seeing that Shiyuan was entangled again, Yu Yue couldn't listen to it but was also depressed, and if she didn't listen to it, she would block her heart when she heard it, and her husband vented so much because he wanted to pull himself in for moral criticism. But Yu Yue thought it was very funny, the relationship between the daughter-in-law and her in-laws was just a social relationship, and it was good to respect each other, so where could they ask others with what obligations? Besides, their parents have been supported by their daughter-in-law and son together in the past few years, isn't it just for the sake of the mother-in-law to help watch the children for a while? The best way to be with people with radical ideas is to be silent, and don't be tempted to defend yourself, which will lower your IQ. If you can, it's best not to even give the other party a chance to speak, don't listen, and take the best policy. Whether it is a peacock woman and a phoenix man, or a golden phoenix and a milk treasure man, everything depends on your positioning of the past, and if you have to bring your growth environment to your current life, you are destined to not be able to establish a new marriage and family relationship of your own. The material environment of a person from an early age determines the mental pattern of his growing up, and the only active role is the level of education, including the humanistic environment of the school and the parenting habits of the family. Therefore, the high door is not necessarily full of gentleness, and the poor door may not be a noble son.

People like my mother are everywhere in society, and they are always grass on the wall, saying things on both sides. A woman's crying is sometimes not coquettish, but often sprinkled, forcing you to submit and asking you to surrender. The reason why Gongdou dramas became popular is very simple, in which you can understand people's hearts and human nature. Often all day long, those who cry and wipe tears have a hundred hearts, and those who are aggressive and self-righteous and seem to be strong are simple-minded masters.

Huang Zhiqiu praised Yu Yue after hearing about it, "Yo, yes, I know how to fight back." ”

"Where did you go? It's just a normal procedure, the issue of pension, sooner or later it has to be put on the table, where can it be so unclear that it will be with us for a lifetime, eating the food of the east and doing the work of the west family. How can I be oppressed by others for such a lifetime and dare not say, Shi Yuan is so uncomfortable that he always takes out his anger at me, I don't know how much I have endured for the inexplicable anger, why? It is his own parents, no matter how unreasonable he is, he can only endure it, hold it, but he is not convinced in his heart, he doesn't dare to go elsewhere to breathe, so he only dares to babble in front of me. I should take it for my own sake. ”

"You're really wonderful, the rural people I've seen don't like to come to the city to crowd with young people, they are willing to go back to the countryside to live comfortably, raise some poultry, grow some vegetables, make wine, how comfortable you are? Why do you want to come to the city to dislike people?"

"I wouldn't come to the city if I were a countryman, I like to live at ease. ”

"Me too, husband and wife are two people in the end, how can they be with their children for a lifetime, isn't this intervening in other people's lives?

"Insecure, my husband said. “

"I'm afraid that you won't let them know about something, and if you don't call them about the delicious food, they just want to control. “

"That's the substance. I'm afraid that there will be benefits and less of their share. Speaking of which, they see everything in their eyes at home, and nothing is indispensable for them. Actually, sometimes it's annoying, and I want to give my parents a little bit to be stared at. In their concept, I just take things out of my parents and stick them to my parents' house, and I don't want to think that it is my own share. “

"Countrymen are like this, isn't my ex-husband more typical? Treat my younger brother's son as his own son, and say that he has passed on the family to their family, I'm funny, you won't give birth to yourself? I go home a few more times, and he has an opinion, and says that I go back to my mother's house more than my mother-in-law's house, which is funny! My mother-in-law's house is more than an hour away, and he wants me to send a lot of things to them, and my mother's house is only ten minutes, and I can eat and drink for nothing when I go back, which home do you think I should go back to?"

"Okay, ex-husband and ex-husband, it's over. “

"So it's very painful to get along with a countryman, and besides, he doesn't love me, and he doesn't have me in his heart, and I can see it, so I'm still happy. “

"Then do I have me in my heart?"

"Yes, Ami and I can see it. Otherwise, he wouldn't put up with you like that. “

"Please, I'm putting up with him, putting up with his whole family, how wronged I am. “

"Yes, yes, even if there is love between you, you will tolerate each other, otherwise you will worship early. “

"I just hope that the old one will leave our lives quickly, it's too urgent! 44,000 yuan, hey, I don't have that diamond and that porcelain job, I'll make up for it, and a few bank cards are estimated to be almost the same. “

"Well, go ahead, I want you to be happy, too. When you're happy, I have the confidence to pursue the next happiness."

