The child's all-round progress makes people temporarily relax in worry. But in terms of language, I've been trying to think about why the mother, grandma, and dad that I used to talk about before disappeared after a week of being taken to the countryside by my grandmother.

What's worse is that in the end, not only can I not speak, but I almost lose the desire to express myself. If this type of autism is inherently the way it is, and it leads to regressive behavior, I don't think it's entirely true. Because, if it's correct, it should be very difficult to reverse.

Therefore, even if there are certain internal causes for children, there are also serious problems in the nurturing environment. Otherwise, why would the same grandmother, raised daughter and grandson have some of the same problems?

Even the sons who have transcended are often entangled in pain in the confusion and conflict of the three major consciousnesses. However, at this time, he was far away in Sichuan, only thirty years old, and he was in the golden age of his life. But because of the dust of his parents, he covered his soul, and he couldn't see his priceless treasure, so he could only walk aimlessly with a tired heart like a man in the desert...

And her daughter, even worse, is that when she was in college, her language skills were not much better than today's children, and she grew up at home, and she hardly spoke when she saw people. Her parents told her by sprinkling salt on their wounds: "People come from the family, if you don't speak, others will say weird..."

The pathetic of ignorance...

Even when we met, the big girl who was in her twenties and went to college always made people feel like a child who couldn't speak. Even if you sometimes speak occasionally, it's just a sentence of about three words, and in terms of eye contact, there is also a phenomenon of reluctance and gaze avoidance!

Especially one night, she and her classmates came to the pedestrian street, in order to make her happier, the moment I received her text message, I quickly rushed over from Changfeng's gangji. However, the moment she saw me, she was shy, with a red face, like a street child, walking on the street and following me.

Along the way, she is more like a machine full of spirituality, although she is full of youthful atmosphere, but she is always silent, almost like the current Dabao, she is also walking aimlessly!

Looking at her helpless appearance, I really want to hold her hand like my brother and father, but I know that if I reach out and pull, although it will pull out her happiness and her fate, but at the same time, it may also pull out more of her pain...

Because, beyond reality, it takes considerable courage and wisdom! But I also knew that if I didn't pull her, her future might be even more painful. Because, all her reactions have long told me that in this life, in her dust-covered heart, she will probably always be like a puppet and be controlled by others.

If she is lucky enough to meet someone who understands her and loves her unconditionally, of course not. But such a chance, in utilitarian reality, is more difficult than the reincarnation of the Buddha.

However, she may never understand that at this time, her trust and dependence on me is under the effect of empathy, and she only regards me as a hope for the future, a lover for the future, and a life for the future. However, this is not love, it is a projection of the absence of love.

Although she is obedient to me, like a sensible and coquettish child, I know that in her subconscious, it is not love me, but in the projection effect, I hope that I love her more, and experience and have self-worth and security.

The manifestation of her subconscious drive is because a certain point in myself is exactly in line with the prince she once fantasized about. This kind of fantasy emotion is a tree without roots and water without a source. This is a projection of her due to the lack of family warmth. And I am just like a mirror, reflecting her heart, her desires, her past and the future she is looking forward to.

And because of her, in my mirror, I saw the positive image of her father, which made her see her beautiful yearning. Therefore, it induced the transfer of her father-love complex.

Therefore, when she saw a true and happy self from this mirror, she blindly handed over her life to me in this mirror.

This kind of mirror love is dangerous love, and it is the most powerful invisible bomb of the relationship between husband and wife. If it doesn't explode, it's enough, and if it explodes, it's hard to clean up.

Therefore, she may never understand, and at the moment I decided, in fact, what I wanted to do most in my life was to hope to reflect her most beautiful, true, and pure self, and reflect her own destiny. And therefore, in her happiness and contentment, realize the value and meaning of my own life!

However, no matter how good the mirror is, it will break once it is overpressed for a long time. The mirror shattered, and that was the stealth bomb, the beginning of the explosion. As a result, the value of the mirror will begin to disappear. And because she can no longer reflect herself, she will enter the confused pain body again, in order to test happiness, and under the traction of subconscious negative consciousness, she will blindly and involuntarily look for the next mirror!

