The great psychologist Alfred Ander said that one of the most wonderful characteristics of human beings is "the power to turn the negative into the positive."

Han Shin was very depressed when he was young, and the scoundrels teased him, saying, "If you really have the ability, kill me with a sword." If you don't have the ability, you can crawl under my crotch. After weighing and thinking about it, Han Xin calmly climbed under the rogue crotch and left silently under the ridicule of everyone. Later, it became a beautiful talk about enduring humiliation and burden, and Han Shin also became an example for people to learn.

In real life, many people are like the turtle in this story, and they can't stand any shame:

There was a turtle living in the small pond, and he was good friends with two geese and birds that lived among the reeds. Later, when a drought struck, the pond dried up, and the anxious turtle could no longer hold on. When the two geese on the shore found out, they sympathized with the turtle's plight and wanted to help it move to another place with water.

In the end, they came up with a way to find a branch and teach the turtle to hold it in its mouth, and the two geese and birds held one end at each end, and told the turtle not to speak until it reached its destination.

In order to survive, the turtles had to follow the instructions, and when they flew over a village in the sky, they were suddenly spotted by a group of children, who looked at the sky in surprise and shouted: "The turtle has been led by the goose bird, come and see!" ”

The turtle, whose mouth was clenching on the branch, heard the cry of the child below, and felt very insulted, and was very angry in his heart, and could not help but answer angrily: "What does it have to do with you like this? ”

As soon as the turtle's mouth loosened, it immediately fell from the sky, threw itself on the hard stone, and fell to pieces.

This is the end of the unbearable humiliation.

In life, many people will suffer shame, but smart people will take advantage of it.

This is a young black boy born into a poor single-parent family, he is only 7 years old, due to chronic malnutrition, he appears thin, but his eyes are bright. However, the events of this day dimmed these big bright eyes.

The teacher asked the students to donate money to the "Community Fund". The little boy was holding the $3 he earned by picking up garbage, and he waited excitedly for the teacher to call his name, and then he could proudly walk up to the podium and donate his hard-earned money. But the teacher didn't pronounce his name, and he felt very strange and asked the teacher why he didn't call his name.

The teacher snapped, "We're raising money this time to help you and poor people like you, this classmate, if your dad can afford your $5 extracurricular fee, you won't have to receive relief." Besides, you don't have a father......"

These merciless words struck the boy in the heart like thunder and lightning. The little boy rushed out of school with tears in his eyes. Humiliation made him strong. From then on, he studied and worked hard. This little black boy is Dick Grigor, a famous black radio host in the United States today.

Shame is not necessarily a bad thing, it can destroy people's self-confidence, but it can also urge people to forge ahead, it depends on your choice, whether you choose to go down or up.

When Henry Ford was a mechanic, he had just received his salary and was excited to eat at a fancy restaurant that he had always longed for. Young Henry Ford sat in the dining room for about 5 minutes, and no waiter came to greet him. Finally, a waiter in the restaurant saw Henry Ford sitting alone for so long before he reluctantly walked up to the table and asked him if he wanted to order.

Henry Ford nodded yes quickly, only to see the waiter impatiently throw the menu rudely onto his table. As soon as Henry Ford opened the menu and read a few lines, he heard the waiter say in a contemptuous tone: "You don't need to read the menu in too much detail, you can only look at the right part (meaning the price), and the left part (meaning the name of the dish), you don't have to bother to read it!" ”

Henry Ford looked up in astonishment, and his gaze met the waiter's face with a look of disdain, which made Henry Ford very angry. Annoyed, I can't help but want to order the most expensive meal. But then he remembered the pitiful meager salary in his pocket, and as a last resort, he gritted his teeth, and Henry Ford only ordered a hamburger.

The waiter snorted from his nostrils and arrogantly withdrew the menu from Henry Ford's hand.

After the waiter left, Henry Ford did not continue to be angry about spending money. Instead, he calmed down and thought carefully about why he could only order food that he could afford, but not the big food he really wanted.

Henry Ford was determined to be the top man in society. Since then, he has gradually become a powerful car king from an ordinary car repairer.

Shame is not terrible, what is terrible is to be willing to fall in shame. Humiliation can become ice water that extinguishes the fire of a person's ideals, and it can also become the driving force that spurs a person to succeed in anger. To know that humiliation is a bad thing, but it can also be a good thing, it depends on your quality.

The famous French female writer Georges Sand once said: "Don't take revenge on the humiliation you have suffered, but see them as the motivation for your own progress, and let the humiliation motivate you." But it may be this sentence that will become the biggest motivation in your life, and you will encourage yourself to do better and show it to the person who looks down on you.

I remember a philosopher who said that no matter how you study, you can't learn as quickly, deeply, and persistently as when you are humiliated. Shame is the best catalyst for a person, it is like a whip, spurring you to muster up courage and forge ahead.