When the night came again, the child did not seem to change because of the departure of his mother and grandmother, and perhaps like me, he seemed more active in the space that felt wider.

After dinner, he moved the coffee table to the appropriate distance from the sofa, and then climbed up without hesitation, jumping up and down in the middle like an acrobatic...

And my mood at this time is also in a more peaceful night, like a bird sitting on the sofa, a little proudly enjoying the child's performance. However, looking at him a little silly and happy, when he was feeling a little bored, he suddenly got off the coffee table, pointed to the trash can next to him and said, "Pee..."

When I helped him take off his pants and hold them on his lap, I couldn't help but think to myself, how can I solve his problem of pulling stinky stuff smoothly?

Although the child's body does not see any problems, he must be held from beginning to end, and he is willing to pull the stink only if he has to be on the trash can. Otherwise, you will be willing to endure and refuse. What's worse is that once he is forced to sit on the toilet, not only does he refuse immediately, but he is even unwilling to pull it again when he is put on the trash can again.

This is a headache that may not seem like a big problem, but if it is not solved well, it may cause more trouble later. However, it is difficult to find a suitable way to effectively change it for a while. In particular, when I learned that other autistic children also had similar bowel and bowel problems, I didn't expect that the seemingly small problem would make many parents rack their brains and find it difficult to solve it effectively. Some even train for a year or two, not only do they not solve it well, but they induce more psychological, emotional, and even physiological problems, but they don't know it!

Therefore, I think that if it continues, it may not only be difficult for him to recover himself, but it will even lead to more serious stool stereotypes in the continuous reinforcement. In particular, I learned from the information that when an autistic child reaches the age of 20, he still needs his parents to dress him, and I am even more worried. I'm afraid that if I hold it like this, I don't know what will happen in the future.

So I thought, if it doesn't work, let him endure until midnight, and when he wants to poop again, take advantage of his newly awakened weakness of thinking consciousness to weaken his resistance, and then see how it goes?

When I thought of this, before he could pull out the stool, I deliberately said to him immediately: "You are now the same as Dad, you are already a big baby, so you have to be the same as Dad, a big baby, sitting on the toilet to pull the smell..."

Sure enough, before I could get up, he suddenly slipped off his legs with both legs together and hmmmmmm

Quiet winter nights...

Warm quilt...

It makes people feel extra comfortable...

We were already lying in bed, and soon fell asleep. As the night approached, until dawn, he finally woke up in a daze as expected, and said again, "Pee...". Seeing that he had endured it for so long and couldn't wait, I couldn't care about the cold, so I immediately got dressed and walked into the bathroom with him in my arms...

Unexpectedly, as I expected, when I sat on the toilet with him in my arms again, he was really in a state where his mind and consciousness were not fully awake, although he was a little resistant, but he was really obedient. Seeing him behave like this, I thought that I was saved now, and therefore, I was even more sure that there are indeed three major watersheds in the human psyche.

However, in the midst of the surprise, with a fart sound of "poof", a strong smell of stool came to my nose. The moment I smelled a little disgusting, I immediately turned around, and finally unknowingly, I moved his ass to the top of the small toilet that had been prepared a long time ago...

Immediately after, I heard the sound of poop falling into the toilet, and then I immediately said to him, "Well, you sit here, Daddy will bring you candy!" ”

At the moment when he didn't have time to resist, I finally managed to put his ass on the toilet. At the same time, he continued to coax him and said, "Dad, let's take the candy!" ”

When I took the candy and went back to the bathroom again, at this time, I found him sitting on the toilet, I felt that except for the lack of facial expressions, I saw that he was obedient, almost the same as a normal child, and I couldn't see any difference!

Maybe it was a little cold when he just got up, but I saw him sitting on the toilet, with a somewhat shrunken appearance, and began to play with his mobile phone. So, I quickly brought the candy to his mouth and brought clothes to wrap around his body.

Then, I crouched down next to him, as if admiring Sleeping Beauty, and sent the video to his mother with a calm and excited mood. In the message, his mother praised, "Or do you have a way..."

