My grandmother had a huge influence on me, and I can say that she had a direct impact on my whole outlook on life.

Grandma's name - Lu Lianhua, I never knew my grandmother's name, until the day my grandmother died, I saw a lot of things written on the deceased. My grandmother is a native of Gaojie Nanchuan, my grandfather deserted when he was young, and my grandfather said that at that time, the national army caught strong men, * also arrested strong men, before the liberation, the first army was called the national army, the communist army was the opposition, the rebels, naturally called * in the Republic of China, this is a fact. There are four grandfathers and brothers, the eldest grandfather deserted to Guyuan, my grandfather's second child, and his wife, with the third master and the fourth master, fled to the high realm, at that time grandpa and grandma knew each other, grandpa and grandma got married, it should be calculated according to my aunt's age, it was married in 1948. At that time, before the liberation of our northwest, it was the Ma family's team, everyone had heard of it, and I had heard my grandfather say that the Ma family's team was very terrible, and they would kill people when they saw them, but they didn't seem to come in our hometown. Of course, I went to Xining Ma Bufang's former residence to visit, Ma Bufang was the king of the northwest during the Republic of China, and there was no legendary Ma Jiajun who killed people when he saw them, after the liberation of the northwest, Ma Bufang's family went to Taiwan, Chiang Kai-shek sent Ma Bufang as the ambassador to Saudi Arabia, Ma Bufang's whole family immigrated to Saudi Arabia, and now the descendants are engaged in the jewelry and gold business, and no longer engage in politics. After the liberation, my grandfather and his wife, as well as the third master, the fourth grandfather, and my grandmother all came to the middle of the mountain opposite our village and built a courtyard, the earthen wall was very thick and very high, there were wolves at that time, and the wall of the courtyard is still there. At that time, my grandmother watched the children, raised chickens, and often fought wits and courage with wolves, and there were several thrilling stories, which I have forgotten now, and asked my aunt and uncle another day to make up for it.

And then it was 1950, the Korean War, the cause of the Korean War was North Korea's attack on South Korea, this history is very exciting, how to look at the history of Russia, North Korea, South Korea, Japan, the United States, China, the description is different, but many of the facts are basically the same, and everyone else will judge for themselves. One day the artichoke cooked in the grandfather's stove was ripe, I came to the front, rubbed the artichoke to eat, I asked my grandfather to talk about the past, grandpa said that the whole country recruited volunteers at that time, grandpa and the third master were recruited, both of them wore big red flowers on their chests, riding horses, grandpa said that his eyes were very bright, smiling, very happy, very enjoyable, just like bragging, grandpa also said, but my wife, that is, grandpa's father did not let him go, only let my third master go, my third master is the Korean War volunteers, He was a cook, and when he came back, he was paid until he died. Grandpa everyone is afraid, I have seen grandpa beat his daughter-in-law, angry, and heard of grandpa beating my grandma, I don't know why I have never been afraid of my grandpa, my grandpa has never scolded me, so far the most profound impact is grandpa said to me: you don't study hard When you grow up, Xiaolei's family will come in a car, and you will tie an old straw rope around your waist.

In my impression, my grandmother was not in good health, and my grandmother had two things, one was a cane and the other was a small felt, and she used a cane to walk and sat on the felt when she rested.

