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Case 4: (The case occurred in 2007, when the author was a front-line psychologist in the psychological assistance department.) ）

This case was caused by a public welfare activity, and the author recorded it in the record, which is an ethical and psychological record about domestic violence.

Today I went to the salon "Say No to Domestic Violence" organized by the Municipal Women's Federation. To be honest, I'm a big man standing in the middle of a group of women, and I'm a little uncomfortable. The women who attended the meeting fully carried forward the "democratic spirit of speaking freely". Extend the scope of violence of "domestic violence" indefinitely, even if your husband accidentally sneezes while eating, it is also the source of infectious disease "domestic violence"! But in any case, the vast number of women compatriots have such a sense of "class" struggle, and I think this is a great step forward in the "women's liberation movement".

After the meeting, many women approached me, hoping that I could teach them some ways to avoid their husbands having affairs and raising **. I am usually very helpless about this kind of consultation, but for the sake of the enthusiasm of these women, I will say, "Learn to communicate with your husband!" ”

hxx was the one who pulled me aside when I was about to leave the Municipal Women's Federation. At that time, her face was hesitant and confused, and she was stunned for a long time. She said, "Teacher Jiang." Can I delay you for a while? I would like to ask a more private question. I looked at her, and saw that her hesitation, and the weight of her sorrow made her look pitiful, so I said, "How long will it take?" She pondered for a while and said embarrassedly, "Is it okay for about 2 hours?" I looked at my watch, made sure I had time, and said, "Yes, where do you think it's more convenient to talk?" She looked left and right, and said with a slight embarrassment: "Teacher Jiang." It's hard to talk about this matter that I consulted, can you stop talking about it in public? I nodded, and then said, "Would you like to go to my office to talk?" She nodded happily.

About 20 minutes later, HXX came to my office. I sat her down, made her a cup of tea, handed it to her, and said, "Tell me about you." HXX took the tea, but his hands holding the teacup trembled a little, took a sip, and said slowly: "Doctor Jiang, I really don't know how such a thing could happen to me?" I didn't dare to say it to my friends. I didn't dare to tell my family, let alone my colleagues. I thought about it, and the only way to find you is the most suitable. I smiled and said, "Thank you for your trust, don't worry, you say it slowly, there will always be a suitable solution to the big difficulties." HXX nodded, his legs shrank back slightly, he put the teacup on the coffee table with both hands, and said after a moment of silence: "My name is HXX, and I am a kindergarten teacher in this city. I got married last year, and my husband is a construction engineer. When I first met him, I found that he was still very self-contained, so the two entered the palace of marriage. But a few days after the wedding, he brought back a nurse's outfit and asked me to pretend to be a nurse to serve him. I could tolerate this thing at first, but then it got worse and worse, and I was asked to play the policewoman for a few days, and I was asked to play the role of ol for a few days. The craziest thing is that sometimes I have to play several roles in a day. Without cosplay, he simply wouldn't be sexually aroused and orgasmic. I also made myself a cup of tea, took a sip, and said slowly: "Your husband's behavior is a habit, and you may invest too much energy in this habit, which makes you not very adaptable." hxx looked at me stupidly and said, "Isn't this a perversion?" I" hehe laughed: "If you simply say that your husband likes to have sex in uniform, this can't be considered a pervert, but if you can't produce sexual excitement and orgasm without a uniform, it's a pervert, and this uniform complex is difficult to cure." But in my personal opinion, such a uniform complex should not affect the couple's life too much. HXX nodded and said softly: "Doctor Jiang, what you said is that if he is really like this, I can bear it, but then he became more and more serious. Every time we were married, he would come up and ask me to put on a nurse's outfit and give him a blowjob. After the blowjob, he asked me to change into a police uniform, and then he took a whip and a candle from somewhere, and whipped me while dripping wax on my body with the candle. Dr. Jiang, he even brazenly told me that he liked to listen to my screams after being whipped and dripping wax. I really don't know how to face him, I'm afraid to be alone with him now, I'm afraid to live as a couple at night. When I heard this, I felt very sympathetic to hxx, and I said, "Didn't you communicate with your husband about this?" HXX said: "How can I not communicate, I have communicated many times, and for a while I was not even willing to share a room with him, and went back to my parents' house to live for a while." My mother was very surprised when I came home, saying why did she go back to her parents' house shortly after getting married? I was ashamed to say anything about it, and I could only prevaricate that I was homesick, and my parents didn't say much about me for that. I continued, "What about the result of your resistance?" HXX said aggrievedly: "Result? As a result, he brazenly found my home and privately promised me that he would not do it again and that I would go home as soon as possible. I lit a cigarette, leaned my back against the corner of my desk, and said, "Go on, I'm sure he won't be able to keep his promise of not committing a crime when he comes home." HXX nodded and said, "Yes, if he had fulfilled his promise, I wouldn't have been looking for you today." After returning home with him, a few days later, I brought back a pink professional outfit and said that I was asked to play OL. I was angry and made it clear that I wouldn't cooperate. But he said eloquently: 'I want to control my kind of **, just like controlling my addiction, it can't be changed all at once.' I have to take my time and fade it every time. This one requires your cooperation. I thought he had a point. and cooperated with him against his will. He also behaved a lot, just let me play a female clerk, and then he played the boss, a** me, and finally asked me to help him with a blowjob until the climax of ejaculation. But within a few days, he was using the whips and candles again, and nothing had changed. "I smoked. Looking at HXX's aggrieved description, my heart was extremely depressed, I got up and refilled her teacup with a little water, then looked at her and said, "Do you know what your husband's behavior is called?" xhh looked at me blankly, and said with grievances: "I checked, is it called sexual abuse?" ”

