Liu Jingfang and the three of them arrived at the first hospital in the city, and after getting out of the car, they dragged her armpits all the way in because of Cheng's hands. As soon as the hospital saw her like this, it opened a hospitalization order without saying a word, and the result of the MRI examination was: slippage. Much more serious than a herniated disc in the eye. Listening to Liu Jingfang's description of the feeling she is now feeling edema in her legs, the doctor explained, "Why do you have such a feeling, it means that the nerves have been seriously damaged, and you will be paralyzed if you are late, and you need to operate immediately, and it is urgent." You have problems with both bones, and you can't do it minimally invasively, so you can only have traditional surgery. ”

The three of them looked lonely, and Liu Jingfang regretted her hesitation and procrastination at the beginning, and complained again and again. When you get to the hospital, you can really rest assured, at least it won't hurt after the operation. Yu Yue was also filial piety at that time, because last time her mother had gallstones in the provincial capital for surgery, she didn't go, but this time she was basically in place every day except for classes. If you can't accompany you at night, you can only go during the day. After sending the child to study in the morning, he went directly to the bus station, parked his motorcycle and bought a ticket directly to get on the bus, and went to the city for more than an hour, sometimes he bought fish at home, sometimes he was a pigeon and a hen, and sometimes he went directly to the market next door to the hospital to buy it, and went back to the hospital to stew. I can only accompany him for a few hours, so I have to take a car back at three o'clock, and when I get to the county bus station, I drive the motorcycle back to pick up my son, which is really efficient. Don't look at the complaints in the parents' mouths, I feel sorry for Yu Yue who runs too both sides, but my heart is definitely warm.

Yu Yue, who ran in two cities, sometimes came home tired, Shi Yuan didn't ask a word, didn't ask his wife, didn't ask his mother-in-law, he was reluctant to open the door, I don't know if he was gloating or falling into a well? Yu Yue had no choice but to drag the child to get up and study, Yu Yue didn't want to run to the city that day, but was stimulated by Shiyuan's behavior and sent the child to study and went directly to the bus. "Anyway, we're all up, so I might as well go to see my mother. "Yu Yue is such a pragmatic person, she is too a failure to be a woman, and she is not good at pretending to be spoiled. is also when he meets a strange husband, his thoughts are too selfish, he thinks he is a son-in-law when there is a benefit, and he thinks he is just a son-in-law when there is something.

If a person is sick, everything will be empty, just thinking about being happy, and even being able to stand and sit is precious, and then I understand that ordinary life is actually the most beautiful. This time, Yu Yue's thinking has also undergone some subtle changes due to her mother's illness, she always felt that men and women are the same, and even felt that her daughter's intimacy seemed to be better for her mother. But this time Yu Cheng's existence really feels like a pillar. Yu Yue realized how powerful he was to have a son, don't look at him relying on you now, he will be a towering tree when he grows up. All parents should have a son and a woman to be complete!

On the day of the operation, the two uncles and an old girlfriend of my mother who worked in the city were present. From 10 a.m. to 4.30 p.m., everyone waited exhausted, everything went well, the remnants were removed, steel nails were put up on the spine, and the rest was left to time to recover. During the time when he was hospitalized in the county, Shi Yuan came more frequently, and in the days when he was operated on in the city, Shi Yuan came twice, "He is really busy, and he can come to see it is all squeezed out of time, so there is no way to accompany him." Yu Yue helped explain that she had something to say. However, she also understands that in addition to the lack of time, there are also ideological problems at work, and the rural people are very clearly divided between inside and outside, if it weren't for Yu Yue being from the city, Shiyuan might have solved the problem with a red envelope.

Liu Jingfang has been living a life of recuperation in remorse, always nagging and saying "I knew it early and knew ...... early", she always felt embarrassed to delay her son's marriage, it was difficult for an elderly woman to look away, and relatives could only persuade her, and there was no other way, and the ideological problem could only be brought out by herself. Yu Yue came to accompany her when she was fine, her mother had too many negative emotions, and it seemed that she had said all the problems in her heart at one time, women, they have accumulated accumulated complaints, and the people who complain the most are often the closest people, and the husband naturally bears the brunt. Yu Baoping is also limited in patience, he himself is a person who is used to saving, plus he doesn't like the appearance of soldiers in everything, and he doesn't know how to work nutrition conditioning, so he is always disgusted by his wife, and he will be angry if he dislikes more, and his relatives come to reconcile and it is one-sided, only blindly facing Yu Baoping, Yu Baoping is already thin, and he can't withstand the persuasion of Liu Jingfang's family, and he rebels, and the resistance is twisted as soon as he comes up.

Yu Yue asked Yu Baoping to take Rong Rong to the mall. Here is how to teach mothers how to look at things from a different perspective. "Dad, you don't understand him, you're used to it all your life, and he doesn't care about anything, and he doesn't care about you, and he doesn't care about himself. He doesn't have a good body like you, he doesn't take medicine when his blood sugar and blood lipids are high, he doesn't take a CT scan when he breaks his arm last time, he doesn't take a cold and cough seriously, he has been holding on to everything, what good has he eaten and drunk? When have you ever seen him go out for a bowl of dim sum? Invite him out to eat a steak and scold us for a long time, he has the highest salary, and he is also the most economical, he saves not money, but cherishes things, and wants to live a regular life...... He sometimes can't get used to the way everyone fuss about everything, plus people are a little sensitive when they are old, watching your relatives go in and out, afraid that no one will go before what they do in the future, he is too worried, relatives come at most to see you, persuade you two sentences, only husband and wife are really with a lifetime, and the presence of children is to help assist. ”

"I know yes, but that old guy is too calm, I have such a big operation, do I have any humanity?

"Mom, you really want to open it. Birth, old age, sickness and death are normal, but the Chinese pay attention to taboo things, unlucky things do not like to say, but it does not mean that it will not happen, if you are sick, you will be sick, people will be sick when they are old, and if you are sick, you will always scold your father like this, it will only make him more afraid to get close to you, and in the end you will suffer a loss. ”

"How were you at the time? If your mother's family hadn't come forward when you were sick, you Shiyuan would have gone to Guangzhou with you?"

