In the sense of ancient law, the levy focuses on the form, not the quantity, and the completion of the levy marks the end of the engagement stage and is one of the main signs of the establishment of the marriage. The invitation period is to choose a good date for marriage by the man's family, and write the names of men and women, birthdays, hometowns, and ancestors on red paper, etc., and after writing, it is called the invitation ceremony, which is brought to the woman's house by the matchmaker and the date of marriage with the owner of the woman's family; Welcome, is the bride to the woman's house to marry the ceremony, usually after the man notifies the woman's family of the wedding date, on the day of marriage, the groom personally to the woman's home to greet the bride, but also by the man's family to send a team to marry, the bride waits at home.

In the above six marriage ceremonies, every link is inseparable from the matchmaker's thread. In the "Book of Rites", it is written: Wedding, this is a kind of etiquette that will combine the good of the two surnames, which is related to the sacrifice of the temple and the reception of the ancestors, so the gentleman attaches great importance to it. It is written in "Shuo Wen Jie Zi": The medium is the meaning of the scheme, and the two surnames are conspired; Concubine, consider the meaning, consider the two surnames. To seek the union of the two surnames is to combine the two surnames and help the two surnames to conclude marriage; After consideration, there is a meaning of weighing the pros and cons and choosing the good.

According to the "Zhou Li", the matchmaker is in charge of the people's marriage. If a man or woman is born more than three months old and has a name, the matchmaker must record their names and the date of birth. It is the duty and obligation of the matchmaker to have a man over the age of 30 marry a wife and a woman who has reached the age of 20 to marry. It is also to be recorded if a man marries a remarried woman or accepts the children of a remarried woman. It can be seen that in the long history of China, matchmaking is a very remarkable role in the marriage system.

There are three elements of dowry: the first is the words of the matchmaker, the second is the order of the parents, and the third is the recruitment. It is recorded in the "Book of Rites" that between men and women, if there is no matchmaker to propose marriage, they do not know each other's names. After obtaining the consent of the parents through the communication of the matchmaker, the marriage contract of the two parties can be formed, which is the general guideline followed in the marriage activities of the society at that time.

The above content can be said to be the background of the social era in which this poem was produced today.

A man, when he was newly married, was happy with his happy marriage, and couldn't help but use poetry to express the joy in his heart. He tells us that a matchmaker is the one who makes the two of them get together. The union of a man and a woman must be handled by a matchmaker in order for the marriage to be successful. The tone he uttered was so categorical that there was no doubt that the truth was as simple and clear as the need to have an axe to make a proper axe.

He praised his newlywed wife from the bottom of his heart, but strangely enough, he did not praise her for her youth and beauty, nor for her gentleness and thoughtfulness, but praised her for her ability to arrange ritual utensils and be good at handling such matters as sacrificial feasts, which is really a little puzzling.

The man was excited to see that his new wife was experienced in cooking feast sacrifices. It turns out that in the family concept of feudal society, marrying a wife is mainly for the purpose of extending the family, so the ideal woman is not only beautiful, healthy, and able to have children, but it is better to be able to assist in feasts and sacrifices. The man was overjoyed to marry such a woman, and he believed that only when his wife knew how to do such things as sacrifices could she truly run the family. This can reflect from one side that feudal ethics and patriarchal concepts have penetrated into married life and become the criterion for measuring whether love is happy.

This poem seems to be short, but in fact it has two meanings, one is the surface meaning of the poem itself, and the other is that it can lead to a deeper meaning.

When a man finds a wife in his mind, just as an axe finds a suitable axe handle, it requires certain methods and procedures, and basic arrangements such as matchmakers and wedding gifts. The pride in the man's heart and the excitement of his emotions are all condensed in a song of self-satisfaction. The axe and the handle, like a husband and wife, are perfect when they are suitable. No matter how suitable it is, it needs the matchmaker's matchmaking before the wife can pass through the door. This is a scene of festive folk customs in ancient China, and it also shows that the Chinese nation attaches great importance to marriage.

In an extended sense, the axe can only play the role of an axe with a suitable handle, which can be compared to the coordination of two things. To cut the handle of an axe, there must be certain requirements, principles and methods. There are also certain requirements, principles and methods for coordinating the two sides of a thing or an activity. In fact, this is the common law of the development of things: only according to certain principles can things be coordinated.

The movement of things needs an intermediary, just as the axe and the axe handle can be combined together, there must be work in it; Just like Wang Yangming said: No one can do this yet, and if you don't do this, you will sum up the truth. But the root of the change in the movement of things comes from our inner requirements, provided that we want a suitable axe, we want to marry the right wife, and then there will be this process of intermediary. Based on this poem and its implications, we can conclude that if a person wants to accomplish a good deed successfully, he needs to follow a reasonable procedure in order to achieve it.

Well, with all that said, let's enjoy this poem:

How do you chop the handle of an axe? You can't do it well without an ax. How does a wife marry into the door? No matchmaker can't do it.

Chopping the handle of the axe, chopping the handle of the axe, it is difficult to have principles. I met my sweetheart, put on a ritual and got married.

九罭 (yù): Sincerely retain

It was a great honor for a person of relatively low status to meet a visit from a high-ranking official. He hastened to fish and feast, and entertained the lord well, and hoped that the official would stay with him for a few more days, and have a good time, so that he might have more time to talk. At the banquet, the host sang this song to express his feelings.

Hearing that the high-ranking officials were coming, he hurriedly picked up his thin-eyed fishing nets and went to catch trout and bream in the river. He uses a fine-eyed fishing net to catch fish, which is determined to win, and neither big nor small fish will slip through the net. Trout and bream are very delicious fish, and he catches the most delicious fish, which shows his respect and hospitality to his guests.

The wild goose will choose to stay by the water on the sandbank, but it will fly away the next day, and will not stay where it is for two nights. This high-ranking official, who came here on duty, stayed with him for one night, and will leave tomorrow. However, people are different from wild geese. People rarely get together, and they don't have to say goodbye in a hurry, how he hopes that this noble person can stay with him for one more night!