There are several fragments in my memory that are very clear, one is my grandmother on crutches, leaning on the haystack, the sun is shining warmly on my grandmother, I went to meet the old iron egg family with a good taste of apricots, picked back for grandma to eat, I remember grandma ate one, very soft and ripe apricots, very sweet, the expression on grandma's face is kind and happy, but grandma still touched my head and said a word: prevent dogs, the wall hangs very much. (The dog is called me, grandma often calls me dog, which means let me be careful, the mound wall is very dangerous) once my grandma leaned against the staircase wall of my high house, and the sun was warm, her face was full of happiness, and she watched me play. Once it was a mill, an incident happened, my father beat my second mother, my grandparents and I sat at the gate of the fourth father's house, my grandfather saw it and laughed and said, hehe, just smoke, I also cleaned up this morning. What my grandmother said is still very clear to me: Your father and son hate it very much, and you will provoke that person. Grandpa smiled and walked into the yard. I remember when I was a child, every year in the grinding field, I first grinded the second father's family, came down to my family, and finally the fourth father's family, the two children of the second father's family were older than me, and the two children of the fourth father's family were younger than me. When I went to grind my house and my fourth father's house, the second father was sometimes gone to work, and his two dolls and second mothers were locked in her house and were not allowed to come out. There was only the second mother alone in the grinding field, and there was no one when she was grinding. The second mother is a very famous person, there are too many deeds, if it is necessary, I will write a biography for her later, everyone in the village knows that her sofa can not sit on people, and the kang head can not sit on people, and she will sit on the bench when she goes, my father had a car accident this time, I am also divorced, she also came, and said two very classic words, one to evaluate my awesomeness, that is: my ex-wife's family is very good, all because our family is not good, it is all our family's fault. It was reflected that the relationship between my ex-wife and my second mother was not simple, but I never knew that my ex-wife could talk to my second mother, but I couldn't do it anyway. There is also a sentence that came to see my father the day before yesterday, my father broke 5 ribs on the right side, and his head is now oozing fluid, and the second mother looked at my father affectionately and said: Are you pretending, are you okay. I can only hehe, I am also 53 years old. Now let's think about what grandma said: Your father and son hate it very much, and you will provoke that person. is such a second mother, grandma will still protect her and help her speak, how virtuous and virtuous grandma is! Grandma is well-known for her virtuous and virtuous virtues, including my memory and my parents' mouths, grandma has 4 daughters-in-law, all of whom have different personalities, and grandma has never quarreled with any of her daughters-in-law.

Grandma is a small foot, not a complete small foot, grandma said, before the foot wrapped, and then the Republic of China will not wrap the foot, so grandma's feet only two fingers are broken, grandma and grandpa often soak their feet together in the yard, and trim their toenails after running. I often watched from the sidelines and asked about my grandmother's feet, and my grandmother recalled that the experience of binding her feet was still painful.

My grandmother has an older brother, my name is my uncle, who has been in prison for labor reform, and has been in the Xinjiang Construction Corps, and has always had a pension since then. I heard that my uncle beat his wife, and his wife hanged herself, so my uncle went to the labor camp, and my uncle had a daughter, and I didn't recognize my uncle, and my uncle was alone in a field in Nanchuan, Gaojie, and there were only two very old small houses, one he lived in, one kitchen, and the two rooms were connected, and there was always a coffin of his own in the room where he lived. I went to my uncle's house since I was a child, followed my grandfather, and every time I went to my uncle, I gave money to my uncle, and when I was a child, I received the most New Year's money from my uncle, and at that time, many people gave 2 cents or 5 cents for the New Year's money, and my uncle was 5 yuan. So I especially love to go to my uncle's house, my uncle has always been lonely, he has lived his life alone, every year before the Chinese New Year, our family will go to my uncle to send food, I have been there several times, until my uncle died. I've always wanted to ask my uncle about his life, but I haven't spoken, because I can see his sadness, suffering, a man's pain and sorrow from his eyes, and when we often watch him go home, my uncle can't bear to look at it again, and his eyes are always full of tears. No matter how big a mistake my uncle made, after all, my uncle still endured it silently all his life, I still respect him and love him deeply, because he has endured and accepted it, he is a man who stands up to the sky, and my uncle has gone all the way! My uncle has a good sister, and my uncle's good sister has a good group of children and grandchildren.

Grandma has always been cooking when to make a small cold dish, the cold dish is made of cabbage cut into thin strips, this cold dish is exclusive to grandpa, no one dares to eat, of course, except for me, my memory does not have the appearance of grandma eating, when everyone eats, grandma always stands, let grandma eat, grandma will say that she has eaten, she doesn't want to eat, or just serve everyone in the kitchen. In fact, I know that if everyone finishes eating, grandma will eat if there is still food, and grandma will not eat if there is no food. Grandma often cooks artichokes, because grandpa loves to eat, and I remember that whenever grandma cooks, grandpa eats very fragrant and comfortable. Since the death of grandma, grandpa has cooked and eaten by himself, because grandpa eats other daughters-in-law's meals must not have the taste of grandma's cooking, after grandma's death, grandpa's body has always been very tough, grandpa also passed away in the third year after grandma's death, there is a reason for this, I will talk later, grandpa and grandma's married life and love feelings are the most touching to me so far, I can also deeply experience.

