Spring, with the romantic melancholy, unconsciously arrived on May 18th, the day the child entered the kindergarten!

Perhaps it is under the inspiration of the children that the morning sky is more blue, and the white clouds seem to be reluctant to give up the children, always dancing lightly, coming and going in the sky above the whole kindergarten...

The Hongyun Kindergarten in the community is also more like waking up again in the recuperation, and already in the green spring, like a loving mother, ready for everything, waiting for the arrival of the children again!

The occasional birdsong seemed to bring more flowers and plants, and the parents who were waiting in line, full of hope and reluctance, looked at the faces like angels, with the wanton breath and smiles of flowers, and returned to their long-lost fairy tale world one after another...

At this time, the occasional new children in the kindergarten are full of rhythmic crying, like a symphony that shocks the heart, while testing the children, it also affects the feelings of every parent who can't bear to cut their love...

In the face of such a scene, looking at the child's mother's worried eyes, I was even more worried in my original worries...

Because kindergarten is a heart-wrenching paradise and luxury for many autistic children, who can guarantee what the final result will be? What's more, the child has never left his relatives one step...

Although the child used to have a weak attachment, when he came to a strange occasion, he would refuse to be separated from his family in the crying of the Seride.

However, I didn't expect that just when we were worried...

Just when we couldn't have imagined it anyway...

Just when we were completely unexpected...

But the child is in full view...

At the moment of throwing herself into the arms of the teacher...

In the midst of unimaginable naivety and maturity

Like an angel who is about to leave the world, with a happy and peaceful smile, gently waving to us at the moment, finally in the arms of the teacher, it seems that there is no nostalgia to the depths of the kindergarten building...

At this time, looking at the child's distant back, the hanging heart finally let go. Because, from his unexpected performance just now, it can be basically concluded that even if the child is temporarily uncomfortable in the classroom, as long as he does not meet a teacher similar to his grandmother's personality and induce his negative subconscious emotions, then he should soon be able to successfully transition to kindergarten and enter a new round of growth milestones!

Therefore, in order to prevent it from happening, long before that, I told his homeroom teacher about the child's situation in this regard through a text message on my mobile phone. In particular, the child's keen response to the voice of others, I try to describe the incident as much as possible, hoping that the kindergarten teacher and his homeroom teacher can give support and help!

Although, before and after the Spring Festival, I also try to enter the kindergarten as many times as possible in training mode to help the child improve his ability to adapt in the future, and at the same time, with the support of the teachers, as well as through audio subliminal information input, etc., in order to maximize the work of paving the way for him to enter the kindergarten, and I hope that the child can enter the kindergarten smoothly today.

Maybe it's the emperor who lives up to his heart, although the child just now, although he is like an angel who has returned to heaven, but when he sees the child disappear safely in the teacher's arms, he finally let go of his heart, but suddenly in the new worry and anxiety, he wants to run to the classroom immediately and observe the child's reaction...

Because, on the first day of kindergarten, it is easy for children to be abandoned, which leads to and aggravates and induces fear of unfamiliar environments.

If this fear cannot be eliminated in time, it will be in the radiation effect, and it is easy to take it as the center, constantly expanding the radiation range, and it is easy to lead to re-degeneration, aggravation, and even induce other autism symptoms.

In this case, even children who are originally good are prone to some potential psychological and emotional problems due to sudden changes in the environment. It is common for even children who were originally good to suddenly induce autism because of potential internal factors. In fact, among the children I know, there is a real case of a three-year-old child in Foshan who was induced by autism because of a sudden change in environment during the plague.

Therefore, it is particularly important for children before the age of three to enter the kindergarten on the first day. Because, at this time, the formation of the child's mind is mainly caused by the conscious experience generated by the tactile consciousness of the five senses, and the subconscious mind is formed by repeated superposition, and gradually in the process of forming the explicit consciousness and the subconscious, the thinking consciousness is formed, and the behavioral emotions dominated by the thinking consciousness are jointly supported.