Yes, I also thought I was quite good at the time, because seeing him behave like this, I think at least half of the success was done, and the remaining half would naturally be easier to solve. It's like a chick on the twenty-first day, and this one crawls out of the egg, which is of course a sure thing!

However, I waited for a long time to see that although there was a lot of stool, it didn't seem to have increased. Maybe the moment I hugged him, he came out all at once. Maybe I still didn't finish it, and I endured it because I sat on the toilet. So think about it, quickly touch his cool hands, and before you have time to think about it, you help him wipe his butt and carry it to the bed.

Soon when he fell asleep, I came back to look at the stool and admire it for a long time, thinking about how to prevent him from holding back the stool next time, which would lead to constipation, and worry about inducing intestinal problems. Since then, I have tried my best to focus on food according to the functions of traditional Chinese medicine, such as laxative, dethermated, intestinal and easy to digest. Hopefully, he will be able to ensure his health to the fullest.

However, what was already feared has since become even worse. Because, he originally pooped once every two days, but he didn't expect that when he pooped again and heard sitting on the toilet, he still didn't want to make the toilet after two more days. This is equivalent to having the habit of two days, and being forced to mutate to four days.

However, what made people even more worried and frustrating was that when they walked home twice, even if they couldn't help it, they pulled their pants all over and didn't ask to pull them again. I don't know if he consciously avoided deliberately not saying anything, or if he was unconsciously split and didn't realize that he had pulled out the stench.

In short, no matter what the reason, when it is found that he is deteriorating so quickly, if it continues, it will not only easily lead to physiological and metabolic problems, but also more likely to induce psychological problems. Therefore, in order to dilute his sense of rejection, I reluctantly put away the small toilet. Moreover, the word toilet was never mentioned again. Because I know that if I continue to force it, it will not only cause physical and mental problems, but even normal urination may cause problems!

However, in desperation, I felt that it was not a long-term solution to continue like this. After thinking about it, I felt that the only way to do this was to try to use audio again, using the subconscious as the starting point, to input the benign information of sitting on the toilet and pulling the smelly smell. If you can miraculously reproduce it. That can also prove once again the relationship between the principle of hypnosis and the subconscious. When I thought of this, I turned on my phone again, and on the basis of the original audio, I upgraded it to add:

…………

…………

…………

I come from the universe

He is the son of wisdom

So

Start today

I have to keep telling myself

I love the toilet

I like to sit on the toilet and enjoy that feeling of relaxation

I prefer to sit on the toilet and pull the stinky stinking bowl and enjoy relaxation and freedom

Because

The feeling of sitting on the toilet

It's just wonderful

So, from now on

I have to keep telling myself

I like to sit on the toilet

I like to do pulling stinky on the toilet

I'm going to enjoy that nice feeling

Because

Sitting on the toilet and pulling the stink

That feeling

It's so cool

And it's wonderful

Because

I was a smart and sensible child

Because

I come from the universe

He is the son of wisdom

So

As long as I want

I have enough confidence and ability

Let yourself enjoy the nice feeling of making a toilet

Because

Sitting on the toilet pulls the stinky kind of comfort, pleasure, and satisfaction

It's just amazing

So, I have to keep telling myself

Until I involuntarily like to sit on the toilet and pull the stink...

………

………

………

When the audio is ready, it starts the next day, just after he wakes up before going to bed, and plays it on a loop day after day.

Time flies...

Looking forward to waiting in the wind...

At some point, at the suggestion of his mother, he began to use the toilet as a stool again, and at the same time, I asked him to repeat often: "Sit on the toilet, pull the stink... Sitting on the toilet and pulling the stinky..."

I think that this method can not only exercise his language, but also through his subconscious audio input through his thinking consciousness, and at the same time sit on the toilet, and use vision and touch to strengthen his conscious safety experience with the toilet...

Sure enough, some time later, a miracle happened. I can't imagine that the problem that once caused people to be a headache was solved smoothly again!

One morning, my grandmother hugged him and said, "Is it okay to sit on the toilet next time to pull the smell?" ”

Unexpectedly, the child said decisively: "Okay..."

Then my grandmother asked, "Is what you said true?" ”

Then, the child replied seriously, "Really..."

