Zeng Zi boasted to Zisi and said: Ji! When my father died, I didn't eat or drink for seven days. Zisi said: The system of the first king is already a standard set by compromising human feelings, and those who are excessively courteous should be wronged to hope to meet the standard, and those who are lacking in etiquette should work hard to hope to meet the standard. Therefore, when the gentleman has just died of his father, it is okay not to eat or drink for three days, although it is only three days, but the filial son must also hold the mourning rod to stand up.

Zeng Zi said: According to the etiquette, the clothes of small merits, when the mourning period has passed before the mourning letter is heard, there is no need to make up the mourning service after the mourning period. In this way, there is no mourning dress for the ancestral brother who died in the distance, is it appropriate to do so?

The Spring and Autumn Magi Bo Gao died, and before the messenger sent by Confucius to give a gift of condolences had not yet arrived, Confucius's disciple Ran You prepared a gift containing a bunch of silk and four horses to go to the funeral, and said that he was ordered by Confucius. When Confucius heard this, he said, "What a strange! This made me lose my trust in Berco.

Bo Gao died in the defense of the country, and his family sent people to report the funeral to Confucius. Confucius said, "Where am I crying?" If it was a brother, I would cry him in the ancestral temple; My father's friend, I cried for him outside the temple gate; Teacher, I cried for him in the main bed; Friend, I cried for him outside the main bedroom; It's just a general acquaintance who exchanges names, I cry him in the wild, and for Bergo, crying him in the wild seems too shallow; crying at the bedtime, it seems that the etiquette is too heavy; He met me through Zigong, so I'd better go to Zigong's house and cry for him. So, Confucius ordered Zigong to be the mourning master on his behalf. Because this is different from the main owner of the funeral, I specially explained to Zigong: If you cry for your own relationship, you will thank you; If you come to cry because you have a friendship with Bogao, you don't need to thank you.

Zeng Tzu said: If you are sick during the mourning period, you can eat meat and drink wine, and you must also add the taste of plants and trees. By grass and trees, we mean ginger and cinnamon.

Zixia cried and blinded her eyes because of the death of her son. Zeng Zi went to comfort him and said: I have heard that my friend has lost his eyesight, and I should cry for him. After saying that, I cried. Zixia also cried and said, "Oh my God! I'm innocent, how did I end up like this! Zeng Zi was moved when he heard this, and said: Shang! How can you be innocent? You and I both studied with our teacher between Sushui and Surabaya, and when you were older, you returned to the Xihe area, and I didn't hear how you praised your teacher, but let the residents of Xihe compare you to our teacher, which is your first sin.

Your father is dead, and you don't let the local population see what good you are doing during the mourning, which is your second sin. When your son dies, you cry and are blind, which means that you regard your son as more important than Lao Tzu, this is your third sin, etc., how can you be without sin? Zixia was very convinced when she heard this, so she put aside her cane and knelt down and said: I was wrong! I was wrong! I've been away from my friends and living alone for too long!

Staying in the middle of the day is like being sick, and friends and relatives can go to visit the patient. Sleeping outside the middle gate at night, just like the appearance of mourning, relatives and friends can go to mourn. Therefore, a gentleman will not sleep outside the middle gate unless he is filial piety; The fast before the divination sacrifice is not to be sick, and it is not to stay in the middle of sleep day and night.

When Gao Zilamb was keeping filial piety for his father, he cried silently for three years and never laughed. The gentleman thinks that this is something that ordinary people can't do. There are laws for the production of mourning clothes, and if the mourning clothes worn are not legal, then the rules will be messed up, and it is better not to wear mourning clothes. If you are wearing a decaying garment, you must not sit on an offset. If you wear a great uniform, you can't do hard work.

When Confucius went to defend the country, he encountered the death of the owner of the house where he had stayed in the past, so he went in to mourn and cried very sadly. After crying, he asked Zigong to untie the horse he drove and send it to the bereaved family. Zigong said: For the death of your students, don't they never untie the horse that drove the car, and now to untie the horse that drives and give it to the master's house where they lived in the past, is it too much of a courtesy, right? Confucius said: I just went in and cried for him, and it happened that sorrow came from it and wept, and I hated the practice of shedding tears without actual sympathy; You better do what I say!

When Confucius was defending the country, someone sent a funeral, and Confucius watched from the sidelines and said: This funeral is really good! It can be used as a role model for people; Remember. Zigong said: Why did the teacher praise the funeral for being well done? Confucius replied: On the way to the funeral, the filial son is like a baby who misses his relatives and weeps endlessly; When he came back after the burial, he hesitated as if he was worried that the gods of his relatives would not be able to come back with him. Zigong said: I'm afraid it's better to hurry home and prepare a Yu sacrifice to calm the gods, right? Confucius said: You must remember this example for a good life, even I can't be like him!

Yan Yuan's death, to the sacrifice of Daxiang, his family sent the meat of the sacrifice to the gods; Confucius went outside the door to accept it, went into the house, played the piano for a while, and then ate. When Confucius and his disciples stood together, he held his fists with his right hand out, and his disciples also had their right hands out. Confucius said: You disciples like to learn from me so much, and my right hand is outside because of the mourning of my sister! When the disciples understood, they all switched to their left hand.

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