But the sad thing is that the current mirror can only reflect her current self, and she will be subconsciously pulled by the subconscious, in order to experience the past self, she will naturally complain about the mirror again because she is difficult to satisfy, resulting in the unconscious entering a vicious circle, and let her crippled and ignorant soul continue to create pain for herself At the same time, even if the heart of the mirror is complete, it will also confuse each other because of this...

Therefore, the end result is that two mirrors will collide with each other again and shatter again in order to hope that the other party will reflect themselves. Then each other pursues happiness in order to get rid of pain, and they make persistent efforts, and then find the next mirror to look at themselves...

This subconscious mirror effect generally involves emotional problems between people. Especially for men and women in real marriages, they are more like subconscious hypnosis, and they are always easy to be led by the nose by subconscious ignorance in the reasonable explanation of thinking consciousness...

And her parents are typical of this phenomenon, but because of the relationship between the times and family background, although they all want to leave, although they both feel that they are right, although the two mirrors collide for a lifetime, even if they break their children and grandchildren, they have not left until today!

Because of this, thinking about the moment we met at the gate of Hefei Medical University thirteen years ago, if she had been more mature, beautiful, and stronger, maybe I would have left without hesitation.

But at that time, she was like a Cinderella, wearing a crumpled black top, short hair with a short ponytail, a red and shy face, chubby, and a little rough, especially two thighs like small statues, plus she was filled with the breath of nature, which couldn't help but make people feel pity!

She may never understand that at the moment of pity in my heart, she may be just an ordinary flower in the eyes of others, but to me, she is like a treasure. Because, all her characteristics speak to the loneliness, longing, and innocence of her inner beauty. Although she has a desert-like appearance, there is a treasure beyond it! Therefore, as long as I brush off the dust of her heart, I can bloom the brilliance of her life!

So, a girl from the mountains, full of innocence, with the breath of nature. Especially her childlike look, how can I bear to leave?

Because, I know, my departure will undoubtedly make her feel that she is ignored, far away, and even abandoned in her expectations! Therefore, her heart is once again dusty, and it is difficult to find her own light. She will be blind to her lack of light, her lack of meaning in life.

And my appearance is like making her see her own treasure, her own light. Therefore, I represent the whole world beyond her mountains! Under the empathic effect, it represents her happiness, her hope, her life's happiness and the meaning of life. And I'm like a mirror, just helping her reflect her true self! The ideal self, the self that aspires to realize the value of life!

Perhaps in her eyes, the outside world was vast, better, and full of hope. But she has a pure heart, it is unimaginable, and people's hearts are unpredictable. I'm cheating. Therefore, if I leave, it will be equivalent to the beautiful world she just felt will be ruthlessly beaten back!

Therefore, I have been wandering for many years, driven by responsibility and conscience, and I can only perfunctorily accompany her to the university town.

However, when I was halfway there, something shocked and unexpected happened, only to see her take out a notebook and say shyly: "You go back and read again..."

At this time, I thought, even an ordinary man, can easily understand that that note must be full of me, and her fragile, ignorant, naïve, simple, extreme, and longing for the beautiful heart.

Therefore, in the midst of my more worry, I can only pretend to be happy and make her happy. Because I feel that she trusts her so much, in addition to being moved, it makes people even more worried.

At that moment, I didn't know how I was going to face her, and if I was going to leave, she would be sad. If we keep going, we may be even sadder in the future.

Because, the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl are matched, although romantic and legendary, but it is a kind of torment. It's the crystallization of helplessness. Think about it for thousands of years, it is difficult for these immortals to surpass the rules of the world, let alone an unfledgling mortal child?

And transcending the rules of the world requires not only courage, but also wisdom. And she, a girl who doesn't understand Shiyin, is so blind and ignorant. We are still strangers, and although your trust is touching, this touch can only make people more worried.

However, in the midst of the dilemma, when I imagine her straw ponytail, I can feel her serious and motivated heart, and when I imagine her nervous and speechless eyes, I can feel that she is full of fantasy longing for the future because of my appearance. When I imagine her black blouse, I can feel that she has a father who loves her, and at the same time, I can feel her inferiority complex and depression, and her hidden self! Therefore, I understood that the love that her father gave her should be deformed.