Maybe "really" I don't know when his grandmother or mother taught it. Because, in my impression, children have always used "good..." and "bad" to express "willing, can", etc., and can use "to..." and "don't...", to express themselves...

As for the affirmative language of "really...", it seems that I have never heard him say it in my memory. At that time, I thought that it was possible that the child would still answer "yes" to represent affirmation. But no matter what, his new reaction always makes people more excited in anticipation.

So from that moment on, I was like a painstaking hunter, in the midst of many strategies, longing to see the rare animals that were about to be caught, and constantly hoping that he would pull the stink again...

Sure enough, the emperor lived up to his wishes, and on the third night, when the child asked to pull the stinky again, he finally took the initiative to sit on the toilet for the first time with the assistance of his grandmother...

In this scene, I was very excited, like a tired man in the desert, in the scorching anticipation, I smelled the water again, and I was full of confidence and hope for his future. Because, his performance, let me once again determine the efficacy of subconscious information input...

At this time, when I saw him sitting on the toilet like a good girl, I suppressed the joy in my heart, and as usual, said in a tone of encouragement and encouragement: "Wonderful..."

Unexpectedly, before I could finish speaking, her mother immediately objected and said, "You can't boast, otherwise he won't pull it again..."

Unexpectedly, it was so. He was already sitting on the toilet well, but suddenly heard my encouragement, and immediately cocked his buttocks, as if angry, and left the toilet and walked to the room...

Seeing this, I hurriedly said in the remedy: "Okay, good... Dad don't say it, you stink, Dad gives you a mobile phone to play..."

Unexpectedly, at the critical moment, this trick also worked. I saw that he was originally like a startled rabbit, and when he heard that the mobile phone seemed to be still angry, he walked back and sat on the toilet again with his original expression...

When I secretly looked at him, on the basis of the lesson I had just learned, and then pretended to be nothing, I walked past him. Just when he began to concentrate on playing with his phone, I couldn't help but secretly pick up his mother's phone, but when I was about to start taking pictures, he seemed to be alert, it turned out that I was hiding in the toilet, or he found out. This time he unceremoniously left the toilet again. Then, no matter how much I tried to tease him, he still turned a deaf ear and ignored him!

When I felt that it was finally hard for the duck to fly again, I regretted it very much. Thinking about the child's performance and expression today, I seem to understand, and I can be completely sure that my analysis of the internal causes of pulling the stink was correct...

Because, the child's expression and behavior seem to tell us obviously: "Actually, I already knew that I should make a toilet drawer, and I will also sit on the toilet to pull the smelly, but I just don't want to, because I want you to hold me, so that I will feel good." It's not true that you praise me, the purpose is just to make me stink, because I hate your hypocritical praise, so I just wanted to leave, but you didn't keep your word and came to take pictures again, I really don't pull it now..."

This situation shows that the child has been neglected too much on the negative basis of the dullness of touch, coupled with the separation of mother and child and the personality of the grandmother, which leads to the lack of good conscious experience. As a result, he hopes to make amends and be satisfied through this method.

Perhaps, this is his inexpressible consciousness, which makes him feel that he should sit on the toilet, but because of long-term habits, and in order to get more love, and because of self-esteem, he is like an adult with a strong sense of self, and he is unwilling to accept it positively. Because the child feels wronged, he wants to be held to experience the consciousness of being loved, understood, and accepted. However, because these consciousnesses are difficult to satisfy, he is stereotyped because of long-term habits in his search for psychological satisfaction, which affects his physical development and reinforces the perceptual problem of tactile dullness.

Therefore, perhaps it was this psychological awareness that made him again in our deliberate neglect of his behavior, and soon the next night, he consciously sat on the toilet again, and finally perfectly pulled out his long-lost stench!

When I saw that the subconscious information input was successful again, I think that although the correctness has been proven again, I believe that the child's problem is mainly due to the acquired environment, and the reason why his consciousness is too sharp due to his keen hearing, and the reason for the dullness of his sense of touch, and the result of the separation of mother and child and the influence of his grandmother's paranoid personality.

