The sporadic light rain for many days does not seem to be because of the pity for the hearts of parents in the world, and lingers in the indefinite world, overflowing like flowers blooming...

Xiao Xiao is sorrowful...

The top of the boundless sky...

I don't know if the Jade Emperor is powerful, wanting to send rain and wash away the compassion of the world, or the Queen Mother's universal love, wanting to pour out the elixir and make all things prosperous...

In short, our father and son, and finally returned with my uncle from another country, and on a rainy morning, we returned to the mountain and forest village of Huaining County, one of the top ten in the country...

On the eve of the Spring Festival, on the misty mountain road, we are still like wanderers returning from afar, holding the pale child who vomited in the car, and once again stepped into the family reunited by a thousand-year-old tradition as a routine...

Time is always in the loneliness of self-esteem, and everything is nothing. Even at this time, in the days of universal celebration, I am not willing to let go of the loneliness and tranquility as always because of the Chinese New Year's Eve of the Chinese New Year's Eve...

If it weren't for the two children, who made bursts of naughty and playful sounds, it is hard to imagine that the warm family that should have been together is still in the favor of time, so that each other, as usual, is like strangers in the place of restaurants...

At this time, as the sound of firecrackers on Chinese New Year's Eve became less and less, I was already in a somewhat serious atmosphere, and I was a little worried, and sure enough, when the child just started eating, I don't know why, and I looked absent-minded...

Looking at his overwhelmed and uncontrollable expression, I thought that maybe the information that had been suppressed subconsciously in the countryside before was awakened again under the effect of touching the scene!

So, I was prepared to go over and think of a way to help the child adjust his emotions, but after thinking about it, he still forgot it. Because, his grandfather's broad-mindedness, maybe as soon as I say it, I can't get another iron tree to bloom, it is not important to affect the family atmosphere, the important thing is that if it aggravates the child's emotions, then I am not equivalent to him, in an unspeakable state of mind, becoming an accomplice in creating children's problems?

Looking at the scene in front of me, after thinking twice, I said cautiously in helplessness: "When the child is not eating well in Anqing if there is no special reason, I will tell him why he should eat well, and if it doesn't work, I will ignore him as if he doesn't exist." That's it, and then it got better..."

Unexpectedly, I tried my best to talk to him in a tone close to flattering to the little daughter-in-law, I thought that his talented grandfather would retain some unique talents and change, who would think, my words didn't seem to be finished, he reappeared majestic, suddenly like a heroic Cao Cao, in the horizontal eyebrows frowned, in the domineering awe-inspiring quickly stood up...

Immediately afterwards, I saw him put the child on the chair next to him, and then like a dictatorial police officer interrogating a prisoner, with a low and suppressed reprimand, while forcibly using his own hands, poking and asking the child to hold the bowl and spoon, and condescendingly said: "Eat well..., I don't think you eat well, how can this child be left to you..."

The child was caught off guard, unexpectedly, and in the sudden initiation of love, it seemed that like me, his eyes quickly became much quieter in a little helpless fear and depressed atrophy.

Then, I saw that he was reluctant to pick up the spoon by himself, muttering his little mouth, like an aggrieved girl ring angry, and making a lot of proportions in the bowl...

Seeing this situation, although I was a little tired and disgusted, but also for the sake of the atmosphere of the whole family, I thought that the best way was to borrow the lazy neglect method of teaching children by criminal psychologist Li Jinmei.

Therefore, in an instant, I was like entering the top of Huashan Mountain, and I seemed to have forgotten the whole world in the taste of food that I only cared about myself...

Sure enough, maybe it was because of my neglect that it quickly made his grandfather realize that the authoritative one-man show was not interesting. Then I saw that his behavior and emotions, just like the child just now, were similar in three points, like a charcoal fire that was suddenly poured with cold water, and finally cooled down...

The previous grandfather, maybe I think that I have successfully brought up two proud dragon and phoenix champions, today my big radish, do you still want your dung to water?

Perhaps because of this, he felt that he had created such a magnificent and transcendent achievement by himself, and had the realm of eternal refinement, and he had never disdained to communicate with the world, but he seemed to be very good at using educating children as a magic weapon for cultivation, so that he was eager to improve and obtain and make up for his primordial Tianzun of the Ancient Heavenly Palace...

However, why is he reluctant to exert some of it, his Buddha-like wisdom to think about it, even a single-parent orphan who lacks a mother and a young father, and the cultivation of the academic tyrant level champion abounds, not to mention the iron lady who used to be in the world!

If it is only used as an excuse to educate children, and in order to realize self-lacking cultivation, imagine that although children can also produce remnants in such a resting and uncertain holy realm of study, is it also just like the rainy rainy season in the world?

If yes...

Wouldn't that child's heart, even if it was an impregnable wall, be corroded by rusty water in the protracted rain? A child's body, no matter how poisonous it is, is it not afraid of the infinite spread of the virus, and it will always be healthy?