Because, the upper clothes represent the father, the black represents hiding and fear, and in turn, it represents the sense of security. Fear can lead to closure and inferiority, and inferiority can be used as a black cover to experience safety, and it represents strength and breakthrough of the mind.

When I imagined her thick fingers, I knew that her family was under financial pressure.

When I imagine the jeans she wears, I feel as if she has a patriarchal mother, because, the pants can represent the mother, and the blue-gray jeans can represent the earth, and the earth is a symbol of the earth, and the earth is everywhere. And she is a girl, so she is representative, and the role of sexual consciousness is influenced by the mother's consciousness, reflecting with the father and rejecting the mother. And blue can represent nature. In other words, she has a heart of primordial essence, that is, the heart of a diamond that longs to return to its original form!

Especially later her set of neutral clothes, and neutral can represent both men and women, as well as the subconscious of not being male or female. If it is a boy, it means that he is suffering from his father's oppression and desires to deny his gender. At the same time, it can also be stated that he has a mother who is more inclined to love him. But on the other hand, if it is a girl, it can also be said that she has a mother who rejects herself. Because of this reason, she was in the conflict of the three major consciousnesses, which caused her to be happy when she bought clothes, but because it induced a more conflicting feeling of psychology, she quickly abandoned the clothes.

And her white unisex top can show that a repressed heart, eager to break through itself, and is releasing repression. And her green shorts can represent the desire to return to nature, and conversely, the desire to release the mother's repression, and the short, which represents exposure, essentially represents attraction and abandonment. That is to say, she longs for maternal love, but rejects her mother, causing her to be in a dilemma and form a closed door. Therefore, the reverse means that there is a lack of normal maternal love.

Therefore, this outfit can show that she hates herself as a girl and longs to be a boy like her father. In this way, I hope to get more care and better experience the existence of self-worth. However, when she faces reality, her thinking consciousness and explicit consciousness conflict with the subconscious. caused her to abandon the outfit in order to feel stable emotions. What's even more dramatic is that when she was reluctant to throw it away, she gave it to her mother. Her mother used it as a work uniform. Therefore, it reflects that her mother's mother, that is, her grandmother, is also a patriarchal woman.

So, from then on, I asked her to throw away all her previous clothes and then use the style and color of the clothes to quickly integrate her mind. So that she fully accepts the fact that she is a girl. Then, combined with encouraging indulgence and other ancillary methods, the shackles of the mind are quickly broken. In the end, her change surprised almost everyone. But she herself, except for feeling happy, has no awareness. Therefore, her subsequent progress and reaction are almost completely in line with the correct results I inferred about her clothes at the beginning!

Especially the year before last, when I accompanied her to the Anqing underground shopping mall, I found that she bought a black down jacket in my opposition, and at that time I thought that a good show might be staged soon. Sure enough, three months later, as I expected, I found out about her extramarital affair.

Because, the black down jacket represents hiding and warmth on the whole, and in turn, it can represent theft and a sense of security and fear.

So, on the night of the first meeting, all her symbols, if you add to that notebook at that time, then at that moment, it is almost certain that there was a severe repression in the environment in which she grew up, which led her to reject her fears and develop an inferiority complex. Her three consciousnesses will be in the corresponding environment, which will prompt her unconsciously, and many inevitable things will naturally happen!

Therefore, all these phenomena led to her extremity towards her feelings in the process of releasing her repression and gaining self-recognition. And her extreme, causing her biggest goal in life, is to desire to have someone who truly loves her. In turn, it can be shown that she seriously lacks normal family warmth, which leads her to form a desire for love in the compensatory effect.

This extreme demand for love will be a hidden bomb on her life road, once her future marriage changes, then her entire life value may collapse, and completely lose her own happiness and meaning of life!

Worse still, reality is balanced, extremely dangerous, mainly because it is difficult to achieve, and it is easy to lead to psychological breakdown. Therefore, when she officially enters society, it may be the day when her suffering begins. And according to the painful pressure, it is easy to turn her subconscious, the negative influence of her parents, into her paranoia, depression and schizzophrenia!

At this time, she is like an angel. But she didn't know that she, an angel, had gone to the wrong world with the wrong parents. Because, the past of her parents is her future. Therefore, only now, today, at this time, can change her fate, change her future...