The formation of the two kinds of consciousness, the subconscious and the explicit consciousness, with the development of the thinking consciousness, is gradually transformed into the intuitive consciousness of the mind, which is reflected in the conscious level, and in the process of unification with the subconscious and the thinking consciousness, the thinking consciousness is the guide, driving the coordinated interaction of the child's explicit and subconscious minds. Therefore, subconscious information and conscious experience will be difficult to be self-aware in the deep subconscious operation law, but unconsciously in the radiation effect, pulling the fate of the child's life.

Therefore, if there is no change within seven days of entering the kindergarten, it is necessary to adjust accordingly. Otherwise, when it reaches a month, this emotion will gradually become a stable subconscious information in a small cycle of physiological cycle, forming a potentially stable radiation effect!

When I asked the principal to go in to visit the children with such worries, the principal listened to it and seemed embarrassed and said, "The Education Bureau is inspecting, and if they know about it, they will be punished..."

At the time, although I was surprised and not completely convinced, I could tell from her eyes that she was always paying attention to everything, and perhaps because the Education Bureau was here, it seemed that she was also in a nervous state.

However, in the midst of the embarrassment, at the moment when I was about to give up, unexpectedly, she seemed to take into account my feelings, and then saw her eyebrows, and at the same time looking at the kindergarten and me, she said in a distraction: "He is downstairs in the classroom, you go to the window to have a look..."

Unexpectedly, I was stunned when I heard it, it turned out that I had been there several times, how could I forget it at a critical moment?

At this time, suddenly under her reminder, I seemed to have found a survival channel in an instant, and at the moment of immediate reaction, I quickly ran to the window, but I was busy for a long time, but the result was a big disappointment for me. Because there seemed to be more than one child crying from the back of the classroom, although I listened for a long time, I still couldn't find out where the crying children were...

So in a hurry, when he was about to leave the window, he saw that the principal had entered the classroom at some point, and flashed through the door.

However, I was anxiously running back, waiting for her to come out and ask again, but unexpectedly, to my surprise, when I returned to the entrance of the building, she had returned to where she had been standing.

When I was a little disappointed, I looked at the quiet and mature principal, and immediately stepped forward and asked the child about it again. But unexpectedly, she said to me as if she had been prepared: "It's okay, he's fine, in the bathroom, his hands in his pockets are very leisurely..."

When I heard it at the time, I was naturally happy in my heart, but soon began to deny her in three points of suspicion. Although, from her unhesitating tone, I can't see any flaws for a while, and according to the child's sense of security all the time, and the performance of entering the kindergarten just now, it is completely possible that he has temporarily adapted to his curiosity.

But she said that it seems unlikely that the child has his hands in his pockets, because the child does not seem to have this habit, and as for the leisure of being able to put his pockets in such a strange environment, the possibility should be smaller!

But no matter what, even if the child is really crying, if you stand in the perspective of the principal, maybe under the circumstances, it is also a helpless kindness. Because in the face of such a situation, she is indeed in a difficult situation. But at the same time, she may also feel that although this is a difficult fact for children to overcome, it is also an opportunity for exercise and growth!

Actually, I am not like this, if it weren't for the special circumstances of the child, maybe I would have left the kindergarten long ago. Therefore, the reason why I am relieved is not that I am reluctant, but that I feel that as long as I observe even for a minute when my child is not discovered, I can determine his state for a day.

If you know the state of his day, it is easy to judge that he will be in kindergarten for the rest of the day. At the same time, I also hope that my appearance will surprise him, and make him feel: "Dad didn't abandon me, but was by my side all the time..."

And because of this, it reminds him of more people who care about him, and relaxes his tension and strengthens his sense of security.