Because, since this successful performance is formed through the benign information input of audio to the toilet bowl love, then, in turn, it can be completely verified that the fact that the corresponding negative consciousness in his subconscious is seriously present is correct.

When I think of this, thinking about the grievances that the child has suffered in the countryside, I suddenly have a desire to cry. Because I think that the innocent desire and keen feelings in the child's heart, forming the need for love, were originally the shining point in human nature, but because of the selfishness and ignorance of human nature, it induced autism that is difficult to understand in a thousand words...

However, in the midst of my sad and helpless thoughts, at the moment when I felt the child's mood, I seemed to understand more that if the child used forced training methods to pull the problem of stinkiness, then he may gradually aggravate the experience of closed conscious consciousness on human beings because of avoiding pain, and it will form a vicious circle in the radiation effect, resulting in the complete closure of conscious perception to human society.

However, due to the normal thinking consciousness and intelligence, in the forced training, because of the lack of benign conscious experience, they will be forced to avoid negative experiences and simply form thinking consciousness for image thinking. And gradually into Tianbao. Grandin's consciousness effect becomes a spiritual biological machine.

Because, image thinking is actually like a computer monitor, mobilizing the corresponding subconscious host information, if there is no one as the computer's conscious drive, either it will stagnate, or only in the corresponding sensor will change in a specific way. The sensor-consciousness between Tianbao's picture display and the subconscious mind is the obsessive-compulsive cognitive conditioned reflex formed in the escape from the negative experience of the subconscious. And let her react in the mechanical memory, and feel that when I encounter such a thing, I need to do this, and unconsciously in the escape from pain, so the preset machine response mode is formed.

Because of her individual differences and improper recovery, she lacked conscious benign experience, resulting in a lack of benign subconscious information, and it was difficult to mobilize positive subconscious information with explicit perception. What's worse is that because of the closure caused by escaping pain, she seriously lacks subconscious benign information, and can only use her thinking consciousness to skip the explicit perception and mobilize the information stored in the subconscious mind in cognitive mode!

Therefore, it can be seen that Tianbao and Grandin, an American adult autistic person, because of the lack of conscious benign experience, led her to the division of explicit negative repression, resulting in the closure of benign experience, and in the release of repression, it was transformed into a benign experience projected on the perception and cognition of animal emotions. What would happen today if she had replaced her response to animals with a human with a rehabilitation method that worked for her? I don't think it's much different from a normal person!

This phenomenon, just like many normal people in reality, due to the impact of conscious experience, such as falling out of love, losing relatives and other events, or criminal knowledge of mistakes, especially involving the blow of self-esteem events, often because of the escape of pain, and in the closure of escape, although showing an evasive indifferent reaction, but in the depression, in order to experience safety and relaxation, and can better feel the emotions of the pet, is the same reason. The difference is that there is no obvious difference between them in the five senses and touch, but in the psychological response, it is the same law, but to different degrees!

However, when I think about my mother again, because she was upbringing, because she was too repressed, she was divided, longing to experience self-worth and authority. In reality, once you are divided into a negative state, even if you are your own children, because of the lack of conscious experience, you can hate them to the core. However, once the split reaches a positive state, she can become a selfless mother in a benign conscious experience. This division of hers is the repression of childhood, which makes her subconscious experience through conscious experience, and is full of information that people are selfish and evil. However, her mental consciousness and her positive conscious perception make her think and feel that people have a good and selfless side.

She felt these two opposing extremes because she deeply felt her mother's love in her childhood. At the same time, because of the lack of a father, and the deep feeling of the pain of the uncle's abuse, it leads to two opposing and profound experiences, and the psychological state formed. As a result, in the process of releasing pain, the benign emotional experience is projected onto the animal, and the animal gradually has a keen intuitive feeling ability. And let her, an ordinary woman, be able to raise animals like an expert. Therefore, because of the projection of positive feelings in the transfer, she is always unbearable when she is slaughtered!

