No matter how strong the ability and the best chance is, it is impossible for people to have smooth sailing all their lives, and many people will encounter rejection and neglect at work and interpersonal relationships.

Take your own right path, one day you will come out, others can squeeze you out for a while, but can not crowd out you for a lifetime, as long as you work hard, it is gold, you will definitely shine more brilliantly.

After graduating from graduate school, Li Hong energetically entered the work of the municipal government agency. Because Li Hong has a high degree of education and strong ability, he quickly won the appreciation of the leaders above, and the work characteristics of government organs are: the work should not be too presumptuous, and the workers are required to follow the rules. There are also strict rules on the commuting time of employees, and Li Hong is particularly capable as a new comrade, which leaves a very bad impression on her colleagues, plus she is outspoken by nature. It didn't take long for him to work and offend his immediate boss and a few colleagues.

At first, Li Hong didn't think much of her boss and colleagues thought of her, thinking that as long as her boss and colleagues understood that everything she did was for work and not for personal gain, they would understand her, so she thought that her boss and colleagues would definitely re-evaluate her after a long time.

But after a while, Li Hong gradually found that her thoughts were very naïve, and the bad impression she left on her boss and colleagues when she first left work seemed to have taken root, always inadvertently reminding others. Some of the rationalization suggestions she put forward are also more difficult to pass than those put forward by others, but as everyone knows, her immediate boss is afraid that she will surpass him, and her colleagues are afraid that she will come out and suppress them.

In this kind of exclusion, Li Hong resolutely decided to let them not find any excuses, did not care about their difficulties, worked hard, tried not to make any mistakes in the work, and finally discovered her talent when a municipal leader came to investigate the work, and promoted her to three levels in a row.

Yes, being ostracized is a very bad thing, but if you think about it. If you can't get along with those people, maybe you will be hurt instead, and it will only bring more trouble to your work, so why don't we turn the blow into motivation?

A wise man never takes the initiative to challenge a stupid person.

A wild boar once made up his mind to be the king of the forest, so he stood up from the resting dung heap and ran to the lion's territory to challenge the king of the forest. Of course, the lion just sniffed the stinking animal, ignored it and walked away on its own—the lion didn't even have to crack its mouth and roar.

This story illustrates that when a wise person is challenged by a stupid person, there is no need for a virtuous person to waste time on those who are stupid.

In the face of exclusion, the following points should be put in place.

(1) Acknowledge your feelings and understand that feelings of anger, hurt, and depression are all normal reactions. It is easy for young people to feel discouraged and depressed because of being rejected and rejected, and suddenly feel that they have no value and lose their purpose in life.

Reactions to rejection and rejection vary from person to person. Long-term exclusion has a great impact, and the excluded person will feel worthless and have a sense of helplessness. Among the feelings of rejection, the most difficult thing to accept is that I feel that I am regarded as worthless, the feeling of inferiority and self-deprecation emerges, and the other party's harsh words linger in my heart, so I feel even more sad and indignant. At this time, the best way to cope is to withdraw from the situation, deliberately leave the original living environment temporarily, run to another place, find another group of people who can accept you, and regain a little self-confidence.

(2) Build good relationships with humility. Everyone has the bad root of beating the water dogs, you are ostracized by your opponents, and others wish you never stood up. Therefore, you must be humble and make good connections, not to mention the courage of the year, which is useless, and the "courage of the year" will also make you fall into the mentality of "the world is cold", which only increases your own suffering.

(3) Patience. Endure sulking, endure mockery, endure loneliness, endure unwillingness, endure frustration, endure the darkness before dawn, endure the tiger falling in Pingyang and being bullied by dogs, endure everything, endure to show yourself, and endure to others.

Don't pay too much attention to the other person's bad words, if you are excellent, others will unreservedly attack your weaknesses and injuries. If you take these words too seriously, you will feel that they despise you and treat you like dung. If you understand that this is a necessity of human nature, a strategy of human disagreement, you will not take all these words, but will receive them selectively.

(4) Strengthen your own abilities. In the midst of being sidelined, it is the best time for you to collect and absorb all kinds of information. The ability is strengthened, and when luck comes, you can jump higher and perform more brightly.

Yes, being ostracized by others is a very bad thing, but if you care about it and can't get along with those people, maybe it will hurt you instead, which will only bring more trouble to your work, why don't we turn the blow into motivation?

To be a man, you must have the mentality of being able to afford and let go, do not lose your own enterprising spirit because of the rejection of others, do not care about the suppression of others, the key is to develop yourself.