"It's not like the situation, Shiyuan was instigated by his family, and I was sick and angry with me, but I guess that as long as I decide to go to Guangzhou, he will eventually accompany me. My dad is different from Shiyuan, you have so many relatives, if you say a word to me, my dad will have a sense of oppression, and besides, good intentions do not necessarily do good things, and some of them are afraid that the world will not grow old chaotically, so they will do their best to help. You husband and wife, we know best how to be a child, you are not so aggrieved, you are so resentful, and you are aggressive and refuse to stop, so you have to bow your head. My dad is not as powerful as your mouth, you can only bear to be scolded by you, and you can only let go if you can't stand it, you are not boring yourself. My dad is good enough, he doesn't smoke, he doesn't drink, he doesn't hook up with women, he doesn't flatter, he never spends money indiscriminately, he loves his children and cherishes his family, and he is tolerant enough for you. He was brought up by his mother since he was a child, and it is normal that he does not know how to be gentle and considerate, every time you speak sarcastically and mean with a demeaning tone, he will become tough when he is willing to listen. ”

"The older he gets, the more perverted he becomes, the more he says something, the more he does it with you, he can't listen to anything, he does things and talks dirty and stupid, he lacks roots and tendons, and he is hopeless. ”

"Straight male cancer, what's the solution? I'm not the same? I don't have any scheming on my lips. People are black-bellied and sweet-mouthed, the two of them are good-hearted and evil-mouthed, disliked by others, and easy to offend people, so their careers are not smooth. I now understand a truth, don't take his affairs and mistakes on yourself one by one, which will be full of guilt, harsh on yourself and mean to the other party, make yourself unhappy and disgusted by your husband. I'm like this now, he's him, I'm me, and if he does something wrong, remind him, without emotion. Don't take his fault for yourself, and you won't be so uneasy. ”

"Where can my generation do it? Everything is one, on one front. ”

"I don't know how to say it, it's actually impossible to talk about husband and wife, you see, in the past two years, I have changed the principal, I have worked hard to carry out curriculum reform, I am very positive, I have won a lot of honors, classes are held all over the country, but some people say that his honor is related to me? Is it possible to write my name on his honor? So his is still his. The child will naturally have his share if he is well bred, but if the child is not brought well, then it must be my responsibility. The Chinese are so unfair, they treat women so harshly, you see Shi Zhai and his wife, no matter how strong he is, he still has to sacrifice himself at the critical moment. A while ago, she was pregnant, I was happy, just waiting for her to give birth, so my mother would go to help her take people, but I didn't expect the two of them to run and take it off, saying that they did B ultrasound, showing that it was a daughter again, hey, it was already a long-term Chinese medicine to be pregnant again, and some waited. ”

"Hey, these countrymen can really do it! How can they do this?"

"The family style, the village style, the national style. ”

"People have come to the city, and the concept is still so old-fashioned, and don't expect to have boys and work hard to farm. ”

"People think it's a handle, it can be passed on to the next generation, and more importantly, it is to raise children to prevent old age. ”

"Should you fight for your own strength first and count on your children to provide for you? Is it interesting to be a burden on others?"

"They don't think it's right, they think it's right, well, I've been tired for half my life to feed you, and now you have to support me in turn. Sounds morally and humanly perfect. ”

"It was the old society, at that time everyone was not guaranteed, the daughter had to marry out to the man's family to support the elderly, and the parents didn't expect their son and daughter-in-law to count on anyone? Saying that, Liu Jingfang was a little emotional.

"That's you! You see when my father-in-law was sick, my mother-in-law was willing to accompany her, so she said that it was her son's business, and finally went to the hospital for two or three afternoons and shouted that she was tired. I, Shiyuan, was really tired and didn't dare to scream in front of his parents, so I would only complain to me. ”

"That's why you're so patriarchal!"

"Rural people, deep-rooted concepts are difficult to change, and he is a rectum, so he can say whatever he wants. Some people are more shrewd, they obviously care about it in their hearts, and they have to say that they would rather have a daughter. Some things are predestined from the beginning, what's the use of tangling up. He's just stupid, he keeps getting angry with me, and he hasn't been born yet, he's too tired to live. I'm a good learner now, as long as he is entangled in something, I will dodge, and even if he is just to comfort him, he will immediately become his punching bag, and he is very cheap, his emotional intelligence is too low, and he doesn't understand people's care. ”

"I can also see that he is too fine, everything has to go through his mouth on the front and back, and then it has nothing to do with him if something goes wrong, anyway, he says everything first. ”

"Don't talk about him, he's like this, success has a mouth, and defeat has a mouth. But you don't have to worry about it yourself, what nails are made domestic and not imported, and what dad decided without consulting you...... It's all over, no matter what you think, the nails are in your body, Dad is such a person, he just thinks that those who use imported nails are too pretentious, and then the ability to deal with problems is poor, and he doesn't tell you in advance, resulting in him being very passive now, do you think he won't be uncomfortable, he will add a sentence after what he does now, 'go ask her yourself, save me from waiting and blame me', which means that he has already known that he is wrong, you hold on to it again, except for hurting feelings, nothing will help? If you change your mentality, it is good for the body, I also use domestic drugs during chemotherapy, the doctor said, the effect is about the same, domestic drugs are a little more responsive, I don't think so, I see that most of the good hospitals in Guangzhou still use domestic drugs for chemotherapy, look at the opening point. ”

"Yes, I also learned to see it, but I was unwilling in my heart, I was tired for half my life to fight for his family, and in the end, I was sick and I was not even willing to use better equipment, so I didn't take it seriously. ”

"There's no way, he's a person with such a character, it's like this when you marry him, stupid and not modest. ”

