Since someone knew that Mr. Zhu Zhi was a well-known problem expert and an expert on love issues, he relentlessly asked Mr. Zhu Zhi questions, and most of the questions asked involved ****, among which extramarital affairs caused the most problems. The tragic situation of the uncle's www.biquge.info friends who failed to master the fire in the affair, the East Window incident, and finally caused the people to rebel and leave their relatives and the family was ruined, touched Mr. Zhu's old and cold heart, so he decided to teach everyone a few tricks, so there is this masterpiece "The Affair Guide" - it is also the title of one of my novels.

The meaning of the word "affair" is so sensitive that Mr. Zhu Zhi was sneaky when he wrote it, and never dared to find out to Mrs. Zhu Zhi, for fear that her old man would be a tiger and have a Hedong lion's roar. Speaking of reality, Mr. Zhu Zhi does not have this kind of experience, when he used to be an editor in the newspaper, the supplement in charge of the publication is this kind of article, as the saying goes, "I have never eaten a snail, and I have seen someone else's inverted snail shell", "I have never eaten pork, and I have seen a pig walking", in the ears and eyes, it can be regarded as a little knowledge, and now it is dedicated to everyone, it can be regarded as a return to the society. You must not think that Mr. Zhu is speaking out and talking about his personal experience.

How does an affair happen, that's the first question we're going to talk about. For this problem, experts say that there are many reasons, and it is as long as a piece of cloth. Mr. Zhu summarized that there are only two reasons: one is that the woman's appearance is in line with the man's taste, and the other is that the woman is willing to have a leg with the man, which is the old saying: Wang Ba looks at mung beans and meets his eyes. Experts say that women are most afraid of encountering old lovers, and if they meet a woman who has just been beaten up by her husband and let the old lovers meet together, there is a chance that her husband will have a green hat belt. Women who often go to bars to drink are also a group with a high incidence of affairs, and if the men she meets have Chow Yun-fat's smile, Takakura's indifference, Ge You's humor, or Mr. Zhu's wealth (multimillionaire), then the result is not much to say.

Attractive middle-aged men are also powerful killers, especially for women who are not very old and have lost their father's love since childhood, and an affair can happen at any time. Female subordinates have romances with male bosses are also a mode of sexual encounters, and if the male boss is not smiling and full of mystery, but shushes the lady on the appropriate occasion, it is difficult to think of no situation. And the husband's indifference or distraction gives the woman who wants to go out of the wall with an extra excuse, and having an affair is all the time, and the place can be said to be everywhere. As soon as the stinky man's sentence "I like you" was said, many women who were already confused lost their armor and were restrained. If you say the last sentence "I don't have a girlfriend (wife), then let the woman have the fantasy: Prince Charming, I have been looking for many years, has finally appeared!" Since then, I have been elated, and my heart is as comfortable as eating ginseng fruit. Then if the man makes any more flower offensive, has some unexpected surprises, or gives a woman a little gift, takes her on a trip, eats and sells as a laborer, and when it is over, the woman does not say that she throws herself into her arms, I am afraid that it will be half pushed.

What is it like to have an affair? is the second issue that we want to talk about. Here I can only talk about men, because I don't know women who have had an affair. First of all, there has been a change in appearance, and when a man has an affair, he will definitely pay more attention to his appearance and clothes (no wonder I, who have always been unkempt, bought a new suit and wore it like a dog, which made Mrs. Zhu Zhi vigilant and interrogated for a long time); The second is that they often come home late and can't give a credible reason, or they talk about business as a prevarication; The third is to listen to the phone, my husband is sneaky when he listens to the phone, you have to watch "Mobile Phone" again, these guys have leaked all our technology; The fourth is to look at the expenses, if your husband suddenly has a lot of unexplained expenses, and you find that he often hides his bonuses and does not pay or borrows money from friends, it is a very dangerous sign. Of course, there are other signs, and I won't be able to see them all.