Therefore, if she is this phenomenon, when the negative conscious perception exceeds the limit of bearing, she will be forced to close off the positive conscious experience and lead to splitting, such as entering the Heavenly Treasure. Grandin's state. The difference is that Tempo. Grandin's closed split was caused by an anomaly in physiological perception, and my mother was induced by the extreme of love and pain. However, due to the normal sense of touch of her five senses, she has a normal sense of self, and in the formation of normal thinking consciousness, she has normal perception and cognition, so she is deeply disturbed by two extreme feelings in her sober decision-making power, which makes it difficult to close, but it is difficult to get rid of the pain of splitting. Let this extreme feeling cause her to evolve the desire to explore the cause in order to gain the love and recognition of the external world under the extreme sensibility. And this phenomenon of psychological consciousness is very similar to Nietzsche's and Schopenhauer's laws of psychological evolution. At the same time, it also has Tianbao. Grandin's perception of animals. And normal people's perception and cognitive ability, the problem is difficult for her to balance and take from it!

Perhaps because of this, it was difficult for my mother to drive and integrate the two opposing extremes of consciousness, causing her to consciously project the pain to her relatives in order to relieve her own pain in her sober mind! Because the tolerance of her relatives can satisfy her former shortcomings.

There is also a difference in the fact that Tempo and Grandin are separated by physiological differences that lead to autistic perceptual function splitting in animals, forming intuitive functions. However, socially, because of the closed consciousness in the positive consciousness, it is forced to form the mechanical function of the image.

These two similar mental worlds are, in essence, like two branches branching out from the roots of a tree. However, her split consciousness can be unilaterally integrated and embodied in animals, forming antikinetic perception and cognitive functions.

Therefore, the child is similar to the problem of pulling stinkiness, and his internal factors may be because of his dull sense of touch, liking to experience the feeling of holding hard, and his sense of sight and taste is too sharp, and because of the lack of maternal love, several factors are combined, causing the child to be more eager to feel love and security and the feeling of being accepted through touch, vision, and taste. Because hugging, subconsciously represents closeness, and closeness represents love. The fixed toilet represents the fullness of love and the familiar existence, pulling is the smell of going out, subconsciously representing loss, and the joy of hugging is to make up for the pain of loss.

On the other hand, people's psychological suffering is mainly the result of the evolution of fear of loss. Therefore, the pain caused by loss can lead to a lack of security, reduce the experience of positive things, and easily lead to avoidance. Therefore, his habit of stinking is mainly to obtain and sustain the experience of security and other benign consciousness, and gradually forms habitual stereotyped behaviors.

Therefore, there is no doubt that from any point of view, maternal love is the basis of a child's sense of security, and the sense of security is the basis for the development of conscious consciousness, and the conscious mind is the basis for the generation of the subconscious mind and the corresponding thinking consciousness. As a result, almost all of the psychological problems of many autistic children are mainly due to individual differences, coupled with environmental factors, which lead to problems of consciousness and other problems caused by insufficient sense of security.

This phenomenon, psychologically speaking, is mainly due to the fact that when he returned to the countryside, the trash can in his subconscious turned into a representative of Anqing and maternal love. This subconscious psychological phenomenon is like the truth that a man and a woman in love can solve the pain of lovesickness when they see a love object after they are forced to separate! It's also the main reason why he always likes me to hug me when I go home.

Unexpectedly, his mother thought in her subconscious self-protection that the child's stool problem was successfully solved due to the influence of kindergarten. Maybe even she herself may not know that her seemingly conventional belief is actually her subconscious self-protection and evasion of responsibility.

Because, before the child was diagnosed, she and her family were almost the same, and they ignored my requests and suggestions. I didn't expect that in the end, in my helpless numbness, I was stupid enough to be the same as her, and forgot about the child.

So, now she feels that if it is the result of my method, then the negative consciousness in her subconscious will conflict with the thinking consciousness, and she will be aroused to the maximum, reducing her sense of self-worth and leading to pain. As a result, she may feel more guilty and ashamed of her child, which can lead to an inferiority complex. Therefore, it will awaken her past fears and lack of security in a chain of ways, leading to more intense psychological conflicts...

So, it is this mentality that makes it difficult for her, her mother, and even her father, to blindly escape from pain, and makes it difficult for them to learn from the past and use it in the real life of the future. This is also very similar to the autistic child, who is rigid and stubborn, immersed in a familiar sense of security, and difficult to extricate himself from and unwilling to learn new things. Sometimes, even if you are forced to learn, or even if you have experienced it many times, it is easy to reject the external world because of the closed mind of avoiding pain, and it is difficult to gain experience from it for future real life.