"I'm still very ignorant! You see I've been back for so long, it's all you who buy chickens and pigeon supplements for me to eat, and what good ones he buys are a few catties of ribs and a rabbit. He is embarrassed to be a husband, and he cooks what you bring for the whole family to eat, so how can he be worthy of you? He doesn't stew what you give your mother. A patient is a patient, and of course it should be treated differently. Besides, what qualifications does he have to make his own decisions? My daughter didn't eat it herself, nor did she eat the banyan banyan. He just loves his daughter-in-law, and there is nothing wrong with loving his daughter-in-law, but can't he be normal? Now it's your wife who is even more miserable, how do you do your daughter-in-law in your eyes, he just doesn't give me a long face. ”

"Also, I also have an opinion about him doing this, if you want to love your daughter-in-law, you can buy it separately, and what I bring should be given to my mother, this rational daughter-in-law will not be jealous at all, the key is that he has a problem with his own thoughts. I've told him several times, but he doesn't take it seriously, hey, it's a pity that I don't have my own house, so I can't always pick you up for dinner, and my mother is there. ”

"I also support you to buy a house, women really have to have some of their own protection, when I get better, Yu Cheng's marriage will be done with you, and then wait." ”

"Well, this is the 'national policy'!" Yu Yue gritted her teeth. "Also, you, you have to reflect on yourself first, you never take yourself seriously, you carry everything by yourself, a strong woman, then don't blame others for not taking you seriously, you have to take yourself seriously first, so that others can care more about you. Where is the pain to tell someone, have a better attitude, don't always give orders, when you are weak, you are weak, you should be real, don't always think that you are strong, you can bear anything, you don't call him, he doesn't feel needed, of course he has no sense of responsibility. ”

"Why don't you call? If you call it, it will be useful! His mentality is simply so good, I am lying in bed, he is still in the mood to shop online. As soon as I lay down for two minutes, I fell asleep, and I was so angry that I was half dead to the side, this person really had a thousand years of life. ”

"That's his merit, why don't you learn it, I'm almost like this now, I really want to can't sleep, and I can't sleep because I drink too much tea, or accidentally go online for too long and sleep too much. ”

"You are more like your father's character, you are more fritter in everything, slow and reasonable, I am a more anxious person, I can't sleep when something happens, I think about it day and night. ”

"Your brothers and sisters all have the same personality. ”

"yes, that's not good. ”

"If you don't know it's good, you won't change it?"

"There's no way to change it, it's been like this for the rest of my life. ”

"That's because I don't want to change it, and I indulge my bad temper. If you feel that you can't change your personality, change your temper and mentality. As long as you think subjectively, there must be changes. ”

"Eh, I'm going to change the way I get along, or I'm not going to be killed by this guy who has a cowhide personality for everything. ”

"My dad has a really good personality, he just doesn't rush with others, lives in his own world, when do you see him empty? He has been very studious all his life, he doesn't accept the old, the Internet, smart phones and whatever? Completely in line with the world! Which is like you, now an aunt complains about the woman, you have time to complain It's better to have some fun for yourself, you don't always stare at people when you have something to do, you always observe him, you hate this and that, in the end it's a quarrel, everyone is unhappy. Besides, can you stand the observation of you like this? No one can stand up to scrutiny!"

"I can't walk a few steps now. ”

"Hey, yes, if you can't get out, you'll be stuffy in your heart. You have to encourage yourself more, these are temporary, the problem of bones needs time to be solved, and slowly it will get better. If you change your attitude, my dad will be more willing to talk to you, and then you won't be depressed. I'll remind him more. ”

Liu Jingfang glanced at her daughter, "You just said no." ”

"I'm saying all this in vain, just to ask me to do my father's ideological work? This is really not the point, you can't control what others think and do, I say so much just to let you understand that learning to regulate yourself is the most important thing. It's not a way for you to stay at home every day and look at this and that, now you are looking at your father if it is not pleasing to your eyes, and you will also look at your daughter-in-law in the future?"

"Wow, wow, wow, I'll adjust. Why are you so verbose now? Liu Jingfang waved her hand impatiently, "Go back, your tone is too annoying, like an old aunt." ”

Yu Yue half-jokingly said, "Hehe, occupational disease." ”

Yu Yue's mother's illness reminded Yu Yue of the time when she was seriously ill and sought medical treatment, and everyone can be calm when she is out of the situation. Where does human nature come from? It is formed by the accumulation of frequent mental activity. What kind of person we want to cultivate ourselves, we have to work in what direction, every kind of psychological force comes from our own cultivation, life is the accumulation of habits, our greed and hatred have formed a huge inertia since the beginning, and it is this habit that has caused our existing human nature. The continuation of life is only the continuation of dependent arising. So, because of the hard work, the fruit is fate!

Rong Rong and her grandfather read books in the mall for an afternoon. When I got home, Yu Yue was very surprised that the little guy wouldn't go to the playground noisily, it was next to the bookstore, and the child replied: "Because grandpa doesn't have a card."

"Then why didn't you play the game?"

"Because grandpa doesn't have game currency."

"How do you know he doesn't, ask?"

The child shook his head, "I didn't ask."

After a while, the child asked, "Why didn't Grandpa buy me a dinosaur book?"

"Because you didn't want it. ”

"But I like it very much."

"Liking and wanting are two different things, son!"

The relationship between husband and wife is tense, and children are the clearest, and adults often think that it will be okay to quarrel behind closed doors, but they don't know that children are the crystallization of two people, and many things are self-evident. Yu Yue obviously felt that the child's mood swings were directly related to the atmosphere between the two adults, when he was younger, he protested by yelling, and when he was five or six years old, he was directly silent, and when he couldn't help it, he could still say very calmly, "Don't make noise!" This is simply an unusual sense of maturity. The child is old and peaceful, and the two of them are just a battle of will, which has stopped for a long time, and more importantly, Yu Yue really gave up the plan to win her husband and buy a house directly together. Liu Jingfang's incident temporarily disrupted this plan, and because of this, many things have eased up. Yu Yue has a sum of money from Yuan Meiren, and when she got on the P2P job, she was wasted, Yu Baoping had a sum of money to do trust with her cousin and was forced to postpone it for half a year, Liu Jingfang was sick at this time, she put everything down, and put her treatment and recuperation first, and no one would question Yu Yue and her parents' ability to buy a house. Qian Shiyuan has been exploring the bottom, he has no clue about the economic situation of his father-in-law's family, and always sneered, "The ghost believes that your parents will buy a house for their daughter, and there is no such stupid person who gives money to someone with a foreign surname." Your parents even have to fold up cardboard boxes to collect waste, and you want them to come up with hundreds of thousands of dollars to buy you a house?

