Author: Li Chunhui

At the Shangdao Coffee next to the Haidian Theater in Beijing, we shook hands and greeted each other, but Wang Gongquan did not take out his business card. "I don't have a unit right now." He laughed. He wears a blue and white checkered shirt, gray hair, and his aura is not as strong as his resume. This shape is reminiscent of the principal of a rural middle school.

Wang Gongquan, a young man with a bright career in the Jilin Provincial Party Committee, the eldest brother in the "Six Gentlemen of Wantong", a senior partner of IDG Venture Capital Fund, and a partner and founder of CDH Venture Capital Fund, has seized every opportunity in the era and constantly changed his identity. But since the huge "elopement" in 2011, Wang Gongquan has been "unemployed" until now.

Unemployed, imprisoned, divorced, and eloped, in the eyes of the general public, Wang Gongquan is like a romantic poet, chivalrous and uninhibited. He is indeed a poet, usually fond of writing poems in the old style, and is about to publish a book of poems that is not destined to sell well. But he doesn't admit that he's a wayward man.

Just amorous. amorous to women, two marriages, three women, thousands of visitors; He is affectionate to society and always wants to do something for progress.

"I didn't deliberately pursue love, I can only say that I didn't deliberately avoid it." When asked about his love life, Wang Gongquan thought for a while and replied.

In May 2011, he announced on Weibo that he would give up a qiē and elope with Wang Qin, the founder of Jiangsu Zhongfu Investment Co., Ltd., and wrote "Always the heart of spring to the wind, the most hated in the world." Who saw the mountains of gold and silver passed down to all generations? "The Song of Elopement" aroused countless netizens to watch, and "elopement" became a hot word on the Internet in 2011.

Forty-two days later, he announced his return home through a microblog. During this period, he resigned from his position at CDH. Since then, he has been invited to Columbia University as a visiting scholar at the Institute of East Asian Studies, accompanied by his wife and children. In the summer of 2012, the family spent 38 days driving through 15 U.S. states. Returned to China in early 2013.

On May 9, 2013, Pan Shiyi said on Weibo: "I haven't seen Wang Gongquan for a long time. I asked: Gongquan, how are you doing? Him: Okay. I asked: With whom? Him: With the people who love me, who I love. His high-level answer made my question seem tacky. All I could say was: Good, good, good. ”

Power and the opposite sex are topics that fascinate amorous men forever, and in the face of Wang Gongquan, I can't help but ask him again whether he loves or not, regrets and no regrets. He refused to answer. He said that he was at an age when he knew his destiny and was reluctant to answer embarrassing questions.

"What do you think is the biggest difference between forty and fifty?"

Wang Gongquan pondered for a long time: "It's powerless." ”

And love is often hallucinating. Although everyone understands that the illusion will eventually fade, they can't help but quench their thirst for that momentary and eternal light. Especially for a man who is tired of Vanity Fair, love is a healing decoction.

"I am happy with Wang Qin. But that doesn't mean there aren't those pressures. Mrs. is crying, the pressure of public opinion is so great, how can two people be happy all day long? Can't do it. The media scolded me for being irresponsible, or for not caring for anything. You can understand the two of us being caught off guard in the midst of an emergency, and we are wondering how we should deal with it. My wife and I still have feelings, and it's not impossible to live together. And just like that, I chose ......"

This is the answer made by Wang Gongquan in an interview with the media after returning from eloping in July 2011.

How many true loves can a man have in his life? Faced with this slightly literary question, Wang Gongquan's expression was embarrassed and asked the reporter to turn off the recorder. But in fact, after turning off the voice recorder, we just talked about what true love is. He said he didn't know the definition of true love.

All we know is that in 2005, Wang Gongquan and his ex-wife ended their 19-year marriage and married their current wife. 6 years later, he eloped with Wang Qin, who had known him for two years, leaving behind his current wife and a pair of children born to her. Eventually, he returned to his current wife, and they traveled together, watched movies together, and picked up and dropped off their children together.

"So you are satisfied with your current marital status, or are you happy?"

(Silence) Why do you ask? It's okay for us to live together. It's just that he no longer writes the euphemisms he once loved.

He claimed to be half a literati and wrote metrical poetry. His favorite lyricist is Li Yu, an amorous man.

