145. Raising children to prevent old age

She didn't give him this face today, and living a real life is far more important than a hypocritical face. Although Gu Haiping and Shandan have become much more open-minded and atmospheric since they got married, his innate family influence is still engraved in his bones.

Gu Haiping saw that Shandan's love was very bad, and he was very unhappy, so he simply picked up the phone and said, "Dad, Shandan is busy and can't answer the phone, let me tell her." Hang up first. "Yes, my father's approach has never been affectionate and righteous, it has always been self-respecting, even if it is unreasonable. As a son, he may not care and can be forgiven, but for Shandan, although he should share his burden, who can bear this kind of thing that is both a loss and a bad thing? If it is Shandan's parents on the other hand, Gu Haiping asks himself: He must not be better than Shandan.

He walked to the kitchen and put his arm around Shandan's shoulder and said, "I know you don't care about money, you care more about reason." But they are the kind of people who have no reason to talk about, you can only make yourself uncomfortable, and I can't help it, how do you say I can reason with them?"

"Yes? I think it's your attitude that determines their behavior, what's wrong with your parents? Parents can be unreasonable? Parents don't have human manners? I don't have parents? I jumped out of a stone?" Shandan couldn't suppress his anger and finally exploded.

"What is my attitude? I haven't been saying good things on both sides? Do you think I'm comfortable being caught in the middle?" Gu Haiping was also angry, and he withdrew his hand from Shandan's shoulder heavily.

"What good things do I want you to say? Do I want you to boast? Tell me what I didn't do well? What am I not doing my best? I'd rather save my own food and send them money, medicine, and clothes back in a timely manner, summer is summer fruit money, winter is winter meat money, Xiaoyu's medicine is all I bought with my medical card and sent it back, which time and time did I not do it? What kind of heart have you? Do you know the size of their clothes and shoes? Do you know what medicine they take? Why is it so hard for you to say a fair word?!You've always been macho, and you think that everything I've done is right, it's not an exaggeration, right? You don't deserve to be recognized or even a little grateful, right?"

"It's not...... I think I just did it, there is no need to say anything, and they don't understand that you did it?" Gu Haiping lowered his head and said.

"Is that right? The last time I went back, I heard Grandma Xiaoyu say in front of me, saying that her son thought that Zhou Dao was doing a good job, and that there was nothing to do with me at all! Will I go back and count your family alone? Is Xiaoyu still your family? Besides you, does your family remember that there are still us?" Shandan looked up at Gu Haiping angrily and said.

"Where are you talking about? Why is there no one with you? Why is there nothing wrong with you? Besides, can't I appreciate it?" Gu Haiping's tone was also a little tough.

"Yes, do you think there is, yes? Tell me, where are we?" Shandan asked.

"What's wrong with you today? Why are you so excited? If you don't want to give it, just ask for the money back, what's the use of talking about all this useless?" Gu Haiping stood up angrily.

"I'm excited? I'll go back with Xiaoyu, what did your family do to us? The children are sick, they can't eat anything, they want to eat some chicken, and your family didn't kill a chicken. When I go back to my mother's house, the sheep are all killed, and I can't even buy a chicken for a few thousand yuan a year? As the father of the child, don't you feel the slightest feeling? Don't you mind at all? We only go back once in a few years! Grandma Xiaoyu said that the sense of taste is not good, and the daily vegetables are so salty that they can't be eaten, and I help cook them, and she must put the seasoning herself, so that the child can't eat every meal. Oh, now that there is already a compensation payment, and without saying a word, you will leave our five thousand dollars, you have all decided, and you are still asking for my opinion, I will answer the phone, what do you tell me to say?" Shandan became more and more excited.

Gu Haiping lowered his head and said in a low voice: "I'm also uncomfortable, Xiaoyu is my child after all, but they are already thrifty, so you don't care, right?"

"My mother is also a thrifty person, and she is also reluctant to eat or wear, a sheep is worth thousands of dollars, how can she be willing?" Shandan asked rhetorically.

"Let's stop arguing, you don't want me to get the money back tomorrow. Gu Haiping dropped this sentence, turned around and went into the study and closed the door.

That's it, Gu Haiping and Shandan have never had an awkward relationship because of the two of them's own affairs, every time it's because of Gu Haiping's family affairs, every time Gu Haiping is unhappy, he chooses to escape, this is not - a stiff back is left for Shandan, and he goes to the study.

Shandan looked at Gu Haiping's back, and there was a trace of resentment in his heart. She understands Gu Haiping's hard work over the years, but who understands her tiredness and unwillingness? All these years she has worried about her family, no one understands and no one understands the tiredness she has suffered. Gu Haiping may feel some things sometimes, but he didn't give her back the respect she deserves.