Yu Yue knew that it was his deep-rooted concept of men and women who was doing the trick, so he didn't bother to explain. He is really a big talker, Yu Yue complained to him before, "The child is always annoyed by grandparents, and she has to interject when the child chats with me, and she has to pretend to understand if she can't understand Mandarin, she can't communicate at all, and she doesn't know how to be interested, so she has to make the child angry, it's useless to scold, this child doesn't know how to hide it, everything is shown on the bright side." Grandparents and grandchildren have no fate, and the old ones don't like to listen to what children say, and they usually don't care about their children's hearts and lives, so that they don't understand what their children are saying and doing? Why do they do this? When they are idle and have nothing to do, they hold on to their children, chatter, and force their children to do this and that, how can children not be annoyed? The reason why children are angry is understood by the family, but children can't pretend, and in the eyes of outsiders, they are uneducated.

Shi Yuan actually said indifferently, "Don't make a fuss, let it be, if it's big, it won't, it's my Qian family's people who will put the interests of the Qian family first, and they will know how to love my Qian family, and my Qian family is their own people." ”

Yu Yue was speechless in surprise, I really don't understand where his theory of sitting back and enjoying his success comes from? There is only a little truth in the world, either you have to be popular, or you have to pay... Otherwise, why should he love you unconditionally? Isn't Qian Shiyuan so calm because he confidently believes that the traditional concept will continue, but unfortunately this is just the dregs of tradition, and this theory of sitting back and enjoying it must be the source of many people's laziness.

Qian Shiyuan knew the economic income of his parents-in-law's family, and the income of Yu Baoping and his wife was considered to be at the middle and upper level of wages in a small county, and he also built a small factory more than ten years ago, so he must have some savings. It's just that because of his strong concept of men and women in the countryside, coupled with his disdain for his parents-in-law's thrift, he believes in his heart that Yu Yue is just using his parents' name to pressure himself and force himself to pay for a house, the more he thinks about it, the more calm he becomes, the more he feels that Yu Yue can't do without him, and the more sure he is that his wife is obedient.

Yu Yue played a trick. "I don't have the time to talk to you too much now, my mother's pre-processing, next Yu Cheng is going to get married, this matter has to be done properly, after that, it's summer vacation, I still have to go to Guangzhou, I don't have to discuss when I come back, I have to buy it before September 1st, I don't ask you to pay, you love to buy it or not, I must buy it, and I will definitely move out when the time comes, you don't want to follow, I can't afford to support you." ”

Qian Shiyuan glanced at him with disdain, "Whatever you want, you can do it!"

Yu Yue was rushed by these words, and her heart couldn't slow down for a long time, and she secretly vowed to do what she said and not be looked down upon.

Unclear boundaries are the biggest problem in relationships, and it is difficult to change concepts in the face of social development. Marriage is the new establishment of a family, and both parties must abandon many habits from the original family to adapt to each other, and then form a new atmosphere of their own family, rather than the so-called "marrying" into the man's family and becoming a part.

The original family is a process of slow separation, in this process, the two generations should be financially independent of each other, no one depends on anyone, unless in a special period of need for help, the so-called distance produces beauty, don't wait until the time of the trouble and then helplessly say goodbye, at that time, the distance is not beautiful, the distance is the distance.

A lot of truths are not that this generation does not understand, but that the previous generation cannot accept them. In this world, all love comes from being together, but only mother's love is for separation. Yu Yue sometimes thinks that she will also be someone else's mother-in-law, and she will also be someone else's grandmother, if she is lucky enough to wait until the day Rong Rong gets married, she will definitely take her daughter-in-law's hand and say to her son: "Son, the most important woman in your life has appeared." People have four thresholds, birth, old age, sickness and death, your mother gave you life and grew up with you, but your wife will give you love and life, your mother will accompany you on the first journey, and the two of you will go through the next three journeys together, hope to cherish. "After that, I will surely stay away from them in life.

The vast majority of people like to be with their peers, children are no exception, adults are no exception, in fact, the elderly are the same, and there is a spiritual world that cannot be replaced in the same age circle. Family is marriage, that is, you and him, and the children who joined later, when the child becomes an adult, he will also have his family, and there will be new thinking injected, so that the family style will not decay, in order to maintain the vitality of growth.

During Liu Jingfang's operation, Rong Rong's frequent urination was committed again, and Yu Yue and his wife suddenly calmed down this time, seeing that the child really didn't look like it would hurt to pee, so both of them were thinking about how to deal with it. The child's grandmother was so nervous that she was lying on the hospital bed and urging Yu Yue and his wife to take the child to see, "The second time the same situation happened, it's spring again, you can't be careless, there must be some reason." “

I took the child to do a series of urine tests again, and it was still the same, there were too many red blood cells, this is an old problem, but it has been normal for a year? Why did I do it again at the same time as last year? Both husband and wife seriously suspected that it was nervous frequent urination. In spring, when everything grows, will some organs be more sensitive? Maybe it is some reflection of the process of growth and development?

Yu Yue tried to give psychological counseling to the child, using large and small cups to pour water to explain the growth of the bladder and the problems of cranial nerves. Taking out two cups, one large and one small, Yu Yue first filled the small cup with water and said to the child, "Well, Rong Rong, this is the organ you used to pee last year, and when it is full, you will want to pee." “

Then Yu Yue poured the water into the big cup, obviously only half of it, Yu Yue took this half of the glass of water and said to the child, "Rong Rong, look, this is the organ you used to pee this year, it has grown up, but your little head has not yet been matched, so you can obviously fill half more urine, but you only half of it is loaded and want to pull, or the feeling of last year, you don't know that you have grown up." Now you have to keep up with your little head. ”

Unexpectedly, this child has a good understanding and early wisdom, and he actually understands it, and immediately understands how to adjust it, and returns to normal after two or three days! This time she was deeply inspired, most of the child's behavior is caused by physiology, and if it is not adjusted and guided, it may really become a heart disease. It's not easy to be a mother, and she wears many hats.

