You may find that psychoanalysis is always about the same topic over and over again. Pen "Fun" Pavilion www.biquge.info

The "regressive gratification", "personality deviation", and "idolatry" that have obviously been resolved through analysis will appear in another form in a similar way.

Could it be that psychoanalysis still does not solve the problem of disease recurrence?

It is normal to have such doubts.

But as long as you treat these recurring topics as a natural phenomenon, you will find that the same content will take on different meanings at different times.

It's like a seedling, always staring, but not growing; But in fact, it is constantly growing, and the form is different for each growth period.

It can also be found that the causative causes of the disease that have been analyzed above seem to be immediately judged: "You shouldn't be like this? You see, you're sick just because of that, and it's so undeserved. As long as you don't, you'll never get sick again! ”

But later, these seemingly self-evident causes became plausible.

Those judgments reduce the value.

It is no wonder that patients sometimes have figured it out, but they still come close to achieving full recovery.

That's how it works.

For example, one patient often has obsessive-compulsive fears of the death of a loved one in his mind.

This is in the previous analysis: this is a kind of "regressive satisfaction", and it must be at the expense of the loss of a loved one in order to inspire his courage.

As soon as an ordinary person is threatened at the slightest moment, he can immediately stimulate instinctive resistance.

For some, this threat needs to be magnified to the extreme, in order to produce instinctive resistance.

So it is said to be "regressive satisfaction".

At this time, most psychiatrists may give him advice: as long as you "fight for every inch of land" and do not retreat, your courage will be fully aroused and you will no longer get sick.

This seems to be understandable.

It is precisely because of his retreat that he thinks of death as the bottom line.

Now, as long as you move forward, there is no such fear thinking.

However, even if it is explained in such depth, it is only at the level of consciousness, at most it is relatively close to the level of the subconscious.

With further in-depth development, this "regressive satisfaction" will naturally grow into a meaning that is closer to natural instinct:

The obsessive imagination of the death of a loved one is constantly reminding him: what is the most important thing?

Why be afraid of some things and some people in the moment?

Aren't your loved ones the most important thing in your life?

Why do people and things in the outside world care so much about people and things compared to relatives?

In the future, it can also grow naturally as:

It turned out that he was subconsciously able to accept the death of his loved ones, and he would not let himself be disillusioned because of the death of his relatives; Or that he simply does not understand the concept of death.

This acceptance is actually what people often say - live forever in my heart.

I still have the courage to face life. Naturally, they will not be afraid that their free will and behavior will attract the attention of others and then threaten their parents.

The reason why it was unacceptable before was because at that time, in the face of disaster, his instinctive immune mechanism was accidentally blocked, and he accidentally escaped the disaster.

Now it's just in another form: exaggerated images of catastrophe appear in the mind to evoke the corresponding instinctive immune mechanisms.

Every healthy person should have this innate ignorance in their subconscious. Otherwise, the death of a loved one will leave them slumped and unable to continue their lives.

It is with this ignorance of death that he is able to face many unbearable difficulties and setbacks in real life.

And as mentioned earlier, a good boy likes a girl, but that girl likes a bad boy.

caused him to switch personalities, imitate bad boys, and lead to a forced conflict between good and evil.

But the natural growth is later: good boys originally had a normal "bad" side, but because the stimulation of love greatly amplifies this badness, resulting in compulsion.

It's not groundless, absorbing a completely unfamiliar "bad".

It's just that now, his mental mechanism is abnormal, and things that originally belonged to the subconscious and cannot be perceived, such as death, suddenly become conscious.

So he will be extremely frightened and compulsive.

Similarly, as mentioned earlier, a boy can only have the courage to like a girl who is "dark at heart" or "wounded".

Because it was only when she gave up on herself or was hurt that he felt he had a chance to pursue her.

The conclusion of the previous analysis is that this boy is too unconfident to compete with other suitors normally and pursue a sunny girl.

The result of natural growth is that the girl is a symbol of his mother. His mother had indeed been hurt in his distant memory, and he had to pay attention and fight it with her!

Also, many patients are afraid to pay attention to some academic and theoretical advances.

