All the empathy in this world is only for people who have the same experience, and others cannot comprehend it. The real pain will not be shared with you, you have to learn to carry the burden yourself, and when you are tired, you will change from one shoulder to the other, ask for more blessings, and then say nothing. Since you have decided to be a happy person from now on, the first thing to do is to be a strong person, this strength is not the courage to face a terminal illness, not the effort to face work, not the happiness of friends, but the choice of life. The road of life depends on one's own step-by-step trade-offs, and what can really protect oneself is choice.

Don't be thankful for the suffering, and don't thank the people who fell into the well when you were in trouble, but thank yourself first of all for your innate personality and efforts to save yourself from the darkness, and thank all the people who helped you.

Liang Fengyi has long said: "Human affection is like paper, people's hearts are like iron, and human nature is like wolves." I saw through it, I struggled, I struggled, and then, I woke up. Many times, people will be hurt more because of the infinite loss brought about by blind optimism. Women, all depression is caused by not being able to live out your ideal self, you must find your own direction, don't be confused and overwhelmed with self-deception for a lifetime, you must first live for yourself, it is better to cross others than to cross yourself. If your husband needs you, he will naturally make room for you. You don't have to struggle to get a place in the other person's life. It is said that time is the best medicine, when you feel powerless, it is better to hand everything over to time, it will make you forget everything that should be forgotten, and let you casually walk from one story to another.

When I woke up, I was as empty as a dream, the past was unbearable, and the future was at a loss. Do things and be a person can not give up halfway, have the zen of doing nothing, and have the belief of making a difference. Believe in the three-foot god hanging over his head, when he reads the feeling of awe, only to live diligently and steadfastly. People don't know the taboo of life and death, but they should put aside the flashy and vain thoughts, leave eight points of enthusiasm for themselves, half of the face, three points of leeway, go all out, and live half of the life in vain.

The sleeping son next to her fills the heart with warmth, and the woman who is a mother is happy. No matter how bad life is, there are still children! Yu Yue silently thought in her heart: "Child, you are the biggest driving force in my life, although you are still very young, and you may not be able to understand how hard-won this opportunity to be needed and loved is for a long time. But the more sensible you are, the easier it will be for your mother to put down your burden every day, until you are in the world."

If no one asks for reconciliation, don't forgive inexplicably, only understanding and forgetting are the best attitudes. Understand because they are rural people, and the ignorance that comes with not being educated can lead to cowardice and callousness. It is precisely because I don't know much about this disease that I think Yu Yue has to die, so I will unscrupulously reveal my true nature. If Yu Yue is just uterine fibroids, gallstones, and other diseases that have already been conquered, it is estimated that they will actively behave in the future; forgetting is for the sake of their future relaxed life, the so-called past is not to blame, and the negative past events must be classified and archived, and there is no need to turn them out from time to time.

The most fearful thing is that you forget, others always mention it. After the Weibo incident, Yu Yue and his father-in-law were strangers, and relatives in the countryside did not come, all thanks to his younger brother, a word was false. There are too many borrowed topics in this world, villains are always dormant looking for opportunities, and the Weibo has just gone up less than half an hour, and my husband received a call, needless to say, indicating that they have been paying attention to it and waiting for the opportunity to grab the pigtails. And the father-in-law didn't need to talk about communication and communication, he scolded without even asking, and stood on the balcony to scold everyone, Yu Yue had never been scolded like this, she chose to be silent and not explain, "Since I have been regarded as a burden, why should I put a hot face on it? She said to herself.

Yu Yue proposed to buy a house with Shi Yuan, she wants to move out, and leaving a bad environment is crucial to her recovery, but it is obviously not the time. The three-month review has just begun, and while taking medication, the two have experienced this toss and have no extra money, so it is not appropriate to buy a house at this time. Life is not that simple, you need money to run it. Yu Yue had to wander around during the day every day and pick up her son home in the evening.

Shiyuan always has all kinds of reasons, not only does he dare not defend his wife, but he can't even do the least to uphold justice, Yu Yue's opinion, her husband's choice of neutrality at this time is actually a kind of aiding and abusive.

"It's not filial piety for us to move out, and your parents won't help you bring people in the future. Besides, my brother and my sister will blame me for abandoning the old man."

Yu Yue felt ridiculous, "Who said that three generations of people don't live together means not supporting, give money, as long as it doesn't affect me." Besides, the old man has been with us for so long, and we don't blame them for abandoning the old man, what qualifications do they have?

"Don't be so unconscientious, oh, why didn't you open your mouth when you were sick, and now that you're sick, you'll cross the river and tear down the bridge with your child?"

"Don't be so funny, you have to make it clear, it's normal for your parents to help take care of the children, and it's normal not to take them, they take the children to show you, otherwise why do they run away and leave me alone when you go on a business trip? Also, when I was sick, my mother invited me back to my mother's house, and the children often went with me, don't forget so much. ”

This is not bad, Shiyuan had to change the topic, "You don't look at the situation, buy a house? How many children do you have? The family is more than 140 square meters, don't call it if you don't have that strength." ”

Yu Yue sneered, "I'm not happy to live, what about a 1,400-square-meter villa? I live with people, not with a house." Which law says that three generations must live together? Willing to live with the elderly is love, not duty!"