"Actually, everyone is amorous. It's just that some people express it, some people don't express it, some people reveal it, and some people don't show it. Is marrying more than one person considered amorous? Is loving more people affectionate? Or what does it mean to be less affectionate? Which entrepreneur or politician is ruthless? Love itself is very rich and vast. ”

We have no way of judging whether other entrepreneurs are affectionate, but as far as we can see, others have not paid the same price as Wang Gongquan.

After ending his first marriage, he left the house. Eloped publicly, he was controversial.

"It's not that I want to pay the price, it's that I can't handle it well. But everyone knows my price, and many people have paid a lot of money, and everyone doesn't know. He laughed at himself.

Although he said that he wanted to quit early on, and had already arranged for someone else to take over his work at CDH, he did not expect such a sudden and slightly wolfish way. It is the day of the hasty resignation of the temple, and the church still plays a parting song.

After the elopement incident, he still made appointments with CDH's colleagues outside, but he never returned to his office in CDH. "I myself was asking why I didn't have the desire to go back to the office. Maybe I'm too tired of the past life in the mall, and I don't want to live that life from the bottom of my heart. He said that he sometimes worries that he is unwilling to do it again with such good conditions and resources.

Perhaps it was elopement that gave him the opportunity to let go completely. On the day of the interview, Wang Gongquan helped a friend consult the company's business for free in the morning and took a two-hour nap in the afternoon. He arranges these meetings two or three times a week to help entrepreneurs guide projects, but he does not invest, charges or is responsible, and the advice he provides is for reference only. This was unthinkable in the past, when as soon as he opened his eyes, there were things waiting for him that he did not want to do but had to do.

We ate half-melted red bean icebergs, drank a pot of Xinyang Maojian, and chatted until late at night. After two years, when it comes to elopement, Wang Gongquan is still full of hesitation and avoidance. His own pain is as real as the pain he inflicts on others. However, a qiē arises from him, and he cannot be redeemed.

At six o'clock the next morning, I received a micro-letter from Wang Gongquan: "I hope that the article you write will not inadvertently hurt any woman." Be sure to! ”

once whipped a famous horse because of drunkenness, for fear of tiring the beauty. He was so amorous that I couldn't help but promise him.

But Wang Gongquan is by no means a cynic.

On the day of the interview, during the evening rush hour, I accompanied him to a dinner party on Beijing Metro Line 2. In the crowded subway, he talked about enlightenment, his social ideals and practices. A migrant worker in his twenties next to him looked at him repeatedly with suspicious eyes.

It is not often that the opportunity to squeeze the subway with Wang Gongquan is not common. In fact, as we walked to the subway, I was shocked. Fortunately, he didn't take out the bus card, otherwise I am afraid that I would have speculated uncontrollably about his downfall.

The dinner was in a restaurant in a remote alley, and we went around twice to find it. It was much later, and only the scraps were left on the table. He ate two pieces of cold meatloaf and shared 50 yuan for the meal. Many people did not know his profession and asked him whether he was a lawyer or a professor, and he said that he was a social elite.

He stayed here for almost two hours and said a lot of words, all gentle.

"Are you still rich?" When leaving, we waited together for the rental, and I couldn't help but ask.

"How much do you think you're rich?"

"Probably...... Over 100 million in assets? ”

"Then I'm not rich."

In the taxi, we continue to explore the topic of whether he is considered a rich man or not. The driver finally couldn't help but turn around and said, "Tens of millions are considered rich." ”

The driver didn't know that the middle-aged man in the back seat, who was not amazing, had enthusiastically speculated about his net worth when the "elopement" incident was in full swing in 2011, some said it was more than 1 billion, and some said more.

But he first divorced his ex-wife, and gave everything to his ex-wife. After that, he gave up his huge wealth and left the venture capital circle.

"I think being a businessman is boring." He described the scene of a high-end cocktail party: businessmen walking around with wine glasses in their hands, trying to make friends with people who were useful to them. But those who are useless to themselves, although they are holding wine glasses, their eyes scan the audience, trying to find a more valuable person to talk to. If no one pays attention, one has to stand there awkwardly, feeling that he is not in the stream.

"If you don't think about it, you feel like this is life, this is the life of the mainstream society that you aspire to. I will even be proud that I can appear on such an occasion, and I am happy to see a lot of people worth seeing today. But if you think about it deeply, you will feel so utilitarian, so dirty, and so boring. ”

I hate this body for a long time, when will I forget the camp. This is a sensitive person.