It's been two or three months since the time slowed down, Liu Jingfang's psychological state is still good and bad, and elderly women are like this, once they lose their jobs and entertainment, they are easy to get out of small circles, and the horns are quite energetic. I think Liu Jingfang was the second-in-command of the unit back then, and she made reports on the inspection work under the leadership of the superiors, and she often played mahjong, danced, walked, and lived all kinds of entertainment when she retired, and now this disease, the state is far worse, and her hair is a lot grayer, she looks like an old woman, she loved beauty so much before, and she was dressed up with black hair, coupled with the professional temperament of working in the unit, going out in her 50s is not like that at all, and those who don't understand think that Yu Yue is her sister. It's really not an overnight thing to change your mentality, Liu Jingfang is a person with a heavy heart, it is really tricky to enlighten her, Yu Yue can only accompany her to talk more and listen more, there is no other way.

At the beginning of April, the school arranged information technology training, and Yu Yue, who had long been detached, was called by Qian Shiyuan, Yu Yue was inexplicable, "Why did you arrange it?"

"Eh, you really don't know the hearts of good people, I finally helped you fight for the opportunity to go to training, those people in the school don't blush every year for those days of going out, you still don't care? Some people arrange for themselves to go there several times a year, running around, but not giving a chance to anyone else, it's too selfish! How many years have you not been out of tolerance? Give you a chance to study, and you won't be disappointed all day long. ”

"When did I lose my heart with the literati?" Yu Yue was already overjoyed when he heard this, this Qian Shiyuan, when he was external, he knew that he had to protect his wife, and internally, he was a class enemy. "I don't care! It's not a problem for me to think about business trips all day long, right?"

"Go ahead, it's only been three days this time. ”

"Well, then you have to take care of the children. ”

"You have to let it go, my mother will also take it with you when you are away. ”

Yu Yue glanced at him, "Don't be lazy and don't take the child to sleep, and be taken away by your mother." ”

"Okay, don't worry. ”

The three days of training passed quickly, and on the last day, Shiyuan called, and the child had a fever. Yu Yue immediately didn't have the heart to listen to the class, thinking about going home quickly after lunch.

As soon as I got home, my mother was relieved. Yu Yue touched the child's head, fortunately it didn't look like a high fever, so she was afraid that it would get high for a while. When the child saw that his mother was back, he obediently snuggled and did not speak, and the mother was chattering and busy clearing up the relationship, she was a person who had no silver three hundred taels here. Yu Yue was too lazy to respond, so she hugged the child and spoke. Seeing that Yu Yue didn't mean to blame her, Li Yonglan suddenly changed her words and said that Wang Fang asked her to help take care of the children, and then said that she really couldn't help it, there were grandsons on both sides, and she couldn't be kind to one over the other. Yu Yue didn't have a sentence of "uh-huh", and guessed the general idea of what she was going to say, and sure enough, she finally said: "Do you think I should go up?"

Yu Yue was stunned for a moment, "You decide for yourself, I can't force you to stay, and it's not good to drive you away." Stay or go, you can watch it."

Yu Yue thought that what she said had been said seamlessly, and she must not be able to grasp the handle. I also knew that she would definitely preset the following when she asked this, but I couldn't guess what she was going to do for a while. It was cold for a while, the two of them had nothing to say, it was raining at this time, she said, "It's so cold", and immediately went into the room to sleep, leaving Yu Yue alone to take care of the child inexplicably.

Early the next morning, as soon as I opened my eyes, I saw Shi Yuan walking in with a displeased face and all kinds of accusations, "You don't understand how painful it is for the mother of several children, you have to take care of this and not offend that, you don't know how to be considerate of the elderly, people have to deal with a balanced relationship! ”

Yu Yue didn't even bother to explain and argue, how qualified is a person who is willing to sleep with his son once in half a year (unless he is sick) to teach others? But he immediately understood that it must be his mother who is doing it behind her back. Yu Yue didn't respond positively to Qian Shiyuan's words, she asked her mother-in-law who walked by the door, "What did you say about me in front of Shiyuan? I didn't stop you, if you want to go up, go up." ”

The mother-in-law didn't respond, but the result was good, and she ran to her son and cried, "What are you scolding her for, she didn't tell me not to go up, she never asks for help, tell me to go up if I don't want to stay here!"

Shi Yuan got angry, and regardless of the innocent and pitiful eyes of the sick Rong Rong, he walked into the room and pointed at Yu Yue, "If you want to go, you can go, what qualifications do you have to drive my mother away, this is my mother's house!

"Okay, don't worry, I'll definitely do it!" Yu Yue hated itchy, and it was not appropriate to entangle it in the child's face, so she endured it. I finally know how terrible it is to "take things out of context" and what it is like to "sow discord".

No matter how loud the two of them quarrel, the child can't be ignored, if it is changed, Yu Yue will definitely break things out, or ignore Qian Shiyuan for three or five days, but now Yu Yue has no time to be angry, and his heart has become bigger when he has a child. She hurriedly comforted Rong Rong for a while, dressed the child, and hugged Qian Shiyuan with her. Sitting on the motorcycle, Qian Shiyuan's anger disappeared for the most part, and he asked calmly, "Did you really say that?"

"What do you think?"

Shi Yuan was speechless.

