This "good medicine" is the patient's initial instinctive resistance to school. Pen × fun × Pavilion www. ｂｉｑｕｇｅ。 ｉｎｆｏ

With this resistance, there will naturally be no later compromises and regressive satisfaction, and there will be no disease.

I am almost certain that the mentally ill and the general public with poor mental quality must have forgotten this subtle instinctive resistance.

So they will think: pandering to others, compromising with others is insurmountable.

It's like a man who, in life, always panders too much to others and suppresses himself.

Especially with his friends and classmates.

Because he feared that if he didn't cater to them, the friendship he relied on would cease to exist.

However, after learning more about his psychological process, he unexpectedly discovered that when he was in elementary school, a classmate invited him to play at home; At that time, he did not refuse to come and respond to requests as he did with this classmate in the future; Instead, he calmly declined his invitation; Later, he even got into a fight with him, and he didn't want to go to the same school to play.

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Back to the topic.

Admittedly, accidental shock at school may be the closest cause to the root cause; However, if you follow a strict instinct mechanism, when he is frightened, he should also burst out with the corresponding instinct mechanism to resist.

Why resist failure? Causing the fright to affect him so much?

It all started with another fright.

He could vaguely remember that on one occasion, he vaguely saw a large number of people entering his home, their steps hurried and chaotic.

At first, he thought it was a lively event, with a sense of curiosity and joy.

But suddenly, this curiosity turned into a kind of fear, and he seemed to sense that his mother was threatened in some way. (This is the root of his "three-minute heat" as an adult.) ）

But he seems to be drawn by a mysterious force, unable to resist those people and protect his mother.

This can also be seen later: once his mother is threatened, or there is a possibility of being threatened, he will be dumbfounded and slow to act, as if there is a force preventing him from protecting his mother.

Specifically, it's like there's a barrier stuck in my throat, and I can't make a sound of resistance.

Therefore, he never wanted to go to a lively place with his mother, because he was afraid that his mother would be threatened, and he was powerless to protect it.

He would rather suffer alone outside than let his mother know to protect him.

He only wanted his mother to hide in the safety of her home and not be harassed by outsiders.

Sometimes he even wants to change his face and imitate the "idol" stars on TV, so as to prevent others from seeing through his face and then thinking of his mother. -- This is a characteristic of people with obsessive-compulsive appearance.

This instinctive ability to resist is unexpectedly blocked, resulting in an inability to protect the mother, which can form a psychological mechanism of premature compromise with the outside world. (More on that later)

Once, he had a quarrel with his cousin, which attracted his mother to protect him, which led to a quarrel between his cousin and his mother.

What seemed like an ordinary quarrel led to a huge change in his heart.

As I just said, he was extremely afraid of his mother arguing with others because of a fright.

Because his instincts were unexpectedly thwarted and he was powerless to protect his mother.

And the quarrel between this cousin and his mother is the last thing he wants to see.

Invisibly, he compromises with his mother's hostile cousin due to the unexpected suppression of his instinctive protective power.

Therefore, when his cousin worshiped a certain star in the future, he lost his self-judgment due to compromise, began to imitate her, and became very much admirer of that star.

And when there is competition between that star and another star, and there is a possibility of failure, he turns from hate to love very secretly, compromises, and turns to worship the other star.

When one day, the star he admired had an extremely negative behavior, and he actually followed the extreme negative, which even caused him to have a certain mental illness.

His mood seems to be one with the idol's mood, and it is inseparable at all.

The negativity of the idol directly leads to his negativity, and it cannot be ruled out at all.

He is always prone to compromise with the opposite or negative side of the "idol".

In modern society, how many fanatical fans spend thousands of dollars for their "idols"?

Extreme, the word "idol", even if he has to pay millions, tens of millions, and even his life.

This is simply the transfer of the "mother". (transferred to "idol") - an instinct to maintain "mother's love".

It's just that this instinct to "protect mother's love" is transferred to the "idols" who are not related by blood.

This creates an almost physiological split.

It's as if someone said to him, "Even someone as good and perfect as your idol can't escape that fate, how can you escape?" ”

This is the underlying reason why patients have no hope of regaining their health and happiness.

He simply cannot be independent from the so-called "fatalism", because the "fan" psychology, which is inseparable from the worship of "idols", has trillions of powerful "resonances" and "consensus".