"Tell you that Huang Huasheng, an old classmate of the world, is good, you don't choose him, really, you have a good temper and character, you, honest people can't look down on it, if you have to find an oily tone, you have to be held, be careful not to look away. “

"Well, I've learned a lesson! But you're so inspirational, inspiring, and you've been complaining and complaining all over the place. “

"Please, I used to be very confused, and I needed to sort out my thoughts and figure out what kind of life I really wanted. You also know that I mean people who do more and do less, people, will be confused because they think more and do less, so they must have the ability to act, people will be afraid of this and that will not be productive, the focus is on 'doing'! As for the result, it is not up to us to decide, but at least we are willing to do it, let others know what you think, and they will not dare to be unscrupulous. “

"It makes sense, if you don't say it, people will pretend to be garlic, thinking that you are easy to talk, so naturally they don't take you seriously. “

"So it varies from person to person, not everyone understands 'respect', they will just think that you are casual, it doesn't matter, and the heart of inferiority will rise. “

"I don't understand, I don't understand, what is not inferior?"

"It's just that you're easy to talk to, so people naturally don't want to respect you. “

"Well, that's right. I used to take students in Shenzhen, my attitude is very good, I help others think about everything, but people don't take you seriously, my colleague doesn't pay attention to anything, only according to their own time, you love to come, you can't come to ask for leave, you find a way to adjust the time, as a result, people are stammering her, human nature is so strange. “

"Wow, deeply educated, I think that our background, neither the countryman has not seen the world, nor the big city is well-informed, sandwiched in the middle is not to understand the sinister situation of the world, you must be tactful and tactful, and can not act rashly, the big deal is not happy to come and go or something, there is no such atmosphere in the character, and the traffic is also troublesome. “

"It has something to do with money and ability, if your family has the original shares, you will move directly to the big city to live, and no matter what kind of people are warm and cold, if you have the ability, you will be able to earn money for the life you want sooner or later." Where do you need to rack your brains to find a way?"

"I think so too, what you said I didn't realize until I reached this age, and I understood why people always emphasized that I had a house and a car when I introduced my boyfriend before, and the family was not burdened, and I used to look down on other people's vulgarity, but now I know that realistic girls are more able to think and see the long term. The economy is a big problem, I never thought about it before, but now I know the importance of money. We just haven't suffered hardship, everything is taken for granted. If it weren't for that, we wouldn't have been chased by someone like Qian Shiyuan. “

"That's right, a turnip and a pit, if you let out the words at the beginning, ordinary men wouldn't dare to mess with them at all. “

"No wonder there are so many leftover women, it turns out that men don't dare to mess with them. “

"The leftover women are very principled, like we can't stand the rhetoric, and three or two sweet words are coaxed away. “

"Hmm, ah...... It's so stupid, now life is like being tied up. “

"Divorce also has the difficulty of divorce, a woman at this age is to choose for others, if your own ability is not strong enough. But I'm just very rich, and I don't want people to come up, isn't that just for the money?"

"Yes, if you are a little rich woman and have a lot of fresh meat, others will not introduce you to uncle. After Yu Yue finished speaking, he squeezed his eyebrows and smiled crookedly.

"It's really boring to be a man, when can I live for myself? Now I realize, in fact, men want to get married, they need a nanny, they need a mother, they can't do without women, why do we have to get married? I can do everything by myself, and I can have a baby by myself. Qiuqiu's face was indignant, Yu Yue agreed and patted her on the shoulder, "Maybe women feel weak by nature and need a big tree to lean on." “

"If only I had children, I really wouldn't want to get married. “

As she was talking, Yuan Meiren also walked in, "Yuan Meiren, don't go to work if you are so free today?"

"Well, yes, Qiuqiu, are there still egg tarts?"

"Well, take it yourself. The date is promising. ”

"What are you talking about. ”

"Say Qiuqiu still wants to get married. Yu Yue grinned evilly.

"Go...... Say you're driving your in-laws away like this!"

"Oh, is it going well? Your husband agreed, he won't get tangled, he won't get nervous and scold you. Meimei's face was excited.

"The nature of the country is easy to change, it should be tangled and tangled, it will be nerves or still, but I can't control so much, if they don't leave, I'll move out. I really don't want to live like this for the rest of my life, my determination and attitude have been shown, and Qian Shiyuan sees that I am determined and can't change it. He refuses to divorce, so he should live a good life with me. “

"Yes, how can there be such a stupid husband in the world, who should you live with for the rest of your life, is it with your wife, after the children are older and leave you, in the end there are still two husbands and wives left, and they will ruin their feelings for others, so I don't think about it. "Meimei dislikes it in every way. "And how is your mother-in-law?"