"Every time your mother is kind? Every time you go on a business trip, it stands to reason that mother-in-law doesn't dare to leave her daughter-in-law alone to take care of the baby at such a time. This time I was on a business trip, so she helped you take care of the children, and she was going to leave as soon as I came back, when Rong Rong had a fever and needed more people? You went to school again, and it stands to reason that she should wait for you to come back before leaving. As a result, she proposed to leave, and I didn't take it seriously, anyway, I've long been used to taking a baby alone, usually only adding to the chaos, and I can't count on it at the critical moment, so I thought it was a big deal to call you and go home early. So I said, 'You can go up if you want, I won't force you to stay', and when it came to her mouth, I drove her away, maybe she thought that this was what I meant, but she didn't go or help me bring people, and ran to sleep by herself. Don't you know how your mother is alone? ”

Shi Yuan was silent for a moment, "It's not easy for my mother, and the two sons are afraid of offending one and ignore her in the future." My mom is like that, tell her 10,000 times that you can do whatever you want, don't keep asking people, she just doesn't listen to me, what's the way?"

In fact, it is a manifestation of irresponsibility. She didn't want to go at all yesterday, so she threw out the question and hoped that I would keep her, in case Wang Fang blamed me directly in the future, but I didn't keep her, and she was depressed. But she also knows that I don't have contact with Wang Fang, even if she tells Wang Fang now that I left her to take care of Rong Rong last night, the other party will believe it, she is such a person who tries to block all her hearts and eyes, and she is all-encompassing and impenetrable. I'm most afraid of loving "flower tongues" to create trouble, and I like to pretend to be pitiful people if I'm unreasonable. ”

"Okay, don't say it, she's my mom anyway, it's too ugly for you to say that about my mom. ”

Yu Yue shut up immediately, she didn't want to quarrel in front of the child.

When I get home, my mother is like nothing, how should I talk to you, and my psychological quality is really powerful. She understood that only in this way could she prevent Yu Yue from investigating this matter, after all, she caused her son to quarrel with her daughter-in-law. How could Yu Yue not know, even if she knew that she was pretending to be generous, she had to acquiesce. She is not a pestering character, as for "good communication" and "deep communication" with her mother, she is a person with no sincerity.

Yu Yue doesn't like to talk in this family, lest any sentence be interpreted into other meanings and take it out to make a fuss. The mother still has to ask every day, what to cook, how to cook, Yu Yue said, "You are cost-effective." "When a person is sentenced to death for a relationship, then it is useless for the other person to please him. She always has something to say to Yu Yue, whether Yu Yue is in the study or bedroom, she actually wants to see what her daughter-in-law is doing alone in the room. When she is bored, she can talk to herself in the kitchen by herself, and even direct and act by herself, the movement is very big, startled, babbling, she wants to attract Yu Yue's attention. Yu Yue was very annoyed by her, as long as the weather was good, she would go out and walk around. At the dinner table, Yu Yue chatted with Shi Yuan, her mother was not interested, and she always interjected, Yu Yue immediately shut up, and Shi Yuan refused to speak until the back, so the situation became, two young people looked at their mobile phones, and an old man chirped crookedly all kinds of speeches.

This year, it was the turn of the two elders here in Shiyuan, Yu Yue was helpless about the established reality, and after a while, his father-in-law was called to help, and the children needed to be picked up and dropped off more times in elementary school, so they remembered that there were still old people who could be used. The mother who lives in Lido still has to die Zhai there for two or three days a week to take care of her granddaughter, the so-called rural people are patriarchal This kind of thing has never been just a concept, the old man who has no money, what to use to favor sons?

Since Shi Zhai needs the help of the old man so much, it is better to simply help wholeheartedly, but in fact they will not do this, at least they have to come to Shiyuan here to make a show, they know how to leave a way back for themselves, in case they can't do it in the future, they are afraid that Shiyuan will ignore them, after all, Shi Zhai has no time to pay attention to them, and Shiyuan Yuyue and his wife can at least ask for leave, and their wages will not be deducted too much, their interpretation of human nature is "evil". A pair of old people who are well versed in personnel think about everything very well, and they want to help Shi Zhai more, but they are afraid that the pressure of life is all in Shi Zhai, so they must let Shi Yuan bear more economically, knowing that it is unfair, they must also choose this way. Because Shi Yuan is a teacher, he has constraints, and they expect that Shi Yuan will not dare to care. But the two extremely shrewd elders ignored an important issue, that is, Yu Yue. You can control your own children, but you can't control other people's children, especially because their previous series of inauthenticity has long been too much for Yu Yue to avoid. The financial support is helpless, Yu Yue can only eat coptis dumbly, and everyone has to be responsible for their own choices. But spiritual independence can be earned, and she must earn a way for her future.

Tianhe's real estate agent called, Yu Yue's favorite set was sold, and there was still one set of the same type left, asking Yu Yue if she still wanted it, so she hurriedly came over to buy it. Yu Yue went with her father, paid the deposit, and then told the other party that the down payment would be paid after the marriage was completed. After Yu Cheng's marriage was completed, the father and daughter hurriedly paid the down payment, and waited for the cousin to send back a sum of money, both of them wanted to pay a little more for the down payment, so as not to make the mortgage pressure so great.

It's another year of summer vacation, Rong Rong strongly asked to learn to paint, Yu Yue signed up in the interest class, although far away from home, but also every day under the scorching sun without hesitation. For two and a half hours in the morning, Yu Yue would go to a tea bar with a good environment, and seventeen or eighteen-year-old middle school students would come and go every day. Sometimes you run into your own school, sometimes you come from another school, don't ask people how to know which school those students are from, this is a test of eyesight. Yu Yue has been a teacher for so long, and the students from the school of which level can almost be identified at a glance. Sit down in twos and threes, ask for a cup of tea, take out books, and do their own homework, which is most likely from a good school. Occasionally, I met a sweet student couple, who were not frivolous in their words and deeds, and asked questions while asking questions, which were basically from good schools, and they all regarded the tea bar as a study room. But the same seventeen or eighteen years old, the same three, three, two, two, the same order for a cup of tea, some are playing poker together, smoking cigarettes together, and making loud noises together as if no one else is around, so there is no need to say more. The same summer vacation, where to spend the time, the future days will definitely tell you.