"Yes, the technical term for this behavior is similar to addiction. The opposite of sexual abuse is masochism, and in layman's terms, it likes to enjoy pleasure by being abused. I explained:

"So what should I do? Can my husband's addiction be cured? HXX asked anxiously:

"Yes, the key is to see if your husband is willing to cooperate, in psychology. There is a professional treatment called 'aversion therapy'. Even when he has a tendency to sexual abuse (also applies to other symptoms of sexual perversion. such as fetishism, friction, etc.), use electric shocks or other means to make him feel pain or disgust, and over time it can be cured. I went on to explain:

"Then Mr. Jiang, what should I do about my husband at present?" Still anxious, hxx asked:

"My personal attitude, first of all, your husband does have symptoms of sexual abuse according to your description, but it is not very excessive, and the way it is used is uniform, whipping and wax dripping. And these methods are also commonly used in sexual abuse, and even ordinary people are acceptable or understandable. Secondly, in your description, your husband clearly said that he likes to listen to your screams, so when you go home, you can try to see if your screams can attract your husband without those sexual abuse methods. Finally, if you really can't accept your husband's way, you can temporarily refuse to have a married life like you did before, and I judge that your husband will also be able to restrain you. "I suggested:

"Dr. Jiang, I will try these suggestions of yours, but I am worried that this sexual abuse will get worse?" XHH asked:

I thought about it for a moment, then said, "XHH, can you take control of the roleplay?" XHH shook his head suspiciously and asked, "I don't understand." I explained: "In the process of sadism, there is usually a role-play complex. It's like your husband asked you to play OL, nurse or something. And his eventual sexual abuse is decided based on your role-playing. Generally speaking, when playing a policewoman, she will use a whip, and when she plays a nurse, she will use needles, etc. If you can control the role-playing, then you can decide what kind of sexual abuse your husband uses. Is this an explanation understandable? xhh seemed to have an understanding and said: "I kind of understand, what Mr. Jiang means is that what kind of sexual abuse can I accept to guide my husband to try what kind of role-playing?" Is that right? I laughed and said, "Yes, that's it!" ”

"Can my husband's sexual abuse be mitigated?" XHH asked:

"Now what I need to tell you is: it is not up to you to change your husband's psychology, but it is up to you to alleviate your husband's perverted psychology. Can you understand? I said:

xhh looked at me, nodded and said, "I think I should get it!" ”

Tips on Sexual Abuse:

1. Sexual abuse includes masochism and sadism, and generally speaking, people who like to abuse are usually masochists;

2. The person who sexually abuses is usually a man;

3. There are many ways of sexual abuse, in addition to binding, whipping, acupuncture, and wax dripping in the general sense, it also includes unbelievable sexual abuse methods such as slapping, burning, and castration.

4. There is a difference between sexual abuse and sexual abuse games and sexual violence, and they cannot be confused.

Case 5: (This case occurred in the midsummer of 2007, and the author is still a front-line psychologist in a psychological assistance department.) ）

The heroine of this case is basically a microcosm of some women in reality, and in terms of interests and reputation, where do female compatriots go, which is worthy of reflection and deep reflection in our society.