Yu Yue recounted what had happened, and the two girlfriends kept sighing and shaking their heads. "Who would dare to live with such a person? Always guard against her from crying, making trouble, and hanging herself, being controlled by her means that she will have no life of her own for the rest of her life, and she will not live. Meimei's face became more and more ugly, "My mother-in-law is the same, she is too controlling, she is open, she has to ask about everything, and we have to report it to him, and if she forgets to say anything for a while, she will spill it, lose her temper, and scold and throw things, which is too unreasonable." My husband also helps his mother with everything, and my sister-in-law also likes to interfere, and when the family is fine, it seems that they are happy, and everything is aimed at me. My parents are strong, and I am the most painful to be caught in the middle. ”

"Then you can also find a way to move out and live independently. ”

"Hmph, my husband is a milk baby, and he can't leave his mother until now, and he doesn't worry about anything, and his mother will let us move out? Don't even think about it, she would rather divorce her husband and wife than allow her son to leave her. Besides, my husband is different from yours, your husband is financially independent and doesn't need to be supported by his parents, and I have no financial ability at all, I play games at home every day, drive a car and wander around, but I don't look for a job, and finally go out to work, and his mother pulls him home again, saying that he is afraid that he will be wronged outside. As a family, the mother doesn't work and plays mahjong every day. My husband plays games every day, and the children are so young, I am alone to make money to support the family, and I also endure it, hoping that they will wake up and change, at least for the sake of the children, it will be like a family. If this continues, I guess I'm going to get a divorce too. “

"Hey, they're all stupid girls, thinking about life too simply. Yu Yue sighed, "The simpler the family, the better, how comfortable a family of three is." ”

"Yuan Meiren, what does your mother-in-law live on if she doesn't do things?"

"She has a way. “

"Is it not normal means?"

Yuan Meiren didn't speak, with a look of disdain. Looking at her expression, Qiuqiu is not good at asking questions, and the three of them know it in their hearts.

The friends pondered the "New Marriage Law" for a while, and it turned out that for married women, the property of the maiden family is a question of "whether you want it?" and the property of the in-laws is a question of "whether you want it or not".

"Hehe, my mother's family is home, and my mother-in-law's family is a relative. “

"Traditionally, women are more disadvantaged, and if they are too strong, they will be talked about." Meimei sighed, "I used to want to be two families together, and the house I just built was also built by the two families at their own expense, but now it's frozen there, hey, a bunch of troubles." “

"Don't listen to people say so much, others can't live your life, can't help you be happy, can't help you be happy, can't help you succeed. In short, it is right to take the initiative in your own hands. Yu Yue said to Yuan Meiren.

Ami sighed and didn't say anything, she was always so strong, she was afraid that others would see her emptiness.

Since I didn't want to talk any more, I had to talk about it here and go back to my own home. If a person is always complaining, he just wants to change the status quo but has no way, if he has fewer and fewer words, that is, there are more and more ways. Only those who truly understand the ugliness and filth of this world, are hit by reality, tortured by pain, covered in bruises and have nothing to hide, but never give up the pursuit of light, still smile and move forward firmly, are the real brave. Naïve idealists, even if they are persistent and tenacious, are still weak. They don't understand that there are many things in this world that you can not understand, but you have to accept.

As soon as Yu Yue turned around, she went back to her parents' house, it was really a good shade under the big tree. Preparing to confirm the receipt, "Why can't I find the order, it's strange, didn't you order and pay for the things and flew directly to your hand?" Yu Yue muttered to herself.

Yu Baoping asked his wife: "What did you buy online?", Liu Jingfang was inexplicable.

Yu Yue took a look, "Damn, when did the things I bought become Dad's order?"

"Even if you buy it with my ID, you don't even have to enter the password, right?" Yu Baoping had a question mark on his face.

The three of them stayed for a long time, and suddenly Yu Yue reacted, "Is your password ******?"

Yu Baoping was stunned, "Ah, yes!"

"Wow, it's really a father and daughter, and even the password can be set the same! If I knew this was the case, I just swiped it more!" Yu Yue beat his chest and sneered evilly.