Once, several students got together to drink tea, chatted about filling in the volunteers, and looked forward to the appearance of college life, which made Yu Yue very infected, and couldn't help but "eavesdrop" on their various plans, and smiled silently in her heart. Suddenly, there was a smell of smoke, and there were no boys for a long time. Following the smell of smoke, the two girls at the other table were spitting out smoke as if no one was around. Hey, also seventeen or eighteen!

The annual re-examination was also scheduled for the summer vacation, and Yu Yue, who had decided to do breast reconstruction, had to put her plan on hold for the time being. If you don't have money in your pocket, you have to have a priority in what you do. This year's summer vacation is unusual, just ten years after Yu Yue graduated from university, the school has a tradition of holding a class reunion, her class estimates that more than 20 people can be present, Yu Yue is sure to attend, she hopes that everyone can see themselves in good shape. Taking this opportunity, Yu Yue brought her son and husband, it was not easy to come to the provincial capital, Yu Yue went to the class reunion by herself, and asked her husband to take his son to the museum, which was a good arrangement. The magic of the class reunion is that ten years have passed, and when we get together, we are still the same you and me. If it weren't for the fact that the provincial city was so hot that it couldn't be stunned, the family of three planned to stay for a few more days before leaving, Tian Fan, the best friend in college, invited Yu Yue's family to the beach to play, and there was another male classmate in the class and the family, and the three families played very relaxed for a few days.

When classmates have the opportunity to get together, they must be tempted to dig out their hearts, and they have no scruples about speaking, Yu Yue told Fan Fan about the situation in the past ten years, and when she said this, she was like going through her own life, and it was also to cheer up her future, she needed people's support too much.

Fan Fan said, "You have always been a very energetic girl in my eyes, you have always been beautiful, the beauty is in that kind of enthusiasm for life, you are too thoughtful and assertive, I have always regarded reading as a process of finding a job, and you are really detached, you really care about the country and the nation, care about social issues, sympathize with the weak, you are simply pretending to be a woman, your analysis and insights on various issues are too unique, I will never forget you." Especially at work, that kind of passion is difficult to imitate, maybe that's it, you're too idealistic, too unmaterialistic, I don't judge your husband well, but I've always felt that a woman like you should marry into that kind of family that has no worries about food and clothing and is enlightened and democratic, you are suitable for big things, and trivial things will make you tired. I was so sad when I knew that you had a physical problem that year, but now I am immediately relieved to see your state, this is like your style, you are not such an easy woman to defeat. ”

Yu Yue hugged Fan Fan, "China's state of the ass determines the position, and the industry is too closed, in the past, politicians and teachers were flowing with each other, and intellectuals who have been used in the world abound, but now, teachers can only talk about righteousness and reason on the podium, and talk about politics without practical experience, who listens?"

Fan Fan nodded, "I'm going with the flow, hey, there is still the task of giving birth to a son, we here, without a son, we can only continue to give birth." Many of the local male teachers in the school have resigned, so how can such a small salary be enough for a man to support his family? ”

"Hey, there is no dignity for those who are teachers, and those who do evil show off their might. The two friends sighed, but they didn't realize that it was already late at night. Life is actually a process of "waiting for death", the magic is in this "waiting" word, how many people live their own wonderful life in this journey, if blindly entangled in this "death" word, then what is the meaning of coming to the world? Chicken soup for the soul can not drink too much, we must learn to stew. So, if a person wants to get out of the spiritual dilemma, decisiveness and action are the key.

Bidding farewell to Tian Fan's warm hospitality, everyone went home. Knowing that Shiyuan still didn't understand the fact that his parents-in-law had bought a house, Yu Baoping was shocked.

"Why don't you tell your husband about such a big thing, it's not right for you to do this. “

"Ahh “

Yu Baoping was very dissatisfied with his daughter's quibble, "Don't be forceful, it's been almost two months since we bought our house, and he doesn't know that he is a husband?"

"Don't make me mistake, he didn't buy it from me, it was my parents. When I come back from the re-inspection, I will renovate and move out. “

"Ah, that's how you plan to do it? I help you buy a house because I want you to be less burdened, not to let you be willful. “

"If you want to say it, I don't want to tell him. “

Yu Baoping was helpless about his daughter's toughness and willfulness, and he could only swallow the consequences of spoiling.

Then on the opportunity to go back to his parents' house for dinner on the weekend, Yu Baoping told his son-in-law about buying a house, and Shiyuan looked at Yu Yue in shock. Yu Yue glanced at him and didn't speak.

"Dad, I'm embarrassed by you like this. My future plans will be disrupted by this. “

"Don't be rhetorical, you're not planning to buy a house at all. Yu Yue interrupted him

"I also want to build a house in the countryside so that they can have a place to live in their old age. “

"Don't repeat the old topic, they can't go back not because they don't have money to build a house, but because Shi Zhai needs their help. “

"The grandchildren are all grown up, so they will always be free by then. Don't I plan to be my son?"

"Your brother and sister finally got pregnant and took it away, is it possible that I have to wait for her to have a second child when I buy a house, and I have to wait until it is a son?"

"Why are you doing this to me, am I treating you badly?"

"If I treat you the way you treat me, I'm afraid you're long gone, I hope you understand that I've endured for you for many years, do you think if you weren't there I would be willing to stay with your parents or your parents would be willing to stay with me, I don't want to, it's not for you, then why can't you do it for me?"

"My parents don't care, they have to be with their son and daughter-in-law when they are old, and when we move away, they can't see their grandchildren and can't enjoy the joy of family. “

"Don't talk about your grandchildren! Ask yourself what they did? If you get along, I don't care, the point is that you can't live together. I don't like people to lie on my bed at every turn, how can I be a mother-in-law who always burrows into the bed of my son and daughter-in-law? I don't like the bad habit of going on a rampage without knocking on the door, I don't see anyone unseemly, but I just don't like others to get to the bottom!"