Therefore, with full of worries, accompanied her silently, when we walked into the restaurant, I deliberately asked her to order, but the result was unexpected, unexpectedly, she only ordered two yuan of fried noodles. When looking at her eating noodles with her head down, it is easy to feel like a middle school student, and it is hard to imagine that she is already a twenty-two-year-old college student.

When I imagined her and the chow mein scene, I seemed to feel that she had the potential to transcend the material, the reality, and the world.

Maybe it was at that moment that I started to get intrigued. Because of this, she is even more worried that her diamond-like mind will be polluted by reality, and she will completely lose the capital to become an angel.

And I had nothing, not even a degree. If I have to say yes, then the only specialty is to know the answer to everything. Become an engineer who shapes your destiny. However, this discipline has not yet been born!

Therefore, when facing her, although it seems that a treasure has been discovered, after the ecstasy, it continues to be difficult. Because of the worldly road danger, this road is a contest of emotion and reason, a test of life and death.

Therefore, when I think of the helplessness of the world, I want to leave her completely. But thinking of her ups and downs in the future, I want to stay forever, accompany her, love her, protect her, help her, and shape the fate of her life!

In the midst of the dilemma, in the season of April flowers, I once again came to Longquan Temple on Luoqi Mountain in Shucheng with full of sorrow and sorrow!

Along the way, although there was a burst of floral fragrance, it was still difficult to brush off the irritability of being overwhelmed. When the frog chirps and the bird calls, I feel so enviable, and I think, if I am a little bird, how can I have such troubles in the world?

However, maybe I was a little bird in my previous life, and I got rid of the lust of birds, so that I could be an animal in human skin in this life, and I had the opportunity to carry the mountain of seven emotions and six desires on my back, and climb and climb at this moment...

However, this mountain on earth is also so big, so high, and the road is a bit dangerous. When I tried my best to climb halfway up the mountain, standing on a high place, I felt that the gust of mountain breeze was so free, cool and cool, never old, and the past and the future looked at each other, like a lost lamb!

After a sigh of emotion, I finally came to the Buddha, but when I stood at the highest point of the mountain, I was in a trance, and I didn't seem to know why I wanted to come here? Do you emulate the old people and have a dashing look, or do you have nothing to do to browse the world? Is it to escape from reality, or to ask questions about the Buddha?

On the top of the mountains, two Buddhist halls, clay statues, under the sunset, I saw a monk guarding the beam alone...

At this time, the tea pickers on the top of the mountain look like a natural painting under the afterglow of the sky. The clouds that had risen began to envelop the mountains. As the sunset disappears, a dazed world is like the sea and blue sky above the clouds.

Looking at the majestic universe, maybe I haven't eaten for a day, I'm too hungry. Looking at the waning moon overhead, it feels like a wolf eating leftover baked cakes, and I really want to open my mouth and let it fall into my mouth...

When I walked into the Buddha hall, under the faint light of the candles, I looked at the monk with a sallow face, but I couldn't feel the slightest breath of Buddha in him. So I thought, it won't be because I can't get a wife, so I came here to enjoy myself, right?

Otherwise, why don't you prepare a meal for me like in the TV series? I came over the mountains to see you?

I was stunned there for a long time, facing this living and dead Bodhisattva, thinking that it would be easy for you to be a real monk, so I would fart with bragging, bring out your Buddha nature, and cook for me. If you are a fake monk, then it is easier to do, I don't have much money, but it is more than enough to buy you to spend the monk!

Full of warmth and lust. Desire, hunger and steal hearts, although this is reasonable, but in this deep mountain and wild mountains, the night is vast, what else can I do?

Therefore, I had to be cheeky and say, "Hello master, your Buddha said that the four are empty, since they are empty, why do people still have to eat?" ”

Unexpectedly, Carnegie's modest method of asking for advice also worked on monks. I saw him looking at the Bodhisattva tall man, and his eyes were a little shiny and said: "The four are the wind and clouds, thunder and lightning, and when they are assembled, there will be all things..."

I think forget it, there must be fake monks, they all say that monks are great wise people, but you don't even understand the meaning of what I want to eat. Angry, I smiled and said, "Thank you, master, for teaching..."

As I spoke, I took out a hundred-yuan bill and said against my conscience: "I came here today to worship the Buddha, this is a little heart..."