"No one owes you anything, why do you want to please you? Why do you want to live unhappy, isn't it just a grudge, it's no wonder that you have cancer when your heart is so small. You have to reflect on yourself!"

"I do have to reflect! Reflect on why I am restless, and I always want to step out of the circle of my living environment. With a family like yours, I deserve cancer, okay. ”

"Do you think that you are some kind of noble person, a small burgher, just a salaryman? ”

Yu Yue sneered, "Then why do you want to study, do everything possible to jump out of the peasant class? Won't you resign? If you really resign, I'll treat you as a character!"

"You think I want to, I regret it, if I have 5 million, I will quit immediately!"

"Don't talk about what you can't do, lest you slap yourself in the face in ten years. I don't want to talk to you about these useless things, in short, I want you to say a word. ”

Shi Yuanyi waved his hand, "Don't tell me this now, you will talk about it after the two-year danger period." ”

Yu Yue was instantly discouraged and unconsciously regressed, "I know that the conditions are not suitable now, I can endure it first and adjust it first, but this must be the direction of my future life, you have to have a correct word." Otherwise, I have no hope of living. ”

"Of course, you can change it with money, but your body has to fight. ”

"I didn't think of anything good, a family of three can live in. ”

"Everyone has parents, I have to buy a good house, otherwise what's the point, buy a small one, the days are getting worse and worse, my parents will look down on me, you just want to leave my parents alone." ”

"I didn't buy it for anyone to see, and I didn't want to compare with others, I just didn't want to live with them, I didn't want to live with them, I didn't want to live happily, if you feel that you can't accept it, you went to find a wife, I made it clear to you before marriage, it's you who don't have the ability to fulfill your promise. ”

"You also believe the man's words, I just said it casually, is it possible to abandon your parents?"

"That's why I look down on you! Your parents are simply too controlling, and you are fundamentally dependent on your parents, according to your concept, it is better not to find a wife, it is not better for the family to be together as before, and you have to go to great lengths to prevent this and that. ”

"Hmph, you can get the money. Anyway, I don't have any money, and your parents may not be willing to help you. ”

"Of course my parents will, but you will not. ”

"I just don't want to do anything? I just can't be separated from my parents! If I do, I won't be a human being. Why do you want to be specialized? Why can people get along well with their in-laws than their own parents, why can't you do it?"

It depends on how other people's in-laws treat their daughters-in-law, there is no love for no reason and no hate for no reason in this world. ”

"Why do you hate my parents, they have no obligation to you, you are not satisfied with yourself. ”

"To be honest, I really can't hate it, because what they do is caused by the concept of life, and they don't think it's wrong to do it, it's a matter of different values. In that kind of environment, don't think about having too high quality, you have to have basic kindness to have humanitarian care, and if you don't have it, don't ask too much. ”

"Don't turn around and curse, your quality is not much higher. ”

"I'm not practicing enough, but I'm much better than many people, and if I were to be replaced by another daughter-in-law, I would have scolded me a long time ago, what reason does your father have to call me 'no conscience'? It's so funny, it's okay to scold my own children, but are you qualified to scold other people's children? Do your parents give me care or money? Look at a person's character, and see the attitude towards one's own parents, not without blood." If someone treats her in-laws better than her parents, there are only two reasons, one is that her in-laws are better to her than her biological parents, and the other is to pretend, pretending to be for fame and fortune. It's as simple as that. ”

"You can do whatever you like, I don't want to buy it anyway. After speaking, Qian Shiyuan pushed the door and went out.

At night, Yu Yue had a nightmare. In a trance, she saw that she had an eldest son in addition to Rong Rong, a child with a disability. has always been disliked by their family, and later, at their instigation, Se Yuan forced his wife to throw him on the street. After a long time, there was Rong Rong, and everyone loved him very much. Later, one day Yu Yue was sick, and he kept enduring humiliation and hoped that they would not be as cruel to themselves as they were to the "eldest son", but it was useless to endure them, they felt weak and bullied, and finally failed to maintain this marriage and separated from Shiyuan. Later, he had a very bad time, shuttling through the pawnshop, and once saw the eldest son who was limping, he was also doing something, Yu Yue rushed over to recognize him, and asked him how he had lived in the past few years, he raised his head, very pure eyes, looked at his mother and said, "When something to eat." He has been wandering on the street, picking up food to eat, Yu Yue is very guilty, his heart is very painful, he wants to pick him up, he has no trace of resentment, and said, "I am very dirty." Yu Yue immediately burst into tears. He looks a lot like Rong Rong, so clean, without the slightest hatred. Yu Yue couldn't cry, she woke up crying, Shi Yuan also woke up, she said her dream, fragments and fragments, but it felt real, saying that she was already in tears and couldn't help herself, Shi Yuan comforted, "You are too anxious."

