13. Chapter 13: What Are Women Attracted To?
As soon as she opened the door of the rented room, in the living room, Tang Yanxin took the initiative to stand up, her shy face was slightly crimson, and a pair of shiny silver earrings hanging from her ears reflected the intoxicating luster. She was smiling, tall and charming, and smiled sweetly at me, saying, "You're back?" I went to the vegetable market and bought some vegetables and fried them, and I waited for you to eat them together. ”
Her initiative was almost unexpected. That word quickly came to my mind: sullen!
Thinking about an afternoon of being ashamed and blaming herself for being indecent on the bus, I don't know how to explain it to Tang Yanxin, but now, she treats me as if it's nothing, and invites me to dinner, I really don't know what to say!
I was speechless for a while, and the person stood by the door, with his mouth slightly open, his face hot and hot, and his eyes were blank looking at the dishes she had made, but he didn't know what to say. Since she took the initiative to contact me, I can't tell her that I've already eaten out, thank her for her kindness, right? That would make it difficult for her and I to stay in this house.
"What, isn't it admirable?" She asked me, with a smile on her face, her hands straight in front of her, her fingers crossed, and her upper body gently swinging to the sides. This is the posture that girls are looking forward to.
I was so flustered that I didn't even say a few "no" words, and I didn't dare to put my eyes on Tang Yanxin's body, lest my eyes would betray the panic and falsehood in my heart. I pretended to be fascinated and looked at the table of dishes cooked by Tang Yanxin, with a deliberately greedy expression on my mouth. To add to the effect, I rubbed my hands together and pressed my stomach, looking salivating.
Actually, Tang Yanxin didn't mean anything else. The reason why she invited me was that in addition to taking the initiative to build a relationship with me in the same room, she also wanted to know more about my colleagues on the website. It's nothing, it's normal. Usually, it is normal for a newcomer to want to integrate into a new group, and it is most normal to ask about the situation through guò.
However, my heart has never been at peace. That little act of shame on the bus this afternoon has never left my brain. Although I know it's purely a natural reaction in my body. But why is it ugly for Tang Yanxin, who lived with me for the first time? I didn't even dare to lift my head in front of her!
"Actually, I don't cook very well. However, if one wants to live independently, one must learn it. Whether it's now or in the future, start a family. Therefore, no matter how unfamiliar you are, you have to learn it hard. It's like working in a new unit, you don't know each other, but you will eventually work together. If you don't adapt to them, how can you get along well? ”
"Yes, yes......" I responded, and I heard Tang Yanxin's innocent look and asked me:
"Well, tell me, what kind of person is the editor-in-chief? Is he fierce or not? Do you curse on weekdays? Also, how are the editors in our editorial room? Can you get along with them? I know that you are a competent editor and have a large number of correspondents at your disposal, so every time you update your column, you are at the top of the list......"
Tang Yanxin's series of inquiries made me daunted. It's not that I don't talk about people, it's that I'm not used to talking about people. On the site, I don't like to hear other people's gossip. I only focus on my business and try to compare myself with the same columns on other websites and secretly compete with them.
I don't know if it's because of this, the column I edited gradually became famous in the industry. Of course, I have never used this as a capital to show off, and I am even more ashamed to mention it in front of Tang Yanxin. It's just that Tang Yanxin asked me a lot of questions, I really don't know where to start, I can only be as shy as a first love - my face is flushed, but I can't answer a word!
Actually, I'm already a lover, although I'm not a veteran, but I'm not so shy in front of a girl, right? But I was so shy in front of Tang Yanxin!
I know that I have some character flaws. I am easy-going, but my social skills are limited. Although I don't have the idea of getting along with anyone in my heart, I often think that I am high and unapproachable because of the lack of communication. As a result, there are many things that I do well, but I am not good at showing them, and of course no one has affirmed me.
Not to mention far away, let's take my own love as an example, I can't get my salary for three months, I am under a lot of pressure, and I also know that Yi Ting is not easy, but I don't tell her the truth. As a result, Yi Ting thought that I had been deceived by the company. For the love between me and her, and for us to still be able to live together, Yi Ting chose the next strategy.
