In the silent classroom, the students who are immersed in the questions, he is late; The students were moving quickly with their pens, and he was like a staff holding a thousand pounds......

Everything was so tense that my heart beat as if it was going with time. Pen × fun × Pavilion www. ｂｉｑｕｇｅ。 ｉｎｆｏ

"Bell ......" rang happily, and he seemed to be unaware; The students were in a hurry to turn in their papers, and he had only completed a third of the questions.

After a long time, he finally finished the test paper, but by the time he handed in the paper, the teacher had already left the classroom.

An anxious emotion suddenly came to his heart, the test paper was not taken away, and he felt as if he had lost something crucial, as if his heart had been cut off a piece of flesh, and it was extremely empty......

He's finally awake!

Just a dream.

But the anxiety in the dream is so strong and clear that it seems to wake up with an aftertaste.

This kind of exam dream is probably what most people have done.

It doesn't matter how long it's been since you've been out of campus.

It's just like a real-life exam, and there's almost nothing peculiar about it.

In reality, many candidates have this kind of real nervousness: the more anxious they are, the slower they will be to do the questions.

It's just that the dream is a bit more exaggerated - so slow that I can't even turn in the test papers.

When he returned to reality, he felt extremely glad: fortunately it was not true!

Just as when he was a student when he took the exam, he was very nervous; After the exam, I was basically satisfied, and I felt very relaxed and happy.

This kind of memory is almost effortless.

This is what was often referred to in the previous volume as "regressive satisfaction" -- the pain of a very ordinary thing first, and the reciprocal happiness that is attained when it is done.

But the whole process couldn't be more bland in the eyes of ordinary people.

In the previous dreams, they all reflect and evoke the dreamer's childhood wishes.

An almost unconditional happy memory.

That's what you've been looking for.

But the wish reflected in this dream is still too simple. It is just a reflection of the dreamer's student days of "regressive satisfaction" wishes.

If you have a basic understanding of the content of the first volume of "Psychoanalysis".

I think you should understand: work, study...... The wish of the time is just a façade.

Even childhood wishes with too much emotion are just a superficial wish.

Too much emotion?

This means that the attitude of the patient or dreamer towards his or her parents as a child is always too emotional.

Otherwise, he felt that his parents had been emotionally cold, which affected his character, and he felt very bitter and resentful; Or they will recall the days when they were relatively harmonious and happy, and feel happy.

This may be human nature.

But for people with mental illness, these memories don't have much value.

Because the reason why they are sick is to severely condition happiness; Too much unconditional joy is missing.

These memories with too many emotional overtones are a kind of harsh happiness.

So, it has to go back to a more distant memory.

But this dream is just not far away in the student days.

The desire reflected is only a superficial desire to do well in the exam.

On the face of it, this is not a valuable memory for deep psychoanalysis.

However, this is the only way to the original memory.

Some of the tension in his later work and love stemmed from the nervousness of exams when he was a student.

For example, when he completes a task assigned by his boss at work, he sometimes feels extremely tight due to the tight schedule.

It was because of his nervous attitude towards exams when he was a student.

Further, if he has a good side at work and is not seen by the boss; And the bad side of the performance was seen by the boss.

He would be extremely distressed and anxious.

It's like when he spends a lot of effort on an exam paper, but it doesn't get in the hands of the teacher, he will be extremely anxious and annoyed.

It's like in the pursuit of love, carefully making yourself a prince, but making a fool of yourself in front of your sweetheart.

It was a torture.

This is what it means to be nervous in an exam.

When he finished the test paper but failed to hand it over to the teacher; It feels as if the heart has been cut off as if it is empty; It's because he spent a lot of energy creating good things that he didn't show to others.

If you have read the chapter of "Mother's Breath" in the previous volume, you may be able to quickly relate to it: the pain of doing a good job in the test paper but not being able to show it to the teacher is that when I was a child, I was unable to protect my mother because my instinct was accidentally blocked, so I always wanted to maintain a state of separation from my mother, and I was afraid that my mother would be hurt because of my adverse events; When this instinct suddenly returned, he was anxious to reunite with his mother, eager to show the greatness of maternal love to others.

If it can't be presented immediately, he will have a primitive feeling similar to the separation of mother and child, and he will feel very empty inside.

To take it a step further: it is a near-interruption of breathing, resulting in a delay in the heartbeat.

Because as mentioned earlier, there is a primordial connectivity to the breath of mother and child.

And the interruption of breathing, as mentioned earlier, is due to the fear and rejection of excrement during defecation; Don't dare to smell that smell naturally; prematurely guarding against instinctive dirtiness, so the nose is sealed inside; Causes rapid breathing of the mouth; Approaching a kind of "interruption" of breathing.

Of course, this "interruption" of breathing is not absolute, but relative to the exuberance of breathing.

As for why the fear of excrement is caused, it is a very fortuitous event, not inevitable.

At this point, looking back, you should be able to understand: you are extremely afraid of making mistakes during the exam, and you are eager to present it to others once you are done, which leads to yourself being in a state of tension all the time; nervousness at work, anxious to perform; In love, extreme disguises beautiful tension; Even the tangled and sticky thoughts in the mind of the person with obsessive-compulsive disorder (the patient feels that the thoughts in the mind are confused into a sticky shape, which is secretly connected with the sticky shape of excrement). ）…… It all stems from the rejection of one's own excrement, forgetting the instinctive pleasure of defecation, and obtaining a sickly, prematurely excluding the pleasure of filth.

Instead, the smell should be inhaled naturally and then eliminated by an outburst of mouth.

At the very least, the nose should be completely sealed and eliminated with the breath of the mouth.

Rather than the dilemma of sealing the nose as if it were inhaling but not sucking.

So, when people are overly nervous about the presentation of an ugly thing, the burial of a good thing; Just treat your ugly side as excrement, inhale deeply, and exhale deeply.

But don't take this simply as the oft-said concept of "taking a deep breath to relieve tension."

If you don't remember the exhilaration of bowel movements as a child, "deep breathing" is just "deep breathing", not a source of tension.

People are often caught off guard by feelings of nervousness, and can only comfortingly attribute it to something that is natural and normal for people to accept it unconditionally.

Or encourage them to exercise more and divert their attention......

Admittedly, this is an active way of life, but with a certain imposition.

After all, it's much easier to say than to do.

But to be complacent just about these nervously novel explanations is not to use memory to find answers from the heart, and it is not a good attitude.

Because this is not a kind of knowledge, but an instinctive memory that people are born with. (To be continued.) )