On the Internet, the TV was full of news about Yao Beina, and the concept of breast cancer was remembered by countless people, and Yu Yue's already calm heart couldn't help but regain waves. Even worse than insomnia is a night of nightmares. You can pretend during the day, but at night, all your emotions come out in one go, Yu Yue thought she didn't take anything seriously, but the dream still betrayed her. In the dream, Yu Yue kept explaining all kinds of matters to her parents and husband, as if she was worried about all kinds of worries before she died, and all that appeared in her dreams was her son's lovely face, and she kept writing in her notebook in her dreams, constantly supplementing......

Yu Yue knows that the best way is to discuss calmly, just like any netizen, deliberate avoidance is counterproductive, it is better to face it. The next day, everyone changed the volume together, Lao Guo liked to listen to music while changing the volume, Yu Yue took the initiative to play Yao Beina's song, "What a perfect singing voice, even the song title is so appropriate." It's like discussing any celebrity in history, and no one cares. It was this small act that saved the fragile heart, and she slept well that night. Shi Yuan also deliberately avoided Yao Beina in those days, Yu Yue didn't say anything, and both of them knew it.

Whether a woman is elegant or not depends on the man around her. Shi Yuan is a person who can't control his temper very much, he gets angry at every turn, accuses and scolds, and has a violent temper, Yu Yue has also changed, becoming more and more irritable, living in a family, will be affected. The "Sutra of Amitayus" teaches people: "Be good at protecting your mouth and karma and not ridiculing him, be good at protecting your body karma without losing your discipline, and be good at protecting your intentions and be clean and unstained." "Never come out of our mouth, no matter how bad or evil it is. You scold him, and your heart is polluted. Buddha Yun: "Compassion is the mouth, the tongue is convenient, and the rich and the rich are virtuous." "The husband and wife speak ill of each other,-for-tat, and the biggest impact is the child. Children will act when they see the color, and when he grasps the shortcomings of his parents, he will deliberately provoke, to see how long the parents can endure it, when they will lose their temper, and the child is so happy to do it. Yu Yue was anxious in her eyes, how much she hoped to have a peaceful family. But the husband either doesn't care about the child, he beats the child, and when he beats his head and face, Yu Yue protested, of course he would protect the child, and Shiyuan scolded her for protecting her and spoiling the child. Yu Yue said righteously, "You beat people like this, and they have no dignity, won't you be depressed when you were beaten when you were a child?

"Won't you spank a child?"

"I will, but at least I won't slap my face, a few slaps on the ass to show punishment are enough, and the most important thing is to know how to love back. The purpose of education is not to make the child unable to raise his head, but to listen convincingly, even if he has a hard mouth, to leave him some dignity, not to be convinced, let alone to call for words. “

"You are very good, every time you are like an education expert, it seems that you only understand education, and you don't have much self-cultivation!"

"I'm not self-cultivated enough, that's why I met you! Now it's even more important to strengthen your cultivation. “

Shi Yuan was still scolding, Yu Yue took the child into the house, she didn't want to quarrel with Shi Yuan endlessly in front of the child, the impact on the child was too bad. A cold woman is not grounded and is always ill-fated. Outsiders always evaluate Yu Yue's calmness and calmness, but in fact, Yu Yue wants to say that they are all lonely flowers. Yu Yue's cold violence was also used on the child unconsciously, sometimes the child cried, Yu Yue either put him in the room and confined him, or he ignored it with a dark face, and the child could not defend his grievances. In the child's view, parents are the sky, and if you ignore him, the sky will fall. Real education starts with yourself, gentleness and patience are the best forces to educate children, "cold treatment" is never a good method, it will break children's hearts. Yu Yue has read a lot of articles on education, but to no avail, to educate children, you must first educate yourself, and start by strengthening your own self-cultivation. When her child is sick, she knows how worried she is, which is by no means understandable as a father.

A week has passed, and Rong Rong is still the same, constantly urinating frequently and urgently. The second time I went to the city, the doctor asked me to do a color ultrasound, but it was still no problem, and I prescribed some medicine as usual. Yu Baoping accompanied Yu Yue's mother and son to a hospital in the city, and when they went, they didn't buy a high-speed ticket for the whole journey, and the road was bumpy for more than two hours, the child was sick and crying and making trouble, Yu Yue was also motion sickness and vomited all the way, Yu Baoping finally put Rong Rong to sleep, and hugged all the way. When he returned, his son went to sleep as soon as he got in the car, and Yu Baoping carried him all the way home. When Yu Baoping arrived at the county seat, he didn't let Yu Yue ask her husband to come out to pick him up, "It's all in the county seat, don't bother people to pick it up, just take the bus back by yourself." Oh my God, what a kind person this is, a typical good Chinese man who was educated by Chairman Mao's "dedication" ideology?