Seeing that the more her daughter talked, the more excited she became, Yu Baoping was afraid of recalling the past and quarreling and hurriedly came out to mediate. "Okay, don't turn the old things out. It's good to live separately from the elderly. There are benefits to keeping a point distance. “

Seeing that his father-in-law was openly standing aside, Qian Shiyuan was helpless, so he had to throw out a sentence, "I don't have the money to decorate." “

"I didn't ask you to pay for it? I didn't agree to buy a house, I still hope that you will pay for the decoration? I have as much as I want? I don't want luxury. Just be able to stay."

"Hmph, I'm out for daily use, so you save private money. “

"You paid for the groceries, but you didn't give it to your mother. Didn't you say that all your money belongs to your parents? In this case, what does your money have to do with me? Just your mother, she never buys good food, I buy all the good food, what happens to you who usually raise your children? I am responsible for food, clothing, and entertainment. Why don't you say that your mother embezzled her son's money and hid it in her private house? I have a job and go out to work part-time, you go out and tell everyone that I have to rely on you if Yu Yue has no money, who do you think will believe it? I don't care that you are kind to give all the money to your mother. “

"Then you go grocery shopping!"

"Who are you scaring about? I'm in charge of her absence. She doesn't do anything here, she will only have more spare time to find trouble. ”

"Why do you think so badly of people? Respecting the old is your duty, why don't you want people to cook for you, you can't serve her old man?"

"She's doing things that bad. My own parents haven't served yet, and the others can't take their turn for the time being, and besides, I have always respected the elderly, and the old people in the nursing home used to have a good reputation for me, and I just didn't respect the old and disrespectful people. ”

Yu Baoping impatiently planned two people. "Okay, okay, just don't use the money indiscriminately, what's the point of fighting for this? You won't be fooled when you buy a house, you can decorate it after you think about it, and don't make trouble again." ”

There was nothing to say all the way, Yu Yue ignored him for several days, Qian Shiyuan asked several times if he really bought a house, or was it just a reservation? A strong nagging asked Yu Yue to retreat, saying that he would not decorate his father-in-law's house, he could not explain to his parents, and the things of the Qian family could not be given to people with foreign surnames. Yu Yueying didn't bother to respond to him, no matter how soft and hard he was, he was verbose. When he couldn't help it, he scolded directly, "I've been in your house for seven or eight years, and the money is spent in this family, does anyone thank me? Is anyone grateful for helping you support your parents? How many things in the family are bought by me, aren't your parents using them? Why should my money be given to your family as a matter of course? I raised a bunch of white-eyed wolves." Besides, of course the house my parents bought for me to live in has to be renovated by myself, is it possible that I will continue to gnaw at the old one?

"Your parents are too good to write their daughter's name, and now we pay for the renovation of your parents' house. If you have your name, I will definitely help you decorate. “

They also hope that Yu Cheng will have the ability to buy a house, not to be crowded with his parents, and to become a child who will not grow up, and will have no sense of responsibility after a long time. Besides, it's my decision not to write my name, why should I sign my name, I'm not so stupid, I have basic legal knowledge! Your parents' house won't sign our name, and let me provide for them for nothing, how fine! Hmph. “

"Their situation is different, they even paid for the renovation of the Lido's house. “

"What did your father say before marriage, saying that he would change his name to our name and transfer the house, but it turned out to be over, I didn't care, but when I was sick, how did your family treat me, I was very cold, I am not greedy for your house, I just want to have my own home and don't want to face them, I have been waiting for so many years, just for you to say that I want my safety period to pass, now that the safety period has passed, you should always have confidence, but you are still delaying, you have no sincerity at all. “

"Don't be so careful, they won't give the house to anyone else. “

"The heart is unpredictable! Who cares? I don't care if I write our names earlier, they make me feel insecure, and I can't be caught with my hands tied. “

"You are on the line, life is like war! I can't live with you, I can't explain to my parents!"

"Don't be sentimental, I didn't ask you to come out to live with me, I will only bear a heavier burden if you come, and the affairs of the whole family will be brought to my life. ”

"Isn't that a divorce?"

"Almost, it's just a lack of a card. If you have a certificate, I will agree to sign it. If you don't want to divorce, you can pay 30% of your salary to my account every month according to the divorce standard, and you will pay the full amount if you want to come. After speaking, Yu Yue made a posture of a victor and jumped away, leaving Qian Shiyuan crazy in all kinds.

For dreams that are difficult to achieve for a while, the best way is to wait in forgetting, to come, to be lucky, and not to complain, instead of constantly being disappointed in the mind and lingering, and wait until the day when it is truly realized, but also to calm down and tell yourself that this is what you deserve for your efforts. Qian Shiyuan once said, "Without the support of your parents, you can't buy it." Yu Yue replied with a smile, "If it weren't for the constraints of my parents, I would have gone out to rent a house a long time ago." It's because they don't want me to be so embarrassed, so I have compromised with you so far, but I didn't expect you to be tough to the end. ”

As soon as she had a room, Yu Yue was no longer anxious, because she knew that she would have to leave this place of right and wrong sooner or later, so her heart involuntarily let go. Behind the seemingly impersonal nature of many things, it is actually self-protection after the vicissitudes of life. Most of the girls who grow up in happiness are as gentle as jade. If one day she changes, it can only mean that there is too much gap between her life and her life. Some women complain that their husband's friends and family don't respect you, and that's because your husband doesn't respect you, so others dare to step on you. If you want to gain true dignity in life, you must start with self-esteem, and only a woman who loves herself can be cared for.

Always compete with peers, and don't talk about the short and long with fools. A person's maturity is determined by experience and critical thinking ability, and has nothing to do with age. The best love in the world is not to be in love with each other, but to be tacit. But most of the time it's just a bowl of chicken soup, and people need to face it. People's pain does not come from loss, but from the loss of what was once good. People are strong, not because of their personality, but because no one can rely on them. People are lonely not because they are waiting, but because they don't know what they can wait for. The beauty of people is not that no one appreciates it, but that there is no one who appreciates it.

It is said that when a person is reborn, his soul is full, and in the process of growing up, his soul is slowly lost. After death, the soul will follow the footprints of its previous life and go back to collect its lost fragments.