Lu Zhuang Gong led the troops and the Song ** team to fight in Chengqiu. On the chariot that Lu Zhuang Gong was riding, the father of the county was responsible for driving, and the state of Bu was responsible for defending. The horse driving was suddenly frightened and ran wildly, and Zhuang Gong fell from the car. Fortunately, the person on the side car handed Zhuang Gong the lead rope to board the car and pulled him into the side car. Zhuang Gong said: It is the responsibility of the driver that the horse is frightened and lost; I didn't soothe the driver beforehand, so that's why it happened.

The county father said: Usually drive, horses don't run around; Today, I drove backwards, which shows that I still lack courage. So he went to the enemy and died. Later, when the groom washed the horse, he found that an arrow had been shot into the flesh of the horse's inner thigh. Zhuang Gong said: I see, I blamed the county father. So he wrote an essay commending the merits of the deceased. The class of scholars can also have a literate, and it started from this incident.

Zeng Zi was sick in bed, very sick. His disciple Le Zheng Zichun sat under the bed, and his sons Zeng Yuan and Zeng Shen sat at his feet. A small child sits in the corner with a torch in hand. When the child saw the bamboo mat under Zengzi, he said, "How beautiful and smooth!" It's a doctor's bamboo mat, right? Zichun said: Don't make a sound! When Zeng Zi heard this, he suddenly woke up and let out a weak breath. And the little boy said, "How beautiful and smooth!" It's a doctor's bamboo mat, right?

Zengzi said: Yes, this was sent by Ji Sun, and I couldn't replace it because I was seriously ill; Yuan, get up and change the mat! Zeng Yuan said: Your old man's illness is already very dangerous, you can't move, I hope to wait until dawn to replace it for you. Zeng Zi said: You don't love me as much as that child; A gentleman's lover is to consider how to fulfill his virtues; The villain's lover is thinking about how to make him reluctant; What more could I ask for at this moment? If I am able to die a ceremonial death, my wish will be fulfilled. So, they lifted Zengzi to change the seat, and then put Zengzi back on the seat after the change, but before he could put it down, Zengzi died of breath.

When his parents just died, the filial son was full of grief, as if he couldn't live anymore. When changing clothes for the deceased and putting them in the coffin, the filial son's eyes were uncertain, as if he was looking for something but couldn't find it; After the burial, the filial son was helpless, as if he was looking forward to the return of his relatives but couldn't look forward to it. A year later, I felt that time had passed too quickly. In addition to the salute, I also felt quite empty inside.

The people of the kingdom of 邾 (zhū) used arrows to summon spirits, which began with the Battle of Shengcheng. The habit of women in the Lu State to go to mourning with their hair exposed began after the defeat in the battle of the fox (zhuā). Nangong 縚 (tāo)'s wife died of her mother-in-law, and Confucius taught her how to make a mourning bun saying: You don't make the mourning bun too high, and don't make it too big, use hazel wood to make a hairpin, the length is one foot; The strip of cloth that binds the hair, and the remaining hanging part is eight inches long.

After Meng Xianzi performed the Tan sacrifice, the musical instruments in the house were still only hung and not played, and women could sleep without entering the door of the house. Confucius said: Ordinary people can't do this, but Xianzi can do it, it's really outstanding! Confucius began to play the piano five days after the auspicious ceremony, but he could not play the tone; In the second month after the auspicious ceremony, the tone of the voice is harmonious. As soon as the auspicious festival ended, Youzi put on shoes with silk ornaments and a hat with ribbons, which was a little early. There are three situations in which the dead are not worthy of mourning: those who judge themselves without justification, those who stop being crushed to death in danger, and those who swim and drown.

Zilu mourned for his married sister, and he didn't remove it when it was time to remove it. Confucius asked him, "Why don't you take it off?" Zilu said: I have very few brothers, so I can't bear to take it in nine months! Confucius said: The etiquette formulated by the first king, for a righteous man and a gentleman, is to teach him to properly control his feelings. When Zilu heard this, he immediately took off his mourning clothes.

Jiang Taigong was sealed in Qidi, and the capital was in Yingqiu. Because the prince stayed in the court as a teacher, he was buried in Zhou after his death. Since then, although his five generations of descendants died in Qidi, they were also buried in Zhoudi with the Taigong. The gentleman said: Music, or the sound of the ancient country is the best; The spirit of etiquette is also not to forget its roots; The ancients had a saying: When the fox is dead, it must also face the direction of the fox's den, which is also not forgetting the fundamentals!

Bo Yu's (Confucius's son's) biological mother died, and two years later, he was still crying. When Confucius heard this, he asked who was crying. His disciple said, "It's the carp crying." Confucius said dissatisfiedly: It's too much! When Boyu heard this, he stopped crying.

After Shun's death, he was buried in the wilderness, probably none of his three concubines were buried with him. Ji Wuzi said: It was probably from the beginning of Zhou Gong that the husband and wife were buried together.

When preparing for Zengzi's funeral, his family members cooked soup for the deceased in the kitchen, which was rude; When mourning for great merit, all studies should be stopped, so as not to interfere with mourning; But some people say: It's still okay to recite poetry orally after a great funeral, but you can't play music. When Zizhang was critically ill, he summoned his son Shen Xiang and told him: The death of a gentleman is called the end, and the death of a villain is called death; My life is probably the end.

Zeng Tzu said: The memorial set up when a person dies is made of ready-made food left over from the shelf, right? Zeng Zi said: Xiaogong's clothes do not cry according to the sequence of intimacy, which is the gift of the people who live in the alleys; Zisi cried for his sister-in-law, so he paid attention to the sequence of intimacy, and his wife jumped and stomped to cry first, and then he cried; Zizhang's son Shen Xiang's crying also has this kind of exquisiteness.

In ancient times, both the auspicious crown and the fierce crown were straight seams, and now the ancient crown is horizontally seamed, and the fierce crown is still straight seams, which looks the opposite of the auspicious crown, which does not mean that this is also the case in ancient times.

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