Of course, people nowadays are getting smarter and smarter, and even if they have an affair, they have to wrap that fire in paper. Last month, I was drinking with a friend who brought a little girl like a flower. When his wife called, he said loudly: I am discussing big things with Mr. Zhu Zhi! What a noble figure is Mr. Zhu? The style is decent, the friendship is rigorous, and it is ranked in the whole Nanning City! With him, nothing else will happen. After the end, the guy took the little girl to sing again (of course, there is nothing else, Mr. Zhu Zhi still has this awareness), and asked his wife for leave, saying: I will go to do something with Mr. Zhu Zhi, and I will sleep with Mr. Zhu Zhi tonight, you don't have to wait for me. Naturally, his wife didn't have the slightest suspicion, but asked Mr. Zhu Zhi to take good care of him and not let him drink so much wine! In this case, would Mr. Zhu Zhi say to his wife: No, this guy is with a little girl! Of course not, you and your friend are friends, what is the relationship with his wife? If you encounter such a problem, you should pay attention.

The third question is, what should I do after having an affair? This is the focus of this article. Mr. Zhu found through research that once a man succeeds, only a few can't extricate themselves, and the vast majority have begun to think about retreating, because his goal has been achieved, just like fishing, the fish is hooked, and he is not interested in that fish (unless the fish is beautiful and needs to play for a while), so he thinks about catching the next fish. And women are generally still immersed in the happiness imagination they have created, unaware, and when the matter is exposed, a third party has already appeared. Some of them, despite the pain, can only consider themselves unlucky and retreat sideways, and some begin to stage the "women's three-step process": one cry and make trouble and three hangings. also got him to his unit and his wife, so that everyone in the world knew about this negative wolf. But it's useless, it's just adding some peachy news to the world and becoming people's after-dinner conversation.

As for the wife's side, if she didn't find out, it should have not happened, and there would be no trace of the water. Once known, another three-step sequence was staged. Whether the woman has already retreated, or is competing with him for the position of boss. A friend of mine Ben Si found a 20-year-old girl, who swore an oath from the mountains and the sea, so touching, but I didn't expect the boss to pull a knife and bring people from other families to Xingshi to ask for guilt. Men are like this, the more ruthless you are, the more he feels psychologically balanced, and it's best if you break a few ribs for him, then we don't owe each other anymore, and you don't have to say anything more. If you don't make trouble, don't cry, and don't hang yourself, a man with a conscience may repent and wash his hands from now on, and be a prodigal son.

In many books, the predecessors have taught that when there is an extramarital affair, the first thing is to be calm; Second, don't stage a woman's three-step process; Third, don't give up your marriage or have the intention of becoming an adult. Fourth, don't cry everywhere, outsiders, colleagues, women's federations, and more importantly, don't go to his unit. Fifth, learning tolerance and forgiveness may make it easier for spouses to turn back. Sixth, don't retaliate. Seventh, don't argue in front of your children. It's really standing and talking without backache, if he encounters such a situation, she can be calm, he can not cry, he can comfort him and tell him not to panic, smile at the flowery person all day long, and raise his eyebrows? I've seen a lot of women who cut off their husband's lifeline with a single knife, and then sneered next to him, and what's more, he sprinkled a few dollars of poisonous rats in the noodles of you and your children, like pepper, and everyone is a hundred!

Extramarital affairs are not only to the wife, but also to the relationship and yourself great harm, as long as you open the social news page of the newspaper every day, you can see bloody examples. How to deal with the aftermath of marriage, experts say, there is a panacea, that is, don't try it. On the topic of affairs, it's really hard to say, the main thing is that it's too complicated. If you want to make it clear, you have to say 100,000 words. Fortunately, Mr. Zhu Zhu's novel version of "The Affair Guide" will also be completed, so let's wait and see.

I conclude with two short articles. Mr. Zhu's newspaper solicited short novels on the topic of extramarital love, and received thousands of submissions, and the following two won the first prize.

Winners:

First Love: I only have her in my eyes;

In love: My wife calls me to the east, and my lover calls me to the west. to the west;

Broken love: The lover is married, and the groom is not me.

Joint winners:

"Divorce and marry me!"

"No!"

So they continued to live happily ever after.