All psychological theories eventually return to the patient's memory.

Otherwise, it's always just an itch in the boots.

Just like a psychiatrist always describes to his patients: human psychology is the same as nature, with ups and downs. Just like the sun, there is the rising sun, the noon sun, and the sunset.

Man has to go with the flow, not against nature.

Or use the detached words of "Lingling Xuanxuan" to enlighten the patient's mind.

In other words, human consciousness has a set of encoding and decoding rules for the processing of information, just like computer programs......

These explanations are so harmonious and wonderful.

But it's more of an external statement than a deep dive into the patient's inner world.

Because your teachings are always conscious, and consciousness is ever-changing, people will receive different knowledge and different understandings every day.

Once there is a conflict of knowledge, it will trigger his compulsive confrontation and loss of autonomy.

Perhaps, people will come up with some seemingly ironclad laws and laws to stabilize the emotions of people with mental disorders.

However, even then, no one can guarantee that these laws are set in stone. The most important thing is to ensure that it is long-lasting and stable in the patient's mind.

What's more: these wonderful theories fail to evoke a sense of intimacy in patients.

Therefore, it has an almost physiological rejection.

At most, it is only a kind of affection and trust in the person who taught his theory; Or maybe it's a pastime, but it doesn't go deep into the heart. Pen, fun, and www.biquge.info

For he seems to know that his innate happiness is not obtained by these dogmatic upbringing; It's not that detached.

In my opinion, the most stable and affectionate ideas are not acquired by education, but are the instinctive memories that are close to innocence in childhood.

Just like a common sense: a person's physical health is not based on how rich the medical knowledge he has learned and the scientific drugs he eats are important criteria; It's his natural physical aptitude.

In the same way, the degree of a person's mental health is not measured by the richness of the scientific education he receives later in life, but by the degree of preservation of the memories given to him by his parents.

If this is understood, it would be ridiculous to criticize Freud's theory for not being scientific enough.

No self-proclaimed person who incarnates science has been able to respect the true memories of his patients as much as Freud.

But they think they care about the patients and can save them. In fact, it is just a mechanical indoctrination of superficial knowledge into them, or treating them as experiments. For example, it is often said in many books to "live in the moment". In fact, many people understand this truth. Because the past cannot be changed; The future is uncertain; You can only live in the moment. But the question is: how can you live in the moment? Can the shame, regret, and shadow of the past be eliminated with just one sentence of "living in the present"? Can the temptation, anxiety, and hopelessness of the future be calmed down with just one sentence of "living in the present"? If we say that the deep meaning of "living in the moment" is: the memory of children and mothers in the most distant childhood, or that feeling. When I didn't see my mother, my personality was lost to the outside world, so that my heart was no longer calm and fluctuated greatly. Because of the loss of the initial sense of familiarity, the originally strange and distant description of the outside world merges into the personality, making it impossible to let go of the distant and unfamiliar past and future.

Here, pay attention to the substitution of "distant and strange".

When the body and mind are integrated with the mother, the comments and hints from the outside world are "distant and strange" and do not cause any ill effects on themselves; When the body and mind are separated from their mother, the evaluation of "distant and strange" merges into their own personality, causing infinite regret for the distant past and fear and anxiety about the strange unknown.

Just like a mentally ill or sentimental person, when affected by tragic events in the outside world, the inexplicable thought "I am a person, and I will be like him in the future, a tragic ......"

Then sink into despair and misery.

In fact, this idea was absorbed by him after he was separated from his mother in the distant past, and the bad evaluation of him from the outside world (similar to "you are a tragedy in the future") was absorbed by him.

Even if it is: the patient is deeply desperate - believing that his disease cannot be cured.

It's just the result of hearing outsiders say in the distant past: "Your disease can't be cured" and being incorporated into his personality.

What is not known is that as long as you retrieve the memories connected to your mother's blood, these thoughts will be far away from him (the bad consciousness has a force similar to being pushed away by physics), and return to the safe present......

Mom is the "now" and "familiar" being. Don't think this is another metaphor. Rather, it is a real replacement. But without in-depth analysis, perhaps no one can see the connection between "living in the moment" and "playing hide and seek with my mother".

If you don't understand that childhood memory, even if you repeat the phrase "live in the moment" 10,000 times, it won't be effective.

Because the imparter is always an outsider who is not related by blood, do not expect to change others at the root......

To use an analogy: a psychiatrist is like a detective who deciphers what forces have changed his health, finds the killer, and "brings him to justice." "Eliminate the hidden dangers of the patient.

But, then again, although the murderer has been found, the injured person has already been harmed, how can it be restored? It's just a comfort for the patient.