People are very realistic, in addition to the relatives who watched you grow up, the friends who played with you, and the lovers who had feelings with you, there are other people who can love and care for you, then they must be kind people. Women are afraid of being deceived, especially emotionally. Obviously this is not the case, but it is necessary to say that it is extremely good, in exchange for the gratitude of others, why do you want to do this? Isn't the truth exposed sooner or later? Shi Yuan once made such a mistake in order to let Yu Yue feel at ease to heal his illness. He said how worried his parents were about his daughter-in-law's illness, and said that they would fully support them, and when Yu Yue came home and saw their faces, the whole person was not good. After knowing the truth, Yu Yue felt that he was a fool, and he was grateful to Dade even though he was disgusted, that feeling was very uncomfortable, and it was more painful than being directly abandoned.

Yuan Meiren said, "I would be very happy if I had a husband who had to cheat and exaggerate in order to reassure his wife." ”

"That's because you're not in it, you're just having fun with your feelings. That's how it is at first, but then you get very hurt and feel really bad about being deceived, as if you are very self-inflicted. So it's obviously not my husband's fault, but I can only vent it on him." And he had already endured a lot of things that I didn't know.

The ancients said that ******** ruthless is a reader. This statement is biased, at least in the eyes of Yu Yue. Experience tells her that the opposite is true. Scholars feel "ruthless" (including doctors always make people feel cold), all because people in this class are relatively rational, they will think more comprehensively and objectively, and on the issue of birth, old age, sickness and death, they all understand that this is a one-way street, an irreversible law of life. But on the issue of humanitarian assistance, they are obviously more active, in addition to the reasons based on economic ability and personal contacts, and more importantly, the "relative elite" is progressive in the era on the issue of respect for life.

Teacher Lan's child in the unit had a rare disease and was only one year old, and the couple took the child around to seek medical treatment. Teacher Wen asked the society for help, the incident attracted the attention of the people of the whole country through Weibo, and even the fund under Han Hong's name gave assistance, and the child was transferred to several large hospitals in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, and the experts' final opinion was to "give up treatment", but with the help of funds, the corresponding chemotherapy was done, and the child finally lost weight and died of failure. Shortly after the child's death, the couple divorced. Yu Yue once met his wife Xiao Wen, she complained that the man's family was ruthless, just because the child was a daughter, they couldn't spend money to save it, and they refused to help at the beginning, and then her husband's behavior made her very disdainful, she felt that her husband was making money to save the child's life. Yu Yue wanted to comfort her a few words, but she was relatively speechless when she thought of her fate. Mr. Lan only has a daughter in his thirties, and even if their family is not well-off, they should work hard, hey.

Colleagues couldn't help but compare the way the two families dealt with it, and they all said that Mr. Lan knew how to "pull sponsorship", knew how to win people's sympathy, and knew how to mobilize social forces to reduce his burden, while Yu Yue and Qian Shiyuan were both employees of the school, but they were silent, silent, and carried everything by themselves. At the extreme, colleagues questioned the direction of his funds and discussed, "What happens to the large amount of money donated other than saving children?"

Teacher Lan evaluated the title, the paper could not pass, just a teacher from the school was present, he instinctively picked up the paper that Teacher Wen was thrown away, and helped him pass the first level, these things are conscious behavior, Teacher Lan himself still does not know. But in this way, he always kept complaining, complaining that his life was not good, complaining that the school did not care about him enough, complaining that he did not mobilize the whole school to donate, and did not ask for help from the society in the name of the school......

The listeners were all disgusted, "The children of the employees are not the employees themselves, how can this be in the name of the school to mobilize donations? Besides, in this way, I don't know how many people have helped him in private, and they have made money to his account, you look at Yu Yue, who is also seriously ill, or the staff of the school, she does not agree to launch donations to her, so low-key, everything is carried by herself, this person is indeed different from others. ”

Even the reviewer who helped him pick up the paper couldn't help but say, "I complain every day that the unit is unfair to him, I owe him a debt, I always can't see the help of others, the kindness to him, I don't know how to be satisfied, and I don't know how to be grateful." “

When the words reached Yu Yue's ears, she felt uncomfortable, but whenever there was something like this, she would always be mentioned, she was the most unwilling, and hoped that everyone would forget it, "It's good to forget, I'll come back to class next semester!" Yu Yue said to Shi Yuan.

Shiyuan was incredible, "No, in the past, Mr. Zheng had cancer and took a leave of absence at home for more than two years, and Mr. Luo was seriously ill for five years, and you want to go back in a year, so you can't see it?"

"Going to work is good for mental health, I need a sense of social presence!"

"I'm afraid that you don't have the energy, and you get dizzy after walking a few steps, can you stand down after a class? Why don't you go to the library first?"