Because he fears that there is a negative content in these theories, it will break his trust in psychoanalysts and lead to the disillusionment of his dependence.

That is, the aforementioned premature "take it when you see it".

But as nature grows later, this pathological psychology gradually returns to normalcy - his subconscious mind does not want to pay attention to those developments at all. Because he has unconditionally trusted his own judgment and does not need external corroboration at all.

Also, the negative effects of "idolatry" have been emphasized.

But naturally growing to the back, it turned out that he originally had an instinctive trait in some aspect of the idol.

It's just that he was forgotten and had to use idols to remind him.

Even the "memory hole" mentioned in the chapter "Memory Reversal and Filling" is reasonable.

It's just that instead of filling backwards, you should fill them forward.

Only by filling the void forward will there be a natural momentum to move forward positively.

People with mental illness are sometimes overly enthusiastic and talk-grabbing, which is a kind of pathology that panders too much to others.

Growing up later, their sometimes dull and speechless attitude is a counterbalance to this excessive enthusiasm.

Later, silence and grabbing words were not his initial state of health, the initial state was: most of the words came from the heart, so there was no need to cater to them, nor did they need silence to balance, but they were really motivated to speak.

When depressed, the state of "indifference" is actually a normal state in the distant past.

At that time, he was in the same state as when he was depressed, and he did not form an overly deep belief in the outside world (except for his mother), but maintained a curious and hazy wonderful feeling and exploration psychology.

It's just because of this loss of memory that the hazy beauty evolves into "all thoughts are lost".

As mentioned earlier, a person who is "regressive and satisfied" only dares to pursue girls with a strong dark side. Because he doesn't have the confidence to compete with others for those sunny and beautiful girls.

Later, the reason for this "regressive satisfaction" is also reasonable. Because he transferred the dark side of his mother to the girl in the outside world, helping the girl to overcome the darkness symbolizes helping the mother to overcome the darkness. Because of his mental illness, he escaped from his mother's darkness. You must join forces with her and overcome the darkness in order to gain a healthy mind.

The self-defeating body may seem hopeless; But it can naturally grow to the innocence and courage of the naked body as a child.

Nudity doesn't matter, it's the feeling that matters; A feeling of innocence and carelessness.

This is a kind of "natural growth".

The originally theorized "regressive satisfaction" turned out to be just a natural instinct of deformation.

Including the jump from "psychological to physiological", it is also a process of "natural growth".

Because the patient's psychological symptoms have been almost completely analyzed, and the conditions for existence have been lost, the mental illness will be guided to a "physiology" closer to the root and essence.

As mentioned earlier, the only thing the patient is worried about is the suggestion that the physiology affects the psyche.

Natural growth is also psychological - subtle, or osmotic.

It can also be understood in this way: mental illness is like a kind of pathology of physiological organs.

Removing the diseased organ can certainly remove the virus, but the normal part is also removed. Causing irreparable defects.

But it's also not advisable to let it go.

Only guide it to metamorphose naturally and return to its original normal state.

All theorized psychological analysis must return to natural instincts.

Therefore, in the front, there are many times that "the analysis has reached this point, and there is almost no doubt"; Later, however, doubts arose again.

It seems to be a contradiction, but in fact it is the truth of this "natural growth".

And I think it's better than those: after understanding a new layer of realm, completely rejecting some of the previous conclusions; After going one step further, he completely repudiated the previous conclusions...... Much better.

Because it's very much like what people with mental illness do.

It's like they sometimes like someone, but because of a conflict, they completely deny him and let themselves fall into despair; As a result, they were reconciled, and he blamed himself for his original hatred......

They are always in this painful state of intermittent and self-loss.

But if psychoanalysis is always going to be repeated, it seems to make no sense in itself.

Because there is no complete cure for the disease at all.

But what if it's a "naturally growing" phenomenon?

That's very reasonable.

In other words: psychoanalysis is rooted in the human psyche and grows and matures; It can also be said that it is one with the human being, and it also grows naturally with the human body.

In this way, psychoanalysis is integrated with the human body and mind, and there is no such meaningless concept as "always having to be analyzed repeatedly to treat diseases".