This internal psychological phenomenon is actually the disparity in the ability of the acquired autism group, which leads to development bias and stagnation due to closure. Therefore, it seems that an undergraduate, although he is more outstanding in academics, has always been difficult to improve his comprehensive quality independently. Even in the process of escaping from pain, there are serious regressive behaviors similar to those of autistic children...

This kind of regressive behavior, if you look at it from another angle, shows that there is still hope for such acquired autistic people, because their inner world is still in motion, so the mind still has strong plasticity, regression, and forwardness.

Because, the internal cause of acquired autism regression, psychologically, is mainly due to the closure of the self-consciousness or the weak conscious experience. As a result, the perception of the self-perceived world or life is in a closed and exploratory coexistence phenomenon caused by uncertainty.

This lack of self-certainty has gradually evolved into a blind veneration of authority in the corresponding environment. Because of the psychology of blindness, it develops in the expectation of correctness, and the desire to obtain recognition through the external world, so as to determine the value of one's own existence. It can easily lead to the loss of self-consciousness and split into an unconscious puppet state!

This psychological development is consistent with that of children, except that the authority effect of children mainly comes from the approval of relatives. And this kind of psychological development of children, if it is difficult to obtain satisfaction in the growth, then in adulthood, the authority effect will be projected into society and radiated to the future destiny...

Therefore, the authority effect in the consciousness of such people actually represents desire, correctness, self-worth, and even perfection or the meaning and hope of existence. In turn, it can also represent the problem of negative mutilation. Therefore, this effect is also the main reason why businesses invite celebrity endorsements. It is also the main factor that although you are not rich, you are willing to shrink your clothes and go on a diet to buy famous brands and wear luxury jewelry, which is the binding of consciousness value and the formation of a benign feeling of self-experience!

At the same time, it is also vanity, vulnerability, lying, exaggeration, posturing and other negative manifestations from the inner psyche. People with this kind of psychology are prone to pursue perfection in blind subjectivity, and are extremely prone to lose self-worth, resulting in vulnerability and insecurity, and a series of negative behaviors occur...

The most obvious thing about this kind of person is that they lack assertiveness, lack of thought, lack of independence, stubbornness, paranoia, self-righteousness, difficulty in communicating effectively, and often disguise and get the attention of others by pretending to be a psychological group called gray personality. Even because of the blurred three views, under the effect of authority, there will be mutated negative thoughts and emotions, and it is easier to be in the psychological state of thinking that they are innocent or victims, and even causing them to know that they are wrong, and they are also easy to fall under the domination of fear. Even expecting, longing, within the scope of ability, will unscrupulously obtain the satisfaction of deformed self-worth and security...

This kind of mentality and behavior is even more so in the children's grandmother and grandfather and my mother, the difference is that it is sad that an old man who is dozens of years old, because in the time and continuous superposition, the subconscious information has been solidified into the spiritual personality without knowing it...

Therefore, although such people have decades of life experience, in general, the mind, thoughts, quality, ability, etc., except for a few people who are outstanding in some aspects, and the level of development in other aspects are almost stagnant around puberty, and even in the conscious experience function, they are staggered in the psychological state before the age of four...

This kind of negative consciousness formed in the corresponding environment leads to almost all the events encountered by such people on the road of life in the future, such as wearing glasses of a specific color, resulting in blindness and self-righteousness, and it is always easy to think and hope that their world is correct.

Because this kind of cognition by subjective consciousness does not conform to real life, and it is easy to gradually reject or even close oneself in frustration in order to protect one's soul, and form wrong stubbornness, paranoia, splitting, and similar to obsessive-compulsive disorder, psychological emotions and even thoughts and behaviors...

This phenomenon, if autistic children cannot be rehabilitated in a timely, effective and correct manner, will also induce such more psychological states, and more seriously, the corresponding underlying psychological problems will be generally projected throughout their lives, but it is difficult to know themselves!