We must first understand that coming into this world:

I don't work for annoyances;

I don't associate for the sake of annoyance;

I don't have children for the sake of trouble;

I don't live for the sake of trouble;

Many people love to compete with themselves, and when they encounter a little thing, they will think crankily and create troubles for themselves. The monthly salary is less than the end of the month, and I am troubled; The food cooked by my mother was not palatable, and I was troubled; A girl on the dance floor rejected his invitation, upset; When a colleague was promoted, he "stood still" and was troubled; His boss didn't approve his sales proposal, and he was upset.

In life, there are so many people who unswervingly live for their troubles, and destroy the harmony and happiness of life for their troubles.

Read the following story to get you inspired:

A young man is looking around for a way out of his troubles.

On this day, he came to the foot of a mountain. I saw a shepherd boy riding on the back of a cow and playing a melodious bamboo flute in a green grass, so unhappy.

The young man walked up to him and asked, "You seem to be very happy, can you teach me a way to get rid of my troubles?" ”

The shepherd boy said, "Riding on the back of an ox and playing the flute, there is no trouble." ”

The young man tried, but it didn't work.

Thereupon. He continued his search.

The young man came to a river. I saw an old man sitting under the shade of the willows, holding a fishing rod, fishing. He looked pleasant and happy. The young man stepped forward and bowed, "May I ask the old man, can you give me a way to relieve my troubles?" ”

The old man glanced at him and said kindly, "Come, young man, fish with me, and keep you from worrying." ”

The young man tried, but he still didn't get it.

So, he continued to search. Soon. He came to a cave and saw an old man sitting alone in the cave with a satisfied smile on his face.

The young man bowed deeply and explained his intention to the old man.

The old man smiled and stroked his long hair and asked, "So you're here to seek relief?" ”

The young man said, "Yes, yes, I beg my seniors to give me advice." ”

The old man smiled and asked, "Has anyone tied you up?" ”

“…… No. ”

"Since I didn't bind you, how can I be free?"

In life, our troubles are self-inflicted, and we bind ourselves to ourselves.

Kong Qingdong once wrote such an interesting story in his best-selling book (47th floor, 207):

When they were in middle school, several of their classmates were walking and chatting together, and suddenly a classmate surnamed Ma who was walking in front of him turned his head and shouted angrily, "Who do you call Horse Widow?" In fact, the topic that everyone talked about had nothing to do with him, so he gave himself a nickname.

There are too many such suspicious "horse widows" in life. People often say that they are thieves with a weak heart, they have not done anything unseemly, but their hearts are often empty, they pay too much attention to the small changes in other people's evaluations or attitudes towards themselves, in fact, others do not do anything with them, but he will always think that everyone is getting along with him, and he is really asking for trouble.

Many people assume this when nothing happens: What if it becomes like this? What if it became like that? A philosopher once said, "If you think too far about something, it becomes an endless pressure, and troubles will naturally follow: don't worry too much about things that shouldn't be thought about, don't think too far about some things, so that your mind can be calm." to be happy. However, in real life, sometimes we still worry about some small things about sesame mung beans, and often think about the bad things without a clue. In fact, some of the so-called troubles in life are often caused by ourselves.

There is such a little story:

Once upon a time, there was an old man with a long and dense beard, who often called himself a "beautiful bearded man".

One day, while the old man was sitting in front of his house, a child from a neighbor's house came to him and asked, "Grandpa, you have such a long beard, do you put it in the quilt or outside the quilt when you go to bed that night?" ”

The old man thought for a long time, but he didn't answer.

So, when it was time to go to bed at night, the old man remembered what the child had asked him during the day.

He first put his beard on the outside of the quilt, but he felt very uncomfortable, so he put his beard on the inside of the quilt, but he still felt very uncomfortable.

In this way, the old man took out his beard for a while, and put it in again for a whole night, and he could not remember what he had done with his beard when he used to sleep.

Early the next morning, the old man knocked on the door of his neighbor's house, and then angrily said to the child who had run out, "It's all your fault, so I didn't sleep all night." ”

This is the power of mediocrity, which can unconsciously affect your work and life, and make you fall into a painful situation from which you cannot extricate yourself. Just like the old man in the story, he was troubled by such a small question as "where should I put my beard", so who is to blame for the physical and mental pain and suffering?

It's easy to get joy and happiness, just keep your eyes on the things that are happy and happy. If you focus all your attention on pain and trouble, your life will be eclipsed.

Those unnecessary worries and worries are absolutely harmful and unhelpful. Have you ever heard of anyone who has benefited from their worries and worries? On the contrary, are we not worried and anxious that are harming our health, depleting our vitality, and reducing the efficiency of our lives at all times?

There is nothing in the world, and mediocrity disturbs itself. There are many things that people really find out by themselves, as long as they are open-minded and tolerant, the world around them will be high and light, and the wind and sun will be beautiful.

In our daily lives, many people spend far more energy on unnecessary worries than on daily work. Every night, they are so tired, but they never realize that most of their energy is wasted on unnecessary worries. If you are also a person who seeks to cause troubles and worries, it means that you have poor self-control and do not know how to use your inner qualities to resolve your inner problems.