In this way, you may think that it is a bit of a smoke.

In short, as I said at the beginning: psychoanalysis is the parents on whom the child's body and mind depend, including the body and mind that the parent gives to the child.

The "idol" mentioned above is nothing more than the image of "parents" in the child's original impression; It's just that the results are constantly shifting in the future.

It's not hard to explain why the vast majority of people, both patients and psychologists, are dismissive of long-term psychotherapy.

They always feel that such a long period of psychological analysis is inefficient and worthless. It seems that this kind of long-term psychological analysis consumes too much time and energy of the patient, and there is no time for other things. It's just a mistake.

For short-term effective psychotherapy, it is highly respected and praised.

If understood: psychoanalysis is the dark side of parents - primarily parents.

(This sentence can be extended to mean that the concern for psychological problems, psychological problems themselves are also "parents.") ）

Then, the above belittlement and praise will undergo a fundamental change.

Because, advocating short-term psychotherapy and rushing to get patients out of the attention and analysis of psychology and return to society is tantamount to betraying their parents and avoiding their parents, so as to adapt to society, in fact, to compromise with the outside world.

For example, if a child's parents are emotionally discordant, the child wants to face and reconcile.

Suddenly, an outsider came and said, "Leave them alone. You just make yourself unhappy if you take care of them. Why don't you play with me? How fun it is to have so many friends playing together!"

On the surface, the person seems to be guiding the child to focus on the positive side and live life positively and optimistically.

But it's putting the cart before the horse.

Because the family environment is the child's initial and most primitive dependence and foundation.

If you don't even have this foundation, how can you talk about being an active social person?

It must be said that it is like a kind of "sacrificing the basics".

Don't say that you must reconcile the family environment, but at least you must have this heart.

This is why patients are prone to lose their autonomy and are susceptible to external cues in society.

No matter how independent, mature and successful a person is, he cannot deny the fact that body and consciousness originate from parents and cannot be separated.

Nor can he deny that the importance of parents is higher than everything in the outside world.

Use long-term energy to protect the family and the social circle of the society for a long time.

Which one is more important?

The social circle is temporary and changeable, and the family is the only constant.

Unless your friend claims to be with you forever and not separated.

But in fact, can friends do the same as family?

It is often criticized that some people are always living in their own world.

However, if those people quickly break away from their own world and integrate with society, they will definitely compromise and curry favor with people and things in society excessively.

It is always common to "grab words".

A person who is called "always living in his own world" is usually reticent and self-contained.

But if you suddenly become talkative, it must be abnormal. Specifically, before others finished asking, he rushed to answer.

Or before they hear what others are saying, they rush to speak, preconceived.

Therefore, you can't blindly comment that others are not good for living in their own world.

That's because of his psychological mechanism, looking for his parents' support. Only by relying on parents can a person become a sound person; Only then can you have the foundation to communicate with the outside world and become a member of society.

Of course, this dependence is not a reliance in a narrow sense.

Rather, it includes the memory and body that parents give to their children.

Therefore, patients are often proud of the disappearance of psychological symptoms and ashamed of their appearance;

Be proud of the quick effect, and be frustrated with the slow effect;

With a deep understanding of the concern for psychological problems, it is fearful, simple and diversional is safe.

In fact, he is escaping the dark side of his parents and perfunctory his attention and understanding of his parents.

In other words: they are proud that their parents don't have a dark side and are ashamed that they have a dark side.

To cover up the dark side of the parents proud, expose the dark side and frustrated.

Fear of parental intimacy and transfer affection to safety.

In this way, it turns out that the mental illness that was kept secret by others is just the dark side of parents.

It's so normal that anyone can have it.

The question that remains is how to deal with the dark side of parents.

People with mental illness are so patients, but they have lost the self-confidence of strolling around in the court.

It is important to remove the dark side of parents in order to feel safe.

And don't forget, the "dark side of parents" mentioned above is not only memory, but also the body.

Therefore, it is not difficult to explain why some patients go to extremes to harm their bodies.

The purpose is to sever this physical and mental connection with parents.