"I might as well not go back to work when I go to the library! When I go to class, I want to have more contact with people, communicate more and learn more, and my heart will be more open. How can you always be locked up at home?"

"You just don't like my parents. Shi Yuan muttered.

Yu Yue didn't answer, "My son will go to the primary class next semester and won't be at home during the day, so what's the point of me staying, facing your parents all day long, or going to my parents every day? "If Se Yuan doesn't speak, even if it's a tacit.

Huang Zhiqiu changed jobs after the divorce and concentrated on being the manager of the pastry shop, working two shifts a day, and when he was not at work, he asked Yu Yue to take a walk and go shopping. The same people who have fallen to the end of the world, each with their own sorrow and nowhere to complain, just comfort each other. It is said that men are bullied when they are weak, and they gather when they are strong, and heroes are born in troubled times in history, and there are many talents around them; women are just the opposite, they rest when they are strong, and they gather when they are weak, but all women do not like to be pressed by other women, especially the age level is inseparable, because of the different circumstances, there are many feelings. Showing off your wealth, showing off your background, showing off your affection, will lose your same-sex relationship in the end. The conversation between women and women, who show off to each other, must have nothing to say in the end, but they are the ones who pour bitter water on each other, and the more they talk, the more energetic they become, and in the end they can be led to confidants and hate.

The original differences between the sexes, ancient and modern China and foreign countries, the era of suppressing women to show male power in history is gone, but women are still the main force in housework and raising children, women are impossible to completely put themselves outside the family, the size of the space determines the pattern of vision, nagging and trivial are formed in these years.

The more books you read, the more you think, the more knowledgeable the woman, the more she has a family and children, the more she the heart of the queen mother, she can't see it, she can't get rid of it, and she can't let it go if she can't get it clear. Many women with average knowledge and mediocre abilities are dashing and chic, and they are drunk today and drunk today. For example, children, the more they personally educate and supervise, the more Kochi women are, and the more they throw them to their mothers-in-law, the more they are working women. One is a matter of time, and the other is a matter of ideas.

Kochi women don't necessarily have time to spend with their children, but they always urge as soon as they squeeze out time, stand tall for fear of falling hard, and if they are okay, they are afraid that the next generation will not be able to keep up, and they can cultivate children with a sense of mission, as if they should be the direction of the pillars of society as soon as they are born. Working women are a different way, and their children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and it is a blessing to be able to settle down in their own life, old age, sickness and death. Even though decades have passed, the dedication of Kochi women has taught children who are always at two extremes, some are infinitely grateful and some are extremely rebellious. The liberalism of working women also brings about two extremes, some aspiring from childhood, and some lawless.

Most women are so strong in their bones. No matter what kind of destiny it is, it is expected that the wings will fly on the branches one day, but this "branch" will vary from person to person. There are only two things in the world, doing business and doing right and wrong. Women are tired, tired and tired, thinking about doing both things well.

Qiuqiu used to be a dance instructor, but after returning to the county, she was deserted, this woman who was full of love and water, it was too easy to lose herself. But it's no wonder that children who grew up in single-parent families, their fathers don't love their mothers since they were young, once someone pays attention, they are fully devoted, and it is exactly like this, love is bruised all over the body.

Yu Yue said that she wanted to find something to do, Qiuqiu was noncommittal, the two had different personalities, Qiuqiu was always looking forward to the next relationship, but Yu Yue hoped that the curve would save the country.

"Do you have direction?"

Yu Yue shook her head, and then said, "I have some ideas, I want to go back to class next semester, but this half a year has been difficult, so many things have happened, I hope to find a place to breathe." ”

"Try it out for a part-time job. ”

"That's what I thought, too. To be honest, I'm a nerd, and I don't have a lot of faces, and I can't do a lot of things after graduating for so long, so I might have a chance to do it for you. Rong Rong hasn't gone to school yet, and I'm sure I'm going to have to take him with me. It would be nice to be able to find a freelance job. I posted on the Internet, one was to go to the training class, and the other was to the insurance company. Personally, I prefer the latter, the training class is still my own job, except for the education industry, I have only been in the media, but we are in this county...... It's a bit unrealistic, and I can't work full-time, so I want to try other industries, and insurance companies are considered commercial departments. ”

Qiuqiu thought for a while, "Someone else pulled me to do insurance before. Just have a morning meeting over there, and the rest of the time depends on your own ability. If you want to sell, you have to pull down your face, you, have you done it?

"Actually, I don't know, I haven't tried, I worked as a salesman in college, I bought milk, and it was quite easy to sell. It depends, no one has called me anyway. ”

Yu Cheng has been out for two years and finally waited for the opportunity to take the exam, the exam interview went well, he is ready to come back to join the staff, for people with average qualifications, mixing a unit can be regarded as a small success. Parents have no additional expectations for Cheng, just peace of mind.