Yu Yue said very seriously, "It's not that we trouble people to come out to pick it up, it's that people trouble you to be tired for him for a day!" Yu Yue did not hesitate to dial Shiyuan's phone.

Another week passed, the child is still the same, Yu Yue is anxious, I am really afraid that the child is three long and two short, she asked Dr. Qiu Zheming, a classmate of the Department of Nephrology, he asked the child's urine to do red blood cell analysis, and the malformation rate of mixed red blood cells is quite high, and the urine protein is no problem, the classmate comforted Yu Yue and said, "There are many diseases in this world that are not clear, the child should not be a big problem, amoxicillin can not be eaten again after two weeks, but you yourself, urine protein is weak and yang, blood sugar is also high, pay attention." Why don't you take a 24-hour urine test? Yu Yue was resigned, took the child home, and waited to be seen.

The two looked up a lot of information on the Internet, what glomerulonephritis, occult nephritis...... It's a grinding pain. Yu Yue went to the city as scheduled to do a 24-hour urine test, by the way with the child, the child lived in a hotel for the first time, and was well-behaved, Shiyuan also came in the afternoon, and was anxious to see Yu Yue's urine protein positive, I was afraid that it was nephritis trouble, after taking the child home, Yu Yue also went to the hospital after two days, and did a comprehensive examination. It's the children, or one after another, Yu Yue can only run to the city again in a hurry, and she is almost about to run to Guangzhou, Qiu Zheming also agrees with her idea, "It's okay to go outside to check." Not long after saying this, the child suddenly became normal this day, and there were no abnormal symptoms all day, Yu Yue's anxious heart slowed down again, and she took it home for a few days, and there was no abnormality, as if everything was so silent and normal. Everyone breathed a sigh of relief, this is good? Shiyuan and Yu Yuezhang were at a loss, they were really sick? The symptoms disappeared, the red blood cells were still there, and the two agreed that since it was not an urgent illness, they would simply take it to the pediatric department of the First Affiliated Hospital of Zhongshan in Guangzhou during the summer vacation.

After a long time, Yu Yue went for a retest, and the urine protein result was normal, which is an old blood sugar problem, and her blood sugar was high in her thirties, which is really abnormal. The health is not good, and everything comes one after another. The father-in-law reluctantly moved to Shi Zhai. Yu Yue deeply tidied up the house, rural people are not good at emptying and storage, everything is wrapped in a plastic bag, and when it is stuffed into a corner, it will be forgotten after a long time, and the things will rot inside. After cleaning up for many days, the balcony is like a balcony, and occasionally you can stand there and blow the wind, and there are fewer people, and the things in the house will not be cluttered. Yu Yue will not continue to spoil her husband, she is measured in this regard, and she will not spoil her son too much, let alone her husband. Qian Shiyuan's habit of kicking shoes and throwing socks was forced to change, because he didn't put the socks in the pool, Yu Yue resolutely refused to wash him, until he didn't have a pair of socks in a hurry, Shiyuan had to surrender, and he searched all over the house for smelly socks, and then obediently put them by the pool.

Yu Yue is very principled, "I'm not your nanny, I'll help you wash your clothes, but you should at least give some respect, don't let me look for stinky socks all over the world." ”

Putting shoes indiscriminately always makes Rong Rong wrestle, and Yu Yue's way to rectify him is very simple, "If you don't put it away, throw it away."

Qian Shiyuan disagreed, "Throw it away, I've bought it!"

"As long as you don't put it down, I will throw a pair when I see it, I won't feel sorry for the money, anyway, you have bought it yourself, and you will buy it until your hands are sore. Shi Yuan was so shocked that his tongue stretched out, he knew Yu Yue's temper, he could say it and do it!

After a while, Shi Yuan gradually understood the rules, and sometimes knew how to help Yu Yue do some chores. People build a sense of family responsibility through labor. Don't know the difficulties of women so much, how can you be considerate for no reason? Men, you need women to teach him how to love. With love comes responsibility!

From childhood to adulthood, the most common sentence that Dad Yu Yue and Yu Cheng said in front of him was: You two have to be sensible, your mother is too hard...... (After that, I began to count the number of family treasures) mother is the same, every time it is: "Your father is too hard, you have to be sensible......" In the past, the children were still young and felt very verbose, but now I know that the feelings of knowing how to think about each other and love each other are called love.