Because, his performance today makes me more convinced that if this feeling or consciousness is successfully created again from the perspective of the previous successful consciousness implantation, it is equally possible to make his feelings for his relatives and home better linked to the kindergarten in the reinforcement again, and transformed into subconscious information, so as to complete the kindergarten in the radiation effect, in his subconscious, into home and relatives, as well as happiness and other positive conscious experiences, so as to form a good thinking consciousness cognition, and fundamentally accept and like kindergarten!

Therefore, according to past experience, once this information is successfully implanted, it is easier for him to achieve the purpose of truly adapting to the kindergarten by the conscious experience he likes to form the cognition of thinking consciousness as he just entered the kindergarten. At the same time, in the successful transition, and unconsciously take the benign consciousness of the kindergarten as the radiation center, and gradually radiate to the future school, group, society, and even a lifetime!

When I think of this, although I have some regrets, I feel that since it is difficult to see each other for the time being, I will go back and pick him up early in the afternoon, which can also effectively shorten his sense of rejection and fear or loneliness and boredom and helplessness.

Therefore, when I came to the gate of the garden, I found that the child's mother, who had already put down tears of worry, was standing there staring at me. Seeing her like this, I had no choice but to pretend to be relaxed, comfort her a few words, and then go on the road together and return home again.

After 3 o'clock in the afternoon, when I came to the window of the classroom again, the moment I saw the child's back, I found him sitting on a stool like a statue, and I was about to continue to observe, but unexpectedly, the moment he suddenly cried, the emotions that were already full of worry suddenly surged like a tide.

Even in an uncontrollable anger, he quickly ran to the classroom, and the teachers seemed to feel like ghosts, and instantly emerged from the cracks in the ground, standing there coldly with masks, and then coldly answering them to confirm the parents' questions!

Unexpectedly, while I was ignoring the observation of the teachers, he seemed to quickly discover my existence at the moment when he occasionally cried, and saw his two eyes, full of expectation, looking at me, but still sitting there obediently. I deliberately didn't react and kept standing in the classroom, trying to continue to observe his reaction. The teacher next to me seemed to think that I was inexplicable, and then at the moment of reaction, I only heard a teacher say to the child: "Cheng Mingzhi, Dad is here..."

Then, I saw that he finally ran over desperately under the teacher's reminder or consent.

Then I saw him with a red face, holding my hand tightly, as if grasping a life-saving straw, with a three-point pleading expression, looking in the direction of the hall, and said with some difficulty: "Let's go... Let's go..."

At this point, his mother, perhaps worried that I was losing my temper with the teachers, rushed to the door of the classroom and began to ask this and that.

Then, when she listened to the head teacher's explanation and explanation, I had been there for a long time, and I felt a little guilty when I saw the head teacher's serious expression and words, and finally picked up the child and walked towards the kindergarten hall...

Along the way, I observed and reflected on the child's performance in the classroom on the first day, and his performance was quite good. Because, although his crying voice is loud, his crying expression is seriously insufficient. He can sit still, his expression calm and not distracted. This shows that he is relatively stable and knows that he can be protected from a cooperative environment.

At the same time, the frequency and degree of crying can also be sent and received at will, and the tone is more like a deliberate act dominated by thinking consciousness in a prepared charm, rather than as if it is involuntarily sensual from the conscious experience!

Therefore, it can be inferred that his outward crying is only a reflection of his inner loneliness, boredom, and longing to go home, and with the expectation of conscious perception, the worry dominated by mental consciousness, wondering if he can go home, or when he will be able to go home. It is not due to fear, disgust, rejection, etc.

Therefore, in desperation, when he can't express it in words, he can only cry, while tempting, it is also equivalent to unconsciously relieving loneliness, and consciously hoping to attract the attention of others, so as to achieve the goal of going home and determining whether he can still go home.