I thought he would be polite, but I didn't expect that the Buddha was different, so he took it and put it in the drawer.

Angry, I said directly, "Does the Buddha also want to eat?" ”

He said, "Oh, the Buddha eats differently than we do..."

Before he could finish speaking, I hurriedly asked, "You monks won't skip dinner, will you?" ”

He seemed to deliberately suddenly understand: "I'm late for dinner, so I'll cook now..."

Wait, wait, wait, wait until eight o'clock. Unexpectedly, the Buddha was really compassionate, and just when I was about to be hungry, I finally waited for corn soup that was very suitable for esophageal cancer patients.

Unexpectedly, what the pigs didn't eat at this time found it so tempting, and I really wanted to pour it into the stomach. Then think that pigs are pigs, so stupid that they don't even know how to enjoy it.

Even with a round belly, when the aftertaste was still there, he unexpectedly hugged two brand-new quilts, and was almost moved to accompany him to be a monk!

Just looking at his tall back, suddenly a little familiar father's love, floating in the small courtyard of the Zen room on the top of the mountains...

At that moment...

Head...

It's night...

I saw that the stars were bright, and the lonely moon remained...

Draping curtains...

Looking at the world from afar...

The lights under the mountain are shining, silently with the wind...

At this point...

A quiet courtyard, a bit of paradise...

I only heard the Buddha say, "There is no good or bad, there is no right or wrong in the world, just like the dinner I prepared for you, only when the karma gathers, you can truly taste its deliciousness." The heart exists and compassion moves with the circumstances, and going with the flow is the path to liberation! ”

The nonsense of the Buddha was known earlier. Isn't it just for me to have good thoughts and do what I should do and want to do? Don't be obsessed with the result? Only by not attaching to the result can we obtain the true result, the eternal result, right?

The Buddha said: "Yes, karma gathers impermanence, troubles and sorrows are caused by long-term seeking, attachment is the root of the seven feelings, giving birth to the six desires and the depth of the sea of suffering, if there is no awakening of the sea of suffering, how can we liberate wisdom into it..."

As the night wore on, the Buddha went away...

Think about it again, in this mountain range, but there are no wolves and jackals in charge...

After a good night's sleep and after dawn...

The next day, with a bit of hypocritical thanks, he went down again. With the feeling of being an immortal, he lied to her and said: "I went to Shanghai, study hard, take care of myself, and I will come back later..."

Because, I think, if I leave, she hurts me and I hurt, and if she doesn't hurt, then I will respect the Buddha and ask them to swim separately.

I think she should be in pain, because I can feel that she is in disappointment, and may secretly cry, because, I know her vulnerability and innocence. Because I know that only healthy love can sweep away the dust of her heart, and make her strong and glowing. And healthy love is love that transcends materiality, fame and fortune, love that transcends sensual enjoyment, and to put it bluntly, love that has nothing. To put it bluntly, it's shameless love!

And I happen to have nothing, and the love that has nothing is the true love of non-action, and the true love of non-action is precisely the love of becoming an angel.

Because, this kind of love that is so big that you can't see your face

Because, all I have is this full of love

Because, only this kind of full love can make her an angel.

otherwise

Suffice it to say

What she wants is love to be

Then there is a break in nature!

In the evening, dialing her phone, a hoarse voice finally told me that she was crying. So, when I was in pain, I thought at least now she wanted the love of angels.

So, the next day, like the Buddha, I continued to lie to her and said, "I'm back in Hefei..."

I knew she must have been happy that day.

Therefore, I thought, since you melt your face with tears, you want to love without shame, then okay, my face has long been lost, and I am worthy of my kind. Then you will be my little dragon girl, and I will be your Da Yang Guo, don't care about it. We are swimming against the current, ready to be right, love shameless, a realistic version of the Condor Heroine!

After ten years of hard work, we finally began to go to the Valley of Despair with the birth of our child. However, this road has been going for three years, and the joys and sorrows are constantly changing...

Because of the Huahua world, it began to make her upset, coupled with her parents' face, they helped her launch the Jingkang difficulty, entered the palace of our marriage, ascended the throne of the emperor, induced the child's acquired autism, controlled the puppet daughter, and drove out the son-in-law Tartar. Today, you can finally sit back and enjoy the imperial power!