Yu Yue said to her parents, "You see, God is fair, he closed a door for you, but opened a window for you. It won't make you miserable! “

The weather in April and May is very annoying, continuous rainy days, humid air makes every corner of the house filled with the smell of mold, basically as soon as it rains Yu Yue has diarrhea, sometimes three meals are pulled, almost has become a rule. If the weather is bad, there will be fewer natural outings, and there will always be a mother on the side who keeps nagging with the baby every day, Yu Yue feels that she is hopeless, not a psychological problem but a mental problem, more terrifying than Parkinson's, the same sentence can be repeated twenty times in a minute, if you don't want her, she won't play anymore, keep repeating, until you have to. Sometimes Yu Yue doesn't want to pay attention to her memories and longings when she talks to her son, she keeps interrupting Yu Yue, she has to interject, making the children annoying, and shouting to express dissatisfaction, the children are like this, she still resolutely chases after her, you have to listen to her first, Yu Yue has learned to be rude as the days go by, and sometimes she stops her directly when she is annoyed.

But Li Yonglan is sensitive, she doesn't know how to get along with cultural people, when she sees her daughter-in-law's disgust, and doesn't talk to her, she must dislike her, she feels that she already respects her daughter-in-law very much, what dishes to buy every day, how to cook each dish, how to match, and even how much water to steam rice has to ask her daughter-in-law, why doesn't she appreciate it.

Yu Yue is also puzzled, could it be that the mother used to be a young lady's wife? Why can't even the most basic, she has to ask everything, sometimes she can't stand being asked, so she just cooks it herself, is she a machine?

After a long time, Yu Yue understood the pity of illiteracy. The biggest advantage of reading people is to be reasonable, open-minded and not rigid, this is not simply a matter of the size of the vision, but the change of thinking ability, most people can draw inferences from one another, touch the analogy, and even have a good creativity and critical spirit, they will not follow the clouds, let alone obey orders. For example, grinding soy milk, there is no fixed match, how delicious you can do it, and it is not just soybean milk, but the mother can't accept it, her world is only her original village, and finally Yu Yue will mix the bean dregs in the flour and sprinkle green onions to make cakes, which tastes good. The two elders looked disdainful, "These used to be eaten by pigs, tofu heads! Yu Yue smiled and didn't bother to explain.

When Qian Xiaoying came, Li Yonglan joked with her, "We used to think that the people in the city were rich, but in fact, they just had a little dead salary, and they used everything, even the water for washing clothes had to be saved to mop the floor, you see the two old ones in their family, hum, they have never seen money, and they refuse to throw away any green vegetables left there, no wonder her daughter has cancer, and she still has to give those tofu heads to her children to eat, and the garbage is a treasure." ”

Li Yonglan is stronger than showing weakness, every time Yu Yue does something, she will not stop it directly, but the yin and yang on the side, every time she dislikes the food cooked by Yu Yue, she will add, "The old way is not like this." In the past, Yu Yue would patiently explain to her, what is with what is nutritious, the taste is good, and nothing is fixed, your old method is only from your village, and the whole of China can discover a thousand ways to cook this dish, and this does not include foreign ones. But Li Yonglan said that you scholars know a lot, but in her heart she was disdainful, usually pouting. She still repeats the sentence "We don't eat like this here" every time, and refuses to try new things every time, Yu Yue thought at first that she was not used to it and could take her time, but later she knew that she was repulsing in her heart.

Two women should not work in the same kitchen, Yu Yue is very wise, so she will definitely not go to the kitchen when her mother is there, cooking food is to have a good mood, the kitchen has many complaints and dislikes from the mother, Yu Yue can bear to let the food she makes be surrounded by these negative emotions?

For Li Yonglan, rice is rice, porridge is white porridge, meat is pork, fish is grass carp, and vegetables are greens...... Other than that, it's all rubbing. She also never uses sauces and spices, except for oil and salt, there is only one condiment, which is soy sauce. One is that my father-in-law's skin disease has many restrictions on eating, and the other is that he can't use condiments and can't understand them.

Yu Yue had never done housework before, in order to comfort her appetite and open the child's appetite, she recalled her mother's cooking method while learning, watching meal programs whenever she had time, and tried it the next day after watching it, making dumplings, steaming steamed buns, baking bread, and various dishes, Fujian, Cantonese cuisine, Sichuan cuisine, and Gan cuisine...... Even Thai-style tom yum gong, Malay bak kut tea are learned to do, watching the mother do it herself, the child is happy to dance, the meal cooked with heart is very delicious, the child appreciates the face and eats very fragrant, but the mother on the side on the very nervous expression, the face is written, "No wonder you have cancer, it is to eat indiscriminately." Now it's back for the kids, really. “

Li Yonglan refuses to buy expensive vegetables, never buys beef and mutton, doesn't buy mushrooms, chicken, duck and rabbit meat is difficult to serve, let alone seafood, she has never seen it. Yu Yue knew that she was selfish, first, she had indeed stayed in the countryside all her life and had never seen the market, and secondly, she refused to spend money and tried every means to let Yu Yue come out by herself. Yu Yue suspected that she would hide it privately, but she could only tacitly say it. Even if Shi Yuan knew it, he would acquiesce to this way of "fertilizer and water do not flow into outsiders' fields".

