Don't put on a posture of not to be outdone in the face of struggle, and don't let senseless battles hinder your success, only compassion and understanding can effectively eliminate anger and resolve fights. In everyday life, we often find that fighting against fighting often results in greater fighting. In life, we need to be tolerant of everything.

Jinko is Japanese, and her family has been pearl diving for generations, and she has a pearl that her mother gave her when she left Japan to study in the United States.

Before she left home, her mother solemnly called her aside, gave her the pearl, and told her:

"When the female worker puts the sand into the shell of the mussel, the mussel feels very uncomfortable, but she can't afford to spit the sand out, so the mussel is faced with two choices, one is to complain and make her life very difficult, and the other is to find a way to assimilate the sand and make it coexist peacefully with herself. So the mussel began to divide a part of its energy nutrients into the sand. When the sand is wrapped around the mussel, the mussel feels that it is a part of itself and is no longer a foreign body. The more mussels are coated in sand, the more they regard it as their own, and the more calmly they can get along with the sand. ”

Her mother inspired her: the mussel does not have a brain, it is an invertebrate, and it is very low at the level of evolution, but even a lower animal without a brain knows how to adapt to an environment that cannot be changed by itself, and to transform an unpleasant alien self into a tolerable part of himself, how can human intelligence be inferior to a mussel?

Most people's solution to contradictions is to confront them, but the result of confrontation is often to make the contradictions accumulate deeper and deeper, and the gap between them grows bigger and bigger. It's better to be flexible, others treat me unfriendly, but I repay the kindness, this kind of tolerant big mind, this kind of magnanimity regardless of previous suspicions, but can influence the other party, make them realize their mistakes, contradictions will naturally not exist, and harmony can be born from this.

During the Warring States period, Liang and Chu were neighbors, and in order to draw a clear line, the two countries set up boundary pavilions on their borders. The pavilion guards planted watermelons on their respective boundaries in their spare time.

The pavilion guards of Liang Pavilion are very industrious, work hard, and the melon seedlings grow very well; The pavilion guards of Chu Ting were very lazy and rarely managed, so the melon seedlings grew thin and small. The Chu people wanted to save face, so they ran to the melon field of Liang State at night and tore off all the melon seedlings.

The next day, when the people of Liang Ting found out, they were very angry, so they reported it to the county commander Song Zuo, and suggested that they also go and tear off the melon seedlings of the Chu State. After hearing this, Song said: "The practice of the Chu State itself is wrong, why should we learn from them? Wouldn't that make us too narrow-minded? From today onwards, we will go and water their seedlings at night, and we must not let them know. ”

The people of Liang Pavilion did according to Song Yu's words, and the Chu people gradually found that their melon seedlings were growing better, and later found that the Liang people watered their melon seedlings every day, so they reported to the border county order of the Chu State, and after the county order heard it, they were very ashamed and reported it to the king of Chu. The king of Chu sent people to meet the king of Liang with generous gifts, and since then he has become friendly neighbors with the Liang state.

Give others more tolerance, and don't return hatred to others because of their revenge. To forgive others is to be kind to yourself, and to be more tolerant will be more harmonious in life.

Jiayi Mangu is a business representative for an elevator company in Tusa, Oklahoma. The company has a contract with one of the best hotels in Tusa to repair the hotel's elevators. In order not to cause too much inconvenience to the passengers, the hotel manager only allowed the elevator to stop for 2 hours at most during each repair, but this repair will take at least 8 hours.

When Mr. Mangu was able to send one of the best mechanics for the repairs, he called the manager of the inn. He didn't argue with the manager, he just said:

"Rick, I know your hotel has a lot of guests, and you need to keep the elevator down as short as possible. I understand that you take this very seriously, and we will try to accommodate your request as much as possible. However, after we inspected your elevator, we showed that if we don't repair the elevator completely now, the damage may be more serious, and the shutdown time may be longer. I know you wouldn't want to inconvenience your guests for days for a few hours right now. ”

The manager had to agree to the elevator to be off for 8 hours, because it was better than a few days.

As Mangu expressed his understanding of the manager's desire to make the guests happy, it was easy to win the manager's consent. And if you put on a reasonable posture, it may be unpleasant.

Strife doesn't solve everything in life, but sometimes tolerance does.

Don't put on a posture of not to be outdone in the face of the fight, and don't let the senseless fight hinder your success, only compassion and understanding can effectively resolve the fight.