Uncle Taurus naturally didn't notice Niu Tiangou's "anger", or he had already noticed it but pretended not to know, and continued: "If the conditions are good or have some conditions, the law of reciprocity of conditions will be followed.

"Conditional equivalence comes in three forms.

"The first is correspondence. Correspondence reciprocity requires that both men and women are completely equal in appearance, material, and spiritual, that is, the two parties are basically matched one by one in terms of height, appearance, figure, weight, age, and skin color and skin type - savings, investment, real estate, property, and family background, family background and home environment.

"In this way, the conditions of the corresponding reciprocal love are particularly good, and people call both men and women 'a natural pair, a pair made from the ground', and the families of both men and women are called 'door to door'."

Niu Tiangou understood, like the most beautiful girl in the fourth class of the second-grade science in the original normal school, and the class president of their class were called correspondence equivalence. The two men are handsome and beautiful - the appearance conditions are equal, the family is in the countryside - the material conditions are equal, the diploma and personality are the same - the spiritual conditions are equal.

"The second is misplaced equivalence."

Uncle Taurus continued: "In human love, there are very few cases where men and women are completely equivalent in terms of appearance, material, and spirituality, and more are not equal or cannot be matched one by one.

"For example, if the woman has good physical conditions, poor material conditions, and average mental conditions, while the man's physical conditions are average, good material conditions, and poor mental conditions, or the woman's physical conditions, material conditions, and poor mental conditions, while the man's physical conditions are poor, the material conditions are average, and the mental conditions are good, and all the conditions cannot be matched and equal.

"What about this situation? You can't let them go on for the rest of their lives because they can't match them equally, right? As a result, people came up with the method of 'dislocation and reciprocity' -- to make a 'great shift' and a great dislocation of the three major conditions of appearance, material, and spirit, so that the physical conditions are equal to the material conditions, and the spiritual conditions are equal to the physical conditions, in short, as long as the overall conditions are roughly equal. This is misplaced equivalence.

"For example, you're not good looking, aren't you? But people's material conditions are also poor, isn't this equivalent? You're in good material condition, aren't you? But if people's appearance conditions are good, isn't this equivalent? You're mentally average, aren't you? But people's mental conditions are also average, isn't this equivalent? You're mentally well-conditioned, aren't you? But people ......"

"I see, I see." Niu Tiangou hurriedly interrupted him, afraid that he would take the trouble to "yes" and "yes", isn't it just to misplace the three conditions and equalize, to put it bluntly, 'borrowed reciprocity' is that the appearance of a beautiful woman matches the wealth or talent that can be realized, and if you match it, you will be successful, and if you are not worthy, you will get out, and there is no trace of emotion at all.

He has seen such an example, isn't the erotic love of his cousin Narcissus such a misplaced reciprocity? The cousin's appearance conditions are good, the other party's material conditions are good, the cousin's material conditions are poor, the other party's appearance conditions are poor, the cousin's mental conditions are average, and the other party's mental conditions are also average, although their conditions are generally misplaced and equal, but the cousin does not love each other.

"Still, I think ...... Appearance is appearance, matter is matter, spirit is spirit, the essence of the three is different, how can it be cross-equal? How can we use the advantages of one to fill the shortcomings of the other? ”

Thinking of his cousin Narcissus, Niu Tiangou seemed a little angry: "With such a marriage and love, can you live happily in the future?" ”

Uncle Taurus pondered for a moment and said: "As long as both men and women think that this kind of misplaced reciprocity is fair and they have not suffered a loss, then this kind of reciprocal relationship should slowly cultivate feelings after a period of running-in - all the so-called glamorous lovers and lovers in the world all originate from conditions." Many families in the world are united in this way, don't you think they are all happy? Moreover, misplaced reciprocity must be that both parties have conditions that make the other person particularly excited, so sometimes, the family with such uneven and complementary conditions is stronger.

"It is precisely because of this law of dislocation and reciprocity that there will be 'beautiful women with beasts', 'short men with tall women' and other marriage and love matches that do not conform to social common sense, which also shows the diversity of the concept of marriage and love in the world."

After speaking, Uncle Taurus glanced at Niu Tiangou and smiled faintly: "Aren't you and the peony girl also this kind of misplaced equivalence?" ”

"Me?" Niu Tiangou was stunned, but he didn't expect to bring the "fire" to himself.

"Didn't you just ask why such a beautiful girl would take a fancy to you?"

Uncle Taurus smiled lightly and said, "It's because your conditions have changed. In the past, you and the peony girl's material conditions were equal - your family was in the countryside, and you relied on work to eat, of course, you couldn't talk about any money, let alone family property, and you only had the lowest food and clothing conditions; The physical condition is not equal - the peony girl is 'tall and beautiful', while you are 'short and average-looking'. Although your mental condition (culture) is stronger than that of the peony girl, this condition is often ignored in poor rural areas where you rely on physical strength to eat—rural people generally do not pay attention to spiritual conditions, as long as you are not a bad person or a criminal suspect.

"Because the overall conditions between you and Miss Peony are seriously unequal, your neighbor Sister-in-law Dandan has never introduced her sister-Peony girl to you, I'm afraid you didn't know that Sister-in-law Dandan also has a sister who looks like a fairy, right?

"But now it's different, your food and clothing conditions have undergone qualitative changes, with a fixed job and a fixed salary income, with an iron rice bowl, you don't have to worry about life for a lifetime, and the level of food and clothing is above the average level of rural people. This is the most important survival guarantee for those rural girls who have been digging in the soil for many years, relying on the weather for food, and not guaranteeing their harvest in drought and flood.

"The simple rural girl is the most practical and affordable. In their opinion, your food and clothing conditions are now 'equal' with their appearance conditions, so Dandan's sister-in-law is willing to introduce her sister Peony girl to you, so there are so many people in the village who are looking for your mother to talk to you and want to introduce those handsome girls who are smart and tender to you. ”

"It turns out that girls in the world have such worldly visions." Niu Tiangou muttered dissatisfiedly.

"Ho ho, do you think you're not worldly?"

"Am I worldly?" Niu Tiangou pursed his lips and disagreed.

"Yes, you are also worldly, and you can't get rid of the law of conditional equivalence. Think about it, why did you not want to marry a girl with a long face? Isn't it because she's not good-looking—ugly—can't match yours?

"If the peony girl doesn't have good appearance conditions, the same as the horse long-faced girl, would you like to meet her? Will you still be tempted when you meet? If Niu Yu'e in your village and Cao Yanfang, a private teacher, are not beautiful, can you have a good impression of them and never forget them?

"Actually, you, like most young men in the world, put the girl's appearance conditions in the first place, and 'judge' people by their appearance, do you dare to say that you are not worldly? It's just that the rural girls are 'secular' for food and clothing, while you're 'secular' for appearance.

"Now the appearance conditions of the peony girl are equal to your food and clothing conditions, and your 'worldliness' is also 'equal' to her 'worldliness'."

"This ......" Niu Tiangou was speechless for a while, his face embarrassed. He didn't expect that he was also an ordinary man in the world, and he couldn't escape the fetters of the law of equality of conditions in the world.

"Ho ho ho ho ho ......" Seeing Niu Tiangou's embarrassed expression, Uncle Taurus laughed.

This old monster!