Therefore, in order to show authority and face, more than once refused to admit the child's problem. More than once it hindered my recovery. More than once, she took advantage of her daughter's weakness of split consciousness to attack me.

However, for the sake of the child, I tried to be patient until I found out that the child also had unconscious splitting, and I was more cautious. Because I know that they like the imperial power, not the future of the child, if I don't solve this problem before I collapse, then the future of the child is their present!

Therefore, when I found out in the instructions for training my child, I carried him to the stool and was about to leave, but unexpectedly, he suddenly shouted out in fear that he would have said before: "Mom..."

However, what was even more surprising was that when I picked him up again, he seemed to suddenly forget again, no matter how he asked him to call his mother, but he still shouted: "Mommy, grandma, daddy..."

The phenomenon of the child, all his reactions, as if in a body, contained two different souls, alternately. Just like her mother, in one body, contains her parents and her own three souls. As a result, she unconsciously alternated under the corresponding pressure. Split out the souls of parents. And it's hard to know.

Thinking about her mother's performance over the past ten years, I suddenly understood that division is the accumulation of environmental conflict consciousness, which leads to the manifestation of the fault line of consciousness caused by the closure in the process of escaping from pain.

It is repression and fear that leads to the rejection of the act of consciousness that was once avoided in the midst of escaping pain. This division is not innate, but mainly caused by the nurturing environment. If it is innate, the child and the child's mother will not be divided in the corresponding environment and stimuli.

Because of the corresponding environment, through the conscious perception function, the original corresponding information in his and his mother's subconscious mind is induced, and the unconscious rejection of the consciousness that has been avoided appears, resulting in unconscious behavior.

This phenomenon is due to conscious fear and pressure, which multiplies the cognitive function of the mind in a stressful situation, and induces a highly conscious experience, loses the buffer of thinking consciousness, leads to the opening of the subconscious, and unconscious splitting behavior.

Therefore, coupled with his mother's past, being scared twice with his children in the countryside, as well as his grandmother's bamboo seedling Dafa and paranoia, as well as the consciousness of imperial power, revenge, and the consciousness mutation radiation of driving the weak, all kinds of mentality projections, it is almost certain that it is the acquired environment of his grandmother as the main inducement that led to the split between him and his mother.

In particular, when the grandmother also found out that the child had a problem, she actually took the child to Huangdun Town to find Huagu fortune teller, but the funny thing is that Huagu Fairy was half right. It's not up to my level. Because she told her grandmother: "The child is scared, the girl your daughter gave birth to this time..."

However, when I told the child's mother, "I should still be a boy..."

It turned out as I expected, and sure enough, boy!

Sadly, many people don't understand that fortune tellers are former shamans. And wizards are the equivalent of former psychology experts. So it's very simple, the flower girl is stronger than me in terms of experience, and has formed a good intuitive perception function.

And I have to think carefully with my brain, and then judge with intuition, so that I can deduce a person's past, present and future from a person's tone, body shape, pace, clothing and hair accessories, etc.!

Therefore, in particular, my grandmother's paranoid personality and her tone and attitude can be judged by ordinary people with a little experience. Coupled with the example of her daughter, the child's problem can be identified. It is mainly the acquired autism induced by the fear and depression of the acquired environment. However, due to the rules and driven by kindness, the flower girl could only tell her grandmother objectively and rationally: "The child is scared..."

However, superstition is better than not believing, she follows the method of the flower girl to call the soul of the child every day, in fact, this method has a certain effect. Because, psychologically speaking, this method can effectively imply that the grandmother should treat the child well.

If, from the perspective of life ontology, the grandmother strengthens the good thoughts because of the change of mentality, the child will be directly affected by the grandmother's mind because of the effect of the ontology being one, and will directly receive the blessing of the grandmother's spiritual power, and the effect will be produced. But unfortunately, my grandmother was paranoid and indifferent.

Therefore, in any case, it is impossible to solve the problem at the root, unless the grandmother suddenly has a strong good thought. Only then can it be like an infinite red light to drive away all kinds of gloom in the child's heart. But this requires a person with considerable intelligence and cultivation to be able to do it. And her grandmother's IQ is only about thirteen years old. Because of her family of origin, she was paranoid and closed-minded, causing her IQ to be stagnant at that time.