Li Yonglan's biggest ability is to pretend to be stupid, she only needs to open her mouth every time, "The mushrooms are gone, the peanut oil is gone, the dish soap is gone, the soap is gone...... and Yu Yue should be bought and added, "I don't eat beef, I don't eat those squid clams, I won't buy them, I won't pick those mushrooms, and I don't know what brand of daily necessities you want,...... Heck, I just have a bowl of rice every day, two pieces of meat and a little vegetable are enough, and I don't dare to drink more soup, and I have cramps in my feet after drinking. It was not the first time that these words had been said, and they had to be explained every time, as if everyone else except her had to eat five bowls of rice for one meal, and there were really no three hundred taels of silver here. Yu Yue knew that the consequences of ignoring her were very serious, and it would lead to a bunch of complaints, what kind of meat eaten by people in the city was fodder, all the meat eaten in the restaurant was fodder, all the vegetables were pesticide poured in the greenhouse, and the red mushrooms were sold expensive, and many merchants covered them with mud and sand, saying that the food bought in the city was made of chemistry, and Yu Yue couldn't cry or laugh, chemistry? What does she know about chemistry? I don't know where to hear it, and I don't know where to talk about it...... In short, in her mouth, there are no good people in the city, they are all bad people, they can do anything for money, Yu Yue doesn't want to hear negative emotions all the time, the best way is to ignore it, as soon as she gets home, she walks into the room and turns on the music, surfs the Internet or reads books, as long as she does something she doesn't understand, she naturally has nothing to say.

Then Yu Yue understood the intention behind her actions, once Shi Yuan doubted how to cook the meal, the mother would immediately emphasize that Yu Yue wanted to do it, she just did it, if it was replaced by her, she would not do this, the old tradition would not eat like this. Then he observed the expression on his son's face, expecting him to "uphold justice", usually Shiyuan would smile and say, "Yu Yue, do you have to go home and cook it once you eat out?" Yu Yue giggled, why should the little romance of the two people be explained more? "It's so bright, and most of the spirit is gone.

It's very tiring to live with uneducated people, she won't use all modern kitchen utensils, now kitchen appliances are fool-like operations, Yu Yue has to teach them by hand, the steps are repeated over and over again, you don't need to understand the text to do it, but her biggest problem is the sense of rejection in her heart, the machine will not blame the inventor, and the thing is not good to buy if it is broken...... And so on, Yu Yue feels that EQ and IQ are really inversely proportional, the mother's EQ is so high, the ability to do things is really poor, she doesn't know how to operate flexibly, sum up experience, live efficiently, pour water can be divided into three times, first from the faucet to the scoop, then pour from the scoop into the big bowl, and finally use a spoon to beat it up and put it in the pot...... Oh my God, if you pay a little attention, you can know how much salt and how much oil and how much water you have to put in it, and you don't have to sum up the experience every time? Does she think of herself as a machine? Machines have memory operations. When I was in college, a retired Professor Wang said a sentence that Yu Yueming felt in her heart, she said, "There are two kinds of people in this world, one is to be a person, the other is to do things, you have to be a person who does things, as long as you can really do a good job of yourself and live your own value in doing things." ”

What Shiyuan and his wife are most afraid of is being "wronged" by her, Li Yonglan has a sentence after each sentence, "This is what I Shiyuan said", "This is what my daughter-in-law said", "This is what my mother-in-law said", "This is what the boss said", "This is what your father-in-law said", "This is ......", in short, none of them are what she thinks, and what goes wrong has nothing to do with her. Yu Yue felt that she was very pathetic, and she had lived without herself all her life.

The villagers are a little afraid that the world will not be chaotic, and they always sarcastically ask Qian Shengtian and his wife why they don't put up the old house in their hometown. The two old men want to save face and suffer the crime, but they refuse to say that they have no money, and push all the reasons why they can't build a house to Shiyuan, which causes the villagers to talk about Shiyuan in private, and even pretend to say that for the sake of their daughter-in-law's illness, they can't take out the money for the time being, and they will do more superficial work!

Shi Yuan went back to the countryside, and those fellow villagers basically didn't want to see him, and sometimes Shi Yuan was robbed of his white for some reason, but he soon reacted to the fact that it must be his mother's burden, but he couldn't tear down his mother in front of people. Knowing that she couldn't change it for the rest of her life, he still couldn't help but come back and accuse his mother, and this scolding turned the world upside down, "You can't be like this, go back to your hometown and talk nonsense, obviously it's your own idea to bring someone in, so that we don't want to be human, you are a fairy will never be wrong!"