Indeed, we are used to seeing this kind of crime-solving scene. -- The murderer has been brought to justice, but the dead are gone, and the dead cannot be resurrected. No matter how advanced technology is, it cannot resurrect the dead. Even cloning can't replicate consciousness.

But there is only one thing that can resurrect the dead - memory. Even if the deceased does not leave any audio or video materials (memory is like a permanent video camera), memory can restore what he was when he was alive.

Does this mean that human memory is the highest spiritual quality given by God? What is unshakable and can be reborn?

What technology can't do, memory can. Even cloning can't copy your memories. What's yours is yours, and no one can shake it.

So, so should mental health. Anything that has been lost, technology can't fully restore it, except memory.

Therefore, the lost healthy self can also be restored with memory.

That's why I emphasize the healthiest state of patients to enhance their memories of the earliest periods. Because that's his foundation, and he doesn't need to rely on anyone's foundation.

Of course, this is only my superficial statement, whether the memory is really so magical, everyone's innate feelings should be able to know.

It can be said that in terms of personality, no one dares to call a teacher except for parents.

Therefore, the next chapter is to restore the complex psychological symptoms and theorized psychological analysis to the real life experience of the patient; Specifically, life experiences related to parents.

That's right, the previous examples all revolve around living with parents.

But it is all excavated under the guidance of psychoanalysts, and the patient only feels suddenly enlightened by the logical connection between the disease and the parents.

The confusion and confusion about the disease seems to be gone.

The chaotic life has finally been straightened out.

However, he was still unable to take his own initiative.

Because all this is done with the help of psychoanalysts.

It's like a person who hears a strange sound and is scared.

Then an elder told him that it was just the sound of frogs.

His fear vanished immediately.

It seems that this issue has been completely resolved and does not need to be discussed again.

But that's not the case.

The elder explained to him the source of the strange sound, which only dispelled his fear.

When the next time a new unknown arises, he will be afraid again, and he will need to explain again from the elders.

The same is true for psychoanalysis.

Therefore, it is necessary to eliminate the influence of the psychoanalyst and let the patient himself understand the source of the fear in order to truly eliminate the symptoms.

That's right, as mentioned earlier, the psychoanalyst is the shadow of the patient's parents.

Patients should be able to integrate the psychoanalyst's theories and assimilate them into their own.

It's like a child absorbing the factors of their parents.

However, there are subtle differences between parents and psychoanalysts, and they are not exactly the same.

This is because parents are not as organized and logical as psychoanalysts are to help them deal with their fears and anxieties.

As a result, parents and psychoanalysts are not fully integrated in the patient's mind.

What we need to talk about now is a deeper parental relationship that gradually fades the influence of the psychoanalyst into obscurity.

Only the voices of parents remain.

Now, for each symptom and bad mood, correspond to the experience of the parents one by one.

In one case, a depressed and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), Mr. S, felt that he no longer had any psychological problems after a long period of in-depth psychological analysis.

However, when the reality suddenly appeared such as "Scientists have researched that depression comes from the XX component of the human brain......"

He will instantly feel that psychoanalysis is so pale and powerless, as if the psychoanalysis that has gone deep into the heart many times has no value under a scientific report. He fell into endless despair again.

From the above simple explanation, everyone should know: this should be caused by his excessive admiration and compromise of scientists.

This can be seen in his state of mind when he was a student.

From the very beginning of his studies, he had no resistance to the strictness of his teacher.

Any word of the teacher can determine his consciousness and behavior.

That is, what ordinary people call "good students".

It's just that he is too well-behaved, and he is so disciplined that he completely loses his instinctive momentum.

As he grew older, his compromise with his teacher's authority showed no sign of abating.

The teacher criticized him for being stupid, mentally retarded, and unresponsive, and he could only accept it all.

It was as if the words were like an eternal chrome seal, sealing his instinctive creativity and intelligence.

He is almost immune to negative comments about his teachers.

Especially when it comes to science.

Because he has better grades in liberal arts; Poor grades in science.

As the teacher said: unresponsive, mentally retarded.

No matter how hard he tried to listen to lectures and study, he couldn't keep up with the pace of teachers and some science students.

As if the "unresponsive" comment had become fate.

This has caused him to have an inferiority complex more and more, and he always feels that he is so small in front of the excellent students of science.

There seemed to be nothing else in his life but studying.

The disadvantage in learning has affected his whole person.

He will gradually deny himself, believing that he is not mentally sound.

Even every time he took an exam, he would fatalize himself to think that he would definitely have an accident and fail to get the results he expected. No matter how well prepared and sure he was in advance.

