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It turns out that compulsion and depression are just due to over-maintenance of loved ones.

Then just by giving up this excessive maintenance, the disease can be eliminated.

That is, for men, there are no conditions for depression and compulsion to abandon the excessive assertion of the mother's position and turn to the acceptance of fatherhood.

Therefore, when the patient understands this law, it is like an initiation. I finally understood that my mother was not so important, and my father was not so hateful.

Not only should you not hate, but you should simply accept it with an open mind.

Because as a male, there should be a fatherhood factor in the genes.

As a result, they develop a strong motivation to accept many things that they usually hate.

For example, when he hears other men insult or attack the girl he loves, or someone he cares about and trusts. He would think it was quite reasonable; It will not be as strong to confront and maintain as before.

If others are vulgar and hurtful, he will also demand that he accept them. Before that, he would have hated it.

But now, he thinks he once had this kind of male aggression too.

What he hated was the part of his paternal personality that he was missing; Acceptance is the fundamental way out.

Only in this way can we get rid of the maternal personality and restore the paternal personality, so that the personality is in a basic balance. Thus eliminating obsessions and depression.

And before that, they always thought that when they were free from sinful thoughts, they were the healthiest and happiest. As soon as sinful thoughts come, they destroy this sense of happiness and security, so they think that inexplicable sinful thoughts are all evil and must be eliminated quickly. Thus strongly resisting sin and maintaining a sense of security, leading to compulsion and depression.

As everyone knows, the healthy and happy state they firmly believe in is a kind of "superprice" (regressive) happiness after the personality is too biased towards motherhood. In a word, it is pathological.

Just as patients often think that tranquility when the disease is not onset is the norm, and breaking the tranquility at the onset of illness is an abominable pathology.

It's actually the opposite. Because what he thinks of as tranquility is the product of extreme compromise with the outside world.

Specifically, in a state of tranquility, not daring to breathe loudly. (The answer to this will be found later in the section on "Breathing".)

It is not difficult to see that if a man becomes overly feminine and too gentle, then the outside world only needs to be a little nicer to him, and they also think that this is rare and perfect. In fact, this just planted the root of depression.

For example, a man J is very fond of his girlfriend, he always thinks that she is perfect, and he never forgets the happiness she gives him.

He fantasized about being happy with her, forever.

But he is often trapped by an obsessive thinking that often devalues his girlfriend as worthless, which makes him extremely painful. He firmly believes that as long as he gets rid of this weird thinking, he and his girlfriend will definitely be happy until they grow old.

Who knows, when one day his girlfriend no longer loves him, he seems to have suffered five thunderbolts.

Even God could not convince him that his once perfect girlfriend could betray him.

At this time, no one's comfort is of any avail, and only the restoration of love is the medicine to save him.

Otherwise, he thought he would die of depression.

But he seems to have forgotten one thing - the obsessive thinking that often devalues his girlfriend to worthless.

How he hated this weird way of thinking.

However, just by looking at it in connection with his current depression, it is not difficult to see that that kind of obsessive thinking is actually normal; There is no need for resistance at all, it is just a good medicine to neutralize "overprice" and "depression".

It is precisely because of his "overpriced" concept of love and girlfriend that leads to his overdependence and depression.

Compulsive thinking is only a good medicine to neutralize this "overprice".

The deviation of personality made him overaware of the pitiness of women, became overly pitiful, forgot his natural strength as a man, and made his personality overly feminine.

He can remember that when his personality did not deviate, when he was angry, even if it was the "sin" of scaring people with a knife, he did not think so.

At that time, he would not have regarded a girl so perfectly that he would not dare to criticize her in any way.

At this point in the analysis, it seems that the root cause of mental illness has been found, and the fundamental solution is self-evident - just accept the fierceness of fatherhood, as other healthy people do.

However, things are always missing.

After the compulsive resistance was removed, another painful emotion took over his heart - depression.

He felt that he had left the familiar and dependent (motherhood) with his own hands, and went to the side of the strange resistance (fatherhood).

Feeling intense discomfort and hopelessness.

Why is this happening? I know that I am sick because of the lack of fatherhood, but I am so reluctant to restore my fatherhood.

It can only be said that he has not really accepted fatherhood.

It can also be seen that the acceptance of oneself is not so simple and easy.