He has always felt alienated from the business world in which he lives. "I don't think that's what my power should focus on."

Now, he devotes more of his time to building civil society, and his research at Columbia University is also on "Civil Society and Democratic Transition." He has long said goodbye to the era of "hexagrams" for various possibilities, and he is willing to learn by doing.

Chinese entrepreneurs often admit that they are politically weak. They support social progress in their hearts, but they tend to be conservative in their actions. In fact, entrepreneurs' pursuit of social change has not reached the much-needed level, and they can settle general social problems that they can digest by their own influence, and what the people cannot bear. Since it doesn't pose an immediate need, they assess the risk.

Wang Gongquan is different, he is not willing to be a cynic. He was so zealous about public welfare that he campaigned for the injustices he saw, so much so that his friends often advised him to cherish himself. His new \ Lang Wei \ blog and Sou \ Hu Wei \ blog have been cancelled, only Teng \ Xun Wei \ Bo, he pays attention to all kinds of vulnerable groups on Wei \ Bo every day.

His generation has a sense of family and country, and Wang Gongquan read "Young Ma Ke Si" in college and was deeply affected. Later in his business career, he struggled to stick to his principles, and as a result, he lost many opportunities. If you don't collude, you will have a difficult situation, and if you don't collude, you will have a troubled conscience, and over time, you want to change this situation, so you have come to the road of hoping to promote social progress.

"I don't want my children to be in the same situation as me in the future, either to go along with the same thing, or to have a hard time, so that my heart is very miserable. I also don't want to see so many of my friends who are so good that they can only join the same stream, so that they lose the beauty of their hearts, cannot be redeemed, and feel that they are not holy. I also don't want to see those officials who are also very good, but they can only be forced to say things that they don't believe. Wang Gongquan said. He smoked the last cigarette in his cigarette case, the fifth cigarette in an hour-long interview on issues of social progress.

Since 2008, Wang Gongquan has been promoting equal rights in education and college entrance examinations in other places. In the past few years, various meetings have been organized to study, and a joint appeal signed by 150,000 people has been planned, and 28 times of presentation of grievances to the Beijing Municipal People's Congress, the Beijing Municipal Education Commission, and the National People's Congress and the Ministry of Education. The presentation also had some effect. In 2012, the State Council promulgated a document requiring all localities to introduce plans for the high school entrance examination and college entrance examination in different places.

Russell once said: "Let him go, what happens in the world is not up to you......" Wang Gongquan did this, can he really change anything?

"Social change does not require the people to dedicate and fight for doctrine, everyone should look at their own lives, and should not try to enlighten or dominate the people's ideology with ideas. When you see that the people are not interested in ideology, ideology, and politics, it is when this ethnic group matures. Actual social change requires a small number of responsible people to promote the completion of the game. The people just look at themselves, are a little worried, and are optimistic about their achievements. Wang Gongquan said that on the road of promoting social progress, he does not have a strong sense of powerlessness. Solving a country's problems is very complex, and if you fall into traditional revolutionary thinking, you will feel powerless. But the fact is that change is constantly moving in the right direction, even if it's struggling.

Can such a person not be entangled?

In 2003, Wang Gongquan met a teacher and began to study Buddhism.

He did not think that his conversion to religion was due to his intolerance of the world. In his view, all religions are religions that have entered the world, and Buddhism is not a denial of life, and there is no Buddha who has been born. The Buddha did not sit on the mountain all the time, but took his disciples to preach. After all, people who become Buddhas are in the minority, and Buddhism advocates a way of life.

From the Buddha, he learned to look at things from a different perspective, and let go of things that he wasn't interested in. Under the Buddha's contemplation, things that were once important become unimportant, such as money; Things that were once unimportant become important, such as freedom of expression, freedom of movement, and trying to live as much as you like.

This qiē is contrary to the creed of the venture capital circle.

Beginning on June 1, Wang Gongquan was to go into retreat with his master for a month. During this month, he will have no contact with the outside world at all.

"Is the qiē you doing now a redemption for the first half of your life?"

"No, I'm not in the same boat. I missed a lot of opportunities because of that. I don't think I have any, and if someone else says yes, they can remind me, and if there is, I'll admit it for sure. ”

Source: Chinese Entrepreneur