Even if it turns out that he got the expected grades, he will remain unreasonably skeptical the next time.

Until he firmly believed that he was born with the literacy of a science student, no matter how hard he tried, it would be in vain.

On the other hand, he sometimes suddenly bursts into a fantasy that he is superior in ability, and his grades have improved by leaps and bounds, even surpassing his teachers.

This desire to succeed is not pathological.

When there is no compromise, his positive attitude is normal and smooth.

However, because of forced enrollment and excessive compromise, the desire to rebound strongly and swelled was extremely inflated.

Like a gentle stream of water, if there are no obstacles, he will flow for a long time.

But if its flow is severely obstructed, there will be a flood one day.

It can be seen that the perfectionism of patients with depressive obsessive-compulsive disorder stems from this.

Evolved into life, it is his belief that his soul is missing a certain element, and no matter how much he makes up for it, it will still have defects and obstacles, and it will never be as healthy as others.

On the other hand, once it gets better, he will infinitely exaggerate the effect.

Let's go back to the question of his reading.

If a person's energy and attention are all focused on reading, he will only have the road to despair.

Because he seems to have forgotten the question of whether he likes science or not, whether he likes reading or not.

If you don't like it, it doesn't matter if you do well in science.

This issue has already been discussed earlier.

Now it's just to find a real memory of whether he likes to read or not, and it's no longer a psychological speculation.

It turned out that in his memory, there was indeed a memory that he ignored.

That is, when he first went to kindergarten, he was ignorant and longing.

However, just as he was about to enter the schoolyard, he suddenly broke free from his father, who was sending him to school.

Run to a place to hide.

No matter how much my father persuaded him, he didn't want to go to school.

Later, it was his father who used his father's authority to force him to enter the school.

That's where the problem happens.

From the moment he entered the campus, his journey of compromising with his teachers began.

So, his original self was a strong resistance to school, including teachers.

Forcing him to go to school despite this unusual resistance would only backfire and cause him to suddenly switch from resistance to compromise.

As I said before: a child originally hates being told that he is honest, and he enjoys this evaluation because of the influence of the outside world. From an unhonest heart to an overly tame heart.

This shift is unusual.

Of course, it cannot be said that his strong resistance to entering the school is his normal and healthy self.

It should be: strong resistance and strong compromise are both abnormal.

However, strong resistance will not at least allow him to compromise, leading to self-loss and even illness later on.

As it turned out, he developed a kind of regressive satisfaction in his reading -- taking vacation as a great pleasure.

And to achieve this happiness, it must be based on the pain of reading.

If you choose to resist entering the school, at most you will close yourself off and have less contact with the outside world.

His happiness is close to normal, not regressive and compromised.

Therefore, it is necessary to take seriously his strong resistance to entering the school.

However, he should first maintain a normal, resistant to the unfamiliar.

(Here, there is a subtle doubt that needs to be explained: a normal state of mind, curiosity about strange things.) But this does not contradict normal resistance. Because curiosity doesn't mean you're going to do it right away. Trying to do that right away is a hidden compromise. ）

What was it that caused his resistance to become so strong?

It all started with a special experience he had......

It was when he was 5 years old, and his mother took his brother to school and took him with her.

At that time, he was very innocent and ignorant.

There is no anxiety or fear of the unknown at all.

Just full of curiosity.

Driven by curiosity, he seemed to remember: there was a teacher-like person who teased him and called him over; So he entered a room curiously, only to be glared at and yelled at by another stern-looking teacher; The teacher seemed to be a science teacher who was doing an experiment at the time; At the same time, a strong white light flashed, and he felt that his mind was blank at that time, and he could not remember what happened in the future.

This memory is very vague, and if it were not traced back to it, it would not have attracted anyone's attention at all, including himself.

After this fright, he remembered again: he dreamed that he was in a hazy place, and saw a dot that swelled until it filled his field of vision. Dysesthesia is depressed.

This is the consequence of his sudden start.

This appears to be the earliest causative factor.

Because he was frightened, he refused to enter the school.

Once forced into school, resistance goes to the other extreme - compromise.

Because of compromise, I accept the teacher's words in full; So get infected with negative evaluations and absorb them as part of your personality; self-deprecation, punishment; gradual formation of regressive satisfaction; Eventually leads to disease.

People often lament the unfortunate experiences of the patient, believing that the misfortune has happened and seems to have determined his current state.

However, it is often overlooked that the patient's instinctive mechanism at that time is able to resist this misfortune.

Therefore, if you want to find a "good medicine", you should look for it from the patient himself, rather than relying on the guidance of a psychoanalyst.