Without deep memory, it is simply impossible to be independent from that "bad consensus".

It can be seen that mental illness is so insidious that it is produced to the extreme.

Without in-depth analysis, it is impossible to find out.

It can only give the patient powerless comfort and persuasion.

However, the problem has to be taken from a holistic perspective: this physical and mental separation from his mother sometimes goes to the other extreme - he has to be accompanied by his mother to ensure her existence even when he is almost junior high school age and goes shopping not far away. It can be seen that the so-called "idol" is just a product of the continuous transfer of feelings for my mother to the outside world. It is no wonder that the worship of "idols" is almost crazy: in order to pursue a certain "idol", they will not hesitate to spend a lot of money. Just like people can invest millions, or even tens of millions, in pursuit of "powerful characters" in online games; You can even get drunk and dream of death. The reason why people with mental illness can't get rid of their illness is, from this point of view, also because of their deep addiction to "idols"; The words and deeds of the idol seem to be destined for his words and deeds, and he cannot be autonomous at all. Just like this example, in fact, he only needs to recall the state of mind when he first rebelled against his cousin, and all the negative effects of idols will no longer exist.

Back to topic:

This is what I said earlier, the separation of body and mind from mother.

If you look closely, you can find that:

The experience was the same as his resistance to entering the school.

It's the same wonderful curiosity that started out and suddenly turned to fear.

Moreover, this experience should precede the experience of being frightened at school.

Because of the most primitive instinctive mechanism of protecting the mother, according to the previous analysis, it is also known that protecting the mother is equivalent to protecting oneself.

Because the child and the mother are always physically and mentally connected.

The primitive instinctive mechanism is suppressed,

Therefore, it is impossible to resist even if you are frightened in the future.

From then on, his attitude towards his neighborhood began to change.

From the curiosity and exploration of communicating with people at the beginning, to the resistance to the neighborhood.

Later, after the personality mutated, he was too humble to his neighbors.

It can be seen that among those chaotic crowds there may be his neighbors.

This resistance led to his introverted personality later on, and he had difficulties in communicating with others.

Especially when I see serious people, I am scared and nervous. Even the mind went blank.

This had something to do with the serious-looking crowd that he remembered entering his home at the time.

But if he is forced to communicate with others, he will over-compromise with those people, which will evolve into regressive satisfaction, which may eventually lead to mental illness.

But even if it was so obscure, he could find the "medicine" from his instincts to resist this fearful experience.

It was one of his nightmares—he suddenly bounced out of his slumber, pointed into the air and roared, and then lay down to sleep again.

This is his subconscious instinct to rebel against the encroachment of others on his mother.

No amount of strength could suppress his protective instinct.

This instinctive outburst can also be seen in one of his obscure symptoms.

That is, he likes to write between the lines in the narrow lines of books, and he imagines being able to write huge words in this narrow space.

It is also an instinctive energy to break through the shackles.

As long as this power is remembered, the symptoms are naturally eliminated by instinct.

And also:

Many people have had a dream of a love object, with an extremely strong possessiveness, and not getting each other is like losing their soul. The vast majority of people can't let go of the unwillingness of their favorite object. Only those who have a strong heart can do not stick to the leaves. The secret lies in the fact that the extreme possessiveness of someone actually stems from the suppression of a very subtle, easily satisfying little desire. This feeling can be reflected in sleep - when a person is thirsty in a state of sleep, his dreams can be exaggerated to the point of being in an endless sea of fire. Just drink a sip of water, and the seemingly hopeless sea of fire will cease to exist.

Therefore, patients, especially those with obsessive-compulsive disorder, are often prone to digging into the horns.

It is because we have forgotten these subtle normal instincts that we will drill into the darkness that is extremely subtle.

As mentioned at the beginning, the patient suddenly has an inexplicable strange thought, which must have forgotten another normal memory in front of it.

The instinctive mechanism of resistance and immunity has finally been found! This is almost a qualitative breakthrough.

It seems that the recovery from the disease no longer needs to rely on the psychoanalyst, and he is able to live comfortably on his own.

And so it should be.

However, human instinct is not only psychological, but also physical, and only the instinct of physical and mental integration is the essential instinct.

Now it is necessary to connect the psychological instinct with the physiological instinct to achieve the unity of body and mind.

As long as the body is there, the mental health will always last.