Could it be that today, the world of autumn clouds and rain with his two dragon and phoenix champions, and his exquisite and impermeable grandson, can't explain all this?

Could it be that there are really people in this world who don't kneel down when they see the true Buddha, and they don't look back when they hit the south wall? So, if there really are such people, what will be their fate in their lives?

When the pears are not delicious, they all know that it is the problem of the pear tree, and the pear tree does not grow well, and it is easy to think that it may be a problem with the soil, so people full of wisdom, in order to get better pears, have worked hard to change the tree and soil in the wind and rain...

And what about children? Isn't it just like the relationship between pears and pear trees and soil in the parents' home environment? In this case, why are many parents still reluctant to replace their pear tree that does not bear good fruit? And in the soil of ignorance and selfish desires, in turn, complain and accuse the child of this innocent pear?

Although the pain caused by mistakes, like the elixir of enema, can make a person with compassion and wisdom grow rapidly, at the same time, it can also make the ignorant and selfish, like a drug, circulate in the fantasy of happiness and hope, and fall deeper and deeper into it...

Perhaps it is precisely because of this that in the continuous progress of human beings, many people in this world, even if they know the existence of problems, can still be like an old monk in a fixed state, unmoved, or like a madman, and dance wildly!

Perhaps because of this, his grandfather was still in the cultivation of longing for enlightenment and ascension to heaven, and he forgot about the child last night in the world, forgot that the child was before going to bed, my advice and even request, and like an ugly daughter-in-law meeting her in-laws, explaining what kind of problems would easily arise if the child just arrived at home...

Therefore, on the night of returning home that day, when the washing was about to be finished, I looked at my grandfather, who was very happy, and happily teased the child and said, "Is it okay to go upstairs and sleep with Daddy?" …”

When I saw what I expected, although I found that the child did not resist obviously, there was no sign of willingness. Seeing this, I went into battle with a little worry. Then, try to act like a shy girl, and say to him in a tender and soft tone: "The child has just arrived home, it is better to sleep with his mother tonight, wait for a few days, and when he is like a milk addiction, it will be much better to sleep with you again..."

Unexpectedly, I still didn't expect it, but I saw that his grandfather seemed to have been infected with autism by his child, and in listening but not turning a blind eye, I felt desperate like a lovelor! But for the sake of the child, I once again mustered up the courage to drink milk, and even with a little bit of a broken mood, and briefly repeated, but unexpectedly, the young uncle next to me said in a very sophisticated tone: "How can it be as serious as you say, child, isn't it like this..."

Hearing this, he was suppressing the feeling of wanting to squirt blood, thinking about it or packaging himself with quality, and then explained to his uncle with higher quality politeness: "The child just came back today, and the mood of seeing his mother is just like the truth that you are thousands of miles away and come back for the Spring Festival. ”

At this time, the uncle listened, and seemed to be still speechless with disdain, only to see that his grandfather had already taken the finished bottle and handed it to the child.

But what disappointed him was that maybe the child was more satisfied and excited today, or subconsciously rejecting sleeping with his grandfather, and the conscious interference of longing to sleep with his mother, but he seemed to turn a blind eye to the bottle in front of him, and even more so to listen to his grandfather's language.

Seeing the child's reaction in this way, at the moment when my grandfather was about to put the bottle back, I seemed to feel a sense of accomplishment for my child's successful breastfeeding, and thought to myself that his grandfather would definitely feel more comforted by the child's changes and progress. However, unexpectedly, his grandfather suddenly used his peerless wisdom to say like an old man born in the world: "You see, the child is afraid that his father will not dare to drink milk..."

When I heard it at the time, I was really ashamed, maybe it was difficult for the Da Luo Immortals to think that I, who was once a genius in the sky, faced with such a superb him, my mind was blank and I didn't know what to do! When I tried to react again, I saw that he had already picked up the child and walked up the stairs...

Speechless for a while, he fell asleep slowly

In the middle of the night, things got up again...

Sure enough, as I expected, when the child slept until midnight, because of the desire for maternal love and touching the scene induced negative consciousness, and under the triple effect of the physiological taste of the grandmother and grandmother, the negative consciousness in the child's subconscious was finally awakened, and he woke up again in the restlessness, causing him to unconsciously seek release, and in the satisfaction of longing for maternal love, he was carried downstairs by his grandmother...

When I heard the humming child being carried to the living room by my grandmother, I hurriedly got dressed and walked to the living room in anger. When I hugged my baby who was clamoring for milk, but after waiting for a long time, when my grandmother handed him the brewed bottle, he was not interested in turning a blind eye to the milk, and pointed to watch TV. However, as I was about to turn on the TV, he pointed to go upstairs again. Before he was ready to go upstairs, he turned back to drink milk! In short, the conflict of consciousness of what to give and what not to want once could not disappear, but at this time, under the cultivation of grandparents and grandmothers, it appeared again...