How could I have thought that if I didn't receive my salary for three months, Yi Ting would have to use unspeakable behavior to save the love between me and her? To put it bluntly, it's all because of my introversion and personality that is too lonely. If I had made it clear to her earlier, it would have been impossible for me to make a fortune, but I would still have been able to afford my daily expenses. Then she wouldn't have to do anything stupid to keep her position!
It can be seen that Yi Ting cannot be blamed for my poor situation today, and I also have a great responsibility. Although I won't make peace with Yi Ting because of this! But as far as my personal character flaws are concerned, I feel that I should change them. At the very least, I should communicate more with others and bring more smiles to my colleagues!
As soon as I entered the website office this morning, I bumped into Tan Xing, who was holding a bunch of article clips in both hands, and was about to go to the editor-in-chief office of our second editorial department, and accidentally bumped into me. Wen Jiàn clamps were suddenly scattered all over the ground. Tan Xing is the website's finance and editor, wears many hats, and occasionally is the secretary-in-chief of the editor-in-chief, so it is not surprising that she goes to the editor-in-chief's office.
Although Tan Xing is not in good shape, she can even be described as short and fat. But he has a pair of beautiful big eyes and a high and dignified nose bridge, and his face is fair and beautiful, especially the sexy lips, which look very interesting. Coupled with her cheerful, generous, and frank personality, in the website, it is quite likable.
"Apricot girl! I'm really sorry, I bumped into you, I'll help you pick up the text jiàn clip. "I tried to change myself, and I had a smile on my face. But because he learned to be generous, the tone of his speech also changed, and he looked very clumsy.
Tan Xing was obviously surprised, and called out softly and strangely: "What, what did you say?" Can you help me pick up the text jiàn clip on the ground? I...... Did you hear that right? ”
A wry smile suddenly appeared on my face, "I know, I've always seemed to be very introverted, and I don't like everyone. Therefore, in the future, I would like to ask for your bearing bearing and acceptance. I will try my best to change myself and make it acceptable to everyone. ”
When I spoke modestly and politely like this, Tan Xing looked at me in surprise and didn't say a word for a long time. Later, when I chatted with her once, she smiled and said to me, "Xian Yi, do you know what I thought at the time? I thought, Xianyi, you're wrong! Your change of course is not like the original you! ”
I then asked: Shouldn't I want to be more easy-going and accessible?
Tan Xing then explained to me with a smile: Actually, what you don't have to change is not an unacceptable bad character. Often, everyone thinks this for sure, if you ask a woman, "What characteristics do you want a man to have?" And the woman will answer you like this: "I want him to be handsome and have a good family background." Integrity, reliability, trustworthiness ......"
Isn't that a good answer? But in fact, who would take a ruler and measure whether you have the above qualities and conditions one by one like measuring the land?
Right?
Because she was asked so seriously, the woman had to pretend to be serious. Even they don't have an accurate answer in their hearts. So, this answer can't be counted as true!
What is expressed in real life is often surprising. And women often deceive themselves!
Don't you see, such strange things often happen around you: good students and classmates who are always recognized are often the least popular with female classmates. Because women are the ones who like duplicity the most, the guy who really attracts girls is precisely the guy who is usually the least favored by everyone. Even the most naughty person in the class has female classmates around him!
And everyone recognized as a good classmate and class president, but he studied in college for a few years in vain. Although he may later graduate with honors, the price is that there is a gap in the relationship for a few years in college!
Isn't that a contradiction? Why do those pretty girls often admit that they were once attracted to "bad guys"?
The reason for this is that there is a huge gap between "what a woman says verbally" and "what a woman is attracted". Deep in the hearts of women, there are many contradictory "driving forces". What women really "use" is often completely different from what they say!
To put it bluntly, feelings cannot be bound by the rules and regulations of textbooks. Many times, feelings follow feelings. And it feels like a ball of wind, coming and going without a trace.
And what can make a woman feel is often a man's trait, personality. Those conducts, humility, and politeness, often play a secondary role, not the primary one.
Hey, hey, it's really a co-king's words, it's better than reading a book for ten years!
I can't see it, I really can't see it. Tan Xing actually has such a unique and profound insight. And I'm still consciously changing myself for the sake of some subconscious person I want to please! It couldn't be more wrong!
In fact, no matter how unbearable you are, you are also yourself, and you are your unique self. As long as you strive to be the best version of yourself, then in the eyes of others, you will also be unique and memorable. There is no need to overdo it.