The theory of light, on the other hand, is similar to the ontological force.

This phenomenon of ontological power is what the Buddha said is true as the ontology or the Tao that Lao Tzu said. This essence or Tao gives birth to all life, and there is no distinction between you and me in this essence, so the Buddha said, "You are me, I am you..."

That is, Lao Tzu said that heaven and earth are one...

This ontological phenomenon, if it is an abstract metaphor, if each lamp of different shapes emits the same light, and it is impossible to distinguish who is whose light. This is the case with the phenomenon of the oneness of life.

This is also the reason why the Buddha exhorts people to be good. For goodness and goodness are like a color of light, which will merge and strengthen each other. If two different lights merge together, each will lose its original color and cover the body, causing disorientation and pain.

This phenomenon, like radio waves, can only attract each other positively if they are of the same frequency. Therefore, a good thought, ontologically speaking, whether another good person is missing or alive, his ontological goodness will always exist. One thought of goodness will also be on the same frequency as him, merging with the existing life and becoming stronger! This tool for gaining ontological power is the power of the heart, the power of faith. The stronger the belief, the greater the power of fusion at the same frequency. Without faith, it is difficult to activate the power of ontological fusion. and acting on reality.

The second method is that the bell needs to be tied to the cognitive mode of the bell person, so as to effectively and completely eliminate the negative impact caused by the grandmother. Otherwise, in the best case, the child will spend his whole life in the hidden danger of split consciousness because of negative emotions such as grandma's paranoia, depression and intimidation.

So what do I do now? The first is to return to the countryside, let the original scene reappear, in a relaxed and happy atmosphere, re-induce his sense of suppressed forgetting, and then let him experience the feeling of safety and relaxation at the same time, which can naturally be lifted.

It's like a grandmother scaring a child at the upstairs window. I let him hold him to the window again in a safe and relaxed embrace, so that he can re-experience the feeling of fear, and he will fully recover after a few times.

However, the difference is that in order to solve the phenomenon of division caused by children's nurture, it takes at least six to completely solve this hidden danger after a few years.

Secondly, it is to ask him to stay away from his grandmother, use the counter-effect of touching the scene, and completely suppress the original fear consciousness with a benign consciousness. But in doing so, it is tantamount to the child's redevelopment, and nearly three years of golden time are lost in vain. Because this kind of dusty memory of his past, in turn, is equivalent to subtracting the child's life span by three years.

Moreover, the principle of hypnosis is used to let him go back to the past and re-experience the past in the imagination of the soul. However, this is not ordinary hypnosis, it requires good hypnotic techniques to achieve such an effect. I think even a first-class hypnotist is difficult to do easily.

So what to do? Under the continued influence of her grandmother and mother, the child and her grandfather used her grandmother to manipulate her daughter deeply. Therefore, no matter how much I do it, it is difficult to implement it perfectly. And their mothers have completely lost themselves by this time, often splitting into their puppet state, and opposing me.

Therefore, in order to recover the child, I need to walk on thin ice at this time.

Therefore, after thinking about it, the expedient measure can only create the joy of relaxation and indulgence for the child, and the method assisted by audio hypnosis.

Sure enough, about fifteen days after my official implementation, the child occasionally shouted out the two words that were suppressed in the integration of the mind: "Mom..."

Therefore, in my more attention, the frequency of children calling out the correct mother is increasing, and the number of mothers shouting three words is starting to become less and less. His mother's mental consciousness began to be effectively reconciled. But for the others it is still divided. Therefore, he still calls grandma, dad and dad.

Especially on the night I went back to get divorced, the child used my mobile phone to enter my grandmother's number, and then pointed to my mobile phone and said, "Milk... ..."

His reaction showed that his grandmother and mother had re-created the repression, so that he could only speak one milk word in his autism. The child is more sensible at this time, which is a conscious avoidance behavior. If it continues, he will close off the conscious experience in the near future, and like his mother, he will become a typical acquired autistic person.

What makes people even more heart-wrenching is that at the moment when the child enters his grandmother's number, when he says milk, and then looks at me again, in fact, at that time he wants to say, "Daddy remember to call me..."