On the other hand, if the child cries because of negative emotions such as fear, then she will awaken and deepen the attachment to the family in the case dominated by the sense of fear, resulting in a greater desire for a sense of security, therefore, it will be easy to immerse in the split consciousness of experiencing a sense of security, and it is difficult to control the contrast between fear and tension and the lack of a sense of security, resulting in a temporary fault and confusion of the three major consciousnesses, then the body will be over-consumed due to stress, resulting in a physiological energy shortage due to excessive tension. Therefore, in the process of regaining relaxation and recovery, it will involuntarily show that the breath will come in and out, and it will come out in an instant, so as to achieve a physiological response to quickly replenish the body's lack of oxygen!

Therefore, if you look at this phenomenon, the child should enter the basic state of adapting to the kindergarten in about a week. In short, no matter how bad the result is, at most he will have a psychological state of disliking and unwillingness, which belongs to the level of preference, and will not appear in the rejection state of evasive negative behaviors such as fear, rejection and repression.

As a result, almost as I expected, when the next morning, although the child who had been chirping along the way was reluctant to come again, when he first came to the kindergarten to see the teacher, he cried without resistance, with reluctance and helplessness and as if he was prepared, and did not hesitate to take the initiative to throw himself into the teacher's arms.

Therefore, in order to maximize his ability to adapt to the kindergarten as quickly as possible, I deliberately lured him and brought the small toys I chose to the kindergarten together.

Because according to the interaction of the three consciousnesses, under normal circumstances, any corresponding consciousness can be formed through the corresponding things and in the corresponding functions of the five senses and touches. And in the evolution of any other new consciousness, it can act on any of them. Unless the three major consciousnesses are confused, or the five senses are abnormal, which will lead to the corresponding abnormalities of the three consciousnesses, there will be a pathological phenomenon that is difficult to match with reality. And he belongs to the sensitivity of the five senses and touch, not the abnormality of the lesion!

Therefore, children can effectively transform the kindergarten scene into the subconscious of the home through the small toys at home, under the action of vision and touch, and from the original conscious experience, and the cognitive function of thinking consciousness, through the toys and reinforcement links, the kindergarten scene can be effectively transformed into the subconscious of the home, radiating and strengthening to the whole kindergarten.

However, in the expectation of such a theory, coupled with the usual verbal inducement, overlapping or suggesting with the use of sound consciousness, at first, the child, although still consciously resisting, soon appeared, showing a willing behavior towards kindergarten as the mood changed.

That is, the better he is in the mood, the better he will show the attitude of going to kindergarten. Otherwise, he would be grinding and grinding, otherwise he would rush to turn the steering wheel and say, "Go to the riverside to play...", and when she walked to the supermarket, she would shout: "Go grocery shopping..." and so on.

With this reaction, about ten days passed unconsciously, and then on his way to kindergarten every day, he was happy and unhappy. Until I saw the cat say the cat said the cat looked at the dog and said the dog, and even when he said the mixer truck, I said, "The mixer truck also has to go to kindergarten..."

Therefore, in the process of making use of various situations as much as possible, I let the consciousness of the kindergarten, through the senses of sight, hearing, and touch, and even when eating at home, I deliberately said the word "kindergarten", hoping to strengthen his benign perceptual experience and rational cognition of the kindergarten by associating the sense of smell and taste.

Sure enough, with such an accumulation of consciousness, he soon felt much better. Because at this time, although he still resisted on the road, as soon as he arrived at the kindergarten, he became like going home, and immediately put his schoolbag away, and then, without looking back, he only cared about himself, and walked to the teacher's side in the classroom...

However, as he progressed, his resistance plummeted, but gradually new emotional changes appeared. Because, in the days that followed, when he set off in the morning, he was a little like a wronged girl, always walking halfway, shouting again: "Go home... Let's go..."

Once, when he was yelling to go home again, I took out the candy I had prepared and said to him, "Give you candy to eat, will we go to kindergarten?" When he heard this, he immediately said, "Good! ”

Then, I deliberately kept asking him if he was okay, hoping that he would continue to answer well, so as to achieve his autosuggestion purpose, but although he kept saying yes in order to get Xiaotang! But when I put the candy in his mouth, before I could ask him again, however, he surprised me only to see him, suddenly narrowed his eyes, cocked his mouth, and deliberately said with a mischievous smile: "Not good..."

