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The state of mind when cheating in the early days is very complicated.

Although there is no comparison at all, it is inevitable to compare the husband with the lover. For example, if you drive to a place in the same way, Y is a hundred times more verbose than L, and you end up blindly directing to go the wrong way. This can lead to impatience, emotion, apathy, and irritation.

"Turn left 100 meters ahead! You see you're in the wrong lane again! What should I do? ”

"Then go to the front and make a U-turn!"

"I'm on the highway ahead, and I can't turn around at all!"

"Then I don't know what to do! Can you please shut up first? ”

I slapped the steering wheel and went crazy, and tears flowed down my eyes in an instant. Even I was amazed that during this time I often lost control of my emotions, as if I had been greatly wronged, and tears mixed with resentment could not stop falling.

Y silence, followed by the cold war, endured my inexplicable bad temper.

At that time, I had not yet succeeded in cultivating the "Dafa of Blinding My Eyes" and was not able to retract and release it freely.

There is also a sense of guilt in this. In this regard, I am very similar to L, I can't express my apologies by showing weakness gently, but instead hide my weakness by taking a tough attitude.

I know it's dangerous and it's not sustainable: it's a small thing to be suspicious, but it's a big deal to disrupt a harmonious relationship. So after I calmed down, I began to self-debug &mdah; not to give in and tolerate without a bottom line, but to change my attitude in front of y through a change in the whole mindset.

There are also a number of extramarital affairs.

So in some levels, you see that the owner is particularly flustered, and the outside feels good, and when he goes home, he is picky about his spouse in every way, and finally the rabbit is anxious to bite people, and the three parties are torn apart when the street is torn, and in the end, no one is good.

Those with a higher level know how to weigh the pros and cons, and through the interest check and balance mechanism, let the outside stay reasonable, and let the family (most of them be women) turn a blind eye, work hard for themselves, and ensure that the overall situation is stable and united.

There are also some levels of victims, who can leave marks without hurting people. I saw a scammer who looked like Takeshi Kaneshiro go around defrauding rich women of their money, and in the end, several rich women rushed to give evidence, saying that this was not a scam, it was true love, and they were voluntary. Of course, this is an extreme example. The scam can't last forever, but in the staged extramarital affair, there are indeed people who are clever enough to make the outside willing to dedicate and the family to spoil and honey.

All the parties want to reach this final state, they deceive themselves or they are lucky, but it is not enough to have a wish. If it is a man's cheating, you must have careful thinking and sufficient funds to achieve the highest goal, and you must have a certain amount of time, so that you can control the woman's psychology and meet the needs of the woman. In addition to learning to give the lover a sense of freshness and a sense of security to the husband, it is more difficult to maintain rationality and self-denial at all times to avoid emotional attacks of gains and losses that affect the pond fish. I don't say that we need to be discerning about scum (lovers must be smart, eye-catching and self-aware, so as to avoid trouble afterwards) and avoid sex (for the sake of love and self-extrication and affect marriage, the second choice), because women who have reached this level will no longer be so stupid and obtuse with this kind of problem.

They will treat the relationship and interests of all parties as a business with a high risk coefficient to operate, worry day and night, reap benefits while always watching the trend of the situation, withdraw in advance before the risk comes, they are objective and calm, never indulge, form habits, and carefully sail the ship of ten thousand years.

There is no fruit in the world, it comes from luck. The gain is always proportional to the effort.

Why do you want to do a business that is not profiteering, but also bears the risk of social moral condemnation and disrepute?

Because of chance, because I want to experience adventures, because I don't think I will be the unlucky guy who is on the news.

To put it bluntly, it's still because of dissatisfaction. Why should the good people of An be proficient in the art of theft.

I never thought of turning my back on the calm days to take risks, and l and I have come to the present, and the road ahead is becoming clearer and clearer&mdah;what kind of outcome is clear to each other. The key is timing: when to withdraw is determined by personal greed and risk control. Extramarital affairs, no matter how deep and strong they are, if you lose your mind, you will definitely die.

I sat in my office dealing with mail, taking a sip of hot tea and shuddering at myself.

How did that innocent little girl two years ago become who I am today?

If you see it too clearly, it's not necessarily a good thing.

One day Y woke up and said to me, "I had a nightmare. ”

"What nightmare?"

"I dreamed you were cheating."

You can't understand how I felt at the time. Suppressing the panic, confusion, sourness, guilt, and fatalism, and with a calm face, I ordered myself to show a curious look and asked, "Who are you cheating on?" ”

"A colleague of mine, big fat man."

I couldn't cry or laugh: "I don't dream of a good one!" ”

Y earnestly continued to describe his dreams: "You said you cheated on you because your sex life was not satisfied. ”

I immediately self-examined: It's over, this has given him a psychological shadow! I'll have to change it later!

"And what did you do then?" I asked.

"I'm going to kill that colleague of mine with a knife." Y said, and then laughed, "Look, I didn't even think about divorcing you, I went straight to kill someone." ”

I was so cold in my heart: "Then did you kill me with a knife too?" ”

"I don't remember."

After this seemingly unintentional conversation, I sat aside in trepidation and calmed down silently for a long time.

Dreams are not reality. After Y's ex-wife ran away with someone else, Y didn't feel sorry for them. But the dream is a reflection of the psyche, and Y hates it to the core, although the laws and norms of reality make him honest and not to cross the line to retaliate, but deep down he has not walked out of this injury.

If I hurt him a second time, I can't guarantee that he won't do something out of the ordinary. Maybe it's not enough to commit murder and arson, but it's okay to ruin the reputation of both parties who cheat.

The boundless fear and guilt that these inhuman people can bear is the inevitable price of wanting to cheat. was originally a simple person, no matter how ups and downs, joys, sorrows, and sorrows in life, they were actually simple and happy; When darkness and sin begin to spread in your heart, your life seems to fall into parallel worlds, you become sensitive and suspicious, you find that everyone around you is happy as a mirror, and you can't do it even if you smile. Cheating is also a crime, but the punishment is not criminalized.