Because, when I was in Anqing, he often called me with my grandmother's mobile phone and asked me to tease him, and I was very happy.

However, what is even more sad is that four or five-year-old children, although they seem to know everything in their hearts, are unable to express even such simple needs normally because of depression and autism. And this phenomenon is also common to her mother, grandmother, and grandfather. It's just a different degree!

For an adult, it is difficult to communicate normally about a routine matter, and a common sense question cannot be understood for a long time. But when he shirks his responsibilities and protects his mood, he seems to know everything, and he is a master. However, this is the opposite situation, and for the family, such people are equivalent to creating problems.

This schizonomial paranoia, one is behavioral violence, one is psychological, one is melancholic, one is manic, and one is a combination of melancholy and mania.

In terms of split consciousness, one is the unconscious malignant split, the other is the conscious malignant split, the other is the benign unconscious benign split, and the other is the benign conscious split!

But no matter what type it is, this kind of paranoia and the pain it brings make this type of person, in the process of escaping the pain, not only do not think about how to improve themselves, but like to use the way of hitting others to cover up and experience a sense of accomplishment. I hope that in this way, I can gain the right to experience self-worth and desire to gain!

This type of person, because others don't understand, because relatives don't understand, leads to almost everyone betraying their relatives in real life!

And not only do they not know how to reflect effectively, but they are often immersed in resentment, either Zhang San is wrong, or Li Si's realm is not high!

As my grandfather said, "Your mother is 99 percent responsible for all the problems of this family..."

Grandma said, "Last time we slept with the child, your dad said I was a pig's brain..."

I washed the bowl and put it in the place before my grandmother, but my grandfather said politely like a master of life: "If you can't put this bowl, you have to put it there..."

I said, "I used to see my mother put it there, that's why I put it..."

However, the next day he washed the dishes and put them where he said I couldn't put them. I really wanted to say, "Didn't you say I couldn't put the bowl there?" So how can you put it? ”

Unexpectedly, his story was not over, so he picked up the broom again, like a mouse, worked hard for a long time, and finally made a few hairs out, and then said politely like a master: "You haven't cleaned this hygiene, have you?" "I'm angry like a weak scholar, and I'm perfunctory!

This kind of personality of his causes his children to form serious and stereotypical habits in the process of avoiding pain, and this habit, in the effect of behavioral therapy, forms stereotyped and serious thinking, and radiates life. Therefore, it is his thirty-year-old son, who is serious about making the bed and folding the quilt like a girl. This may seem like a good habit, but in fact it is a gray chain of the mind.

Therefore, I didn't expect that I had married a fake princess, and it turned out to be the daughter of the real emperor, otherwise why would it be so difficult to serve?

So, it's all your mother's problem, that's what your father said, why is this daughter like this? Why is the son not motivated? The son-in-law is like this, and the grandson is like this... is like a director, who often makes family life look like a court drama.

The daughter is young and closed, although the son is out of the mud and not stained, but in the interweaving of loyalty and filial piety, he suffers! Not only did he not understand, but he also complained: "Why doesn't he try to improve?" Why is it so easy for other children to fall in love, but why are they so difficult? ”

Especially in this way, the son-in-law, who is difficult to help them decorate their faces, can only let them say to their daughter in a planned way in a sad complaint: "Why don't you have to marry him?" What the hell are you trying to do with him? What do you really like about him? ”

The problem is finally apparent, right?

At first, I thought I had no money, no education, no job, and I thought it was normal for them to be so unpredictable and capricious. But then I slowly understood that there are many rich couples in the world, aren't there also many who are not having a good time? There are many poor couples, but don't they also have a good life?

Therefore, it can be shown that the so-called family marriage problem is just a mirror of money, fame and fortune, reflecting the flawed, selfish, and ignorant devil in their hearts.

What's even more terrifying is that once this ignorant devil comes back, in the name of love, in order to satisfy his own selfish desires, he will eat away at his children and grandchildren, resulting in his virtuous and wise offspring will often suffer for a lifetime in loyalty and filial piety!

Such a family, such parents, such sorrow, so many innocent children, how many children are there in this world?

Therefore, after going through this torturous process, I understand more that in family relationships, almost all problems are personality problems, psychological problems, growth problems, and the inheritance and interpretation of the problems of former parents...