Once Shandan bought a pair of leather shoes for his mother and mother-in-law at the same time, soft sheepskin, mother's size 36, mother-in-law's size 38, before buying Shandan had called to ask his mother-in-law's shoe size. The shoes are the right size Daphne in the mall, and the mother received a call complaining that her daughter was spending money indiscriminately, saying that she had what she was wearing, why did she buy such a good one? The mother-in-law called and said that the size was not suitable, and asked how much she bought it, and she wanted to sell it to Gu Sansan's mother-in-law. Shandan also has different thoughts about the different feedback of these two mothers, and the mother is directly distressed about her daughter. Maybe the mother-in-law is also reluctant to wear and sell, but is it inappropriate to sell it to the mother of the third daughter-in-law?

Shandan thought: If her mother is not suitable, she will not say it, she can understand her daughter's filial piety, and she will not give her daughter a trace of grievance. Besides, if it is really not suitable, the in-laws are suitable, it will never ask for money, think about the daughter-in-law's mother, how embarrassed to sell? But she just thought about it, did not say it, but there is still a subtle discomfort in her heart, not to say that the mother-in-law did not feel her heart, maybe she will still say that she will not live, spend money indiscriminately? Or don't want to, she should do what she should do with a clear conscience, and don't care about the rest.

Gu Haiping didn't think much about it, just said hello to the price of Shandan and told his mother directly. A big man may not think much about it at all, and he doesn't notice the subtle changes in Shandan's feelings.

But life is made up of countless details, every time I go back to Xiaoyu's grandmother's house, although Shandan doesn't treat himself as an outsider and actively does everything, but Gu Sansan's daughter-in-law waits for the meal to be ready, and only comes back to eat when the meal is ready. These did not give Shandan any extra points in front of his mother-in-law and father-in-law, but they said that Gu Sansan's daughter-in-law was very filial.

I remember that once my mother-in-law called Gu Haiping and said that her waist was uncomfortable, Gu Haiping asked her to buy a hot water bottle to apply a compress, and Gu Sansan's daughter-in-law lived in the town and ran back and forth to her mother-in-law's house for dinner every day. But the mother-in-law did not let the daughter-in-law buy it. Because Gu Sansan's daughter-in-law was next to him when he called, Gu Haiping thought that she would buy it back without saying anything at all, he valued his brother-in-law according to Shandan's personality. After a few days of calling, I found out that the hot water bottle had not been bought, and my mother's cautious and ambiguous attitude also made Gu Haiping feel that their so-called filial daughter-in-law might just be said to Shandan and him, plus they went back to Gu Sansan's daughter-in-law's laziness, which made Gu Haiping very annoyed.

When I went back for the Chinese New Year, my father also said that he wanted them to pay to buy a house and live with Gu Sansan, and his son and daughter-in-law were filial and could take care of them. Gu Haiping and Shandan discussed this matter, and said that thirty or forty thousand yuan could buy a courtyard with a separate courtyard, and Gu Haiping agreed, saying that he would help raise the money.

Shandan asked about property rights, and Gu Haiping said that the family would give birth to these things, and if his younger brother and sister-in-law could take good care of his parents for him, he was willing to give them a house. But Gu Haiping's own house is still empty in the air, Shandan thinks that if he can comfort Gu Haiping's heart, it is worth settling his parents in their old age with 30,000 or 40,000 yuan, so he did not object.

Gu Haiping, who was annoyed, called his father directly, and based on his views and his father's theory, his father insisted that Gu Sansan could give him a pension and send him to the end of his life, and asked Gu Haiping to buy a house for him. Gu Haiping discussed this matter with Shandan, and Shandan said: "That's it, the house can be bought, but the property right is ours, and they can just live in it." In this way, we can hold Gu Sansan and his daughter-in-law hostage, and we have the initiative, if they can send the old people to the end of their lives, the house will be transferred to them, and if not, the house will be sold to the old people. ”

The two discussed, Gu Haiping called his father and told him what they thought, and his father became angry when he heard it: "If you do this, how can your conscience be at ease? I raise my children to prevent old age, what have you done? You don't have a conscience!"

Gu Haiping told his father the truth, but his father couldn't listen to it at all, he felt that if he didn't give the house to Gu Sansan, Gu Sansan's daughter-in-law would have ideas, and he wouldn't be able to win the heart of Gu Sansan's daughter-in-law, and that person might not be filial. He still thinks from his habits and concepts of doing things and things, and he doesn't know at all that he should love his children as a father, and it is normal and appropriate for him to repay his parents for their nurturing kindness as a child. His philosophy is to make everything specific and utilitarian, which is 108,000 miles away from Shandan's tutor.

Gu Haiping was also very annoyed: "If you raise a child to prevent old age, if you can't prevent old age, your son will be useless? What did you do to give birth to him? Strangled to death one by one! I am not filial if I have not been by your side for so many years? Then why do you call me to ask for money whenever you have something?"

Shandan looked at Gu Haiping, who was angry, and was a little unaware of the situation: why did this son, who had always been obedient to his family, suddenly become so angry?