As soon as people raise their eyebrows, you feel that they look down on you; When people pout, you think they hate you; There is no hostility in what others say, but when you scan it, the contradiction comes out; When someone else is whispering about you, you suspect that they are saying bad things about you.

People who fall into the psychological misunderstanding of being too sensitive will still live a very tired life. He has to deal with the exaggerated "hostility" and soothe the pain that arises from it, and his own consumption is very large. Moreover, being overly sensitive can be very damaging to interpersonal relationships. If it happens between friends, it will destroy the deepening of friendship; If it happens between colleagues, it will affect normal work and relationships; If it happens between lovers, it will hinder the development of the relationship. If you don't recognize this, you'll never be ready to get rid of it.

Overly sensitive people are often those who are introverted and not broad-minded enough, they always like to take things for granted to observe the people and things around them, and often self-righteous, and the result is that there is always a bunch of inexplicable messes in their hearts.

The company commander of Unit A criticized some undesirable phenomena of their company without naming them at the soldiers' meeting, and at this time, Xiao Li, a soldier in the unit, always felt that something seemed to be about him. So, in the days after the conference, Xiao Li couldn't eat well or sleep well, and he wanted to talk to the company commander and ask him to make it clear whether he was criticizing himself. This situation has happened many times before, and the results have proved that Xiao Li's ideas and judgments are wrong almost every time. But when encountering a similar situation, Xiao Li will always think about it again and can't control himself. Xiao Li felt that the leaders and comrades-in-arms had already developed an opinion about him.

From this short story, we know that Xiao Li is an overly sensitive person. Oversensitivity exists to varying degrees in many people. Like a small thing like a sesame seed, others may not care about it, but for people who are too sensitive, they have special feelings, and even psychologically can't bear it.

People who fall into the psychological misconception of being too sensitive will encounter many obstacles in the actual life, because no one likes to make friends and work with a sensitive and suspicious person.

As soon as Xiao Li walked into the conference room, he saw the two colleagues "sneakily" talking and snickering, and the two stopped talking as soon as they saw her walk in.

Xiao Li couldn't help but think: they must be saying bad things about themselves, so her face was ugly during the whole meeting. When it was her turn to develop. The two colleagues exchanged words in each other's ears, as if their eyes were still watching her reaction.

Xiao Li was even more sure that her colleague was talking about her rights and wrongs, and finally lost her temper: "If you are dissatisfied with me, you don't have to say it behind my back!" ”

"Nope!" The two colleagues were a little embarrassed. After the meeting, the two explained to her that the conversation between the two had nothing to do with her at all.

"You are a serious person, you are good at everything, but you are too sensitive, which makes it difficult for people to get along with you!" After explaining, one of the colleagues finally "spoke up" and expressed his opinion of her. Afterwards, his colleagues gradually distanced themselves from Lee.

The more nervous you are, the more likely you are to become someone else's talking point or laughing stock, which in turn will further exacerbate your suspicion and hostility, which will make your relationships a mess.

If you want to live a happy life and have fewer troubles, you must overcome the sensitivity that exists in interpersonal communication and be proud of being a tolerant and generous person.

Ling has such a girlfriend, she is very suspicious, and her heart is always in an extreme sense of insecurity. Whoever helps her introduce the object, she suspects that someone must have an unusual relationship with that person, not only repeatedly testing her girlfriend with words, but also asking her boyfriend, and also conducting secret reconnaissance.

Ling introduced a boyfriend to her girlfriend, but was repeatedly tempted by her girlfriend. But Ling didn't know it at the time, so the male friend asked Ling again and again: Is this girl good? Ling packed the ticket with him: It's a good friend of my good friend, absolutely no problem. But then they broke up, and the male friend told Ling the reason for their breakup: girls are too suspicious, and such people are not suitable for life. He said that Ling and Ling's friends had been saying good things about her in front of him, while she was speaking ill of them to him and doubting Ling's relationship with him, which was a sign of disloyalty, and he couldn't find such a person.

Later, I heard rumors one after another, saying that the girl didn't seem to be doing well after marriage, and always suspected that her husband had an unusual relationship with a female colleague in the office, and often played some stalking tricks, and the two often quarreled for this.

Ling's girlfriend is so pathetic, and her suspicious and sensitive personality has hurt her.

Being overly sensitive often brings endless troubles to yourself, and unnecessary cranky thoughts are really harmful.

Xiao Wang encountered a chance to be promoted in the unit, whether in terms of work performance, personal talent, or in terms of age structure and cultural level, he had certain advantages, but unexpectedly Xiao Zhang was appointed by the organization. So, Xiao Wang tossed and turned, couldn't sleep all night, and meditated. He felt that he had a relationship with one of the four leaders who decided his fate, and one of them was not very accommodating, and he guessed that they must have been in the way. He even imagined vividly the expressions and actions of the other party who opposed him when he decided to do so. The more he thought about it, the more distressed he became, the more irritable he became, and he sat restless and restless all day long.

Soon he discovered that it was actually himself who was too sensitive and created an "unjust, false and wrongful case" in his heart - the two leaders who had friction with him had always admired him very much and voted in favor.

In daily life, look at the people and things around you with a normal attitude and a trusting eye, don't always feel that people are paying attention to you everywhere, think that others are against you, and take some small things too seriously.

Sensitive people don't end well, and only by giving up sensitivity can they be relaxed.

Being overly sensitive to the surroundings, always distorting and exaggerating external information, this is a narrow and naïve way of cognition, creating a terrible spiritual prison for oneself, which will not only make oneself very tired, but also make the people around them very tired, and they weave a very painful life for themselves.