The mother sat on the ground in annoyance, crying and making trouble, saying that she had raised a white-eyed wolf, and that Sewon had abused her all her life like his grandfather. As soon as Sapo's words came out, Shi Yuan was helpless. Yu Yue can't stand it, she usually acts as a peacemaker, but she is reluctant in her heart, she is just afraid of what her father said before, "You have to follow your mother, otherwise she is so extreme, I am afraid that your reputation will be ruined at that time." ”

Li Yonglan's appearance will confuse people, she has white hair, she is thin and dry, and her joints are a little aging, people who don't know think she is seventy or eighty years old, but in fact, she is hyperthyroid, and she can't get fat no matter how she eats. When I first came to that time, the mother-in-law who played in the property duty room downstairs said that her father-in-law was her eldest son, and she took the opportunity to say that she had worked hard all her life, and at the beginning there were still people listening, and everyone was ashamed to do so, and experienced people said that she was "a lazy person who will push the disease, and when she was only fifty years old, she said that she was sick and didn't work, where did she look like a rural person, how could there be no problem at this age? Those seventy or eighty-year-old ladies were uncomfortable when they heard this. People understand everything after getting along with people for a long time.

Shiyuan's uncle and aunt said, "People, you must be clear about your position, the working-class person should be like a salaryman, the leader should be like a leader, the boss should be like a boss, and the farmer should be like a peasant. Why do you want to go?"

Li Yonglan She never said that Yu Yue was not, she understood, a girl like Yu Yue was a "goddess" in the heart of the old lady, knowledgeable, dignified and generous, she was too polite, and she had the same attitude when she saw anyone rich or poor, she was a "likable" character, saying that she was not good could only expose her unreasonableness and ignorance and backwardness. She is very smart, as long as others praise Yu Yue, she will take the opportunity to say that she treats her daughter-in-law very well.

The two women stayed at home and had nothing to do, staring at each other with big eyes, how awkward it was to be these days. Both of them felt that the other party was dragging down Shi Yuan, and they wanted to disappear one side. Yu Yue is full of confidence, even if the vacation salary is still paid, and half of the family's expenses are borne; the mother is full of confidence, and the house is her name, which is equal to her son and daughter-in-law living in hers; such a psychological struggle is a tiring thing.

Qian Shengtian had a skin disease in the mine, and he couldn't get better, and Yu Yue was afraid that the miners who were away from home would have an indecent life, so he reminded Shiyuan to let him take an HIV test to rule out risk factors. But he vehemently denied the possibility, and the test results showed that he had a troublesome actinic eczema, which was basically incurable. He didn't dare to bask in the sun, and when it was serious, he would blow the air conditioner in the room all day long, he was already silent, and after the Weibo incident, he had nothing to say, Yu Yue didn't even bother to say politeness to him, and he didn't want to pretend. The most painful thing is that he itches and doesn't have any measure, sometimes he forgets to wash his hands and goes to get the bowl, Yu Yue wants to rush to go every time, but basically fails. He had nothing to do, and he sat there all day waiting to get a bowl and chopsticks, so he was very active every time and put them there early in the morning.

His eating habits are very bad, he always picks up this piece of meat and puts it down, picks and chooses, and sometimes has to pick and choose vegetables for Rong Rong, what Yu Yue can do is to help Rong Rong and himself put vegetables into the bowl early when the dishes are served. He has all kinds of taboos for this disease, he can't eat seafood, he can't eat beef and mutton, he can't eat soy sauce seasoning chili, he can't eat chicken and fish, and even mushrooms and bamboo shoots can't eat.

Shi Yuan and Yu Yue, including the children, had to accommodate the two old men, and the father-in-law was itching, and he grabbed it while eating, sometimes his face was covered with blood, Yu Yue didn't dare to raise his head, and his heart was devastated!

Because of Yu Yue's indifference, he no longer dared to scold his daughter-in-law casually, but the changes in the living environment and the unwillingness in his heart to disobey old age, he always wanted to make a comeback and hated the resentment and couldn't help but vent everywhere, he was always unaccustomed to scolding that he was not used to talking, biting people everywhere was like a mad dog, and even the child couldn't help spanking him when he was playing on the floor, Yu Yue picked up her son, or didn't say anything, indifference is the best contempt, but on the other hand, she always did everything possible to reduce the chance of direct contact between herself and her child and this man who had a nervous breakdown。 He couldn't find a reason to brush his wife, and his mother gritted her teeth with hatred in her heart, and wished that he would go as far as possible, and when he went to Stellar at night to take his granddaughter Li Yonglan, he was relaxed.