Therefore, based on my previous experience, I immediately understood that what he wanted was not to drink milk, not to watch TV, and not to go upstairs to sleep, but because of the negative depression of the subconscious, and the desire for the nourishment of maternal love, the desire to obtain the experience of conscious warmth and security, which led to the conflict between the thinking consciousness and the subconscious in the depression...

This phenomenon, like that of adults, is induced by the effect of touching the scene and causing the subconscious negative consciousness caused by previous events to be induced to the conscious level. Although the conscious feeling is not in a good mood, the thinking consciousness does not know why, so it is the same reason that it is involuntarily driven by the subconscious mind and the formation of an unconscious mood!

This phenomenon is also a phenomenon of his grandmother, when watching the child put the pacifier in the mouth and spit it out, and driven by subconscious experience, she didn't want to be reflexive, thinking that the child spit out the pacifier again and did not drink, which may be the reason for cold or heat. So I saw her blowing and hot, which made people cry and laugh! In order not to make her work so hard, I suppressed the anger in my heart and said politely to her: "He doesn't want to drink milk, he wants to sleep with his mother..."

Then, I deliberately handed the child to my grandmother again, thinking to myself, you are the one who carried the child to the mother, and it may still be the case. Unexpectedly, it turned out to be as I expected, as soon as the child arrived at the mother's room and shouted to come out! Then, I saw her grandmother reflexively take the child out but didn't know what to do. When I saw the reaction of my grandmother and the child, I was a little proud, took the child into my arms again, and walked to the mother's room...

When I hugged the child and came to the mother again, I looked at his trance-like eyes, and used suggestive language, hoping to relieve his subconscious depression, and at the same time raise his subconscious needs to the level of thinking consciousness, so that I can feel that in the arms of my mother, I can better experience the conscious maternal love.

So, I immediately said, based on his keen auditory response, "Will you let Mommy take you to sleep?" Is it okay to let your mother sleep with you every day in the future? Mom likes you and wants to sleep with you..."

Then, as I spoke, I put him, who was still a little resistant, next to his mother, who was feeding Xiaobao milk. At the same time, in the constant repetition of words, I asked his mother to take the initiative to flatter him, and sure enough, in less than fifteen seconds, the child quieted down with clear eyes. Then I saw him lying obediently beside his mother, and under the comfort of his mother, he finally fell asleep quickly!

When I left the sleeping child, in the anger of the distressed child, and because of my poor health, I was like a body crawling out of the tomb of the living dead, longing to get the soul again, and quickly returned to the living room to smoke a cigarette in a conversation with the ghost! When I think that my child is almost equal to a bottle that I don't drink, I really want to put some poison and drink it all!

Unexpectedly, to this day, because of the problem between the child and the child's mother, I can't even figure out who is the adult and the child in the true sense of the word in this family...

Because, their full performance last night, the attitude of being alone and sinking all along, even like infecting children with autism, let them listen and turn a blind eye more than once under the subconscious habitual negative force and conscious self-display. The suggestions and requests that led to me several times are still in the style of the past, and everything is gone!

What's even more dramatic is that I didn't expect their shining advantages, in the excitement and satisfaction of winning many battles, to love children and see them again and again! As everyone knows, I think that I like to take my child to sleep is a kind of family affection that loves him and loves him. But in fact, I don't know it, because of the lack of emotion and security in the subconscious, so I hope that the child will get satisfaction from it, and the compensation effect is projected on the child!

This kind of self-love that evolves from loving me is all too common. Whether it is lovers, husbands and wives, and parents' love for their children, it is actually the most fatal damage to growth, feelings, marriage, family, and even fate! Because, in essence, this is not love, but a shackle, a taking, a transaction, a wish for me, and parasitism for the object! This kind of self-projected love, paid by my love, and longed to achieve the harvest of love for my success!

When the harvest of love is difficult to achieve, then the giving of my love will therefore evolve into accusation, complaining, revenge, and even compensatory demand in the slowdown or stagnation and regression out of balance.

Therefore, this kind of mentality is more likely to radiate and highlight in love, marriage, family and friendship. And often in selfishness and ignorance, and in the posture of a victim or creditor, or even blindly and unscrupulously expect to recover what has been paid, or that has been and has been or is about to fail. Thus the desire to obtain the balance and compensation of the once transactional feelings, or the associated investment consciousness and material expectations!

This is also why, his father and daughter once cooperated with each other and successfully performed a strange extramarital affair, and in the complete failure of giving up, in order to promote our follow-up relationship, and finally in their new round of Cupid's sword, I, a humble father, had the opportunity to sleep in the same bed with his children who were already more than three years old! Therefore, in addition, last year, at my strong request and inducement, when I took the child to Anqing for the National Day, I only slept for a week like a man and a woman cheating!

Therefore, only from the child's sleep and supported by subconscious analysis, I almost predicted that as long as I let it go, their great extramarital affair would inevitably follow in the success and failure, in the corresponding laws of its psychology, and even in the whole life, it would follow in the footsteps of her parents, leading to a cliff-like failure!

However, in any case, I never expected that the noble result they expected would be at the cost of inducing the child's autism, and even the child's life...