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"Huhuhu......"

In the dream, accompanied by his girlfriend's rapid breathing and violent heartbeat, he made a choice between her and a third person.

This kind of violent heartbeat magically connected his girlfriend to him.

His girlfriend's nervous heartbeat seemed to be equivalent to his own violent heartbeat.

In the dream, his girlfriend is so forbearant and helpless, desperate with a faint glimmer of hope.

Just like her kind and honest character.

his girlfriend's simple outfit and flustered eyes; It is in stark contrast to the youthful beauty, sexy body, and powerful aura of the third person.

She cared about him so much that she couldn't get over her nervousness.

She was so honest that she didn't say anything offensive to the third party who intervened.

Just nervously waiting for his choice.

Perhaps it should not be said so lightly as an option.

For her, it should be a life-and-death choice in her heart.

And for him, it is also a contest of guilt and temptation.

After a long time, he finally mustered up the courage and took his girlfriend's hand......

It's a dream about love.

When he woke up, he miraculously felt a long-lost satisfaction and joy.

I finally realized that the choice in the dream was very correct.

This sense of satisfaction after waking up from a dream is unprecedentedly powerful and indescribable; But he knew that it was difficult to experience this feeling in reality.

He also understands that if he is asked to make such a difficult choice in reality, he will definitely be at a loss; And it is highly likely that you will choose to escape.

Because his conscience can't face his loyal and unpretentious girlfriend.

Even without his girlfriend's knowledge, it is difficult for him to make a choice.

Because he could not resist the temptation of a third person.

can only hover between guilt and temptation forever.

On the surface, the meaning of this dream is so obvious: it is just a choice of love.

But if it is understood in this way, it cannot be explained: why did he choose his girlfriend over a third person, and obtained such a strong sense of satisfaction?

Because in reality, the guilt of his girlfriend is almost the same as the temptation of a third party to him.

It's hard to tell which side is more important.

If he gives up his girlfriend, he will be tormented by his conscience and miserable.

But if he gives up the young and sexy third party, he will feel very lost and feel that life is boring.

However, in the dream, he managed to break through this dilemma and chose a girlfriend.

There is an important factor in the successful breakthrough: he chose his girlfriend to get an unprecedented sense of satisfaction and euphoria, rather than a superficial compromise.

But if you make an assumption: he doesn't give up on a third person, he doesn't give up his girlfriend, he just maintains a state of secrecy in the middle, does he also have this satisfaction?

In fact, there are many men who feel satisfied and happy if they are not discovered by their wives after an affair outside.

But there is a subtle and qualitative difference between this euphoria and the feeling in the dream: the feeling in the dream is a feeling of full and unconditional euphoria, not because it is the fulfillment of the wishes of the girlfriend and the escape of conscience condemnation; In reality, when a man does not find out about his wife's cheating, he will have a sense of compromised satisfaction, or a sense of happiness and joy. There are strict conditions for this joy - it must not be discovered by the wife.

As I said in the analysis of the previous volume, if it is an almost unconditional happiness, it is easy to be forgotten, and continue to pursue and explore the unknown, maintaining a wonderful curiosity and exploration mentality.

But if it is a conditional, even harsh, pleasure that recurs in the memory of the person; the impetus that hinders his progress; It may even lead to personality withdrawal and mental illness.

Therefore, the kind of happiness in dreams is more valuable and meaningful.

But there is also a contradiction: since it is unconditionally happy, it should have been forgotten by him a long time ago, why does it appear in a dream?

There is no escaping this question, but it doesn't need to be explained too hard.

It is enough to just remember and enjoy this unconditional pleasure.

There is no need to preconceive this as a condition to eliminate illness or negative emotions.

There are many people with mental disorders, after in-depth analysis, when their memories are extremely close to the original memories of childhood, there will be an extremely subtle psychological deviation: they tend to pay more attention to using this happiness to eliminate the disease, and ignore just enjoying this happiness.

Because at that time, he didn't think that he would suffer from mental illness at all, and he just enjoyed this innate happiness.

If we have to explain why unconditional happiness returns, it is because there is a tipping point between unconditional and conditional happiness, and what the patient recalls is the hazy happiness of this tipping point; But it is also equally effective with unconditional happiness.

Back to the question above: why did he choose his girlfriend instead of a third person, and get such a strong sense of satisfaction?

This is a question that is difficult to answer on the surface.

There is only another feeling in his dream: his girlfriend's nervous heartbeat, as if it is equivalent to his own violent heartbeat.

to be able to come up with an accurate answer.

If you have read the chapter on "Mother's Breathing" in the previous volume of "Psychoanalysis", you may be able to understand the strange phenomenon of "heartbeats are united".

To put it simply: because the breath of mother and son is tightly connected, and his girlfriend is his mother's "shadow".

So, his girlfriend's heartbeat is equivalent to his own heartbeat in another sense.

And so it is.

According to the dreamer's memory: his girlfriend's kindness and honesty are the distinguishing characteristics of his past; That is, he inherited the traits from his mother.

Because of this, his girlfriend is his mother's "shadow".

It was only through special and complicated life experiences that this primitive quality was unexpectedly forgotten by him.

He became "indifferent" and "cynical".

He was once innocent and kind, but in the course of his pursuit of girls, he received a major blow that inspired his first morbid personality of childhood; and become "self-defeating", with an indifferent mentality similar to "seeing through love", treating love.

He sometimes simply thinks that he doesn't need love anymore; Sometimes even if you pursue love, it is a kind of pretending "it doesn't matter" and "letting loose" in front of the girl in order to escape the blow of love.

However, in his subconscious, he still maintains a hopeful and serious attitude towards love.

It's just that he can't perceive it anymore.

So, it was expressed in the dream: his girlfriend's attitude towards love is so caring and nervous, which means that his own attitude towards love is also serious and nervous.

In the dream, his girlfriend is so serious and cares about love, which means that he is also persistent and serious about love. No matter how nervous he is with such persistence and seriousness, as long as he is rewarded, his happiness is the greatest, the most real, and the healthiest.

This can be seen in his girlfriend's nervousness and his connection.

After the return of love, the tension of his girlfriend and his nervousness disappear along with him, and he gets unprecedented satisfaction.

The simplicity of his girlfriend is also equivalent to his former primitive simplicity.

Instead of the kind of exaggeration and fancy pursued in the later "profligate" mentality.

Further: it is the relationship between the dreamer and his mother.

That third person was the outsider who had violated his mother.

Because his instincts were unexpectedly thwarted at that time, he did not resist the third party in time, which led to a subtle change in his attitude towards his mother: he became harsh and distrustful. It is believed that motherly love and security must be constantly proven and recognized by the outside world before they can be obtained.

And if it can't be proven and recognized right away, it will be very anxious and nervous.

In order to escape this anxiety of not being recognized, he can only pretend to be free and easy, pretending that "it doesn't matter", and no longer needs this kind of love and security.

And this led to the loss of his original happiness.

So, the best thing to do is what was said in the previous volume, "Natural Growth": let the sick grow naturally and return to normal.

When applied to this dream, it means: no matter how nervous you are, as long as you stick to that belief in love, happiness will not be too far away from you.

All that remains is to use memory to recover unconditional belief and slowly eliminate that tension. (To be continued.) )