He dreamed of reappearing in a middle school classroom after a long absence. Pen & Fun & Pavilion www.biquge.info

The students were still sitting in the classroom as before.

Under the gaze of his classmates, he confidently walked through the classroom, and an inexplicable sense of satisfaction welled up in his heart......

It's a dream about campus.

The satisfaction in the dream, the dreamer is clear.

That is to show his handsome appearance to his classmates.

In reality, in his former school days, he was an introverted and shy boy.

Every time I walk into the classroom, I blush and my heart beats.

Because he was afraid of the gaze of his classmates.

At first glance, the dream doesn't seem to make much sense.

Because the intention of the dream is so obvious, it is almost the same as the wish in reality.

In reality, there are indeed many people who are eager to show their most beautiful side to the public.

It's like an actor performing on stage, and the sense of honor he gets is very satisfying.

However, dreams are dynamic.

Dreaming of the scene of the school era is meant to remind the dreamer that his current pain stems from that time.

For example, a person who works in a unit is always eager to show the best side to the leader.

Otherwise, it will be very anxious.

And this psychology comes from the psychology of liking to show demeanor in front of classmates, especially female classmates, when I was a student.

This dream is very similar to the previous "naked dream" and "exam dream".

And the conclusions drawn will also be consistent.

But why repeat the description?

This is really a very simple question and one that is easy to answer.

But it's also easy to overlook.

A conclusion is often very easy to draw.

But the process of reaching this conclusion is extremely complicated.

For example, "go with the flow".

This is a conclusion.

But if you don't understand the process of deriving this conclusion.

Conclusions are just conclusions.

You want the mentally ill to go with the flow, but he doesn't understand why.

Going with the flow can only be an imposed will.

If we give some examples of natural things such as "the sun, the moon, rivers, ......" to explain why people should go with the flow.

Nor is it the best way.

Because these are overflowing.

Unable to match the patient's memory.

It can only be a formality.

After all, when people are living, they can't always think about how the sun and moon move, and then treat psychological confusion according to this law.

In this way, the authenticity and emotion of life will be lost.

Even ignoring the existence of parents.

So, even the conclusions are all the same.

But the exploration of the process must be valuable and necessary.

In the case of this dream: vanity in appearance is not the whole story.

If this simple conclusion is elaborated.

It can only stop at the moral argument of whether this vanity should be or not.

And not the meaning of vanity.

Explore the meaning of this vanity.

I believe that friends who have in-depth knowledge of the previous content will come to a conclusion - this is to divert other people's bad attention.

Specifically, his appearance was inherited from his mother, and if others saw his appearance, they would associate it with his mother.

And he was extremely afraid of showing his mother to outsiders.

Because in a distant childhood, in an accident in which an outsider violated his mother, his protective instinct was hindered by the accident and did not play normally.

led to subtle changes in his psyche: from fearlessness to compromise with outsiders; thinks that as long as her mother does not show her face, others will not be able to harm her; Instead of daring to protect the mother in anyone, on any occasion.

It is only possible to compromise with the mother's concealment and keep her out of harm's way.

Therefore, his pursuit of appearance is only to divert the danger of others to his mother.

If he imitates a star, this diversion is more effective.

Because no one else could see through him and think of his mother.

So, at that time, he hated people saying things like "this kid looks like his mother's ......".

And under this vanity, there is also his normal self-confidence - I look like my mother, not a shame, but a kind of pride.

It's just that he fused this psychology with the appearance of a "star" that led to the evolution of this self-confidence into the glory of a "star".

This function of physical transfer has a very secret process.

If you don't dig deeper, you can't find it at all.

There is no way for the patient to trace the memory back to the most normal time, and to restore this memory to replace the pathological vanity.

The reason why this vanity is called pathological.

That's because: if someone hits him about his appearance, it will immediately cause him to fall into depression.

Now, let's do a simple concatenation of this physical transfer process:

One day when he was a child, a mischievous boy vandalized his family's house.

He was furious, but he didn't dare to say anything, just dumbfounded.

for he was afraid that his voice would attract the attention of his mother to stop the boy; Then it may lead to arguments between the parents of both sides.

Because his instinct to protect his mother had been unexpectedly suppressed before that, he could only compromise and put his mother in a safe "corner".

After this incident, his psychology changed subtly, and he became fond of playing with the boy instead.

And when one day, the boy takes him outside to play and meets a young woman he knows.

The adult woman said something complimenting his appearance at the time, and he didn't react, it was the mischievous boy who reminded him that he knew he was complimenting him.

Since then, he has had a satisfaction that he has never felt before.

And began to compromise with the adult woman in the most secret way.

Everything goes according to her, for fear that one day she will be upset, and she will retract the praise he once had for him.

Later, this compromise was transferred to the students......

These seemingly insignificant memories are the root cause of his excessive concern about his appearance.

If he didn't go back to this, he couldn't remember that in his early days, he kept a normal distance, even a normal resistance, from the naughty boy, the adult woman, and his classmates, and would not compromise with them.

Rather, it is the pursuit of the happiness of one's own true purity.

After the compromise, he gradually became impetuous, vain, and even later became "pompous and fancy", forgetting his original simplicity and virginity.

That's the ultimate meaning of the dream -- going back to his first normal memories.

At this point, you may find that in the whole analysis, "compromise", "resist", "resist", ...... Phrases are used a lot.

Criticism of certain theories is also frequent.

Some people have also questioned that this is too narrow and loveless.

Others do not have the ferocity that they imagine, and they should have a humble mentality.

Some people also say that the rejection of other theories is just to raise their own value. This is very narrow and very limited.

This is a common view of people who have a preliminary understanding of a "doctrine".

But if you understand it at a certain level, you should be able to understand that the purpose of analysis is to eliminate the hints from the outside world, and let the patient return to the state when he was first intimate with his mother, and restore the normal resistance and rejection of the outside world at that time. and will not allow themselves to easily compromise with the outside world, be cued by the outside world, and induce psychological symptoms.

Even later, it became a kind of "generosity" of "letting go of everything", but the heart was very painful.

This is actually a hidden "letting go of the mother".

Outside cues, such as pity and encouragement, are not beneficial in some cases.

People with mental illness are not too unloving, but too loving.

Love is to think too much about others and too much about other people's feelings. (To be continued.) )