There was a period of time when my grandmother was seriously ill, at that time I was in the third grade of Qilipu Primary School, I took the bus home alone, came home, almost all the relatives were there, I came in and my sister-in-law asked me to ask my grandmother, I asked my grandmother lying on the bed: Grandma, are you better? Grandma turned her head sideways, I saw a white substance in the corner of her eyes, there were tear stains, grandma looked at me, her eyes looked very difficult, grandma said: My baby is back, hide some dogs, who are you here with? I said I'm the one who came. I fell asleep in my high house that night, and the next morning I got up and my aunt came in and said, "Da Yun hurry up and go see your grandmother, and people have carried your grandmother to the ground." I realized that my grandmother had died, I hurried to see it, my grandmother's face was blocked with paper, and I secretly touched it several times, my face was cold and cold, no matter how my children and grandchildren cried, how she called her, she never answered, in the days when I knelt down, I printed paper money for my grandmother, and I printed a total of two bundles of white paper. Every time someone comes to mourn, I cry, and I cry very sadly. Grandma was lying right next to us. My dearest person left me, forever, never come back, this is death, grandma's life is over, I still think that when I grow up, I want to take grandma to see outside, grandma I guess I haven't even been to Jingning County, although our village is very close to the county. My grandmother's death made me think about my life, and I was deeply aware that one day I would leave all my relatives like my grandmother, when I was only 9 years old. I realized that my life could not be so ordinary like my grandmother's, I had never been anywhere, and I began to think deeply about my life, my outlook on life and values, which were formed at this time. The result of my thinking is: I am inevitable from birth to death, I can't choose to live, I can't choose to die, but how to live the process between life and death, I can choose by myself, I want to live such a process, how I want to work hard, this process must be happy, happy, natural, must be decided by myself, only in this way when I face death like my grandmother, I can feel at ease, I can smile, I can not be nostalgic for the world, because my process is very fulfilling, I have no regrets, no regrets, and my life is very complete, will you still be afraid of death?

That's basically all there is to write about grandma's life. Oh, and the death of my grandfather, I will also write it in my grandmother's biography, because I think grandpa and grandma are an inseparable whole. After my grandmother died, on the day of the funeral, my uncle came, as if no one greeted me, and after my uncle came, he sat on the kang with my grandfather, and on the ground was the coffin that was close to my grandmother and the kneeling spirits of children and grandchildren. I can see that the relationship between my uncle and my grandfather is very good and iron, as if heroes cherish each other. My uncle told my grandfather that it seemed to be a mess today, and my grandfather got angry, and the two managers were my brothers, who were about the same age as my father, and my grandfather scolded him. After that, I listened to my grandfather and uncle chatting, and my grandfather said: We said okay, I'll go first, and now she is still going first, I want to see and bury it now, and burn the three-year paper before leaving. Later, my mother's mother came to talk to my grandfather. After my grandfather died, my mother's mother said that my grandfather said that he looked at burning my grandmother's three-year paper and left, looking for my grandmother. Grandpa's choice of day was very good, on the 4th day of the first month of 1999, in the morning my grandfather died after drinking medicine, and I have been watching from the front. He went to find his lover, grandpa and grandma never abandoned, for a lifetime, what a great love this is, let me ask if the world still has it? Grandpa left without any regrets, only said that my father would help the fourth father more, and there were no other last words. Grandma, as an illiterate person born in the Republic of China, has been unknown all her life and has never complained and complained. Grandpa was strong, brave and wise all his life, but in the end he did not love the world, silently chose to follow his wife, you can imagine how close and interdependent the husband and wife of grandparents are in their lives, no one relies on anyone, but a whole, and they cannot be separated from each other. Finally, ask the women: Can you do it and feel that your life is meaningless when your husband leaves? When you die, does your husband live just to do the best for you? That's my grandma! Miraculously unbelievably great!

Later, I will talk about my first love and elementary school days.