As soon as I arrived at the unit early in the morning, Director Wang, who was in charge of psychological crisis intervention work, called me aside and said to me in his ear: "Xiao Jiang, there is something I want to trouble you. "Because of the reason that he is in charge of the work, Director Wang rarely has contact with me about work matters, and it is rare for Director Wang to open this mouth, and it is troublesome. I should do the same. So I immediately nodded and replied to Director Wang, "Director Wang." You have something to say. Don't bother, don't bother to see so much. Director Wang nodded knowingly and said, "There is a case that you need to pick up, and you are an expert in dealing with emotions." "When I saw Director Wang praising me as an "expert", I was also happy. So I said, "Director Wang is in charge of psychological crisis intervention, so why should he personally inquire about psychological assistance?" Director Wang shook his head and said, "It's a distant relative of a friend of my wife who needs psychological assistance, and my wife asked me to solve it, so I asked you Xiao Jiang to help." I" hehe smiled and said, "It turned out to be my sister-in-law's request, I should do it." When will Director Wang give me the information on the case? Director Wang patted me on the shoulder and said, "Thank you, Xiao Jiang, I will send you the case information to your mailbox." You can deal with it when you have time, don't delay your work. I nodded and smiled, "Where, where!" Director Wang, rest assured, I will give you feedback on the results in time! Director Wang said, "It's bothered!" "And left.

After arriving at the office, it didn't take long for me to receive an email from Director Wang. When I opened the email, it was a case called wjy.

WJY, female, 26 years old, graduated from university. I haven't been able to find a good job, not with a very low income. It's just a lot of work. Later, after being introduced by a friend, I entered a foreign trade company to work and engaged in secretarial work. Its income is quite good, and the work pressure is not great, so it is considered a white-collar class, so WJY is very satisfied. But the good times didn't last long, and his boss coveted WJY's beauty, forcing WJY to submit to satisfy his own lust, WJY was in great pain, and he didn't want to lose his current job, so he needed psychological help.

Obviously, through this case information, it can be known that what happened to WJY was unfortunate. However, WJY will not defend its own rights and protect itself, which I think is very puzzling, if contemporary college students do not even have this sense of rights protection, it is difficult to say that the current university education is successful.

In any case, since I have taken over the case introduced by Director Zhang, in any case, it is treated from the professional perspective of a psychologist, without any prejudice and subjective emotions.

picked up the phone and contacted wjy, wjy on the other end of the phone, his voice was a little pale and weak, and according to her request, he chose a tea house. The agreed time is 18:00 on the same day

18:00 I arrived at the teahouse on time and called wjy, but wjy didn't answer. "You won't let me go, will you?" I was a little confused. But considering WJY's current situation, it shouldn't be a joke. So I chose a more remote seat and sat down, asked for a good cup of tea, and lit a cigarette by myself. Enjoy a rare leisure.

After about 15 minutes of waiting, my phone rang, and it was WJY. WJY said on the other end of the phone that he would be late for a while, and wanted me to apologize for being late. I indicated that it didn't matter and told her my seat number.

After another 15 minutes, around 18:30, a girl wearing a beige T-shirt and blue pencil pants appeared in front of me. I took a look at her: she was 165cm tall, with a delicate face and slightly messy shoulder-length hair. I only heard the girl say, "You are Doctor Jiang, right?" I nodded and said, "Are you WJY?" WJY nodded, and I quickly got up and sat down. WJY politely thanked him. After greeting each other, I got straight to the point and asked, "WJY, can you tell me what work means to you?" WJY said quietly: "It means income, it means that you can live, and it means that this can be better for your future development?" "So can you give your all, even your own body, for a job?" I asked in a daze: WJY didn't answer my question, just blindly drank tea in that small sip, and drank a small sip and a small sip. I was a little maddened by WJY's behavior, so I said in a slightly angry tone: "If your boss does force you because of work, I suggest you collect evidence and call the police." When WJY heard me say this, he suddenly raised his head, looked at me and said, "How can I call the police?" Dr. Jiang, I think I should tell you the ins and outs of this matter, okay? I saw that WYJ was willing to open up to me, and of course I was more than happy to listen, so I nodded.

WYJ took a sip of tea, then refilled a little water in his teacup, brewed his emotions for a while, and then said slowly: "Before entering my current unit, I entered many units, did sales, ran insurance, and it was not suitable for me, and my major (human resource management) has a limited range of career options, but I can't live without a job, because I have my own dreams, I need capital accumulation......""Capital accumulation? Dream? What kind of dreams do you have that you can tell me? I interrupted WYJ. WJY looked at me, put his hands on the pendant on his chest, and then lowered his head and said, "To tell you the truth, I want to immigrate to Australia." (To be continued) (To be continued.) )