Qiuqiu spoke meanly, and when she heard this, she couldn't help but be happy for her friend, "Look, retribution is coming, it's still a torture that is worse than death." ”

"Isn't this still my retribution? He is Shiyuan's father, he is sick and has no medical insurance, and in the end he still affects us. ”

If you go to insurance, I will be the first to buy it from you. ”

Yu Yue smiled slyly, "Hehe, so I even have customers, so it's not okay not to go." ”

Yu Yue feels that he can't let this state go on, people need some positive psychological hints, always stay in a place full of negative emotions, and there will be problems after staying for a long time, because you are not blind or deaf, it is impossible to really pretend to be deaf and dumb, you don't want to deliberately find out how others do things, but staying in a home, it is inevitable to see it. Yu Yue just wants to make herself "invisible"! If you dwell on these trivial living habits and other ideological things all day long, one day you will become a neurotic. Think about it from another angle, it is not easy for an illiterate person to adapt to life in the city, after all, the housework she does benefits Yu Yue and the children, don't compare her with the mother-in-law and mother in the city, the pain comes from comparison, to be content, so it is decided that people must learn to take the initiative to find their own world, do not force themselves to adapt to accept, we have no way to change others, only change ourselves. Yu Yue, who was originally very homely, did everything possible to be "wild" by herself.

Qiu Zhanye's phone call was really timely, he reported that he was the account manager of the life insurance collection department, and he saw the post posted by Yu Yue on the Internet, so he wanted to meet me and take her to learn about the business by the way. Yu Yue couldn't wait to go, the exhibition department walked around, and then ran to the claims department downstairs, Gao Caihong went to work there, Yu Yue chatted with Rainbow for a while, Rainbow was very supportive of her coming out to do something, "It's only been a few months, just buy insurance for your family to save some commission." Are you really going to go back to class in September?

Yu Yue nodded, "It's no problem to move your mouth, in fact, I think so in my heart, if only I had this consciousness to buy insurance earlier, it would be a little compensation when something happened." The most satisfying thing is the freedom of working hours, as long as one hour of morning meeting every day, and the rest is controlled by yourself. ”

Rong Rong has to sleep until nine o'clock every day, the insurance company is close to home, he clocks in before half past eight, and goes home to take the children after the meeting. The more she thought about it, the better it became, and she found a time to talk to her parents about the idea.

My mother was distressed and said, "If you're not happy, go home and live?"

"This is not a solution to the problem, I am not divorced, to put it mildly, even if I divorce, I will not go back to my parents' house, I would rather live in the dormitory, and then buy a house when I have money, in fact, I have a plan with him, I will buy a house after the safety period, I don't think his parents will want to go back to the countryside, if we don't go, we will be hung for the rest of our lives, and there is no life of our own. Who told his parents to give up when they should have cultivated a relationship with me, I have long been not a family with his parents in my heart, what does it mean to pretend. ”

Dad was very calm, "It's okay to have something to do, it won't be so sad, just have fun." ”

Se Won understood why she was, but she was helpless.

Verification is a simple job, and Yu Yue was the first to pass the exam.

As the saying goes, interlacing is like separating mountains, which is really good. Although Yu Yue graduated from graduate school, she didn't know anything about the business field, and she only understood after listening to a few classes that the relationship between the so-called commercial insurance and social security can be said to be basically irrelevant. Yu Yue is a person with no economic acumen, she doesn't even know how her salary is paid, and she doesn't know how many parts she shares, anyway, what goes into the card is her own, and she won't think about it if she doesn't have it. It's so easy to be satisfied when you get the prize money in the competition, as if the world has dropped money.

Insurance salesmen come from all kinds of different levels, there are teachers, retirees, unemployed youth, unemployed graduates, the most are housewives, some young mothers to increase income, there are also many to avoid family conflicts, or to take the baby is very annoying to go out to relax, all kinds of people have more contact, there is a contrast, Yu Yue feels that she is still happy, at least she has a formal unit, the kind of drought and flood income, many women who work temporarily have a bleak future as soon as they are pregnant, and they can't go out to work normally after giving birth, and staying at home without income will be disgusted by their in-laws, and they are not people inside and outside。 There are also some housewives who have older children and are too bored to stay at home by themselves, so they come out to find something to do.

The most depressing thing is those unemployed or unemployed young people, after the examination Yu Yue went to the city to participate in a three-day on-the-job training, the hotel lived together with his first batch of students, although only the next class did not teach in person, but also let Yu Yue infinitely sigh, the first children have come out to work! The girl seems to have no choice but to come, she admitted that she did not find any suitable job after graduating from junior college, so she came to mix up first. The depreciation of diplomas, if these college students are not strong enough in their own ability, social activities are not enough, and there is no way to help them at home, the situation is not very good. This girl surnamed Li said that she wanted to get married, and her family introduced a few, and she was still making a choice, hoping to find a good family, and by the way, solve the work matter, killing two birds with one stone. Yu Yue was a little surprised by the reality of these post-90s thoughts, but after thinking about it, she really fell behind, this is the trend. I still remember that when I was in graduate school, JS Satellite TV's new program "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" was on the air, and the girls on the blind date had all kinds of thunderous slogans, didn't Mano's fame represent the thoughts of a large number of girls? Looking at the blind date guests on stage who were all under the age of 25, hey, I am really old!

A new situation soon opened up, and as the saying goes, the more active and active the tree is, the more active it is! Mr. Hu Shi said, "What truth is infinite, and every inch of progress will bring an inch of joy." Yu Yue said to herself, "Life is like this."