Let's start with this little parable:

The lamb and the puppy are good friends, one day, the lamb invited the puppy to eat, and he prepared a table of fresh grass, as a result, the puppy barely ate a few bites, and could no longer eat. After a few days, the puppy invited the lamb to dinner, and the puppy thought, I can't be as stingy as the lamb, and I must treat him with the most sumptuous feast. So, the puppy prepared a table of good ribs, but the lamb couldn't eat a bite.

After reading this parable, many people can't help but laugh dumbly, but after laughing, we might as well think about it, the lamb and the dog are very hospitable, each treat each other as their most honored guests, and take out what they think is the best food to entertain each other, but it turns out to be self-defeating.

In fact, the lamb and the puppy, the lion and the tiger made the same mistake, that is, blindly emphasizing themselves, without fully understanding each other, and not thinking from the other party's point of view, so there was a result that should not have appeared.

When someone else has caused harm or unpleasantness to you, you should try to think about whether you have done the same harm to others. Learn to compare your heart to your heart, and many emotions will slowly dissipate.

When you are suffering from unpleasantness, you may wish to put yourself in the other person's situation and think about what you will do. Through this kind of transposition, you may be able to understand many of the other person's sufferings, correctly view the frustration or unhappiness caused by others, and eliminate the depression in your heart.

One day, a father came home from work, and as soon as he entered the door, he saw his teenage daughter repairing things with his tools, but the tools were scattered all over the ground, making the living room messy, and he scolded when he saw it, and the smart daughter ran over to hug him after cleaning up, and asked, "Dad, you must have encountered something unpleasant in the office today, right?" ”

This is a sensible girl, she knows that her father's anger is not all aimed at her, he must have something else in his heart, not only is she not angry, but she can comfort her father, what a smart move.

Many times, we only do so because we ignore other people's feelings and don't think from other people's perspectives.

Once Xiao Liu was on the bus home, when he stopped at the station, there were suddenly more passengers.

A pair of office workers and men happened to be by Xiao Liu's side, which attracted Xiao Liu's attention.

Perhaps because of the large number of people, the man would wrap his arms around the woman from time to time and ask softly, "Are you tired?" ”

"What would you like to eat later?" I saw the woman impatiently replied, "I'm annoyed enough, I don't know what to eat, I have to ask me every time." ”

The man looked innocent, and then said something that stood out to me.

"Let you decide because I want to be able to eat what you like with you, and then see your satisfied smile and forget about the unpleasantness of today's work for a while. My ability is insufficient, I can't help you with the grievances you have suffered at work, and that's all I can do. ”

After hearing this, the woman said sorry with guilt. The man seemed to rekindle his confidence and said, "It's okay, as long as you're happy." Then he kissed the woman's hair.

After a while, Xiao Liu got out of the car, and when he looked back at the couple before getting out of the car, the man was still protecting his beloved.

If he hadn't heard this conversation, Xiao Liu might have faced his beloved with a stinky face when he went home, only thinking of his own grievances, but ignoring the other party's feelings, and unconsciously hurting the closest person.

Learn to empathize, that is, to think from the other person's point of view, so as to avoid misunderstandings, so as to live and work harmoniously.

A Girl's Story:

One day, the girl fell ill and went to the hospital for an infusion. The young nurse pricked her twice and did not insert the needle into the vessel, and saw that the needle was covered with blue bags. When she was in pain, the girl was about to complain, but when she looked up, she saw that the little nurse's forehead was covered with dense beads of sweat, so the girl comforted the little nurse and said, "It doesn't matter, do it again!" "The third shot was a success.

The little nurse finally breathed a sigh of relief, and she said repeatedly, "I'm really sorry." I should have thanked you for letting me prick three times. I'm here for an internship, this is the first time I've given a needle to a patient, and I'm so nervous that I wouldn't have dared to give you a needle if it weren't for your encouragement. ”

In life, we must have a heart that is considerate of others, and do not only care about our own feelings in everything.

There is a British proverb: "To find out if someone else's shoes fit, walk a mile in someone else's shoes." "We need to know how to empathize and learn to think from the perspective of others, so that we will be a lot less angry.

A person is called selfish, not because he pursues his own interests, but because he often ignores the interests of others. Although people do not all live for others, they are by no means only for themselves, and many times they have to think for others.