"Hey, what did we just say?" When I immediately asked him in a deliberately surprised tone, he immediately said with the same look as before, "Okay..."

When I complimented him and said, "That's right, this is a sensible child...", but before I could finish speaking, he squinted and pouted, "Not good! ”

At this point, I suddenly understood that he was starting to wake up a little and began to experience the joy of interaction. It turned out that he not only seemed to understand everything I was saying, but more importantly, he was already able to understand and understand my feelings, and began to know how to tease me in turn.

Thinking of this, I couldn't help but hug him tighter, my heart was hot and my nose was sore, and I suddenly felt the pleasure of crying, which made me seem to see his new hope again in the moment of sadness!

At this time, I was emotional and excited, gathered my mind, and continued to tease him while the iron was hot in a God-given opportunity, and he was getting more and more excited at the same time, and he also continued to tease me in turn...

Looking at his smiling face, I suddenly consciously said to him: "You are so good, the teacher also said that you are so good, and the children also praise you for being so good and handsome... They're all waiting for you to eat candy..."

Unexpectedly, when I finished speaking, and then looked at his reaction, I was disappointed to find that between his eyebrows at this time, it seemed to be the same as that night, sitting on the toilet to pull the stink, I saw that he was suddenly in some silence, and a little embarrassed to tinker with the toys in his hand, and seemed to deliberately ignore me.

At this point, when I saw his once somewhat familiar reaction, I seemed to have sensed that his once-dusty mind began to become more and more transparent like a diamond.

There is a lot of traffic on the road...

Soon we crossed the street, and when we arrived at the kindergarten again, we were surprised to find that he had been like a guide, and in an unusual way, he had followed me cautiously, but now he was leading me forward with great interest.

When he walked to the door of the classroom, he saw that he still put his schoolbag as usual, and then with a shy smile, he ran to the teacher's side again at the moment of saying goodbye to me.

I walked out of the kindergarten again, and returned home with a mood full of streets. After eating my grandmother's boiled meal, it was three o'clock in the afternoon before I knew it.

When I came to the kindergarten and walked downstairs with him again, I saw him walking upstairs, and the aunt who was collecting clothes said, "Grandma is doing clothes..."

Then, when I couldn't miss the opportunity, I asked him to add another word "in" while the iron was hot: "You said that grandma is doing clothes..."

When I carried him to the second floor, he saw the word "heaven" on the couplet, perhaps from his mother's church, only to see him smile excitedly, looking at the couplet and saying a little stiffly: "The sky is white clouds... The sky is cloudy..."

In the same way, I took the opportunity to ask him to say: "The sky is full of white clouds..."Blue sky, blue sky, white clouds, white clouds, etc., to strengthen his language organization skills!

The next morning, in order to continue to reinforce the sense of self-awareness and value that I had experienced through the praise of the teacher and the children, I repeated to him: "Last night, the teacher, the children, called my parents and said that you are so good and handsome..."

As a result, since then, not only has his resistance to going to kindergarten basically disappeared, but sometimes he even wants his mother to give him away, so he runs out of the door with his schoolbag and asks his mother to go out with him and wants to throw me away.

Therefore, it can be seen that the importance of healthy maternal love and establishing a sense of worth for children is self-evident. Therefore, almost all children are first built on the experience and interactive satisfaction based on maternal love, and have a good sense of self and value, and then they can be centered on it and gradually radiate to his world.

Just like what he obtained, the recognition and acceptance of teachers and children, in turn, deepened his attachment to family affection! In this way, we can better understand the self-consciousness and meaning of existence evolved by family affection. And through the praise of teachers and children, in turn, it helped him verify and confirm the self-awareness and value that evolved from family affection! In this virtuous circle effect, it will run through his emotional world, and thus directly affect his future life!